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For the past few months, I have had a very uncomfortable pain around my tailbone.

It's mostly when I'm sitting a certain way. And I'm not entirely sure why and when it started but it bothers me.

I'm afraid this could mean something awful. My uncle told me that it could be cancer and, although he was 'joking', I was scared. What if it is?

Anyways. I'm afraid to go to a Doctor because I'm very uncomfortable with people touching me and, of course, he'll have to see my...butt. (Yes, I said butt...XD) Anyways...It makes me really uncomfortable to have someone, even a professional, touch me. But I'm afraid that if I don't go to the doctor, and it's something serious, I'll end up getting really sick and/or dying.

Thank you, in advance, for your help. This may seem silly, I know. I understand that I will get a lot of 'Just go to the freaken doctor, dumbass' but...it's really not quite that simple.

Thanks, again.

if it's a muscle pain, then you can ice it or put heat on it...do you do sports? this may not be your problem at all, but i did gymnastics and i had really bad backpains and when i went to the doctor he found a tiny crack in my lower back from bending my back so much...going to a doctor isn't that bad tho and i'm sure you can ask them not to touch you ~ the main thing you'll have to do will be putting on a smock thing so you can get an x-ray taken...also, doing back and stomach strength may relieve some of the pain..........feel better!

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hi im a cheerleader and i havent had a bf i wunt 1 how do i get 1 to lyk me and wut do bf and gf do in the muvies??/

do cartwheels in your cheerleading skirt...haha jk

just be social ~ go out in groups so you'll meet new guys and talk to them online and stuff

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Hi I'm Brittany! I go out with a boy named Michael and we have an awkward long-distance relationship. My best friend is in love with a boy who is friendly,cute,and popular. Lately she has been telling me that he likes me. I like him. But I could never go out with him because she really likes him. What should I do?

your question was already posted and has 11 answers!!! go look at it

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Alrighty... My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years now. And we have a wonderful relationship. A wonderful, sex free relationship. Just because I want to wait until I'm married. And I'm pretty stuck on it. But since we're going to be sophmores in high school. Everyone gives him shit about it. When people give me shit I'm just like ahhh lol whatever... I dont care. But see, He doesn't tell me all the time that people give him shit about being a virgin. This all came up when one of my guy friends was all like "dude, you've been in a relationship for 2 years and you're still a virgin? You are wooped... blah blah blah" And he tells me not to worry about it... But I kinda wonder how he's feeling and if there's anyway I could do something about it. I mean yes, we are sexual... But I don't plan on having sex any time soon... Thanks for your time :)

sounds like you have an awesome bf...just make sure that he knos how much you appreciate the way he respects you...with his friends - don't let it bother you bcuz i'm sure they just do it to get a laugh and your bf probably knos this !

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Hi I'm Brittany! I go out with a boy named Michael and we have an awkward long-distance relationship. My best friend is in love with a boy who is friendly,cute,and popular. Lately she has been telling me that he likes me. I like him. But I could never go out with him because she really likes him. What should I do?

first off, if you aren't into the long distance thing then you should cut it off (even if you don't get with this other guy)...i wouldn't go out with the new guy unless your friend flat out tells you it's okay and you REALLY think she means it or wait until she is over him ~ do u like this guy enough to risk possibly hurting your friend??

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ok.i got this new courdoroy tan/white skirt..what kind of shoes would be best to wear with it? Im not the best walker in heals lol. Would plain white sneakers be good? What kinda "fancier" shoes would be best?

Also..i have split ends...but i like my long hair..does layering it sound like a good idea?

if you wear sneakers, make sure they are the flat kind and that they also aren't like running shoes - white would be good....about your hair, i'd just trim it a teensy bit unless you want a different look

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Alright. I'm fourteen-years-old and I'm a Freshman, this year, in High School; just to give you an idea of where I am, as far as maturing goes.

No one has ever really spoken to me about health and growing. And I suppose I'll end up learning about this in Sex Ed. but I figured I would get advice, now, anyways.

This afternoon, I started noticing a soreness on the sides and tops of my breasts. I'm not entirely sure what this soreness means or whether or not it's a good thing so that's where I need help.

Is it normal to have sore breasts? Do you get 'growing pains' as you mature, on your chest?

Thank you, in advance, for your help.

totally normally when you're growing or when you have your period ~ i think i learned in school that it's when you're ovulating or something lol...i wouldn't worry about it unless it doesn't go away

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i didnt know what to put this under but whatever. i want to have a BIG 16th birthday ( im 15 ) my birthdays in july. What should i do? I dont want to have a pool party or anything. But can you give me some ideas..like where to go..if i should stay at home and invite people over or where to have it. ( if youve already had ur 16th birthday reply! ) but if you havent thats alright lol. thanks

a lot of ppl i know have their sweet sixteens at the party rooms in hotels and stuff like that - you can make your own food to make it cheaper and this way ppl can sit/eat/dance/talk, and you get to get dressed up a little bit!...also, you should do a candle ceremony where you dedicate each candle on the cake to a person or group of people that are special to you!! a lot of ppl do that nd it's really sweet...whatever you do, have fun and take pictures!

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ok ive been getting all these achs in my neck and legs all the time, and i dont know how, i do play sports but they arent from that. can anyone tell me whats wrong? thanks
*marielle*

you can get injuries in sports without a specific incident occuring ex: stress fractures and shin splints....with your neck maybe you slept wrong?? or pulled something?? go to a doc, it could just be growth spurts

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does anybody know a good website for QUOTES????


thanks

i like boardofwisdom.com

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i have really thick hair its about 4 inches below my shoulders...does anyone have any ideas about how to get it either curly or wavy?

okay, i read this in a magazine and i'll try to explain it lol ~ take small sections of hair and twist them tight and then wind themm like cinnabuns and pin them to the top of your head with bobbypins and leave it like that overnight...or use curlers...or use a curling iron...or use a crimper...or braid your hair and leave it in for a while...........hope i helped

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Okay i have been with the same guy for the past 4 years all high school you could pretty much say, but anyway...All this time i have been a virgin yeah we do everything else and yatta yatta but i dont know i think that i want to have sex with him, i know that im ready but idk I love him with all my heart but what if i could get better or something? i mean i know hes awesome at everything else but what if hes not good at sex? then what do i do just resort to everything else that has kepted me happy all this time? please give me some advice
-Cass-

first of all, you don't want to regret it ~ you should trust the person you are losing your virginity to and sex should be something you share with each other, not a responsibility! just realize that by having sex with him, you'll be connected to him in a whole new way - i wouldn't make that commitment until i was sure of how i felt...another point - sex might not be all you expect it to be, especially the first time!! so maybe it's not worth it to risk! but that's just my opinion ~ hope i helped

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i didnt know what category to pick , but i had got braces 3 days ago , and my teeth hurt so bad , i called my doctor and he wont b in t'll monday . can neone help me with some tips to releive the pain . it would b a big help . thankk you soo much!! i'll rate u a 5 , nethng will help riyte now

like everyone else said - take tynenol or motrin or something like that and eat mushy foods, nothing you have to bite into!! the pain will go away

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ok i know this guy that u can love so much but then hate..should i go with him or no?

you'll probably just bicker a lot like a married couple haha...but if overall you still like him in the end, then what's the harm?? is he basically a good person??

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Say there's someone I want to ask to the prom...how much time before it should I ask him? I don't want to wait too long because he might ask someone else, but I know that if I ask him too early it'll look a bit weird, or as though I'm desperate. I just want some advice on that, thanks!

you can casually mention it and let him kno you want to go with him way ahead of time, but i wouldn't really invite him (as in you want a definite answer) until a couple of weeks before the tickets go on sale

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does anyone know of a way to get an anti-depressent(i.e. Zoloft©) without going to see a doctor??? I need something along those lines but i can't tell my parents that i need an anti-depressent for certain reasons. My depression used to be just the common teenage cliche of {boredom + no life + no friends + girl troubles = depression}. Earlier this week i realized it was a much more serious problem when i was alone(drunk + depressed) and for some reason got to thinking that i dont want to live anymore.......So i went downstairs, got a knife from the kitchen, went back up to my room and proceeded to stab myself in the wrist numerous times. It bled all over the place for a while and then i turned really pale felt really cold and also a bit numb....then i just kinda zonked out. The next morning i woke up in a puddle of my own blood, and thats when i realized that i cant do this anymore. So yea my question remains is there any way to get an anti-depressent along the lines of zoloft or ya know something like it without seeing a doctor???

(p.s.) - anyone who says "you should tell your parents" gets a rating of a 1 and i automatically dont like you....

if you can't talk to your parents, then maybe you can talk to another adult such as a teacher or a coach or something? and i know you don't believe this, but your parents might react differently than you think - sure, it may shock them at first, but their priority is you and your health, so they are bound to make decisions to keep you healthy! sry if that's not the advice you wanted, but it's the best advice i can offer

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does anyone know any ways to get over someones death that you were close to? weird ? i know

remember the good things about them, share stories about them that make you happy to remember...time heals things

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I'm in 1/2 of a band, and i have 2 questions here i guess..


1. We have only guitarist (myself) and a bassist (my friend.)...how can i find out if anyone is a drummer?

2. I'm kind of nervous to play guitar in front of people...and possibly sing if anyone thinks i'm any good....how do i get over my stage fright?

1) put off flyers advertising your band with tear off numbers on the bottom for interested ppl

2) start off small ~ gigs in front of friends and stuff like that and then suck it up and go for it -- you can't possibly be the worst singer an audience has ever heard, so what's there to lose?? besides, i'm sure you're awesome!

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How can i get a job baby sitting? i already am sertified by the red cross im 12 and i love kids and i need money!!

neighbors!!! be polite to your neighbors who have kids, and mention to them that if they need anybody to babysit, that you'd be glad to do it! also, let your friends kno that if they ever have a babysitting job that they can't do, that you'll be glad to cover for them!

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i am a swimmer, i want to be on the high school team but i am nervous!!! about that i am not going to make state quals.
please help me!!
-ginger

is that the only reason you want to swim?? - swim for the fun of it; making state quals is just a bonus! i think you should go for it cuz otherwise you'll wonder what could've happened!

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