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Heyy guys.. Im soo shy around my b/f.. we started going out yesterday and we haven't sed a word to eachother!! plz help!! thx

xodanaox

Did you actually take time to know him before jumping into a relationship? I'm guessing the answer is no. It's not too late though. Give him a call/txt and do something 'public', like go to the cinema. Then afterwards, you'll have something to talk about (the film) and hopefully, more conversation will arise from that point.
If you want, gather some of yours and his friends together and do something fun. It will probably make you more comfortable around him.
Good luck!

why would it be good to take time off in a relationship? what do you call like standing back from your relationship to clear your head because its hard to evaluate things when youre in the relationship as opposed to not in one . can someone clarify what im saying for me? i cant find the words.

People can take breaks for some of these reasons:
*They're too busy. Perhaps with work etc.
*Something happened with your relationship and it's necessary to take time away from each other. Basically, it's make or break time. If you miss each other and want it to work, you get back together. If not, it's over.
*Personal reasons such as death for example. Someone will need time to get over this and alot of people like to be on their own during that time.

Breaks can do couples good.. but the way I personally see it is; "If you want to be in the relationship, don't run away from it." Stay together and work whatever you need to, out. If you need time away to do that, it's hard to get back to how you were etc and I think it's rather pointless unless you 100% know you will get back together and everything will be great - but if that's the case, there's no need for the break in the first place. If that makes sense..

ok, so theres this guy who i went out with, but i broke up with him, cuz i never really liked him. so he calls me bad stuff behind my back, but according to his friends, he still reallly likes me.

whats his deal?

You hurt him, which is probably why he's bitching about you. He may say stuff about you, but deep down, he still likes you.
Most people go through it after a break up. Give him some time to get over it.

im pretty sure a "blemish" is what im talking about. the things on your face little like red places not like zits or pimples their just little red areas where pimples used to be? anywaysss are there any ways to clear that up? thanks :)

A blemish is just a minor imperfection. So yes, it can be caused through pimples etc.
You can cover them up with hide and heal make up cover sticks. It does exactly as it says.
Go to a store and look for one to suit your skin tone. You can always ask a worker if you're having trouble finding it.
If not, it'll probably clear up on it's own, so don't worry.
This is a much more detailed definition. (there's lots of different types)
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Acne_vulgaris

I need help making a new screen name for aim. My name is Jasmine. I would like to have something about my name in it. If you have any ideas please share them.

I really like the nickname Jazzy for someone called Jasmine. I call my neice it.
Here's an example:
!!JAZZY
Play on different characters, like:
!!JAZZY*
J/-\ZZY
JAZZY_!!
p.s
It's a bit difficult for someone here to think up a nickname considering we don't know what you like etc :P

if you let a boy touch you is that bad..like in your private parts????

Did YOU want him to?
If no, yes it is bad.

I know alot of girls these days who shave there arms. Is that weird? there arms are so soft and i want to, but then again I don't. what would happen if i shaved my arms once, how long would it take to grow them back?

p.s., i shave my belly, and the next day its pokey but it's really soft(:
help, is this weird?
should i do it or not

Do what you wish. It's not weird. Some people don't like hair there. It would probably grow back after around 2 days, so you'd have to keep at it.
Look into different hair removing methods, like creams if you're sensitive and don't want to shave there too often.

how do you give them?

It's against the rules to go into details.
Here;

These would explain better anyway.

I want to get my belly pierced but i'm scared that it'll hurt =[,does it hurt ?

Everyone has a different tolerance to pain. That specific piercing will hurt some, but not others.
I always tell people to not think about the pain. Just think of the shiny new metal afterwards!
If you're afraid of needles, tell the piercer. They will put you at ease and calm you.
It's really nothing to worry about. Go for it if you want it!

well someone left a really mean message on my myspace (on a little notepad thing, so I don't know who it's from). it said "you're an ugly stupid hoe. jk girl i love you! or at least, i have to pretend i do!"

well, i'm definitely not stupid or a hoe, and i don't think i'm ugly. so i know i shouldnt let this bother me, but i've felt like crying ever since i saw it. and i cant stop wondering who wrote it. one of my "friends?" someone i don't really know? and why would they write that? i'm not mean or stuck up... i'm always really nice to everyone! my mom says someone is just jealous of me, but that doesn't make me feel any better. it just really hurts to know that someone secretly hates me. how can i stop feeling so bad about this?

Whatever you do, try not to let it bother you.
There's a few possibilities:
1. It's someone you know trying to be funny and play a joke on you.
2. It's someone you don't know or isn't your friend who is trying to stir things and make you upset.
3. The last possibility is it *could* be a friend.
Either way, don't let it get to you. Don't think someone secretly hates you. It's bad to just assume the worst.
Delete the comment and let that be the end. Don't show you're upset about it - because as of now, you don't know who it is. and if you show your emotions towards it, the person who did it may get to hear you're sad and post more.

I only started my period last month but it was normal and lasted 5 day..but this month i thought i had it but i've only had blood come out once, does this mean it wasn't my period or was it just really short?
13/f

It was most probably your period. When periods first start, it can take up to around 2 years for them to regulate. This means you might not get your period every month, or you may get them when they aren't expected. The length can also vary, too. It's nothing to worry about and everything will even out in time.
The only other possibility I can think is you've broken your hymen and that's what the blood was - but I don't think it would have been a large amount.
Did you get cramps or any other symptoms women get when they're menstruating? Or was the blood followed by a browny substance? If so, it's your period.
Look out for when it next happens, or if you're really worried about it, see a doc. I think you're fine though and it's just the beginning of waiting for your periods to regulate. :)

any tips on how to make liquid eyeliner dry faster? i put it on my top lid, and when i get done putting it on, it always gets on next to my eyebrow.

When I first started using it, the same thing happened to me. Then I realized I put far too much on. Take off the excess before applying and it will dry lots quicker. Also, shut your eyes for about a minute after putting it on, so it won't go everywhere else when you blink :P

ok there is this guy we used to have a fling with each other like more like friends with benifets but now i actually like him and im not sure if he likes me too but im pretty sure he likes me should i just tell him i want him back or jsy get over it please help me a.s.a.p i really want to know hes really my type

This is why friends with benefits is a bad idea, because one person might become attached.
Just tell him. You have nothing to lose. If he doesn't feel the same back, at least you tried - and you know NEVER to get with him again.

how do you get rid of a double chin?? idk what to do! its not that bad but whenever i move my head i get one and its really ugly! i think it might be just baby fat or something. please give any advice possible thanks guys

Here's a few things that'll help, but remember, things like this can be genetic, even if you are healthy and slim everywhere else... Meaning there's no real way to eradicate it without surgery.
**Exercise. I suggest aerobic exercises such as running and cycling.
**I once read chewing gum will help.
**Cut out fatty foods and fizzy drinks.
**Stimulate your facial muscles. I'm positive there will be tonnes of explanations if you click here:

This for example:
http://www.wellbeing-information.com/double-chin-exercises.html
Apparently it's not an easy place to lose weight from, but if you stick at it, you'll see results, so good luck.

Hello =)
How do you insert the google bar into your answers?

Thanks a lot,
LagunaBabe

[*search*]Type what you want to search here [*/*search*]
Take out the stars. :)

ok so i made a new myspace but i comepletely forgot that it was suppose to be an artist account. i was wondering if i cancel that account i made, could i use the same e-mail address to make an artist signup? answers asap. thanks in advance.

If you cancel the account, you can use that email to make a new one, yes. I've done that.

Is limewire illegal if you download stuff and then put it on your ipod? Because my mom said its illegal and if she catches me using it again shes going to change the password on my computer and lock it. So is it illegal?

Yes, downloading from Limewire is illegal, although the actual program itself isn't.
Apparently they're doing a crack down and catching more people who download, too. So be careful.

Well i like this guy ALOT. Like ALOT ALOT. I like him more than ive ever liked anyone. And he likes me too & hes planning to ask me out tomorrow, but theres one problem:

Hes moving in 3 weeks. Hes not moving too far but its about an hour away, and i obivousley wont be able to him very often.

I dont know what to do because i like him soooo much so if i say yes, ill like him even more and then he'll move, but i dont really want to say no. There is the chance we could break up before 3 week.

so what do i do?

In short, personally:
Go for it. If it's meant to be, you can work around the hours distance. It's silly to say no. You'll be left wondering what could have been.

I'm still a virgin and all... & I know that is probably a stupid question and I should already know this, but how exactly do you know if your hymen broke???
^^ thankz ^^ * Skyla *

Following up from the previous advicenator, you don't ALWAYS bleed OR feel it. I didn't.
A doctor would be able to tell. There are different types of hymens, so it's hard to say. Perhaps you would be able to tell if you looked or felt.
If you can fit tampons in with ease etc, it could mean it's already broken or torn.

what makes your life exciting? sports, hobbies, clubs, school, friends, family, etc.. in particular? like specifically? i really do not find enjoyment in life and i am trying to appreciate what i have but its hard sometimes

They're not exciting as such, but these things definitely give me something to look forward to and feel like I have a purpose!
*The people in my life:
They're always there, listen, help, make me happy and we have really good times together.
*The places I go:
Whether it's shopping or a night out - it's always good!
*Music:
Makes me feel better no matter what.
*Other things I do, like drawing:
Makes me feel really relaxed and fills up time if I'm bored.
I could go on, but you get the idea. They're everyday things, really. I understand what you mean when it's hard to appreciate what you have. People always focus on the things missing in their life. That's really not the way to go.
The way I see it is, I have people that I care about and hopefully care about me, I have a home with the things I need, good health, a family, whereas in other parts of the world, people don't have any of those things yet they still seem to get along.

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