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:.Hey x3My name is Emily and blah blah blah.
:.I have a lot of personal, family, and friend issues of my own so a lot of times, I can probably relate to you a lot of times if you have personal, family, and/or friend issues.
:.I can offer a lot of information, help, and advice on family and friend relationships, love lives, depression, stretching/flexibility, weight loss, violin, being organized, dog training, forensics (public speaking), keeping up with school/extracurricular activities, eating disorders, writing (stories and poems), and probably a lot of other random stuff like what to drink when you eat something spicy and why.
:.Although I can help a lot of you guys on the above subjects, I don't tend to take my own advice so it can become quite an awkward/ironic/contradicting situation for me or make myself sound like a complete and utter hypocrite.
:.Hannah Whitall Smith once said, "The true secret of giving advice is, after you have honestly given it, to be perfectly indifferent whether it is taken or not, and never persist in trying to set people right." I agree 100% of it. Advice is advice and it is given when asked for. I give it and I leave it at that. It's up to the questioner/advice seeker to take it.
:.That point leads onto my philosophies in advice giving:
1. Advice is given when asked and no time else, unless your friend is about to irritate a black bear, then you should definitely advice your friend to back away and run for his or her life.
2. Advice is not critical, not judgmental, and definitely not biased. Advice is advice and should remain neutral.
3. Advice is to help, not to get 5s on every answer. As a result, my advice ends up being quite blunt and frank with a hint of rambling mixed in.
If you have general questions on the topics I can be a lot of help in (as listed above), most likely, they will be in my FORUM
If it is not, you can inbox me to request me to put it up.
:.If you want to ask me a question directly...
a)if it is not urgent and can wait a week or so, inbox me.
b)if it is an urgent question such as "I'm being eaten by a shark! What do I do???" first of all, I'm quite amazed that you can type while being eaten and second of all, e-mail me at cancel.life@gmail.com. I will answer you by midnight of that day (or if it's 11:55PM, probably by 3PM the following day).
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I have a friend who's a guy. We've been friends since 3rd grade and I care about him very much. Although lately these feelings have escalated into love. I really want to be with him but I know he doesn't want to be with me. He might go out with me just to make me happy, but I know in my heart that he wouldn't be happy. I don't know what to do.
Ha, same situation except bump the 3rd grade to 6th grade. Anywhos, I know how you feel. It's like you want to go out with him but you don't want to ruint he friendship/have him go out with you just to make you happy.
Well, you can definitely just straight out tell him something along the lines of:
"I hate keeping things from you so here goes: I really like you and care about you but I know you don't feel the same way. But I don't want to ruin the friendship or have you go out with me just to make me happy" blah blah blah.
Try to hang out with different guys and see that there are a whole lot more guys to choose from than just him. I'm sure you'll find pretty awesome guys out there.
Don't tell him and just move on...although this is a pretty bad option.
Anyways, my contact info is on my page so if you want more advice, I'm here to help =) Good luck!
(Rating: 5) I'm going to tell him sooner or later. I'll keep you posted.