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feel ugly because of friend.
so recently my friend told me shes had sex with two guys one of which was a one night stand. but the thing is is that we're both 13 and thoses guys hadnt even been going out with her. (they were the same age, though) And every guy Ive ever gone out with (4 of them) all went out with me because they were dared to. And my friend makes a point of this all the time. Im not suicidal, im just insecure because i feel like all these people hate me because ive never even hugged a guy let alone had sex with one. i feel so dumb and stupid.
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The dumb and stupid one is your friend for having sex at such a young age. At the time it may seem like the cool thing to do, but as she'll get older she'll forever regret it. Don't rush yourself into these things. You're only a child once, so enjoy yourself while you still can, and don't be pressured into sex ever.
Wait until you're older and until the right guy comes along. You'll be glad you waited.
Good luck :)
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Guys at this age will go after girls that they know they can get with - not the good ones. They don't want to put themselves out there. Whatever you do, don't be like your friend because you're jealous of the attention she's getting from guys. I felt insecure about myself in high school too. I didn't think I was ugly, but I could never understand why no one asked me out. I wasn't asked out until I was 18 years old. I'm not from the stone age either, I'm only 26 right now. I always wondered what was wrong with me and even though I didn't want to have sex, I hated feeling like no one wanted me. Guess what, though? I found the most wonderful guy ever when I was 18.5 and we've been together ever sense. We're married now and I couldn't be happier. I look at all those people I was jealous of when I was in high school and many of them aren't married or in happy relationships. They had babies on accident right after high school. I look at myself and I'm very happy with how my love life turned out and to think, it didn't begin until I was 18, but it was well worth the wait. I know it sucks and I know how you feel, but do your best to relax and even if high school isn't your time, you'll find someone in college like I did. :)
I don't know where this quote is from, but I always liked it when I was younger and feeling like no one would ever want me.
“Girls are like apples - the best ones are at the top of the trees. The boys don't want to reach for the good ones because they are afraid of falling and getting hurt. Instead, they just get the rotten apples that are on the ground that aren't as good, but easy. So the apples at the top think there is something wrong with them, when, in reality, they are amazing. They just have to wait for the right boy to come along, the one who's brave enough to climb all the way to the top of the tree.”
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Well first of all, your friend isn't a very good friend to you.
It is also really bad that she is having sex at 13. She seems to have more insecurity problems than you do. She's making it seem like the only way you can be pretty is by having these guys.
Relationships at 13 don't last. You have so much more time for boys.
But of course, you're a young girl so your mind will be on boys. Just don't push it and don't make it your whole life.
Having sex isn't something that you show off. 13 is way too young. She could definitely get a bad reputation and get herself into a lot of trouble. None of these guys at your age are looking for something real. Their hormones are raging so they'd do anything to convince a girl to have sex with them.
Keep your confidence up and realize that you don't need boys to complete you or to make you feel beautiful.
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