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My name is Teza.. short for Tereza. I was born in Croatia and I speak more than one language. I'm 22 years old & I completed 2 college degrees in 3 years. My a bachelors is in Business Administration concentration in Human Resources and my Masters degree is also in HR.



I started this advice column about 9years ago and I was so young but it was something that I always loved to do. I am trying to get back to answering questions, at least a few per day. With that said, if you have questions about school, friends, make up, etc., feel free to ask.





Much love, Teza

advice

I've been dating this guy on and off since I've known him.We're best friends and spend all of our time together.

I love him ver much. He loves me too, and cares about me just as much as I care about him.

He lost his job in December because of a car wreck. Since then, I've been going out of my way to help him with just about everything. I buy him cigarettes,gas, beer and food. I've taken him to concerts, free of charge. I'm going to give him my drum set because he likes to play it and wants to really get good at the drums. I make him mixed cds. I e-mail him when he's down to help him cheer up. I buy him awesome Christmas and birthday presents. And actually, I really don't mind doing this for him. I love him and I want him to be happy.

The problem: He says "Thank you", but that's it. I feel like I'm being taken advantage of. And I just found out that he sent a girl that he used to date an E-card because he hasn't talked to her in a long time. Okay, so maybe that shouldn't really matter, but it does because all I want is to know that I matter to him. That's all. He'll go out of his way to do something for her and he hasn't seen her in about a year. I want him to appreciate me and want me around. He usually doesn't even call; I call him.

Should I talk to him about it?
Should I just stop being upset and forget it?
How can I make him see all that I do for him and make him appreciate me?

Please help me. I'll rate high.

Wow, he should defenetlly be thankful that he has someone like you and he should feel lucky. You shouldn't just stop being upset and get over it because you know you can't and you know that this is something that has been bothering you. I think that he does appreciate everything that you do for him and he knows that you really care about him, but honestly you give way too much. You have to slow down a bit and it seems like he expects you to do these things for him and he is so used to it. I understand this whole thing about him sending that girl an E-card, but like you said, he hasn't seen her in a year and he cares about her.. friend way. He is with you and that's all that matters. You shouldn't keep this inside because it hurts and bothers you, so just talk to him about it and tell him exactly how you are feeling. He will appreciate you talking to him about it and that you can talk to him about anything.

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i dont know why but all the sudden im VERY queit,not outgoing,not noticed,i just hate it!! im not lucky and i say EVERYTHING at the wrong moment.how can i become more outgoing? i need to find my true self! i need to become more outgoing and fun befor i seep into the walls! if this help... 13/f/aries.

Well, to tell you the truth you really aren't the only one going through this. You are only 13 years old and a lot of teenagers have that time in their lives and it's pretty normal. The reason that you are quiet and starting to go back to your shell is because you are letting yourself be that way. I could never let myself just be all sad because it's wasting my time and it's not worth it. Do the things that you love to do and go out with your friends. If you don't have many close friends try meeting new people and have fun. Be yourself and just be friendly. Don't do anything that isn't who you are just so you can impress other people.

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im very lost,i lost my self!what are some ways to become original? some how i just dont feel like i am me...

It's normal to feel like this because I'm sure most people go through that. You know yourself better than anyone else. Your parents, friends, anyone.. you still know yourself best even though you might feel like you lose peaces of who you are. First, you need to gain some confidence. Beleive that you can do anything you put your mind to and that if you tried that you would succeed. I'm not saying these things to be cheesy or chocky, but confidence is everything. If you don't beleive in yourself, no one else will and people won't take you seriously. You have your own personal tastes, styles and everything but you have to have the guts to show it off. If you like a different kind of clothing, wear it. Don't be afraid of what other people will think because most of them would be embarassed. Don't follow any crows at school or wherever you are because being like someone else will only make you feel worse and different about yourself. You are you and you have to find the real you. Do the things that you love or that you used to do before but just stoped. Start new things and push yourself to do other better things. Make new friends and just be yourself no matter what. If someone doesn't like you for your personality they shouldn't even be hanging around you. Be positive and just try to have fun... all I'm saying is be yourself, and be confident in everything that you do!

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Im working on information about being Anprexic, so people could give me some stuff.. like links, (yes i did good, thanks.)
-What do they usally eat?
- how fast do they usally loose weight?
-whats the down effects?

Anorexic people don't usually eat much at all. They might start to eat something for breakfast, lunch and dinner but as they keep starving them selves their bodies will get used to it and won't really feel hungry. They drink tea, cofee and some crackers for lunch maybe. A bite of food for each meal. I'm not really sure how fast they lose the weight. I tried to look it up but it didn't really say. I think that it depends on the person. You can aslo go on www.ask.com and type in some of your questions in there and you will get some results.

Anorexia effects everything in your body.

Brain-Can't think clearly and have fears of gaining weight. Even though the person might be 90 pounds, when they look at themselves in the mirror they see oneself fat.
Hair-Thins your hair and it gets brittle.
Heart-Low blood pressure.
Blood-Anemia and other blood problems.
Muscles-Sore.
Kidneys-Kidney stones.
Skin-Very plane and the skin gets brused easily and very dry.
It also stops your period and sometimes the girls won't be able to have children.

Here is a website that has a lot of good info.
http://www.helpguide.org/mental/anorexia_signs_symptoms_causes_treatment.htm

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Is it ok if i would kick my ex-gfs might be new bf's ass and beat the shit out of him i need to no hes a perve and i want to kill him.

Is this the same person who asked me the previous question? Well anyways, no it's not okay. Most guys have horrible temper and just fight when it comes to any situation but your ex is moving on and you can't prevent that. He might be a perve but she likes him. He wants to piss you off and get you jelous but if you actually show him that you are, he won this whole thing. It's not a competion or anything but just ignore him and let him be the immature loser that he is.

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My ex-gf has a good friend that shes likes A LOT and is 1 of the reasons we broke up. He was on AIM at her house under her sn. He was being a perve and he was her adn sadi he found his vibrator names nemo. When he found out i was her ex-bf he said ill be taping that ass all day. And saying it so firm. I want to beat his ass and could easily considering i have a personal trainer in baseball adn do a lot of excersising. I told my ex i wanted to kill him but she said not to. She said if i even just pushed him she would hate me. Should i ruin our realationship to get revenge or just live it out. I care about her and have beat up 2 people because they were making fun of her. I dont no what to do about some 1 that is acctally her frined pleas help.

I don't think that guy took anything seriously and he wasn't trying to hurt her. He was basiclly just trying to get on your nerves even more because he knows that you are her ex and that you care about her. I know that you hate him but don't do anything. If you keep showing him that you care and that he pisses you off, he will keep doing it to you until you explode. Just ignore him. If you really care about her then just stay away from that guy no matter how hard it could be. You need to talk to her and tell her to talk to him and tell him to stop acting like a di*k.

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what are 5 good web sites to find qoutes on ??

I'm sorry that I didn't answer this sooner!!

http://www.xanga.com/Quotesz_xl3
http://www.xanga.com/x_Letterbomb
http://www.xanga.com/GlamQuotes_x33
http://www.xanga.com/QUOTEALICIOUSX
http://www.xanga.com/dorkiie_quoteSz2
http://www.xanga.com/po0chie_qu0tez16ox

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whats an easy way to lose about 1 1/2 to 2 pounds a week , without doing any thing drastic?

You don't have to go on any diets or anything to loose that amount of weight a week. You should eat your regular foods and exercise. Well, I wouldn't really say regular but eat the same foods but in smaller porportions. Don't eat fried foods, sweets, and all the junk food. I mean you can have a little once or twice a week but replace those foods with healthier things. Buy non fat things and exercise. I think everyone hates that word lol but just walk for about an hour a day or ride your bike, run, run up your stairs, do something to burn off those calories. Try eating about 1500 to 2000 calories a day and burn about 550. Be motivated and stick with it and you defenetlly will succeed.

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hey well i was wondering what all u alls views were on teens (well 14 yr olds) making out? is it to young, or not? and what about not going all the way like sex but..just a little ways? i just need to know what other peoples views are on this! please please please i'll rate high!! xo thanks

Well, I'm 14 and I think that if people our age have sex, it's just stupid. It's too young and they should wait until that "special" person comes along or when they are ready. Since we're all just teenagers we don't really think about all of the consiquences and what could happen as a result of the things we do but when it's too late, well.. it just sucks. Making out and kissing is fine because everyone does it and it's nothing really serious. Doing other things at a young age is really stupid and whoever is doing it isn't thinking clearly at all. Everyone has different opinions and some people think it's totally fine to be having sex at age 14 or even a bit older but I don't really. I understand if they really cared about the person and such, but they shouldn't go that far.

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I would like to gain at least 20-30 pounds before April 11th, 2006 (my b-day) I am at least 120 pounds. All of my life, I have been skinny. I'm now 14 years old and in high school. Most of the girls are thick with boobs and butt. I got butt but nothing more. I'm a black girl and I'm not thick but long and skinny. If I were to gain at least 30 pounds (of thickness!) I would fill out my clothes better and feel good about myself.

1.) Can someone give me websites on how to gain pounds faster?

2.) Can someone tell me how they gained weight? (if you tried to gain weight and succeeded)

3.) You can also give food ideas!!!!!!

*~* please don't tell me how stupid this is because that won't change the way I feel about this. Please don't give me websites about how to gain muscles because I am already exercising. *~*

THANK YOU SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO MUCH IN ADVANCE :-* Lol : )

I looked it up on google but they have a lot of good websites so choose one. Gaining weight doesn't mean to eat all fried foods, fats, sweets because you will just gain fat. You need to exercise and turn that fat into muclse so you become thicker. It's not stupid, but if it's going to make you feel better about yourself that's all that matters. Good luck with it and you will suceed. No worried. :o]

only search advicenators.com

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hey i remember being on this site few months ago and i saw ppl asking if they were fat or not.. they would give their height and weight.. then advicenators would reply with this website like.. am i fat . com or something like that. Does any one know the site? Please. Thanks!

www.am-i-fat.com

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I just bought my prom dress today. The problem is, i have a lot of fat on my upper arms, so you can see it on the sides where top of my dress is. It's like underneathe the front of my arms.


Is there any way i can get rid of this before prom? Thanks ♥

Yes there is.

http://www.toneteen.com/exercises/arms.htm

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is there any other image host besides photobucket that doesnt resize the image? thanks in advanced

http://www.file.com & http://www.tinypic.com

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would low top air forces & really low socks look good with leggings and a mini ?

Well, it would look alright. Leggings and a mini look good with flip flops or burkenstocks but not so much with tennis shoes. If you like it, then just wear it.

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hey is there any way I can put on eyeliner so that it wont come off after a few minutes? I think I may have watery eyes or something but it all runs to the outer corners a few minutes after I put it on and i use a top quality one too (Rimmel London)

is there anything to help?
thankx luv
rach xxx

Bad types of eye liner come off really quick so try changing it. I use eather Revlon, Maybeline, or Cover Girl. Pencil eye liners aren't all that bad, but they don't work as good. Get a crayon type. If you put on too much your eyes will itch, hurt and water so put it by your eyelashes and not so near your eye ball.

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What is a shocker?

It's an expression. When you hear or see something surprising, it's a shocker. Or .. well it could be when electricity shocks you? But I doubt it lol.

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well i was wondering what i should do with my hair! this is its color now (all the color i had before is almost faded out. my natural color is about the same just without the red tint and a little darker) does anyone have any ideas for a cut color anything? im open for anything but anything to drastic (like shaving it or dying the whole thing like white blond or green or something)

PIctures are helpful!

also if you can find something with hair longer than mine if you think that will look good because im considering growing it longer too!

(http://i4.photobucket.com/albums/y111/mypics89/devin.jpg)

Your hair looks cute the way it is now but I think you should actually go shorter. Not really short but a shoulder lenghth. Kind of like this, but a bit longer and with tons of choppy layers. (Look down for the picture)For the color, I think you should leave it the way it is now and get honey and strawberry blonde highlights. Get side sweep bangs and it would look really good on you.

http://www.beautyriot.com/article.php?id=2910&c_id=63

Another cute hair style that would look good on you is this one. For that one I would go for dark brown.

http://www.beautyriot.com/article.php?id=3502&c_id=63

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Whats a girls L3 ?

Huh?

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What do you think is the average age to get your first kiss?

Well, most teens get it while they are in middle school. I would say 13-15 but no one should be in a rush though. I mean when it happenens with a "special" person, the age wont matter.

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How do you get the google search bars to be on your Advicenators page? Like a code or something?

I RATE! thanks in advance

[ search ] TEXT HERE [ / search ]

No spaces though.

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