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Okay I have a guy friend 'Alexander' I know Alex from my tap dance, we are in the same class together and I sort of befriended him because he was extremely nice. Well he loves to dance, and he is really gifted but all the other girls in the class are being really really mean to him. He has such a friendly attitude that he goes up everyone and says hi, even the 'In' group which he wants to be a part of so badly. I honestly don't know why he would want to be nice to stuck up know-it-alls but thats just my opinion talking there. They give him threats and say he is gay, plus all his friends at school make fun of him and call him gay also. He was so hurt when told me all this he was near tears, I felt sooo sorry for him. I feel sorry for him because I have been the only person that has been nice to him, and I tend to want to make fun of guys and call guys names.
He told me how hurt he was last week and that he had made himself come to dance that day. I do understand how he feels, My entire life I have been made fun of.

my problem is I like Alex and I know I shouldn't because i'm setting myself up for pain. I want to stay away from him but then I would be hurting Alex because he would think I didn't like him either. I try not to think of him because I know he doesn't like me and I will get hurt like all the other times before, Plus I'm too ugly for any guy.

tell him!!! he obviously if really down. you can pick him up off the ground. also wen ppl feel bad they sometimes take drastic measures...they sometimes kill themselves. so would u rather lose someone cuz ur embaressed or hav a happy endin? and who gives a crap bout wat other people say? it just sux 4 those idiots who have nothing better to do. stick with alex if its wat u really want to do. good luck!

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I have been taking paxil (An anti-depressent pill) for about 3 years, and I'm now 16. Recently I stopped taking it because I feel like it blinds me. I feel like i'm too happy on it and I'm not myself. I was thinking about lowering the dose but I've already been on that and It didnt seem to do anything. I think that by taking the pill it changes who I am. My parents are getting really worried now because I havent taken it, and i'm not sure if I should get back on it. Does anyone get what I mean?? I was born who I am, and that is depressed, anxious, and with anger. I think I should be myself and face these problems on my own, with out medicne. I dont think medicine is the best way to deal with problems. Can someone please give me some advice on what to do. Am I doing the right thing?? What do you think about this. Thanks! -Jenny

try going to a psycologist to see if they can help you. ask them if they recomend a type of medicane. if u live in californa go to my column and ask for a recomandation. i hope everything works out for you!

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Hey well theres this one girl who is my bestest friend and shes really nice and pretty but when ever like we go tho the movies together she is always like huggin on her boyfriend and she is alway cancling thing with me to go do something with her boyfrind i hate it we like talk on the phone and stuff but i never get to do anything together cuz she is always doin thing with her boyfriend
signed Confused

talk to her and ask her if u can hang out more. if she keeps canceling just tell her u feel like u rnt spendin enough time with each other. if she still blows u off tell her its her kast chance. if she still blows u off then shes not a real friend. i hope everything works out between u and ur friend!

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theres a boi that i like and i am like almost postive that he likes me and im not sure if i should ask him out

give it a little while longer to see if he does like u. if ur sure or u think it will work out then ask him. if he says no hes not worth it. good luck!

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Everyone's heard the saying "love hurts" but we are not even in a relationship and my feelings are hurt. I really like a good friend of mine. I wouldn't call it "love" because of course, I'm not old enough to know what that really feels like but its a crush that I would like to make a relationship. We talk alot on AIM and at school too. I seem to not be as comfortable around him since I started "liking" him and its really weakening our friendship. Also, I've been having a tough time with two of my best friends who like him and he hasn't been making it any better. I mean, he's been making kind of rude comments like they are my only friends and its hurting my feelings. I think he's saying that only because he thinks we're just friends. I'm so confused and I need some help. What's a girl to do?!

~ Love "Hurts"

drop some hints to him. if he gets it and still makes fun of u hes NOT worth it. if he gets doesnt get it give it a few more trys. if he gets it and likes u back then that answer is more then obvious. i hope everything works out for u!!

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how do u spell katie lolz????

KATIE STOP ASKING ME STUPID QUESTIONS!!! YOUR NAME IS SPELT K-A-T-I-E!!!! NOE GET OVER IT!!!!!!!!! >:-0

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Alot of people are starting to say that my boyfriend doesn't care about me very much. He is always putting his arm round me and hugging me but he can be really insensitive whenever I'm upset. He says it's just because he isn't good in those situations but other people are saying different. What should I do?

my friend had the same problem. ask him if he still feels the same about u. if he gives a questionable answer then leave him. if he says yes give him another chance. good luck i hope everything works out for you!

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how do i get a $100 realy easy???

ur buddy katie

1st off katie stop asking random questions. anyway sell the crap sitting in your room that u never use. good luck with making money even though U indivudally dont need money!

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I used to like this guy for like 2 yrs. i was soo freaked out that i couldn't even talk to him.(hes a yr older than me)...well then i realized that i had a crush on a completely different guy(3 yrs. older than me) and convinced myself that i didnt like the other one anymore....now me and the 1st guy talk a LOT and its soo cool!! everytime that i talk about my new crush...he either looks away or talks w/ me...i have stopped liking the 2nd guy but i haven't told the first one yet..but my problem is that i never stopped liking the 1st one...and i think he knows....but i dont want to tell him...and loose our releationship.
~Confused

tell him that u want to go out with him. good luck. p.s. even if it doesnt work out just ask yourself in 30 years is it seriously going to matter? anyway if hes as great as u think he is he will say yes. once again god luck!

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hello this probaly sounds weird but i forgot my name*when i get a test i just write a ramdom name*its weird* please help me*please help me :( *my mom calls me and and i either forgot or i get confused*help me* help me*help me :(* so erinn help me*:( :( :( :(

katie i know its you. anyway ill answer it if anyone has this bizzar problem. STICK A NAME TAG TO YOURSELF!

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