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I really want to have sex but i dont want to get in trouble what should i do
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Just wait. There is nothing you can do because since you're obviously young, you can get in trouble and not only that, you have the risk of pregnancy (unless you are a boy then you have the risk of getting a girl pregnant), STDs, and even suffer emotionally.
I've known girls who were young who absolutely regretted it because it took them to a whole new level emotionally and they weren't ready for it.
My advice is to just wait it out. It will happen when the time is right.
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It's normal to want to have sex when you're too young for it. I know I was about 9-10 years old when I started to get really curious. The thing is, just because you're interested it doesn't mean that you're ready.
I don't know if you're male or female, so I'm just going to cover all the bases here.
1) Emotions
Sex isn't all about physical pleasure. It's about bringing a relationship closer together. You have to really trust and care about someone for sex to feel good. You want to know that if you're having some problems dealing with sex, you can trust your partner to be there for you. You want to know that the other person isn't going to spread rumours or ditch you the moment they've got what they want. It's a big burden, and depending on how young you are your partner just won't be mature enough to be dependable.
2) STI Risk
Virgins can have STIs and not even know it. They can be spread by non genital-to-genital contact when performing other intimate acts. They can be acquired at birth. Some are relatively easy to get rid of, but others stay with you for your entire life. I'm not saying it's guaranteed that you'll get one, but you want to be mature enough (and have a mature enough partner) that you can both go to the doctor and get checked before you have sex, as well as discuss and use barrier protection methods like condoms and dental dams. If you're too embarrassed to buy condoms, you're not ready for sex.
3) Pregnancy
Yes, it's a risk. Pulling out isn't really an effective way of preventing pregnancy no matter what you might have heard. Even if the female does go on birth control, it can fail for any number of reasons. I'm not saying that you have to be able to raise a child right now, but I am saying that you need to be able to discuss with your partner what happens if a pregnancy occurs... before you have sex. You have to be mature enough to deal with the possibility.
So it's not necessarily about age, although a lot of the maturity comes with age. There are some 16 year olds who are very ready, and some 25 year olds who should hold off. Sex is a huge step, and it's really not going to be all that enjoyable unless you're ready for it. There are other ways to make your relationship more physical.
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At least use a condom~
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write back and tell us how old you are then you may get some answers to this question.
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