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Did you ever wake up and wonder when your life became a soap opera? A bizzare mixture between 'Dawson's Creek' and 'Days of our Lives'?



I know I've had that feeling - that it's just all too dramatic and ridiculous, and wouldn't it be nice to go and under a nicely-furnished rock for a while? So, whilst I do not promise or claim to be an expert on how teenage boys minds work or how you can uncode your best friend's baffling behaviour, I'll always attempt to empathise and offer some honest words of advice.



I am 21, with a fairly dysfunctional life as a artsy student type. I've recently graduated with a degree in Philosophy, and am spending time working in the law before returning to university for further study. I still don't know what I want to do with my life, but I like where I am at the moment. I like shoes, bad television, chocolate cheescake and pretty things.



I am very busy at the moment, attempting to fund my life as a postgraduate (that's grad school to the Americans). I do still stop by quite a lot to help out with the admin stuff, but my column is pretty lame and inactive. Boo-hiss. I will however still endeavour to answer any questions that are sent my way, so feel free to send questions to my inbox.





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alright a while ago i was basicly raped and forst to give oral sex.. I went to get tested for stds and everything and they said if I get cold sores to come back for herpes testing.. well I have like dry spots on the edge of my mouth but i dont think its herpes! its just lik a lil cuts on the edge of my mouth but i dont think i have any stds..

what do you think?


It sounds as though it could be a developing cold sore, but do not panic just yet, as it could equally be just dry skin. Keep an eye on it, see how it develops, and if it becomes red or an open sore, definitely arrange another visit to your sexual health clinic for additional testing. I know it's frigtening being in the middle of this, but don't assume the worst, as though the herpes virus is extremely infectious when there are open sores, it's very rarely passed on whilst the infection is in a dormant phase, i.e. when there aren't any visible sores. I would avoid any sexual contact, including kissing, for the meanwhile until you are sure what it is, but do try not to worry excessively about it - if it is just an ordinary skin complaint, stress and worry could easily make it worse.

You've done everything you can, testing-wise. This is extremely mature and responsible of you in what must be an extremely difficult time. Unfortunately, all you can do now is wait for things to develop and results to come through. This is extremely nervewracking, but be reassured that you've done all that you can, and just keep an eye on things that may be symptoms and return to the clinic if things develop further. All the best.

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thank you



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