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How can I get more comfortable around his friends?
Hi, I'm a 13 year old girl. So there's this guy who is thinking about asking me to be his girlfriend and when I hang out with just him and nobody else I can be my complete self around him but on the other hand, when I'm with him and his friends I get shy and nervous ,I want to be considered 'one of the guys.' How can I be myself/comfortable around him and his friends?
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Well for starters, I wouldn't aim to be "one of the guys". A guy doesn't want to date a girl who is like one of his buddies. Would you want your boyfriend to be "one of the girls"? Probably not. Just be yourself. It's okay to be shy at first as you are getting to know them. But, just like with anyone else you start hanging around with, in time you will build friendships as you start to know them. Don't push it. Just be yourself, be respectful, and relax.
Also, it's okay to not be good friends with his friends. As long as you and them can be pleasant towards each other, then there shouldn't be a problem.
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You probably already know this, but just be yourself. If you want them to like you, it's that easy. Be nice, friendly and talk when they talk to you. Don't think about yourself during that time, think about enjoying yourself and just people who you can possibly become friends with.
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If you want to be one of the "guys" stop caring about what they think. You cannot control it. Just talk to them as you would anyone else and give no thought to what they may think.
If they see you getting in there, talking, asking them about themselves pretty soon they will be friends. That's all you have to do go about being you and watch things fall into place.
There's no need at all to feel shy. Truth be told these people are eager to accept you and get to know you. It's a fact.
They might be shy themselves and wondering the same thing "Gee I hope she likes me" and could be just as nervous. The more you just be yourself and not think about it the better. Try hosting a small gathering to get to know each of them better.
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