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I'm Jack/Jamie.

I'm 28 years old. I graduated from Michigan State University with my Bachelor of Science in Chemistry. GO GREEN! Now I'm a high school chemistry teacher in New York City living with my husband in a small studio apartment we pay way too much money for.

I've been on this site for 14 years as of March 23, 2020.
You may have seen me as CuxMiBeckNow7, but I've since shortened my name.


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--Jack

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I just want to speculate here... I think that our teacher (high school) is going to pick a very big musical for next year in school. She's already done things like Oaklahoma!, Seven Brides for Seven Brothers, The Sound of Music, and Beauty and the Beast. We need a musical with more girl parts than guy parts. What do you guys think that we might do? Oh, by the way, I already looked up Wicked, but it's on Broadway still, and I don't think anyone will be getting the rights to it anytime soon. Any thoughts would really be appreciated, as I've already talked to my family and friends about this, and they are bored to death with the subject!

Maybe you might do one of the following:

Phantom of the Opera
High School Musical
CATS
Little Shop of Horrors
Grease
Annie
Bye Bye Birdie
Honk!


But I'm not sure if any of those have more guy parts than girl parts. I know CATS has about equal, and I think so does Grease.

--Jack
(16/m)

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my boyfriend and i can be pretty romantic. we want to go out to dinner at a nice resturant. theres a problem, hes allergic to fish. just smelling fish makes his throat close up. he cant eat peppers or onions because he has ulcers.. and we live in washington. where the main food group is sea food. we have tried mexcian, itlian, chinese, thai.. they all have served seafood. what kind of food does not have seafood in it?? i have called every resturant intown asking if they have seafood before. i need help thinking of atleast a type of food that wouldnt serve seafood. any help thanks tons

My best advice to you is to stop looking for restaurants and just have a home-made meal. That way you can make sure that no seafood is NEAR any of your food. I suggest a simple picnic- which is actually really romantic, especially in the park or something, granted people aren't really around ;].

--Jack
(16/m)

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on a website im looking at, it says:

"Apparently, after about 45 minutes of intense exercise your body does not benefit any longer and all you do goes to waste"

so, heres my question. if i wanted to, could i do 45minutes at around 1/2pm, then go back at around 5/6pm and do some more? thanks

That's a lie. Well.. at least it's misleading. Exercising any length of time is beneficial.

It is often recommended that you do at least 30 minutes per day, so doing 45 would be fine.

--Jack
(16/m)

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This guy that I met about a year ago got my # and started texting me a lot, but I was already in a relatinship at the time. When my relationship ended, about two weeks later he asked me to hang out with him. Well, it ended up we started dating but only for a month and then he dumped me and gave me a stupid reason for it. We still talked after that, but only as friends.

Just recently, he asked if I was seeing anyone and I told him about the guy I just started dating a couple weeks ago. That's when he told me the "true" reason he dumped me before, in which it was not really his fault, but he was extremely apologetic. And then he asked if we could start over, but I told him I had moved on, and so he said that whatever happens will happen.

The problem is, now he texts/calls me pretty consistently throughout the day, as if I am all he thinks about. I think he may just be trying really hard to get me just because he wants a girlfriend, not because he really misses me. But I begin to think twice about it because if he just wanted a girlfriend then he wouldn't be spending all this time waiting on me because there's plenty of girls willing to hook up with a guy around here. I've only been on a couple dates with the guy I just met. Should I consider giving my ex another shot?

No you shouldn't. He broke up with you, and whether it was his fault or not, he still did it.

You said it yourself; you've moved on. Plus it would be pretty rude to your current boyfriend to just get back with your ex.

But I guess if you're really feeling that you like your ex more than your current boyfriend, then go for it. Just make sure that what you do is fair to your current boyfriend and fair to yourself.

--Jack
(16/m)

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my boyfriend's 21st birthday and our 1 year anniversary are coming up and i need some good ideas for a present. i know that im going to cook him dinner one night and just have like a good romantic night in.

we're going to school a few hours apart so my other idea was to make like a box full of things for a road trip like...a gas car, a cd, a map with the route on it highlighted and then like his favorite candy...any other ideas for this or any other ideas?

I like your suggestions. Here are some other ones:

Make a scrapbook of the past two years you two have shared together, with pictures and whatnot. My sister did that last year for her boyfriend on their one year.

They actually went on a picnic at the beach, too. She kept going on and on about how much fun she had and how much she loved her ideas. Especially since she made the picnic herself ;].

You really don't have to go all-out for anniversaries; in fact, going overboard can definitely be a turn off to your boyfriend. Like if you're trying to hard. So a simple picnic, like you said, is really enough. Maybe give him a little basket with a few of his favorite pops, his favorite candy and his favorite CD or something. Oh! And make him a homemade card. Getting generic Hallmark cards can be appropriate at times, but homemade is much more romantic, you know? And he'll appreciate it more.

Good luck ;]

--Jack
(16/m)

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well i just met this guy and we've been getting to kno each other and i think im starting to like him and he feels the same way. and we went to the movies with our friends and he kissed me and everything. the problem is he used to be bad abd smoke and hes had sex and stuff. not thats not that big a deal because he doesnt anymore but im like really good and everything. like he drinks and thats the big thing between us if we ever wanted to date. he said its not often at all but still... i have a list of what guys have to not do if i date them and drinking uderage is one of the things. hes only 15. im 14. what should i do??? because i mean what if i start to really like him? thanks!! :)

You have your specifications, and something like that is serious. If it makes you worried, even slightly [and asking this question shows me your worry about the situation], then you should set your foot down and let him know that if you are ever to date that you won't if he does that stuff.

I think that's fair. Besides, it's illegal. You're completely fine in desiring potential boyfriends don't do that stuff.

--Jack
(16/m)

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Ok, so i'm a guy, and there's this girl (when isn't there?). Anyway, I work with her, and she's 2 years younger than me. I really like her, and my girlfriend and i just recently broke up..
So I was wondering if there were any ways to tell if she likes me as well...and, will us being co-workers be a bad thing?

Thanks in advance.

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=532578

From there:
I'm going to start off by saying this: if a girl smiles A LOT when she's around you, she probably likes you as more than a friend.


The Top 5 other things to look for:
1. She laughs at your jokes.
- No matter how many times she's heard them, or how totally lame they are, she'll laugh at them. End of story.

2. She touches you (not sexually, get your head outta the gutter!)
- She plays with your hair, or fixes your shirt or something. Maybe she even holds your hand, that's a pretty good sign that she likes you.

3. She includes you in things.
- She talks to you even when she's with her friends. She makes an effort to include you, like by asking you things. Even lame questions like, 'What color should I paint my nails?' might be her way of trying to include you.

4. She makes an effort to talk to you/see you.
- She texts you just to say hello, she's late to class just because she wanted to hug you good bye, or she calls you just to see what you're doing.

5. She trusts you, and talks to you seriously.
- She tells you things that she might not normally tell others. Like, if she's in a bad mood and tells others she's fine, she'll actually tell you that she failed that geometry test, or her friends aren't including her lately. She opens up to you and isn't afraid to be herself.


Even though every girl is different, these are the top 5 things girls do when they like a guy. So, chances are, if she's holding your hand and texting you saying :" Hey whatcha up to? :)", chances are she's doing it all for a reason.





And being co-workers won't be a problem. My brother and his girlfriend are co-workers and it works out well. Then again, they barely see each other. They work at Cedar Point together ;]

--Jack
(16/m)

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My friends and i are going camping on saturday
i just have a problem.
1) Id have to lie to my mum and dad about where im sleeping, as they wouldnt let me otherwise.
Should i lie to them?
Or just not go?
The lad that i like is going, and i really want to go.
Im jst really worried id get found out.
xx

Lying to your parents is the absolute worst thing you can do. You almost always get caught and it ends up blowing up in your face. And most of the time, if they would have just been truthful, they would have gotten what they wanted.

Just be honest with your parents, and it will show maturity and they'll give you more freedoms and such.

--Jack
(16/m)

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so this is a random question but about how often does a normal pretty girl get looked at from guys? (the answer doesnt have to be perfect and dont tell me it depends on the type or smth :P )
i dont mean girls who look like supermodels though.

I tend to "look at" girls who are normal and pretty. They aren't trying to hard to be pretty, and they are at least making an effort.

I guess the answer to your question is all of the time. =]

--Jack
(16/m)

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Okay, so I'm a 16 year old female. I've been told I'm pretty and have a decent body, but I'm looking for some ideas/ways to make guys more interested in me. I know some guys like the whole "slut" approach, and some don't, so what are some subtle ways I can get guys attention, make them interested, and let them know I'm a freak (lol) without coming off too slutty? Any ideas for stuff like that, flirting in general, things guys like etc would be extremely appreciated.

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=505520

From there:

The best way to attract a guy is to be yourself. If you try to change yourself just to get a boyfriend [especially at your age]- you'll just end up with someone who only likes you for what you've become- not who you are. If you be yourself- and don't change- you'll attract more guys who actually care about your personality rather than just your looks.

I myself like any type of girl. I honestly don't judge looks as much as I do personality. If a girl is absolutely stunningly beautiful, but she's a bitch- why would I like her? What would our relationship be? What would we talk about? Her latest hair extensions? Yeah- that would be REALLY nice *Sarcasm: Party of one!*...
If a girl has a really nice personality- and she's really outgoing and sweet and nice and smart- and she's not necessarily the best looking girl- but she's not super unattractive- then I'll most likely want to date her over the beautiful bitch.

Do you get what I'm saying? If you let guys see your personality more than your looks- you'll end up with someone great. Trust me- most guys prefer personality over looks- they just don't know it yet =].

--Jack
(16/m)

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I was studying at a cafe today, when the guy next to me (just for the sake of talking to me), asked if I knew how to fill out information for some computer thing...I said I didn't, and resumed with my work. Less than a minute later, he turned around and asked me, "are you single?" and I replied, "I don't see why that matters." I felt a little awkward, so I got up and left the area, and under his breath he said " it's just a question." Was my answer/reaction a little uncalled for or rude? Now, to clarify, I don't care about how he felt, but I want to know for future reference...I mean, guys/men ask little questions all the time, and sometimes women want to know how to respond. I do not want to be rude, but I don't want to be a pushover either. Anyway, any advice/comments are greatly appreciated! By the way, I am 23/F.

When I was reading it, I was thinking, "how rude.."

So yes, I do think it was a bit rude, but sometimes you have to be a little pushy to get a message across. It was good that you didn't say yes and get all flirty, when we know you weren't interested.

I would say that in the future you should try to be a little less disphemistic and say it more in a nice manner. I probably would have went home and wondered what I did wrong if I was that guy.. haha.


--Jack
(16/m)

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So this upcoming fall I will be starting my senior year. In the yearbooks, every senior is allowed to put three quotes. Whatever they want. I was thinking I'd have one quote about life/life lesson/etc and then two funny quotes. Does anyone have any quotes, please don't give me sites because I can just google and I have, but can't find any good ones :/. Even if their not about life or funny quotes, can you think of any good ones?

Thanks

In three words I can sum up everything I've learned about life: it goes on.
-Robert Frost

Isn't it nice to know that the lining is silver?
-Relient K

And in the end, it won't matter how many years were in your life, but how much life was in your years.
-Abraham Lincoln

Only a life lived for others is a life worthwhile.
-Albert Einstein

Because I have loved life, I shall have no sorrow to die.
-Amelia Burr

You have been my friend. That in itself is a tremendous thing. I wove my webs for you because I liked you. After all, what's a life, anyway? We're born, we live a little while, we die. A spider's life can't help being something of a mess, with all this trapping and eating flies. By helping you, perhaps I was trying to lift up my life a trifle. Heaven knows anyone's life can stand a little of that.
[Charlotte from Charlotte's Web]
-E.B. White

Love doesn't make the world go 'round; love is what makes the ride worthwhile.
-Franklin P. Jones

Life is what happens to you while you're busy making other plans.
-John Lennon


If you need more, I'll find some =]

--Jack
(16/m)

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If I want to be a dermatologist, what should I major in? And what should my minor be?
Science is my favorite subject, then math.

Like the person below said, you should really focus on majoring/minoring in medical sciences, which are Biology, Chemistry, Biochemistry [which is more related to the chemistry of the body], and obviously Pre-Med.

Though different universities may have different options for you. If you're ever unsure, ask you counselor [if you're in high school; I'm not sure if they exist in college- but there should be some type of adviser] and they will be sure to help you out ;]

--Jack
(16/m)

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Yes many are going to find this really imature. But here goes...

Okay so my boyfriend is going to be 18 next year. His dad wants to get his a stripper for his 18th birthday. I absolutely hate it! I mean I've been with him for over two years, why does he need another girl nakes rubbing up on him. I know many guys do this, and I'm probably over exadgerating( i know i spelled that wrong =]) but honestly, I can't get over this. It bothers the hell out of me. Is there anything I can say to him that could change his mind. Or is there anything I can do to stop worrying about such a childish subject? PLEASE help me, cause I get more and more pissed everytime I think about this!

The person below pretty much said it all. I didn't read all she said, but I'm going to act as if I'm the first person answering the question.

It's alright to be upset with something like this. He's your boyfriend of TWO years. If you're extremely uncomfortable with this, talk to him. If the relationship is worth something, which I'm assuming it is because it's lasted for two years, then he WILL listen and he should understand.

If he wants to do it, you can't really stop him. I'm almost positive it's just a rite of passage thing more than it is a "filling the void my girlfriend left". I'm sure he's completely satisfied with you and I'm sure he really cares about you. I think you owe it to him to at least have one night of fun, granted it doesn't go to far.

I'm taking the opposite stand from what I would normally say. I'm not sure why. But normally I would be really upset by this and completely support you. I guess that's what I get for answering a question at 11:48 pm! =O

--Jack
(16/m)

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This guy and i work together. Im 18, he's 20.

We kinda had our first date and that was going downtown and going to a movie after getting to know each other after a while talking downtown.

We still dont know each other too much. He said he had a good time and gave me a kiss on the head before leaving. We both had a good time from what i know.

I asked him to hang out tomorrow, but what should we do? I think ill have to decide bc i asked him to hang out. I dont want him to spend too much money because he will spend money all because he's the guy.

I was thinking just going to the park, him and I. Just hanging out and getting to know each other more or just spending time together but I dont want it to be boring at all! How do I or would I keep the date entertaining at a park?

I guess I just need some ideas on making this date as good as the other one so he knows that I'd like to see more of them. Also I just want us both to enjoy ourself but our date will probably be at 6 in the afternoon also if that makes a difference.

Thanks for your help!

I know this is already 5 hours after the fact, but here's an idea for another date:

If you didn't end up going to the park, you could do that and maybe have a picnic together. That doesn't involve cooking, really, just some minor preparations. Like the person below said, the best way to guy's heart is through his stomach ;]

Maybe just hang at your place and watch some TV or a movie or something. Really, it doesn't have to be much. If you think about it too much and plan too much, it gets to be overdone and that's easily noticed. And it's a huge turn off to most guys. Just stick to simple things ;]

--Jack
(16/m)

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I know that pole dancing can be slutty
but its good exercise, and i know my parents wouldn't approve, but i want to try someday, and i want to know good exercises that helped people who know how to pole dance, thanks!

Here's a few videos that may help:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJfEpP0h9PQ

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RSnCuqsK-5s

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3dgVhrK3Gr0&feature=related

And basically anything from her. Just look at the rest of her videos.


--Jack
(16/m)

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Okay I have a job with my older sister and we babysit 2 kids. The job is $2.50 an hour when we work together and $5 an hour when we work alone. We babysit an 11 year old girl and a 9 year old boy. They live right by the school and we can walk to go to the playground and stuff. They have a pool and a pretty big yard. No big deal right? Well we babysit from 7:30 AM- 2 PM. and me and my sister get really bored. I know its kinda selfish but it gets really boring. I need some advice on how to keep the kids and my sister and I entertained. Board games weren;t so hot last time and TV... well if you like Pokemon I guess its okay. And my sister and I arent aloud to use the phone unless theres an emergency or we need to talk to our parents. And our mom said we shouldn't be texting. They're a little old for nap time.. but I really need something, and anything will help.
Thanks!

I'm not sure if this will help, but I recently answered a question about boredom, and different things to do. If it doesn't, I'm sorry =/.

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=507084

From there:

http://www.discoverfun.com/freeinfo/500fun/when_severly_bored.html

Those are a lot of fun.

Here are my favorites:
# Blow on a blade of grass
# Crank up some music
# Cut out photos and paste them on Popsicle sticks and have a puppet show
# Eat
# Eat 6 spoon full of sugar, a soda, and another think that makes you hyper and then you won't be bored anymore, you will end up finding something to do... trust us
# Experiment with makeup
# Get a bubble blower and then blow some
# Get a tootsie pop and see how many licks it takes to get to the center of the tootsie pop
# Laugh out loud
# Learn how to fake an accent
# Make a humorous crank phone call
# Make an entertaining phone answering-machine message
# Make up poems or songs about your boredom
# Break into a friend's house and clean it
Call a wrong number and talk to whoever answers.
# Catch a fly, then put in a jar and stick in the fridge (this cools their metabolism down), then tie the fly to the end of a thread 15in. and hold the other end of the thread while you watch it fly around (We have tested this and it works - a lot of patience is involved)
# Chase your best friend round the sofa
# Dance around your living room naked
# Doodle or cartoon
# Dress in something silly and laugh at yourself
# Fiddle around with a Ouija board
# Figure out how to get yourself on TV
# Find an address to your favorite famous person and write them a letter. See if they write you back
# Flip a coin 500 times to see who wins
# Get on the radio
# Give names to your body parts
# Go shop for a really cool book
# Go through the English dictionary looking up really long words like discombobulated.
# Have a carpet picnic
# Have a staring contest with yourself in the mirror.
# Kiss your elbow, if you can.
# Lay a long straight line of masking tape on the floor. Now spin around really fast then try walking on the masking tape.

Enjoy not being bored anymore. That should occupy you for a few hours =D

--Jack
(16/m)

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ok well this is a tough situation,me and my ex broke up about a month ago after about a year and 9months. it was heart breaking and very hard for both of us but we were just fighting so much and we werent happy no more so we called it quits. we have decided no to talk as much but we still do once in a while. we both still care about eachother very much though. ok this is were it gets hard,in skool we have the same group of friends so we are all pretty close and well one of his friends likes me and well we stared to talk and we ended up kissing. witch was a mistake because we didnt think of wat was to follow that decison,but i liked it. well my ex found out and was furious he has threatend to fight him. ok we will give him a name because it gets more confusing ok well"bob" is the one i kissed and the one who is good friends with my ex well. so things got really bad there bob and my ex are no longer talking or friends at all i feel really bad about that and knowing my ex he will mostlikly fight bob. that is wat worries me alot wat do i do about that? but i dont know i mean bob is so sweet and nice he treats me so well and i admit i do like him but i have been trying to push him away because i am scared of wat will come when skool starts again.i dont know wat to do with bob? ok and there is one more twist another guy who is also part of this close group of friends likes me as well and well we had a thing last year but we never got a chance to actual see if any thing was there so we just kinda for got about it and well me and my ex were together and he ended up gettin with one of my friends who is in this group but they broke up and well when me and my ex broke up we started talking again and well now i m starting to like this guy alot but i dont know wat to do about him because he is alos frineds with bob and my ex this whole thing is so over whelming and cofusing and im so lost i dont know wat to do at all wat is your advice on my situation????? i am a 16 years and a jr in high skool!

You need to decide what is right for you. If you want to be with Bob, then by all means, do it. Your exboyfriend has ZERO control over that. And while he may have a reason to be mad, he has no RIGHT to be mad. You two are NO longer dating. Therefore he cannot be mad about who you date or what you do. It isn't up to him. He's obviously jealous.

If you don't want to be with Bob, then don't. But don't not go out with him just because you're scared of what your ex will do to him.

If you want to date the other guy, then do it. If you don't, then don't.

My point is that you are independent of your ex, and having him be the deciding factor in your relationship decisions is just wrong. He should have nothing to do with them. He's your ex boyfriend for a reason.

--Jack
(16/m)

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Age 16- Female- 5'2"
Just wondering what you guys thought a good weight would be to fit that discription?

Also, I know I'm not fat but I have baby fat (i guess?) on my stomach. I'm looking for an easy way to tone it or get rid of it- besides just sit ups and crunches. Any ideas?

Thanks!

I would say somewhere between 120 and 135 is fine. That makes your BMI [Body Mass Index] between 21 and 24, which is a healthy weight.

If you're a little over, it's alright.

only search advicenators.com


--Jack
(16/m)

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When its comes to parents snooping around in their kid's business, how far is too far?

A few months ago I found out my own mom had searched/read my diary, any school notes from friends hidden in drawers, snooped onto my Myspace, Facebook, and Xanga, and even talked to some loose lipped friends about things I had done when I had given her no previous reason to not trust me. It has even gone as far as her texting my boyfriend and asking how far we've gone.

For a while, I wanted to appear more bad ass so I faked things on my Myspace and Xanga lying about sneaking out, drinking, sexual experiences, smoking etc. to fit in with friends. Well my mom found these and grounded me for weeks when in reality I hadn't actually done anything wrong. Of course she didn't believe that since she thought she had found her proof.

Anyways, how do I get her to stop. I've asked and asked and she doesn't care to quit. Has she gone too far?

She just cares about you. I know sometimes going through your stuff can seem a little crazy, but all of our moms have done it. My mom has done it numerous times. I don't really care because I have nothing to hide.

You have nothing to hide, so really it shouldn't be a big deal. I know that seems like something you can't accept, and I couldn't for the longest time.

Try talking to her one more time, and explaining to her what all the stuff she found was all about. Do it in a calm and mature matter. Don't whine or anything. Be completely honest and maybe she'll see your maturity. If she still doesn't believe you, just ask that she don't monitor you anymore, and that you will give no reason for her to have to. Don't be sneaky about things and don't hide things from her. Yes, she doesn't have to know everything, but she wants to because she cares about you. Just remember that.

--Jack
(16/m)

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