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:.Hey x3My name is Emily and blah blah blah.
:.I have a lot of personal, family, and friend issues of my own so a lot of times, I can probably relate to you a lot of times if you have personal, family, and/or friend issues.
:.I can offer a lot of information, help, and advice on family and friend relationships, love lives, depression, stretching/flexibility, weight loss, violin, being organized, dog training, forensics (public speaking), keeping up with school/extracurricular activities, eating disorders, writing (stories and poems), and probably a lot of other random stuff like what to drink when you eat something spicy and why.
:.Although I can help a lot of you guys on the above subjects, I don't tend to take my own advice so it can become quite an awkward/ironic/contradicting situation for me or make myself sound like a complete and utter hypocrite.
:.Hannah Whitall Smith once said, "The true secret of giving advice is, after you have honestly given it, to be perfectly indifferent whether it is taken or not, and never persist in trying to set people right." I agree 100% of it. Advice is advice and it is given when asked for. I give it and I leave it at that. It's up to the questioner/advice seeker to take it.
:.That point leads onto my philosophies in advice giving:
1. Advice is given when asked and no time else, unless your friend is about to irritate a black bear, then you should definitely advice your friend to back away and run for his or her life.
2. Advice is not critical, not judgmental, and definitely not biased. Advice is advice and should remain neutral.
3. Advice is to help, not to get 5s on every answer. As a result, my advice ends up being quite blunt and frank with a hint of rambling mixed in.
If you have general questions on the topics I can be a lot of help in (as listed above), most likely, they will be in my FORUM
If it is not, you can inbox me to request me to put it up.
:.If you want to ask me a question directly...
a)if it is not urgent and can wait a week or so, inbox me.
b)if it is an urgent question such as "I'm being eaten by a shark! What do I do???" first of all, I'm quite amazed that you can type while being eaten and second of all, e-mail me at cancel.life@gmail.com. I will answer you by midnight of that day (or if it's 11:55PM, probably by 3PM the following day).
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My therapist says that i have depression that has led to anxiety, and then to Agoraphobia. Is there a chance that these could also lead to or be linked to expressing anger at everyone, even at people i dont want to, like loved ones, or figures of authority or even crushes, even if i take it back and make a joke afterwards, lately i just come off as an angry, anti-social girl [15] to everyone, and i really dont want to. any insights?? also, does anyone know what other involutary things are a cause of depression? thnx for reading.
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I'm not sure about medicine because I haven't been able to get access to one. But my best friend has major depression, and so does her mother's side of family...so she has a history of depression in her family. She's had to switch her anti-depressants three times and I think the ones she's taking is working for her really well.
As for who I can go to stuff like this to. It really depends. I'm not at all close to my family so I never go to them about serious things. I took a chance with depression and my mom just put it off. Like wanting to commit suicide in 5th before I even knew the words depression and suicide is an everyday happening. I usually go to my best friends with this. I just talk to her daily and I've realized that talking helps a bit. And then I have this really great friend I met online about 3 years ago, whom I still talk to, and I tell him everything since I know there is no risk of it spilling out at my school.
I think that if you need someone to talk to and if you feel uncomfortable talking to your friends, you might be able to flag down someone in a chat room and just talk to them about everything. I was lucky to find that person online & him not be a perverted fat ass. You can certainly talk to me if you want to, but seeing that I'm never on AIM/MSN/YIM, you'd have to talk to me through e-mail. I'm very decent about checking my e-mails everyday so it's efficient enough, I guess. But you can always talk to me if you want to =)
And it kind of puts columnists in an iffy situation if a questioner asks another question in the comment box, to which we have no way to reply to other than to edit our anwers with the answer to the new question, hoping the questioner will see it. So it would be great if you could ask questions separately to our inboxes. Sorry if I sounded mean there, but I really wasn't. Anyways, my e-mail should be on my column if you want to contact me.
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I'm living with depression and it sucks because my mom refuses to believe it.
Depression can be linked to other things such as anxiety, bipolar disorder, eating disorder, self-injury, etc, etc. It really varies from people to people.
I tend to withdraw from everyone from time to time and I have bad mood swings at times and I kind of snap at people. And then I don't want to talk to them for a long time. So I'm like a hermit to people that aren't close friends of mine. I can't really help you out on how to control your anger thing, because I need work on it, too.
Involuntary cause of depression: chemical imbalance in your brain.
I'm not sure what you mean by involuntary but depression can be caused by a traumatic event such as rape, death of a family member, moving, etc.
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(Rating: 5) thanXx so much. i know we're the same age, but do you take medicine...would you suggest it? i have the same problem with my mom, sometimes she even makes fun of me for it and uses it against me, who do you trust with this kind of thing??