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How far is too far?
When its comes to parents snooping around in their kid's business, how far is too far?
A few months ago I found out my own mom had searched/read my diary, any school notes from friends hidden in drawers, snooped onto my Myspace, Facebook, and Xanga, and even talked to some loose lipped friends about things I had done when I had given her no previous reason to not trust me. It has even gone as far as her texting my boyfriend and asking how far we've gone.
For a while, I wanted to appear more bad ass so I faked things on my Myspace and Xanga lying about sneaking out, drinking, sexual experiences, smoking etc. to fit in with friends. Well my mom found these and grounded me for weeks when in reality I hadn't actually done anything wrong. Of course she didn't believe that since she thought she had found her proof.
Anyways, how do I get her to stop. I've asked and asked and she doesn't care to quit. Has she gone too far?
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Yes, I would have to say that is WAY too far. The only thing I can understand is the Myspace, Facebook and Xanga, because of all the dangerous people that could be on there. But reading your diaries, talking to your friends, and especially texting your boyfriend is where it gets beyond absurd. No offense to your mother, just to what she is doing.
You really need to talk to her about this. I mean like a sit-down talk, not a quick "Mom can you stop poking around me?" before school. lol. :) Even the craziest of moms can be changed with a nice talk and a little time. Hope I helped and good luck! :)
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Well most parents are nosey in that area. They just want to make sure their kid isn't doing bad things & getting into trouble behind their backs. And she was probably just checking on you & making sure you were safe. I know a lot of parents have been checking kids myspaces & other accounts due to all the rapist and all of that. But if it is really bothering you, sit down and talk to her about it. Let her know that you know she was just trying to make sure you were safe but also let her know that she can't cross them lines of teenage privacy. Just tell her that everything on there was a joke so that you looked cooler because you wanted to fit in. Most moms understand that. Just gain her trust back little by little & it'll sort everything out! ♥
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She just cares about you. I know sometimes going through your stuff can seem a little crazy, but all of our moms have done it. My mom has done it numerous times. I don't really care because I have nothing to hide.
You have nothing to hide, so really it shouldn't be a big deal. I know that seems like something you can't accept, and I couldn't for the longest time.
Try talking to her one more time, and explaining to her what all the stuff she found was all about. Do it in a calm and mature matter. Don't whine or anything. Be completely honest and maybe she'll see your maturity. If she still doesn't believe you, just ask that she don't monitor you anymore, and that you will give no reason for her to have to. Don't be sneaky about things and don't hide things from her. Yes, she doesn't have to know everything, but she wants to because she cares about you. Just remember that.
--Jack
(16/m)
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sadly I think there is little you can do. Maybe you should try cleaning up your myspace and tell your mom that if she beieves a computer more than her daughter than you can prove her wrong. Now all you have to do is think of a way to disprove the lies on the computer
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