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Trouble of crushes
Okay I have a guy friend 'Alexander' I know Alex from my tap dance, we are in the same class together and I sort of befriended him because he was extremely nice. Well he loves to dance, and he is really gifted but all the other girls in the class are being really really mean to him. He has such a friendly attitude that he goes up everyone and says hi, even the 'In' group which he wants to be a part of so badly. I honestly don't know why he would want to be nice to stuck up know-it-alls but thats just my opinion talking there. They give him threats and say he is gay, plus all his friends at school make fun of him and call him gay also. He was so hurt when told me all this he was near tears, I felt sooo sorry for him. I feel sorry for him because I have been the only person that has been nice to him, and I tend to want to make fun of guys and call guys names.
He told me how hurt he was last week and that he had made himself come to dance that day. I do understand how he feels, My entire life I have been made fun of.
my problem is I like Alex and I know I shouldn't because i'm setting myself up for pain. I want to stay away from him but then I would be hurting Alex because he would think I didn't like him either. I try not to think of him because I know he doesn't like me and I will get hurt like all the other times before, Plus I'm too ugly for any guy.
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Dont put yourself down by saying your ugly. Its good that your a friend to him when others are mean to him, that way he knows that your a great friend and he might come to like you because of you kindness. I think thats messed up that people call him gay when there are a ton of famous dancers who arent gay. Just let him know that you'll always be there for him.
~Brina~
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First of all you gotta have confidence in your self seriously that attitude isin't gunna get you any guy cuz no guy's like that. Secondly maybe Alex does like you and really you don't have to be in the "in" group if your considering it because apparently they feast on other's misery... and anyone who does that needs to get a life. Go for it talk to him and if he is gay support him because he looks like he needs it. Hope I helped ya! SEND ME SOME FEEDBACK REALLY I WANT TO KNOW WHAT'S UP.
-Bianca
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You ARE NoT to ugly for any guy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I promise you! All guys in high school are looking for are sluts and big boobs. Neways, back to the point. Like they say "it's better to have loved and lost then never to have loved at all." You'll never be able to find anyone if you are scared of rejection. Keep being his friend, and I guess try flirting with him. If he doesn't get the message or still just wants to be friends, then be his friend! You'll find the right guy soon!
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tell him!!! he obviously if really down. you can pick him up off the ground. also wen ppl feel bad they sometimes take drastic measures...they sometimes kill themselves. so would u rather lose someone cuz ur embaressed or hav a happy endin? and who gives a crap bout wat other people say? it just sux 4 those idiots who have nothing better to do. stick with alex if its wat u really want to do. good luck!
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awe! thats a really cute but sad story well i think that you should deff like him thats wut he needs right now he needs someone to care for him and luv him and make him feel better about him self. and you should help him out with his troubles at school. like if ppl start to make fun of him stand up for him and if they all decide to b all immiture about and b like "ooo you like him!" then be like "yea yea i do! okay hes a nice boy and he is my friend! now is there sumthing wrong with that?" and if they laugh who cares! you did wut was right and alex will deff like you. and if you do start to like him its not gonna cause you n e pain. you both will b very happy in your own ways!
hope i helped
.:*livvy*:.
need n e thing else just holla!! lol
p.s. no one is too ugly to get a guy. if they are real guys then they will accept you for who you are. and if they dont then they arent the kinda guys you want to b wit n e ways
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I think you should tell him how you feel. Right now, Alex's self-esteem is zero. When he finds out that a girl actually likes him.. as more than friends i mean, that will make his confidence go way up. And what makes u think he doesnt like u? Maybe he does because ur the only one who has actually been nice to him. So tell him how u feel, and if it turns out that he doesnt like u, then atleast u know u made him feel good, and u can still be friends.
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Well hun you never know maybe you should tell Alex how you feel.. It might be best for both of you if you start talking and maybe he likes you too if he shared that information with you.. thats really wrong of the people to make fun of him for because i used to dance and there was a guy in my dance too. maybe all those girls are just really immature. But before you get to attached to him let him know how you feel. its worth a shot and hopefully he feels the same way!! and i wouldnt just stop tlaking to him cuz your scared of getting hurt. if he doesnt like you like that youll just have to tell yourself not to like him like that and thats hes just a friend. Im sure everything will be fine. Hope everything works out okay, GoodLucK!!
-MeGan*
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