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i think I'm pregnant... my preganancy test came out negative but i have the symptoms. Im 15, and i dont know who the dad is. And i dont want a baby... what can i do?


no rude bitches.... (link)
how long has it been? go down to planned parenthood and get the morning after pill. but really if the test came out negative you might just be sick you know?


I really want to buy a vibrator... but I don't know where to go. I am 16 years old, and do not want one shipped to me, I want to go to a store. I was wondering, do I have to go to a sex store or are there any other stores that sell them?

~Kristin (link)
spencer's gifts. or you can go to a beaty shop and buy a massager, that way you dont have to explaina nything if your mom finds it.


I was wondering if anyone could give me a small list, or even the biggest one you have of anti-depressents aside from Paxil, and Zoloft, I've been on those and they don't seem to help, so maybe anyone who knows of one thats worth a try. I'll rate 5 foe those who try, even if you only have 1 listed.
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chocolate works wonders for me when im feeling dEpressed


okay my best friend is going out with my recent ex and we went to the movies with a grroup of people but his girl friend could not go and we ended up sitting next to each other and in the middle of the show we started holding hands and yesterday his girlfriend found out and wont talk to me or him what should i do? cause he likes me and i like him...

signed CONFUSED (link)
holding hands? shes mad over that? um ok ill leave that alone. just appoligize that really works the best, if he likes you hell dump her if he hasnt done so yet he doesnt like you. sorry i know thats not waht you wanted to hear.


ok so my best guy friend is named travis and i like this kid nick...the thing is that travis likes me alot and i want to like but i dont...and the thing with nick is that hes a big jerk...me and travis got in a big fight this weekend cause i invited him to the movies and these other kids...but my other friend invited nick and travis got mad at me cause nick was going and i invited him also...he was being a big jerk...so should i b mad at travis or let him b mad at me (link)
so why do you like him if hes a jerk? no you shouldnt be mad at travis, your frends with him, hes a nice guy and yet you like a jerk yeah that would piss me off a bit too, i went through something similar witha friend of mine, she asked my advice before going out with him and i told her flat out how much it would piss me off, and she didnt. you probbly shouldnt either, relationships dont last long in high school, friendships do.


ok i did a BIG uh-oh i got my fone tookin away by the skool for tha 3rd time. that means they kep it til tha end of the skool year and i didnt wanna tell my mom cuz she sed that it would be my fault which it wuz not i wuz turning it off and he jus took it away anywho and i told my mom that i lost it do you think she will find out and do ypu think that wuz a bad idea iono wat i wuz thing wen i told her that now i regret it wat should i do?
~some1 in need =] (link)
i think shell find out when she tries to call you. two things you can do, try to explain to a school official which probably wont work. the otehr only works if you are using a carrier that uses sim cards. ask the school if you see your phone for like 5 minutes to write down a few phone numbers, then take out the sim card (its under the battery) then buy a phone, you can get a cheap old one for like 10 bucks, put the sim card in there and you got a new phone (all the numbers will one there)


I am 17 and i am kinda seeing a 18 year old, she has a boyfriend but they havent got along or had sex or anything for a couple of months. we started talkin and started going out on dates and seeing each other. We had sex after like 2 months of talkin and now we have done it about 15-16 times, and she broke up with her boyfriend, how long should i wait to ask her out (link)
you were dating her more than her boyfriend was when they were going out. go for it now


ok there is this guy name josh and we went out over the summer then broke up a day before school started. I still like him. we havent tlaked in a while but the other day we did a little bit. Last week my friend asked him would he ever go back out with me, and he just smiled. but he has a girlfriend. Also, alst week someone asked him would he ever go out wth this girl name brooke nad he said nnooo .. but he didnt say yes or no when someone asked about me. Then wed. at church, he sat near me but not right next to me .. it went me, his friend murphy(murphy likes me) and then josh and we talked in a group for a little bit. Do you think he still likes me? what should i do? im 14 and female and i need the truth .. please dont just tell me what i want to hear .. i need to hear the truth! (link)
you want the truth?!?!!? you cant handle the truth!?!?!?! eh couldnt resist, you also probably dont get that becasue its from a fairly old movie. anyways going out with an ex is generarly a bad idea, when youre broken up you only rememebr the good, then if you get back together you realize all the reasons you broke up over in the first place. he also has a girlfriend right now so its a bad idea to go after him. you say murphy likes you why dont you go out with him? but yeah i would recomend agaisnt going out with him again.


if i am 10 am i too young to date? (link)
yes


My cousin said she and her boyfriend were "drying" on his couch one night. What does that mean? She said not to tell anyone so is it bad? (link)
sounds like dry humping, rubbing up on each other with clothes on.


Okay so this year my class and i are all going to washington for an end of the year trip, And my bff asked me to room with her, but i dont really wnat to but i say yes anyways. Now here's where it gets hard for me, my other friends (4 of them) asked me to room with them and i'd rather room with them and have tons of fun...BUT i dont wanna leave my friend alone.. and i would ak her to room with us but they all hate her and there can only b 5 to a room...what should i do? i dont want to be a bad friend but i DO want to have fun :(...i rate 5's! (link)
stick with your friend, if you flake on her youll either be leaving her alone, or forcing her to be a left over to room with all the other loosers that dont have freinds. plus, you already said yes, you commited to her. you can always hang out with your other friends a bit too even if you arent rooming with them.


Hi. I need some guy advice. I'm 17/f. There is this guy I really like, and have liked for quite some time, but I keep getting mixed signals from him. We are both seniors in high school. He is a little on the quiet side, and is really sweet. We have several classes together, and we have slowly become better friends, considering that we never really talked before the beginning of the school year despite having gone to the same high school for 3 years. So, we are friends now, and I am now good friends with his friends, and it seems like they would really like for us to get together, and one is especially encouraging it. He's friendly to me, and mildly flirtatious, but he's not the flirty type and doesn't go around and just flirt with everyone. I took the iniative to tell some people that I liked him, so that it would get back to him. I'm pretty sure he knows now, but I don't know what to do next. We hang out on the weekends alot, because our groups of friends are similar and they always get together. He's kind of shy and isn't the kind of guy who is always asking girls out. I can't even think of who is last girlfriend was, or if he had one. I really think we would make a great couple, and I at least want to give it a chance. I am somewhat shy myself when I am in uncomfortable situations or when I get nervous, but I am finally starting to feel comfortable around him. How do I get him to ask me out, or to be able to tell if he likes me?? Sometimes I think he likes me, and then the rest of the time he just leaves me confused. Please, this isn't just a silly little crush, I need some advice on what to do. Thanks in advance for your advice.
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You could alaways try asking him out yourself. if hes so shy its really your best bet. if you can somehow find for sure wether he knows or not, that would help you, becasue if he knows and isnt asking you out, that means he probably doesnt feel that way about you.


how much sugar intake everyday is just right? (link)
about 3 teaspoons a month is how much you NEED. that's just right. i thing 200 grams should be like the limit per day


My friend is thinking of committing suicide what should I do? (link)
well first things first you need to talk to her and try to make her feel better, failing that try to get her to understand that suicide is a permenant solution to a temporary problem, failing that tell a school councelor or someone like that. she might be mad at you for a while, but at least shell be alive


I ahve ben going out with this girl for about 11 months and we both want to do things together but we never have time between school and sports we dont really get to see eachother and her parents are going out next weekend and she'll be home alone should we just do it then or should we wait and not have to take the chance of her parents coming home early and catching us what should we do???? (link)
well it would help if i knew how old you were, but ill assume youre of age to be having sex. you want your first time together to be special, mine wasnt and i still regret it. but you knwo what they say, the greater the risk the greater the reward, so i say go for it.


I have some friends and every time they move out of my class they dont talk to me but when i am in there class im there bff. Why dod they do this? (link)
hmm they might be trying to cheat off your paper? or maybe they are jsut in a hurry to get to their next class.


Okay so me and this kid have been going on again off again. We always end up breaking up beacause he obviously cant control his hormones,and i always end up taking him back. Well weve been split up for a while now and he wants to start dateing again. I know what could happen but i still like him. what should i do? (link)
yeah peopel can change, but the way youre talking about it, its happened more than once. i really wouldnt recomend going out with him again. you can find someone better, someone who will be bale to control their hormones


Okay well last night I had my bf over and we got sexual.. Well to get to the point we wern't gonna have sex so we just fooled around.. Well he came(spelling error lol) and he was down there when he did it.. He made me go in the bathroom to check if ne got in but I dont know.. I dont know what to do. and I dont want to tell him I am scared. I am a 14/f
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if its not too late go get the morning after pill from planned parenthood. if it is too late wait until when your next period would be, if you have it then you arent pregnant, if you dont then go buy a pregnancy test.


Is it ok to date a second cousin, through marriage? (link)
sure, if its through marriege then you dont share any blood and your kids wont end up looking like the simpsons.


Is there a way on dead aim that you can talk while still being away? (link)
keep going away and coming back, eventualy the yellow notepad will stick and it will look liek you are away. or you can directly conect, and sign off. youll still be able to talk




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