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My name is Teza.. short for Tereza. I was born in Croatia and I speak more than one language. I'm 22 years old & I completed 2 college degrees in 3 years. My a bachelors is in Business Administration concentration in Human Resources and my Masters degree is also in HR.
I started this advice column about 9years ago and I was so young but it was something that I always loved to do. I am trying to get back to answering questions, at least a few per day. With that said, if you have questions about school, friends, make up, etc., feel free to ask.
Much love, Teza
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could you get pregnant if the you had sex without
any protection whenever a girl is on her perid?!
Yes you can.
I seem to have not low self esteem but not high self esteem either. I don't really get it because the cutest guy at my summer guy liked me and the cutest guy at my school likes me. But the thing is when i go to the mall none of the guys will try to talk to me. I don't get it, if the cutest guys at my school and camp find me attraction why dont the rest do. I personally don't think im that attractive i know im not ugly but not a beauty queen. I just want to know how can i get better self esteem. And whats some ways to flirt with guys. Also whats some ways to get a little attention from guys when i go to the mall. (i don't wear revealing clothes)
Those 2 guys probablly liked you for more than just your looks. Random guys don't usually go up to girls and just say heyy. Sometimes they get shy and think the girls are out of their leages and it's the same way with girls. Getting a better self-esteem and being confident is pretty easy. You have to learn how to love yourself. Your looks, your personality, and everything. Be confident in the things you do and try not to be nagative. For example: If someone tells you that you are pretty, just say thank you instead of saying no, I'm not! It's a starter. Flirting with guys is easy. If you try to hard it's very noticable and guys think of it as desporation. Most important thing you need to do is be yourself. It's cheesy but it's important. The guy might like you for who you are and that's awesome rather then liking you for someone that your trying to be. If you see an attractive guy make eye contact. It will show him that you are checking him out and that you might be interested. Flash him a smile and if you have the courage talk to him. Same thing goes for getting attention at the mall. You don't have to wear revealing clothes to get attention. Some girls think of the stupidest ways to get attention. When they see some hot guys they get extremly loud, start laughing, showing off and it's so annoying and the guys are just like what the fu*k is wrong with her.
I really hate saying this and even admitting to myself that I have feelings with the same sex as me...a girl..not really a girl but a boyish one. Maybe i started to like her because she's really a caring person and is sensitive to other's feelings. When we talk, I feel as if my problems would go away and feel alighted. But then the problem is aside from the gender, she does have a relationship with another girl. I don't know when she think that i might have feelings for her but she did at one time. When she somewhat think, she showered me with many attention..but I think with my head than my heart, I know it's wrong so I kind of avoided her. When she talks to me, I don't have the same enthusiasm as before. By what I did she maybe realize that she "mistakenly" interpret my feelings. There was a time I really avoided her. but when she was absent I had a tantrum and I miss her. This is wrong I know it. That's why I wish people could help me on what should I do..I think avoiding is not a solution. Saying it either is a big mistake.
Avoiding her is the wrong thing to do. You can't do that forever and it's just really rude. There is nothing wrong with you having feelings for her. So what if you might be bi or lesbian. You're not the only one and you shoulnd't pretend to be something you're not. If that's who you are, then let it be it. Don't be ashamed of it. For people who don't accept this, they are idiots and don't worry about their comments or thoughts. You can't hide your feelings and you can't make then go away even if you try really hard. This is the way it was meant for you to be and you should be happy. Everyone is different. Just talk to her and let her know what's been going on. She'll appriciate it. Good luck with everything.
Hey, my name is Chelsey and i'm 13 years old. I have a boyfriend named Mike, we have been going out for 3 months to come. I mean i really like him and everything. But i swer he just doesn't really care. When i tell him something important about my feelings, he just says, "Oh, I'm sorry to hear that." and then he just dives into another toppic. We got into a fight about this not that long ago for the first time. Because it was bothering me a lot, so i let him know. We got into this huge fight. He said he cares but he said he just doesn't know how to show it. And i mean i understand, but is he just saying that to keep me? Or maybe he does really care and he is telling the truth and he really doesn't know what to say. But i want to hear an opinion from another person other than my friends because they don't want me and him to break up and have me be heart broken. So please help! I will aprreiciate it soooooo much!
Thank you so much,
Chelsey
He's only a kid and he doesn't know how to show his feelings like a lot of other guys and that's normal. Another thing is that some guys think it's just having a girlfriend and that's it. As much as they try to understand a girl's feelings, they can't always. When you do tell him your feelings he might not know how to respond to that so he says sorry. If he didn't care at all he wouldn't be going out with you at all. He likes you but doesn't know the exact words to say. It's only been 3 months so give it a little more time to see how the relationship goes. If you aren't happy, break it off. He's not worth your time then so do what makes you happy.
I don’t know what to do anymore, my life seems to be dying slowly even though I am alive. I don’t want to live anymore; I have imagines everyday of me jumping out my window. My life just seems all messed up. It may seem like nothing to you but all my problems put together are just killing me little by little. No one understands. Today I came from school all upset I couldn’t take it and told my grandmother I don’t want to live anymore. She got mad, called my mom and dad and was yelling at me telling me how lazy I am. She kept saying I’m just a lazy person that wont get anywhere in life without studying. She kept yelling and talking and now her and my mom got into a fight over this. My grandma tried to make this all seem like she’s the victim and I’m taking advantage of her. She kept saying with a grandchild like me the one who cries for every little reason she should just take an overdoes and die. Why on earth would she say all these things when she knows how I feel about life! I go to her are you crazy you bitch, don’t you understand why I want to kill myself you are one of the main reasons. I don’t have a main reason its juts that I’m very unlucky, I have really low self cofidecne, some people tend to make fun of my face, since I have acne and put a lot of cover up on. Which hurts the most because I had acne for about five years and I tried everything, I went everywhere, took her pill possible, and nothing works. It’s like a long rode that never ends no matter how hard you try. You keep running and running until you think you got to the end but it just keeps on going. That’s how my life feels. Now we got new teachers and new students in our classrooms. I hate most of my classes, and most of all I hate my math teacher. Now I’m really bad at math I mean really bad I don’t even know what 7 times 8 is unless I think about it for half an hour. Yeah sad I know. Hes really mean and trys to bring people who are not as smart as him down. I tired getting out of his class but my counselor is such a bitch! She told me to come early to school today so she could change my singing class since they put me in the wrong one. They put me back to the one I already took, so I would be learning everything all over and I passed her class with a 90. I come back at the end of the horrible day I had and she tells me the teacher said its okie and I can stay in that class. I was like butt … she stooped me and said theres nothing I can do. I was like but wait im learning everything over again I don’t understand. She goes yeah I know but then we would have to change your whole program I was like sooo you do it for everybody else. I know shes just a fucken lazy bitch that needs to get fired, Counselor my ass. I don’t know what to do! I hate schhol and wanna quite im only 16 but I don’t see school in my future. My grandma makes me feel like shit about this but I don’t know what to do!!! Please help and don’t say talk to her because that wont work ill just end up killing myself faster. I don’t know what to do with my life. Please answer if you ever felt like this about school and juts ur whole life and tell me what you
I don't really know where to start. For one, I have felt this way about school, my family, friends, and life itself. You are only 16 years old. You only get one life and one chance to make it the best and I'm sure you already know that. Even though your grandmother seems strick and rude at times, you should know that she loves you. She tends to show it agressivly but she loves you. Same goes with your parents. No matter what, they love you even if you can't see that. Your depression and your feelings are making you think that you don't want to live anymore. You do. Your anger causes you to think that way and you think that it's the best thing to do for you. It's not. Don't say that no one understands you. I understand what you are going through and if you reach out for help, they will too. When I say help I don't want you to think that you are crazy or something but depression is very common in teenagers and some adults. I know that you really don't want to talk to anyone but it's the best thing for you and it will make you feel better about yourself. You are not the only one going through things like this and you are not alone. Why do you want to give up so easily? Fight for the right thing because I belive that there is a brave and awesome person hiden under all that stress and anger. Take steps by steps to make your life better. Please do not end your life or do anything to hurt yourself. You are not only going to hurt yourself but the people around you who care about you. You might not realize that right now but there are people who love you. Life is hard and full of challanges but you are a strong person and you should put up with it and try to deal with it in the best and smartest way. I know you can but before you try to go the right path, you have to belive in yourself. You are not unlucky. You should be thankful that you have things you do now. You should be thankful that you have parents, a home and even the little things. Most kids have nothing. They live on the streets, start gangs and get killed. You are lucky that you are not one of those kids. If you gave things a chance, you would see your life change for the better. The only reason you are depressed is because you let yourself get that way. I used to go through this about a year and half ago and I hated life. I was always in a bad mood, crying, arguing with my parents when I knew I was wrong. Everything bothered me and it made me into a worse person because I let those things ruin my life. I did stupid things thinking it would make me feel better.. woah what a mistake I made. After a while I decided that I didn't want to continue living like that. I changed, but for the better. I was 13 years old and I was way too young to ruin my future ahead of me. Anyways, you are WAY to good for this. When things to bad, which they will, make them better. Yes it's going to be hard, but again it's life and it's going to challange you to make you a better person. School is hard, yes. The people, school work and the teachers drive everyone insane. Somethign I can't take it at all and I just want to quit school because it's hard, but you know what? I don't. I know I want to have a good future and even though it's hard I keep trying and I do well. Then I'm happy about what I did and that I stuck with it. Your math teacher might be mean, but he doesn't want you to fail. Math isn't my thing eather and I hate it so much and it's hard but I try and if I don't understand I get help. Have you tried tutoring? I don't think that the counslor could of done much for that class. I know it sucks that you have it again, but just stick with it and don't let it bother you. Control your anger and deal it with it in a good way. Try getting along with your grandma. Start fresh. When you see her, think positive and not negative. Instead of saying I hate my life, say I love my life and I'm going to make it the best possible. Stay in school and you will go far and becomoe successful and happy. Good luck with everything and I hope you take all of this seriously.
Why are some guys such JERKS? No, that's not really my question, but I would like to know.
My question is this... I have a boyfriend. I think. Thing is, I haven't spoken to him since early December. He WON'T take my calls. How do I know? "Hello Mrs. Carr, is Andrew home?"
"Just a second" *calls his name in the backround*
*Andrew whispers back* "Who is it?"
"May I ask who's calling?"
"Yes ma'am, it's Brandy."
*Andrew whispering again* "I'm not home."
*His mom* "Brandy honey, could you call back in a few minutes please?"
"Of course."
So I wait a few minutes, about fifteen, and call back. NO ANSWER. I call my friend Meg who lives right next door to him and asked if he was there. She said yes. I called him again. No answer. I waited a few more minutes and called back. No answer.
He missed my birthday and hasn't spoken to me at all in over a month. I just don't know what to think. I mean, he hasn't broken up with me, so does he want to be with me? And if he didn't want to be with me, couldn't he grow some cohones and tell me instead of ignoring me?
*Sigh*
Wow, he is a jerk. I don't think that anyone knows why guys are like that. It's just the way some guys are, not all. I'm not trying to be rude, but I'm going to give you my honest opinion. I don't think he wants to be with you. I also don't think you guys are even dating anymore. When a guy does that it simplpy shows that he isn't interested in the girl anymore. I just wish they had some guys to say what the thought instead of pulling of stupid b.s. Anyways, he really does need to grow up. Ask your friend to ask him if he's mad at you for something. That could be it? But if you didn't do anything wrong that it's not your fault and there isn't much you can do about it. My advice to you is to get over this guy. He is worthless and a waste of your time and agravation. Get over him and find someone who will treat you better then this jerk. You deserve better and just don't let him get to you.
today, at school i walked for about 30 minutes..about a mile, then i walked home...about 30 more minutes...then i lifted weights for 20 minutes, then did my gazelle for only 10 minutes, i then walked to the school to get my couison, and home ( 30 minutes ) then i did an intermediate pilates video..
me and my couison plan on doing this a few times a week..will i lose weight? ( sum days though i won't be doing all that walking, and it'll be weights, video, and gazelle )
any advice to stay motivated on the gazelle for 20 minutes? i feel like its like 5 hours! i love reading advice..so i'll take comments..
thanks in advance!
much love
hopeless romantic
Yes it will help you loose weight. If you continute doing that you will get good results. Now, you won't just loose weight if you exercise but you also have to change your eating habits. If you already eat healthy that's great. If not, start to. Fruits and veggies are very important!! Make sure you eat the right amout of servings a day. Don't ever skip breakfast. Eat cereal with low fat milk, bar, or a fruit. It might be hard but as soon as you develop these healthy habits, it will be easier to loose weight. Drink a lot of water. It's very healthy for you. I'm not saying you should go on a diet or anything. Loosing weight isn't about diets. They simply just tell you what you can and can not eat and that's not how you should loose weight. Eat your regular meals and the regular food but I think you can tell the difference between good things and bad. For example, don't eat fried foods like fried chicken, fries and such. It's very high in calories. Salads are great and they will fill you up but make sure you eat low fat dressing. Besides the food, the amount of time you are exercising is great. Keep it up. I bet everyone hates exercising but just think the more you stick with it, the faster you will get the results you want. Another good motivation is if you pick out a pair of jeans or dress and you really want it but you think it might not fit or so, keep that as your motivation. The faster you loose that unwanted fat you could get it. You'll be happier. Keep doing what you are doing and you'll get the results. Good luck !!
Okayy ; So I'm 13 ; i weigh around 95 - 98 pounds and i'm 4"10 . 95 - 98 pounds doesn't sound like a lot, but because of how short I am, i have a stomach that like bulges out! I kind of considered anorexia, but it doesn't work for me. And I also have humoungus thighs that like touch together when i walk![ that's also because of my shortness ] . Do you know any workouts or diets that i could go on. Like not a major diet but like just one that could keep me away from junk food. Oh and people tell me i'll grow but i can't wait that long, so pleaseee pleasee help me!!
thank youuu! ♥
Well, you will grow and it's something you have to wait for. Anyways, it's not that hard to eat healthier. Instead of eating a whole bag of chips, grab a hanful. Instead of eating 10 cookies take 1 or 2. Don't drink soda. Water is the best thing. You have to motivate yourself and belive in yourself that you can do this to loose that extra fat.t Go to www.toneteen.com and it will show you exercises for each part of the body.
hey teza! its nick! well i need a s/n sooo can u help me out? thankz!
Nick, you know I'm the worst person to ask about screen names !! Sorry. :(
Please do not delete Im honestly 100% want to know this.
Do you believe in Aliens?
Life on other planets, Aliens.
Thank you.
Earth is a planet and there is life on it, so there could be a posibility. I don't belive in green monsters, but life on other planet maybe. I don't think they would be humans though.
is there a promgram that you can like cut picturees and make them smaller and do all that fun stuff?? if so what is it called and were can i download
You can make pictures smaller and cut them on paint. Also paint brush. I think that's what the program is called.
girl/14
I've been so confused lately. okay this guy broke up with me & im not over him nearly, i know i should cause it was like in augest but im always going to love him... and hes got a girlfriend so yeah, i just deal with it. And my best friend guy now likes me, and i think i like him to. I've gone out with him beofre and all... but im not sure, cause my friend is trying to get over him. And you know how they'll say "no dont worry about me go out with him" & that stuff...idn if i can do that to her. And my other best friend has something for him but like were best friends and i think i like him a little but im not sure. and i fouind out my other friend likes the guy who im not over & shes so perfect & i just want her to stay away from him even though i have no controll over that... but i was stupid & went out with the guy she liked before & i feel like its pay back kinda. im so sorry this is confusing it just all hit me in a couple days. thank you so much ♥
I know that it's difficult to get over someone so try dating some one new. Dating your best guy friend wouldn't be such a good idea because a friend of yours is trying to get over him but that shouldn't stop you but because your other friend likes him. Sure friends say "I don't care if you go out with him. I don't even like him anymore." That is a lie and deep down inside, they care but they don't want to admit it. The girl that likes your ex, you really can't do anything about it. If she likes him, then leave it that way. You can't do anything to make her stay away from him and even if you did, that would be really selfish. You're not stupid for going out with a guy she liked and I also don't think it's pay back time. You can't help who you like and you shouldn't have to. The best thing you should do is get over this guy. Keep trying. It might take you a long time, but who cares. Go out with new guys and flirt & just hang out. Meet new people and do things that will get your mind off him.
How do i change colors on my limewire?
Sorry it took me a while to answer this. Go to view and then apply skins.
ok...i am dating this guy ...have been dating for ...7 months now and i like him....i am really young and so is he...i am 14 and he is 16..... he dont live in my town but he comes to see me and my dad and my brother every weekend..... he gets very mad and upset when he cant c me when he wants ... hold me or touch me ..... well i like him ...and i really dont want to hurt him and i dont want to lose him.......but he is wanting to run away and try to make it on our own........ hes family is very welthy so he has the money to run away .... and he is saving up ..... i dont want to run away .... i want to finish school and make a something of myself... not having to lean on him for everything...i want him to finish school and to make something of hiself 2!..... but i dont want to hurt him by saying i dont want to run off with him... what can i tell him ? ........... ps..... plz dont tell me that i am to young to b dating or anything like that ..cuz that isnt really helping me at all!!!
I'm not going to tell you that you are too young to be dating, but you both are certanly too young to be trying to make it on your own. You can't get a house, buy cars, get good jobs. I know that you don't want to loose him, but if you do run away you are making the wrong decision. When you talk to him just tell him everything you just said. You want to finish school and everything and aslo talk to him about finishing school and what good it would do for him. If he drives, maybe then you guys could see more of each other. If he truely cared about you as much as he says, he would accept that and try to live with it. It's difficult not seeing each other all the time, but that's how it has to be. You guys should try and make it work and if it doesn't work out right now, you never know about the future.
I'M SO PISSED OFF AT HER!!! She ditched me this weekend, saying she was going to go to a party to get "messed up" and by her saying messed up I was thinking... drinking. You know, because she wouldn't ever smoke! Well today I went to her MySpace, and I saw pictures, so I was watching them, and I saw pictures of her and her little sister SMOKING WEED!! I WAS LIKE DUDE, WTF! She wouldn't have done that if she was with me! BUT NOOOOOO, she just HAD to go to that stupid fucking party! Another thing that makes me sooo mad is that she didn't even have the nerve to talk to me, and tell me that she was planning to go to the party, and she had all week! She didn't tell me until Friday night, when I had plans on going to her house. So she basically left me to go get high.
WHAT SHOULD I DO!
She's already dtole guys from me, and now shes smoking weed?!?
Please, Please, Please help me out!!!
-Thank you so much!-
I understand why you are mad, but do you think that she didn't tell you for a good reason? She probablly didn't want you to smoke or she didn't want you to get mad at her for smoking. I don't know what was going on in her mind, but she is your best friend, so try to fix things with her. The best thing to do would be to talk to her, seriously. Don't have an attitude with her, but comfort her about your feelings. If she knows you don't like it, she might change and include you in the things she does without telling you.
mmk i live in STL and there's this girl, she just wants to be my friend but i love her so much and cant get over her (this might give away hoo i am but i've liked her since Kindergarten)!!! and all my friends want me to be happy, but they're telling me that they're going to kill her friends and shit like that (my friends are sophomores and juniors and im in 8th grade and they dont care what anyone thinks) and one of them got a hold of my buddy list and im rele scared of what they're going to do!! I told them to back off and leave me alone and that i dont want to be their friend if they keep this shit up. is there NE thing i can do!?!
Q i need answered:
How do I keep my friends and go out with the girl i loved?
13/M
Woah, woah there. Kill her friends? For what reason? I personaly think they are just saying that to sound tough, and to scare you.. which is working. They won't do that, they won't even have the guts. If the girl just wants to be your friend, there is nothing you can do to change her mind. If she wanted to be more then friends, you would know. For now, just be her friend and see how that would work out. Sorry, but that's the only thing you can do for now. Flirt with her and show her that you can be a good boyfriend. Ignore your friends because if they are saying all those things, they aren't beaing true friends at all.
okay, im 14 years old and i have had the same size breasts for about 3 years now. all of my friends have bigger breasts than me, im talking like 34D 36DD 32C and it frustrates me. my boyfriend loves my little 36A's but i feel self concious whenever he sees me in my bra or bathing suit. I talked to my mom about the issue and she said that if i find an all natural breastgrowth pill i can take it. I was wondering how you feel about this, and if you happen to know of any sites or products for me. Thank you so much you have no idea how much it means.
You are only 14 years old and breasts stop growing when you are about 18. You still have 4 more years to grow and just because they aren't growing right now, doesn't mean they never will. You are growing everyday but you just not might realize that. If you really want bigger breasts now, take the pill. I'm not sure if it's good for you or not but a lot of girls at this age don't have big breasts. It's normal to feel concious about them but big breasts aren't that great. I want to get rid of mine .. lol I don't think that your boyfriend only looks at your body, but he seems to like you for what you have. If you do take the pill, read everything about it because it might not even work. I searched online if there is anything you can do to make your breasts grow bigger and faster without surgery and all I found was this small peace of information.
I want my breasts grow bigger. Is there anything I can do to make them grow faster without surgery?
No, there is nothing you can do to make your breasts grow bigger or faster than nature intends. Don't be misled by advertisements for special creams or "natural" herbs or supplements. If you read the fine print, you'll see results vary with individuals or works until full maturity is reached meaning they won't do anything more than your own genetics have already pre-determined.
I have a simple question that could have a lot of answers. What is a girl's favorite scent on a guy? Specifically, please.
Addidas, Jake (Hollister), & Axe.
0KAY .. i'M 13. i`M AR0UND 5'1 0R 5'2. i W0ULD SAY i WEiGH AR0UND 145 0R 150 ? BUT i'M N0T F0R SUREE. D0 Y0U THiNK THAT'S N0RMAL 0R AM i JUST FAT ??
You're not fat but it's not normal eather. For your hight you should be at least 115.
so the guy i like is like a real close freind of mine but hes mean. like he flirts and teases me a lot but lately hes been going overboard with insults and all that stuff. should i confront him about it? i think i should bu he doesnt take me sereiously. how can i make him see that im dead sereious?
You should comfort him about it. I have couple of guy friends who are like that and they never take anyone seriously. Just tell him and if he doesn't think you're serious, don't even talk to him for a while. It's okay to have fun and joke around but sometimes it's just enough.