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so we have a female gym coach and a male gym coach at our school. im a girl and the female coach told me to give the male coach a note and he was in the boys locker room so i asked her to wait until he got out but she told me to go in there and give it to him. so i walked through a room full of naked 13 year old boys all staring at me and my guy friend, who i have a crush on, was in there. once they saw me they made a dash for cover and my friend and a couple of other boys werent quick enough so they were in the open and i couldnt find the coach so i had to ask my friend where he was so it was super awkward. that was last period so we went straight home after that. so how can we talk tomorrow without it being awkward? (link)
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Yeah, honestly I would just act like it didn't happen. When you see him, don't think about it and act normal.
And I do agree that your coach shouldn't have had you go in there. It's completely inappropriate and you should tell the principal or something because it's actually wrong.
Anyways, be normal with him and everything should be fine.
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today when i got home from school she told me she had to talk to me. My mother had found my tumblr. Yes, there were plenty of things i shouldn't have blogged about. I know they were wrong, bad words, drugs, anything a mother would be disappointed about was on that tumblr. She was extremely disappointed. She started crying and i started crying. Now she thinks that's the type of person i am, but i honestly am not. I just blogged those things to look cool or because other people thought it was funny. I know, very very immature. I am so stupid. while she was telling me this there was nothing i could do besides cry and tell her i am so sorry. now she won't talk to me only when she needs to. She can barely look at me. I really am a good kid. I deleted the entire blog. I am done with tumblr forever. I just want me and my mom's relationship to go back to the way that it was. Nothing good has happened between us the past couple days,I can't take this anymore. It's tearing me apart. I need help? (link)
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Just go talk to her. Explain what you explained to us. That you feel very wrong and you aren't the kid who blogged those things and you were doing it to look cool.
Of course it hurt her, but just talk to her. You are her daughter and she shouldn't be ignoring you or talking to you when she needs to. She really does need to be there for you, especially if she thought you were doing drugs, ect. But anyways, since we can't advise her, we can just help what you can do in this situation.
You obviously love your mother and don't want to hurt her. Tell her you deleted the blog and you want to make everything better.
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16/F
Me and my boyfriend have been together for 6 months and im thinking its time to have sex. Im kind of nervous and want to know what to be aware of. Some of my friends said I might bleed or something? I might cry or scream? what should I know before I actually do have sex and lose it.. I need advice asap please? Personal experience..anything .. (link)
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Ok well, you guys haven't been together very long. I honestly don't want you to regret it. When you both are in love and you feel ready and you know what you're getting yourself into, that's when the time could be right.
But really, it's better to wait. Only because if something went wrong, you could end up pregnant, with STDs, or even end up suffer emotionally.
What your friends said was true, any of that could happen.
But really, sit down and think about this. It really is a big deal to lose your virginity and you really deserve it to be special.
I'd say just wait a little longer. 6 months isn't very long so you really need to make sure everything will be ok.
Relationships do change after sex, remember that.
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how do you know if a guy just wants to hang out with you & is just being nice to you to just get in your pants? (link)
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If he's really touchy with you but not in a sweet way. Holding hands is nice but you start kissing and he starts touching you, he's moving too fast and probably just wants more.
If he keeps talking about spending time alone with you.
If he only talks to you when it's convenient but acts really, really sweet.
If he makes you feel uncomfortable with what he says or does.
If he asks you to send him pictures.
Well, I don't know, I think it's pretty obvious. Just be careful. You'll know if a guy is genuinely nice or is a player.
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I am 16 and I have a huge crush on my attractive female teachers who is like 28 I believe. I am flat out obsessed wit her I;d say, -I always walk by her room or try to go wherever she is and at the end of the day just to see her leave,.i 'm willing to buy any school related paper and yearbook just to see if any pictures of her are in it, I keep thinking she hates me or as a bad impression of me, I went searching for her Facebook account, and I found it and I find myself staring at a lot of pictures of her. I get mad just whenever I see another boy go up and talk to my teacher, but the worst thing of all is that she is married and I can't stand that she is. I have feelings of hate towards her husband just because she is married to him and want him to die and I sometimes like to rip papers up or something pretending it is him or taking a pencil and stabbing the paper with it. I am obsessed with this girl, and I will do anything to get her even it means I have to break up her marriage or something
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It is ok to have a crush on your teacher, but you are going overboard.
She is 28 and you are 16. 28 year old women are not interested in 16 year old boys.
You're stalking her, it's wrong. You look at her Facebook account and stare at her pictures. You can't do things like that with a teacher.
She is also married, she is committed to her husband that I'm sure she loves. It's selfish of you to try to break up a marriage.
If she even would consider you at all, which I doubt because she is married, you both could get into a lot of trouble. She could lose her job, she went through so much schooling to get that. There is a lot at risk if you got involved in any way.
You wanting her husband to die..it's not right. You need to talk to someone about this and get help.
Like I said, it's ok to have a crush but you have to leave it at that and just accept that you could never be with her. I'm sure she loves her husband and her job and wouldn't risk losing both.
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13/F
So my friend got mad at me and we were texting, and she said the whole school knows I'm "mean"... I honestly don't care, but do you think she meant it? (link)
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Ok well I doubt the whole school cares if you are mean or not. It's not that big of a rumor and it won't affect your life very much.
Your friend was mad, so she could have just been angry and decided to be immature. She was probably just trying to freak you out.
You shouldn't be friends with people like that though. Friends who get mad are understandable but not when they decide to fight back and say mean things to you.
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13/F
A lot of people talk crap about me at school and I'm just getting tired of it. There's nothing I can do, so please don't say "tell someone" or whatever because I've tried everything. But anyways, I'm just getting tired of it and I want to be homeschooled. Some people that talk crap moved to the schools I was thinking about moving to, so they'll just say stuff about me and have MORE people not like me.
How can I talk my mom into letting me be homeschooled? I always have a parent here to homeschool me, so that's situated. But how do I talk my mom into saying "ok"? (link)
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I'm really not sure how to talk your mom into letting you be homeschooled. The best thing to do is sit down and talk to her and maybe at least ask her to think about it. Explain your reasons.
I was homeschooled through middle school but I didn't like it, only because I hated no one being around except for my brother. But there are different types of homeschooling. I had one where all the work was on the computer. I had my account and I would do my reading and then worksheet on the computer. My mom had a separate account and can just check up on it there.
Then there is the type of homeschooling where you have actual textbooks and do all of it in writing.
My brother did a type of homeschool where he would do work at home and maybe once of twice a week he would go to a school and the teacher there would check his work. My mom just made sure he did the work. They also had field trips with other kids who were homeschooled.
Anyways, just look into it, talk to your mom and see maybe which one could be right for you.
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My "friend" told me that people talk bad about me at school. I know that, but she said there will be something "going around" about me. She sort of overreacts and stuff, so yeah.
One time, our friend moved and she said "Once it'll get around, you'll know the story", and it never really "got around"... It only got around to a few people. So do you think she's serious, overreacting, or just trying to scare me? I'm having like a panic attack so yeah... (link)
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I don't think your friend is being much of a friend. Who knows if she was serious or not. Either way, if she is or isn't serious, don't freak out over this.
Kids and teenagers are dramatic and like gossip. You can't change it, you just have to be the better person. You know whatever is going around isn't true and since she overreacts to things, it probably wouldn't be something ridiculously huge that will affect your life very much.
Just let this go and if people start talking, let them but don't let it get to you because apparently that is what your friend wants.
Anyways, other than that, I think you shouldn't be talking or hanging around this friend of yours. She doesn't seem trustworthy and just freaks you out over stupid things. If she was a real friend, she wouldn't be doing this and if she heard a rumor, she'd tell you what it was.
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for a month we are both in high school. My boyfriend asked me one day last week if I would want to do a three sum with him and my best friend at first I thought he was kidding but then today he asked again and before he did tell me he was seriouse but I said idk. But today I was talking to him and my friend on Skype. He asked again and so then I asked my friend if she would want to she was down w it but then I started to tear up bc my bf used to have a crush on my friend and he had one on her for 4yrs. And so I kept crying cuz I can't picture him putting his penis in her knowing the fact tht he liked her but he loves me and always says it but it feels weird. How do I get the image of them out of my head? I can't take it an my bf is trying to help me and he apologized for bringing it up but I keep picturing him putting his thing in her. Yes ik he will do it back to me but still I can't get it out of my mind.... HELP!! (link)
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It's so wrong of him to ask that of you. You've only been together for a month and he's asking you for a threesome. Some people don't have problems with that but obviously, it would impact you greatly knowing he's being pleasured by another girl. Honestly, do go through with it. It does sound like he's using you for sex. He's still attracted to your friend, he wouldn't ask if he wasn't.
This doesn't sound like a stable relationship.
Anyways, besides the fact that it isn't right of him, threesomes usually ruin relationships. Someone always gets jealous and normally when people have threesomes, it's with someone they don't know because things like this can happen.
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Okay so I've been having this boyfriend for like about 2 1/2 years . I resently Acussed him of talking to his ex so we got into an argument . I always acusse him of stuff like this by the way and during the argument he said I was a bitch because I keep goin on and on about how he was lieing and whatever ..so after he did that a few hours later I texted him and ask how could he say that and he still wouldn't say sorry or anything he was still upset he wasn't still calling me a bitch I mean that is like the first time he's actually said that to me so later on tht night I've been ignoring him and now he's just saying sorry and I'm telling him to leave me alone is that the right thing to do . ???????????? (link)
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If you want to make this relationship work, you need to trust him. You both need to trust each other and communicate. If you always accuse him of things like this, he'd get mad, of course. I'm assuming you have good reasons why you're accusing him of talking to his ex. If so, then talk it out but if you can't trust him, then this relationship will not work.
He is in the wrong because he is calling you names, it's disrespectful and wrong.
You both should not be fighting though. You need to talk out your problems rather than argue about them. He snapped and said some things he shouldn't have, forgive him. After that, fix your problems. You either trust him or you don't.
As of right now, just give it some time to cool off and then talk, without fighting or arguing.
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Do you guys believe in those pictures or comments that say something like "Repost in 4 minutes or else"? I'm scared of those things... (link)
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No, trust me they aren't true but I agree that some of them are really creepy. I've never reposted, forwarded, or liked anything and nothing like that has ever happened to me.
It's just for popularity, nothing to worry about.
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Whats the easiest but pailess way to kill your self, im not going to kill myself but just out of interest i would like to know the most easiest, painless way to kill yourself? (link)
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Well it would be very wrong of someone to answer that, especially on this website when there are people who looking for ways to kill themselves.
If you aren't just curious, talk to someone because life can be great and people who are suffering deserve to get help. If you are thinking about this, please talk to someone.
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I want a guinea pig, but my parents don't like them. Ive had two before but it's been awhile. It hey said I might be able to get one once we move but they won't touch it or hav anything to do with it. But I don't think I'll be able to do EVERYTHING by myself (cuz I'm more of a girly girl, if you know what I mean). I want at least a little help, what should I do. (link)
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Like everyone else said, if you want a pet, you have to take care of it. If your parents aren't going to help with it, then don't get it because if you really want one, you're going to have to take care of it. If you're too girly for your guinea pig then you're not responsible enough for one.
It would be your pet right? Your parents don't care to have one? So if you don't want to clean up after it then why make them do it if they didn't even want it?
It'd be a different story if they all thought it would be a good idea and wanted a guinea pig but since they don't, then there's nothing you can really do.
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Im really tired of people being so fake. And I try to be cool about but but it's pissing me off. I want to ditch my friends who are fake without any drama or any fighting. If u have any ideas I would love that. Also I feel like sometimes I'm not being myself either. But I don't know how to be myself sometimes when I'm around people, like friends and stuff. I also I'm scared to be myself cause there are this kids that say their my friend( I didn't believe them) but never talk to me or anything and they talk behind my back. What should I do about theses things??? (link)
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If you want to stop hanging out with your friends then just stop talking to them as much and stop hanging out with them as much. If they start drama when they start to notice, don't bother with it. Don't fight with them or anything, just be like whatever and move along.
Everybody is different around different people. I'm shy around people I don't really know because I'm not comfortable around them. I'm different completely comfortable around my boyfriend and my friends because they know me, I trust them and I feel like I can do whatever. I'm kinda blah at home and don't say or do much because it's just who I am at home.
So honestly, the reason why you're scared to be more of yourself around people is because you don't trust them and they aren't really your friends. I can say you just shouldn't care what they think, which would be really good but everyone always cares, even just a little bit. So just become comfortable with yourself first. Learn to love yourself and make some new friends who won't talk behind your back and act like jerks.
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I really want to have sex but i dont want to get in trouble what should i do (link)
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Just wait. There is nothing you can do because since you're obviously young, you can get in trouble and not only that, you have the risk of pregnancy (unless you are a boy then you have the risk of getting a girl pregnant), STDs, and even suffer emotionally.
I've known girls who were young who absolutely regretted it because it took them to a whole new level emotionally and they weren't ready for it.
My advice is to just wait it out. It will happen when the time is right.
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So I have been with my boyfriend for two years and we haven't had sex yet. I'm a virgin and whenever we attemp to have sex I freak out for some reason. I don't know why. Any advice for me on why and how I can get over it? (link)
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Like everyone else said, you're probably not ready yet. Give yourself some time when you're more comfortable with the idea of having sex. Once you're ready, you won't be freaking out. The only way to get over it is to just wait until you feel ready.
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13/F
Whenever I'm mad, I harm myself. For some reason I just scratch myself really bad. I don't use objects, I just use my nails. What's wrong with me? I do this pretty frequently. I used to cut myself, but I don't really do it anymore. I keep scratching myself and I can't stop :( (link)
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Nothing is wrong with you. So many people go through this and I have also gone through this.
You're just taking out your anger on yourself. I am really proud that you aren't cutting yourself anymore though.
You should talk to someone about this and try to find a way to deal with your anger instead of taking it out on yourself. It can get worse if you don't get some help from somebody.
Your body will thank you for this too.
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Ok so 13 f and dont get me wrong here because people my age where i live are super mature and have good relationships even at this age so do not judge. Ive liked this guy named sam (12m) since the beginning on summer. He and i have had our ups and downs and in august we just stopped talking for no reason. Then in october he asked me to hang out with him and another of his friends and i brought one of my friends. We acted as a couple and hugged and held hands ect. The next day we also hung out again at his house while his parents were working and watched a movie and he put his arm around me. After that weekend of october 5, we stopped talking again for no reason. On december 24th, i got a bunch of questions about him on my qooh.me wall. Then about 2 min after i answered the last one, sam messaged me on facebook. I asked him a question and said " we havent talked since october. Why all of a sudden have u decided to msg me?" he answered and said that he had no reason to stop talking to me. Then after about a week of flirting through text but not talking in person, we stopped talking yet again. Then at the end of january, i founs out that he had a girlfriend. I have notjing against her bc shes suh a nice girl and shes so lucky to be with him but i was kinda hurt. All of our flirting and all oof the thought about him and i was gone and i felt nothing for him anymore. I started cutting because my life had gone downhill in february. I cut and cut and cut. Only 2 of my best friends knew i cut and tried to stop me but i was in a bad stage of depresion. I got over my depression in march and yesterday sam put a status on fb for tbhs. I liked it to see what he would say. He told me that weve been through so much and he misses talking to me and that he really did want to ask me out at one point because he used to love me as a friend and like like me too. He said that he wants us to talk more because he has missed the part of his life he had thrown away. After readig that tbh, i felt numb. I didnt know wbat to say because it brought me to tears. Im starting to care alot for him now and i really like him and i have all along. It hurts me to know that hes dating a great girl but i still really like him and i never stopped liking him. He left for myrtle beach yesterday and ive been trying to txt him but i cant bring myself to doing so. Please help me! All i want is input on all of this and some advice on what to say. Should i do a tbh status and hope that he likes it? (link)
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I completely understand your situation. The thing is, he doesn't seem like a stable guy.
Like, he randomly stop talking to you. He can't keep it up.
He flirts, holds your hand, but doesn't ask you out.
He stops talking and then gets a girlfriend.
He currently has a girlfriend but he's telling you he misses you.
For one thing, he doesn't treat his current girlfriend very good. He is talking to another girl (you) and saying he misses her. It's not good, which on the other hand, he's doing the same thing to her.
I dated a guy like this and it was terrible.
Wondering if he's talking to another girl, wondering if he's going to talk to me.
He needs to realize he can't keep doing that, he can't keep you guessing and he can't keep coming back knowing you will be there. You like him a lot, he knows that and you know that. So he knows he can leave, go get a girlfriend but then come back and talk to you. It's not right.
I think you shouldn't text him, I think you should start keeping him guessing and give yourself some time.
You said his girlfriend is a nice girl and I'm sure she doesn't deserve this either.
Anyways, don't let him get to you like this. I believe you really like him but I think he thinks he can get away with jumping back and forth.
Good luck, everything will turn out fine.
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Hi, I'm a 13 year old girl. So there's this guy who is thinking about asking me to be his girlfriend and when I hang out with just him and nobody else I can be my complete self around him but on the other hand, when I'm with him and his friends I get shy and nervous ,I want to be considered 'one of the guys.' How can I be myself/comfortable around him and his friends? (link)
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You probably already know this, but just be yourself. If you want them to like you, it's that easy. Be nice, friendly and talk when they talk to you. Don't think about yourself during that time, think about enjoying yourself and just people who you can possibly become friends with.
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I dated my first boyfriend for almost three years. He was my best friend since I was 8 years old. The entire time we were together he was in and out of rehab and group homes. I was 16 and he was 15. A month before his rehab stay ended, (he was in a home in Utah and I lived in Pennsylvania), I ended things with him. I was extremely overwhelmed with the idea that he would be home all the time, and that I would be partly responsible for helping to keep him sober. I was almost 18 at the time.
He came home, we didn't talk for a while, he went to jail and I moved out of state. Basically our lives just went in different directions. When I came back to Pennsylvania we started talking a bit again, and I realized that I had been carrying a huge weight about how guilty I felt for leaving him. He was my best friend and I abandoned him when he needed me the most. Ever since I ended things he has never been able to pick his life back up. Hes 21 now and been in jail 3 times. The most recent was for a year. He wants to be friends again, but I know that "friends" to him will turn into something more in his head. It always does. I have a boyfriend, and I love him and don't want to do anything that will mess up my relationship. I guess my problem is I feel like if iI don't have a friendship with my ex, this guilt that i feel for leaving him will never go away...maybe if I do pursue a friendship with him he will quit messing up? But if I do, I risk messing up what I have with my boyfriend. I just don't know what to do at this point. He claims that if I'm in his life he knows he can fix himself...I just don't know if I believe it. (link)
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Well, you need to realize that you're not responsible for his mistakes. He changed a lot from 8 years old right? You were somewhat in his life during those times.
You have a boyfriend, you're happy with him and you're afraid if you start a friendship with your ex, he'll want more. So don't do it. Don't be mean, be friendly but not friends.
You shouldn't feel guilty because it's not your fault, if he wanted to, he could pick up his life but he can't depend on people to keep his life straight, he needs to do it for himself.
That kind of pressure should not be on you.
You care about him, you always will and you want what's best for him but you're life is good and you don't want to ruin things or keep worrying about him. Keep in touch with him every now and then but don't let him put things in your life on hold.
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