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20/f - I was just wondering if it's normal to no longer have feelings for someone but hate the thought of him being with someone else. I realize that I am being incredibly selfish having such thoughts, but I don't know how to get over feeling like this. We broke up about a year and a half ago, and we've discussed getting back together, but it was never successful (either I'd want to but he didn't or he'd want to but I didn't). Even though I'm the one who broke it off after 2 years together, it took me a long time to stop hurting and accept the fact that I ended it because I was no longer happy in that relationship. I'm pretty sure that I'm over him because I'm aware of all the reasons that we were wrong for each other, but the thought of him with someone else really bothers me and eats at my thoughts almost every day. If it's not normal to feel this way after a breakup, especially since so much time has passed already, please tell me so that I can know how crazy I am for feeling like this and work on truly moving on. (link)
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In my opinion, I think it's normal. I've gotten that way with some of my exes. Even when I was dating someone else and I had absolutely no feelings for my ex, I still hated him with someone else.
I wouldn't say it's selfish, I think it's how most people think. I mean I was happy for the guy but I just hated the thought of it.
You're not crazy for thinking like this, eventually it'll all blow over and it won't bother you anymore.
I let it go by thinking that I really shouldn't care what happens in his life, I'm happier now than ever.
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My boyfriend cheated on me several times, i forgave him, i got pregnant and he asked me to abort saying that we are not ready, i refused and he broke up with me.he went back dating one of the girls he was 2 timing me with.later on he said that he can't be with me but that he will be there for the child eventhough he can't provide financially. I was devastated, depressed, and so hurt. i didn't know what to do and i didn't want the child to suffer, so out of fustration i had an abortion, but i told my him that i had a misscaraige. he felt for me and asked me back out again. i accepeted and we started dating later to find out that he was still involve with other women. i broke up with him and ever since now we have being on and off. he says he loves me, that am the love of his life and that we should be exclusive. recently i discovered that he is still involve with one girl and is chasing after other gilrs. i confronted him and he told me that he will set things straight with other girls an let them know that the past is the past and that he wants to concentrate on his future which is me. i don't know what to do,i love him so much,but i can't trust him,i have tried several to move on but its hard, i feel miserable without him. should i give him another chance?i am 23 and i want to be in a stable relationship with someone that i love so that i might end up marrying the person and carrying his childreen. A part of me wants to be in a relationship with him again, but the other part is afraid of getting hurt again. what can i do? (link)
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You shouldn't give him another chance. You deserve someone who actually loves you. He's cheated on you so many times. You can't trust the guy. He lies right to your face and tells you that you're the only girl for him but he's still hooking up with other girls.
Even if he stops with all this stuff now, later on, he'll start doing it again. It's what he does and so far, he hasn't proved to you at all that he can be trusted.
Find someone better and show him what he missed out on. You need to respect yourself because he just keeps breaking your heart.
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hi im noelia15/f,
well im confused i really like a guy ive known him since i was 1 the thing is he wants to date i do 2 but at the same i dont because people cheated on me before n i dont want that 2 happen again i trust him n myparents no his parents n him very well they approve of him / they worked with his parents for 30 years
i dont no what 2 do.... is he the love of my life because i get butterflies every time we r together
thanxs i appreciate your advice
～noelia ～ (link)
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You won't know what happens if you try. If you don't date him, you'll always be thinking "What if"
I've been cheated on before too. But I ended up finding a great guy.
If you don't put yourself back out there, you won't know if he's the right guy for you.
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Ok so i dated this guy and we met on a cruise and i was totally in love with him. Oh and im 14/f. And like 2 months ago he broke up with me and i was a mess. I thouggt i could get over him and date someone else and i did and it didnt work out and i still have HUGE feelings for him and i cant get over him and i get soo sad and i dont know how to het over him. :( (link)
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Everybody goes through break ups. What you need to do is focus your energy on something else rather than thinking of him. Take up some new hobbies or go hang out with your friends. Don't talk about him though, the more you talk, the longer it'll take to get over him.
It's only been 2 months and that's not long. So it's normal to still have feelings for him.
I'm not sure if you still have contact with him at all, but if you do, you need to cut all contact with him. It'll be easier for you.
It's different for different people. Some people get over someone in a matter of weeks and some people get over someone in months.
Just give yourself some time, and do something else with your time.
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i like this guy but think he has a gf we are both eleven im a girl please help (link)
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Well if you slowly start talking to him, you guys can become friends. Eventually you'll learn whether or not he has a girlfriend.
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My m8 takes drugs and has on more than one occasion offered me them
She smokes weed
And I don't want to tell any of the teachers at my skwl but we go out of skwl like loads for her to have a fag
We are 14
I don't know what to do? (link)
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I understand how you feel. You are going to meet lots of people who smoke and do drugs. You shouldn't be a part of it.
My younger brother, he's 15, has gotten himself into a lot of trouble. First it started out with just smoking but then he got into harder drugs and ended up running away and ended up in juvi once. He lives in another state now and is getting help but it hurts everyone around you. You don't want to get caught up in that stuff.
Tell your friend that you think she should stop. You can't really make her do anything though.
Just don't take any when she offers it. Eventually she'll see how much better off you are when she gets into trouble.
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i went on a date with a really cute and older guy.
we got drinks- the first one he paid for and the second he culdnt afford and had to awkwardly ask me to pay for it myself.
he didnt mean anything by it it was a honest he couldnt afford to buy mea drink! hes a waiter and doesnt have a lot of money at moment, so its understandable- however i am still turned off.
OTHER than that we had an AWSOME time but i cant get over how he couldnt afford to pay for my 8$ drink.
i told him it was werid and he owes me.
am i weird for thinking this is such a red flag? i really like him but im insulted by how he asked me to pay! (link)
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I guess it would be a bit of a turn off. But it wouldn't stop me from going out with him again. If he does it again, then that's a problem.
Maybe he'll learn from this one and figure out how much money he has before he buys you more drinks.
Don't be really insulted by that, it could have been just an honest mistake. Go out with him again and see how that goes. You don't want to miss out on a great guy over something like this.
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Okay. I'm a freshman,
Female.
And I run cross country and may run track.
My classes are :
Theater, Spanish 2, physical science, English, introduction to visual arts, enriched geometry, & American history.
Can you give me some advice,
Personal stories, relationship advice, experiences to not miss out on , and some standard school tips.
PLEASE AND THANK YOU :) (link)
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High school was a bittersweet memory. I just graduated in June so I had my full experience.
So for standard stuff, make good friends but be nice to everyone.
-You'll be judged but you shouldn't care about what these people think.
-Make good impressions, especially on teachers but even with other students.
-Don't procrastinate on your work. It becomes a bad habit and I struggled with it all my years. My grades dropped every time I did that.
-Your friends are going to change and so will you. So you'll be making new friends every year.
-Make sure you study. Once you start, you'll get better at it. You might not need it so much being young but when you get older, it'll definitely help.
-Join clubs. You'll be closer with people who have similar interests as you.
-And don't get into the wrong crowd. You don't want to get into drugs and all that. My brother went into that his freshman year and now he and his friend ended up in juvi and so much trouble. So pick the right friends and do the right thing.
For relationships, I dated each year of high school. Honestly, after all that, those guys weren't worth it. My first relationship lasted a month and it was extremely awkward. My second pressured me too much and did some awful things and I only went out with him because I wanted a boyfriend. The 3rd, he ended up moving. I'm still dating my current boyfriend. We've been together for 11 months.
So don't go looking for boys. Just wait and don't do stuff you're not ready for.
I liked school my last couple years. Freshman and sophomore year I was going through some hard times so I never really enjoyed it.
Senior year was the best. I made lots of friends and spent a lot of time with them.
You'll be fine and you'll enjoy it.
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Ok so I have been talk to this guy for about two weeks and I am head over hills for him!! But I don't know how to tell him that I am crazy in love with him without sounding crazy!! Because he always text me this really cute stuff about how he likes me!! PLEASE HELP ME I DON'T WHAT TO SAY!!! (link)
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Well if you actually believe you're in love, I'd still wait awhile to tell him that. If you're not in a relationship with him, it might be even more weird to tell him something like that. So far just tell him that you like him a lot, because saying you love him too soon could possibly destroy things or freak him out a little. Go slow.
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Okay, so i just recently broke up with my boyfriend of one month because I like this other guy. I met him through people on facebook and we have been talking ever since. We haven't met in person before but I realllllllly like him. We talk on the phone all the time and FaceTime. He wants to hangout with me and go to the movies, but I don't know how to tell my mom about it, and ask her. I really want to go with him and hangout just us to. I just need a convincing way to ask my mom so she'll say yes. I REALLY NEED HELP! (link)
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Well just try to find a time to talk to her and explain how you've been talking to this guy and you're starting to really like him. Then just ask her if you could go see a movie with him.
If she says no, she'll probably have a reason. But if you tell her the truth and just ask to hang out for a couple of hours, she might not have a problem with it. All parents are different though. My parents wouldn't let me date when I was 13 or 14.
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I'm 19 male and looking for a gf. I know there's dating sites out there but it seems like only older people use them. Are there any dating websites that younger people tend to use that are around 20 and under? Thanks (link)
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Well it's better if you find someone in real life. Dating sites can be creepy.
My friend uses myyearbook and met her boyfriend there so you can try it. There are plenty of younger people.
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Me and my bestfriend have been fighting more recently and I feel that the friendship isn't even worth keeping. For example I went to the pool with her and took a wine cooler with me, and there was only one more left and I was planning on drinking it the next day, I told her she couldn't have it and she didn't make a big deal out of it at all, but when we had both parted ways after we left the pool she goes and tells her mother that I'm a rude and stingy person because I don't ask her if she wants a drink at the pool, as you can understand I had bought them for myself. Also she always makes me out to be a bad friend when we argue, like she is ungodly and has never done anything that I would consider 'rude' myself, and I have done literally everything for this girl, took her to Chicago and Flordia and didn't even have to pay for half of her trips . But yet she still feels I owe her something because I have 100 dollars in my wallet, to pretty much sum it up , do you feel this friendship is worth keeping ? Because I think having someone constantly get mad at you for little things just makes life stressful (link)
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Why be friends with someone if they're not fun to be around and they annoy you by getting mad at stupid things?
I'm sure you both have good times but if she keeps this up, she's going to lose a friend.
First, you should talk to her about it. If she starts arguing, don't argue back. Just accept that she's not worth keeping as a friend.
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hi im joy and i was wondering was is the average weight of a ten year old????? (link)
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It all depends on how tall you are. Someone taller that is the same age as you can weigh more and still be at the right weight. Someone shorter than you would probably weigh less and be at the right weight.
So find out how tall you are. You'd probably be from like 65 to 80.
Also it depends on your bones. Some people are born with bigger muscles because of their background.
To be honest, at 10 years old you don't have to worry to much on your exact weight.
If you look at yourself in the mirror, you can tell if you're at a good weight.
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Okay, so I've had a crush on this boy for about two years already. I don't really get to see him because he's graduated from my school and gone to high school. And every time I'm pretty sure I'm getting over him, he just pops up somewhere. I know I don't have a lot of things in common with him and he wouldn't want to be with a naive little eighth grader, but I just want to talk to him. He thinks I'm a bit annoying and obvious because of these past couple years, but I want him to see I've changed. But how am I supposed to do that if I never see him? I have only ever said a few words to him, but I want to have a conversation with him. (link)
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Well if you want to show him you changed, then don't act like you did before with him. Don't try to talk to him and then he'll see on his own that you're different.
Wait till you go to high school and see if you're still interested in him. If you are, then casually make conversation and see where it goes from there.
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Hi, I'll try to make this as short as possible and get right to the point. My boyfriend and I have been dating for six months and we're completely in love with each other. He has a lot of friends that are girls, which is not a problem of course since we trust each other. But, lately, this girl has been really attached to my boyfriend. She keeps leaving him comments on his facebook that are paragraphs saying she loves him, he's her "bestie" and is always there for her, etc. The thing is that I've only met her twice and I'm always with my man since we live together, so when did she suddenly become best friends with him?
That's not what has me jealous, though. A few days ago my boyfriend told me that this girl wants to use him to make her estranged husband jealous. She's been tagging my bf in posts, saying she's at his house "as usual" and that my bf is giving her money and they're getting matching tattoos. We have a lot of mutual friends, so I have a lot of friends hitting me up asking me if my man is cheating with this girl. i think it's immature no matter who the man she's using for it is. I mean, come on, she's in her thirties and she's using Facebook to make her husband jealous?! Ugh. So my bf asks me two nights ago if it's okay for her to write his name on her ring finger with hearts, and for him to do the same on his ring finger with her name. Then they want to take a pic of it, post it on Facebook, and make her husband think they're tattoos. I said I didn't want him to do it, it's stupid and disrespectful to me as his girlfriend. I'm being humiliated with y friends thinking he's sleeping with her. Of course, though, i look like the big bad bitch for saying no. My bf said that I can't take a joke.
Sooo my question is.. Am i right to be jealous over this? I mean it may not seem like a big deal but I'm a laughingstock to my friends right now who think he's cheating on me with her. When i'm not with him and she puts up statuses saying that she's laying in bed with my boyfriend I can't help freaking out thinking is it true? I think she's being very disrespectful to me as his girlfriend, but am i right to think that? Should I confront this girl? She's very pretty, which also puts me on edge due to my own insecurities, bu she's also very obnoxious and cocky. She thinks she's the hottest thing on earth. I just don't know what to do! My bf says he doesn't like me getting jealous but i never get jealous over his friends.. It was only when this girl started texting/calling constantly, leaving those facebook messages (she constantly refers to him as baby and says i love you.. my family sees that), and now this STUPID ring thing. Am i right to be upset, or am I overreacting? (link)
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Wow this girl and your boyfriend are extremely immature. You have a right to be upset about this. You don't need to be jealous, just upset and angry about it.
If he's going along with this, and posting it all over facebook, it's embarrassing you and making him look either like a jerk or extremely stupid.
Confronting the girl would probably be a waste of time. Your boyfriend is the one who is going along with this crap. They are both acting like they are in middle school.
So bottom line, this is extremely disrespectful to you and you shouldn't stand for it.
Talk to your boyfriend again and tell him that you don't like that he is doing this and list the reasons. Make sure you're calm about it. If he tries to start an argument just tell him that this "joke" is something kids in middle school would do.
You deserve better than that.
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lets call my friend D.
here's our conversation-ps: im keeping the fact that she had sex and shes 12 a secret. im 13)
D: dont tell anyone
me: i know i know.
D: even R -her friend- doesnt know.
me: ok. i dont get it. im secretly friends with both of you. im friends with you but she cant know. and im friends with her but you cant know. why cant we all be friends?
d: because we dont like you.
this made me cry because it hurt me because they're my only friends and schools starting soon.:( i have a disorder where the slightest insult wouldmake me cry. im not sure what its called, but this expecially hurt me. what should i say to her? I was going to say-
if you dont like me then you shouldnt have told me you had sex. it'd be too bad if i accidentally emailed those to everyone, huh?
but that sounds dumb, doesnt it? i just feel so upset because of her. (link)
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She's a little immature girl. You don't need her as a friend. If they don't like you, then you need to find friends who do.
When school starts, don't hang out with them and go find other people who are actually nice people. Join clubs or sports and you can find people who have the same interests as you.
12 is way too young to have sex. She's pretty much a little pre teen girl having sex. It's wrong on so many levels.
So move on from these friends and go find some people who are worth your time.
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so recently my friend told me shes had sex with two guys one of which was a one night stand. but the thing is is that we're both 13 and thoses guys hadnt even been going out with her. (they were the same age, though) And every guy Ive ever gone out with (4 of them) all went out with me because they were dared to. And my friend makes a point of this all the time. Im not suicidal, im just insecure because i feel like all these people hate me because ive never even hugged a guy let alone had sex with one. i feel so dumb and stupid. (link)
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Well first of all, your friend isn't a very good friend to you.
It is also really bad that she is having sex at 13. She seems to have more insecurity problems than you do. She's making it seem like the only way you can be pretty is by having these guys.
Relationships at 13 don't last. You have so much more time for boys.
But of course, you're a young girl so your mind will be on boys. Just don't push it and don't make it your whole life.
Having sex isn't something that you show off. 13 is way too young. She could definitely get a bad reputation and get herself into a lot of trouble. None of these guys at your age are looking for something real. Their hormones are raging so they'd do anything to convince a girl to have sex with them.
Keep your confidence up and realize that you don't need boys to complete you or to make you feel beautiful.
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hi im 12/f, am i stupid ?? ok so for the past few days all i hav been thinkin about is that i think ppl tht r waaaayy to young are thinkin about adult things(and u no wat i mean) but i think its bc their parents dont really hav a connection with their children which is y they do what they want..... now im confused is this a stupid thing to think or is it all in my head?????????????? thanks:)!! (link)
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Yeah it's true and most teenagers that do all that dumb stuff regret it when they're older. They all wish they didn't grow up so fast.
There could be many of reasons why kids do this. It definitely could be the parents, as well as all the rest of the influences around like friends, tv, people at school.
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Hi, My name is Haley Williams Im 13 and I want to see if this guy likes me well... Ive talked to him a few times at like homecoming and stuff like that at school but its been about a year since I last talked to him and well im friends with him on facebook but im scared to message him and ya its kinda hard to explain but anyways he is a friend of my cousins and I told her about me liking him and she said well does he like you and I paused and finally replied I dont know and well what should I do I like him alot and I have butterflies everytime I talk to him can u help me.? (link)
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Well you should try to be friends with him first. If you start talking to him and you're comfortable around him then it'll be easier to find out how he feels about you or how he could feel about you.
Since he doesn't know you very well, you wouldn't know if he likes you. So if you slowly start talking to him a little bit more every week then eventually you guys will be friends and see where that goes. Good luck!
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Hi, I'm an 18 year-old female, fresh out of high school, and I've never dated anyone. Ever. Never had a boyfriend, never been kissed, never been on a date even. I've been asked to a couple dances, but that's about the extent of it. And that's sort of on purpose. See, I never wanted to date anyone, firstly because most of the guys at the schools I have gone to have been complete jerks, but mostly because I'm very serious about relationships. Most middle school relationships last about a month max. Plus at the time I wanted to focus on having fun with school and friends, and sports. High school relationships have a bit more potential than middle school ones of course, but they're so drama-filled, time consuming, and just plain stressful. Plus, there's a slim chance they'll actually succeed after high school. So, I made the decision not to date anyone until college, and that was probably one of the smartest decisions I've ever made. I could just focus on growing up, focus on MY issues, and I was free to do what I wanted, when I wanted with my friends (with my parents' permission, of course, haha).
Now that I'll be in college, I'm allowing myself to date. But... I'm EXTREMELY inexperienced. So I know basically nothing about relationships. The main problem is, I'm a Christian, so I really want to save myself, my virginity, until marriage. It's just... something that I've had a long time to ponder and pray about, and it just feels like something God wants me to do. And it's something I want too, for me and my future husband. But nowadays, ESPECIALLY nowadays, that's not an easy task. We're bombarded with sex on TV, in movies and media, it's just everywhere! Even a lot of my own friends are no longer virgins. And the majority of sex is featured with non-married couples. I know it's okay to go without sex in high school, (although it's becoming increasingly uncommon), but is it the same with adult relationships? I mean, premarital sex has just become a common thing.
Basically, I just want to know if I'll be able to go out into the relationship world and not be a laughing stock who'll end up dying alone (after all, that is a huge fear of mine). >>; I mean, sex seems to be this regular activity for couples, and I don't want to be laughed at by a boyfriend when he goes to take off my pants and I tell him no. I'm prepared for that, but I want to know if it's possible nowadays to even have a successful relationship without sex. Is it possible? Do couples HAVE to have sex? Thank you for your time. :] (link)
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You'll be fine.
I know plenty of people who are around our age who are saving themselves and are in college.
Don't let the whole world get to you, its your own choice and what people say don't matter.
Now with the boyfriend thing, if you start dating and he tries to go further than you want, you already know that you're going to say no. If he doesn't like it, you know he's not the right guy.
What you should do is get to know guys slowly and go slow with the kissing and everything too because eventually when you guys are talking, you can bring up the subject and make sure he is ok with the fact that you don't want to have sex.
But yeah, couples don't have to have sex. It's their own choice. No one should be pressured into doing it.
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