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Hi there! I'm 15/f. So since about January, I've been working out, trying to loose weight. I've been eating healthy and everything. I've actually lost some weight. My clothes fit looser. Expecially my jeans. Well, here latley, for the past couple weeks, I've been slakin on working out. I usually work out everyday, except Saturday's and Tuesday's. Well, I'm getting really mad at myself because I haven't been working out. I don't know if it's because I'm sick, like, I have a cough, stuffy nose, so maybe thats why, or if I'm just getting tired of it. So can anyone give me some advice on how to get back on track?? I still want to loose like, 20 pounds. So I know it will take me a while, but I was planning on working out pretty much everyday this summer, but I'm scared I'm getting too off track. Like, when I come back to school for next year, I want to look so much thinner than I am. So please help me!!! Oh, by the way, please don't say that I need to look different or anything. I'm doing this for myself, not for anyone else. Thanks a bunch!

Believe me, I know how hard it is to stick to a work-out schedule. Sometimes I slip a little too don't worry sweetie. It happens.
Try this, it worked for me and so it might work for you too: Literally sit down and write up a schedule that you can follow everyday.
For example:
Monday-
3:00 get home
3:00 to 4:00 do homework
4:00 to 5:00 work out
5:00 to 6:00 relax
...etc.

Just tell yourself how awesome you're gonna feel/look when you lose that 20 pounds! You are, after all, doing this for yourself, so get motivated!
I wouldn't worry yourself to death about getting off track. Stress isn't good for you and could cause you to actually gain a little weight. Just relax and get back out there sweetie!
Best of luck!

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ok so im 13 female and i liked this guy for a while right and it turns out he likes me too so we are now going out and now he wont talk to me its not like i talk to him and he says like go away or anything its just like he wont talk to me on his own and my best friend and his best girl friend (same person) told me to break up with him but i dont want to so what do i do thanks for your help in advance

He's probably just shy around you because you guys aren't out of that 'awkward phase' of a relationship yet. I think that you should wait a few weeks and see what happens. Start conversations with him, but don't expect deep, theological answers right away lol. Try asking him open-ended questions so that he can't just answer yes or no. Just give him time to get used to the idea of you two going out. I wouldn't have expectations of lengthy conversations just yet. But it will happen babe.
Good luck!

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my hamster seems to have a redish bump by it's butt but underneth it's butt. i have been researching about it for hours now. it's just none of the symtoms seem to be right. well about the bump, it is redish and bumpy. not only 1 bump but it has 1 bump with other tiny bumps on it. i am really afraid of what is happening to my hamster. when it comes to her she's the only one around. but it just seems to get bigger and bigger each day. if anyone knows what this is you would be a life saver. (thank god for people like you) p.s i am a little bit scared to hold her. if you know what is happenig and it has happened to you please tell me your story. bless you and your
family

a lover of god,
alexa

I used to have a couple gerbils and one of them had a bump like that on its left ear. We took it to the vet and it turns out that the bump was a tumor. =(
Is your hamster less active than usual? I don't know exactly whether the symptoms would be the same for gerbils, but mine was a little less active than normal.
How long have you had her? Usually their life expectancy is around 3 years I believe. But I wouldn't worry about losing her any time in the near near future. My gerbil still lived for about four more months after we found out.

I'm very very sorry about what you are going through right now; it seems like this pet is very close to you. I love my animals very much and its so sad to hear of someone's pet being sick.
Regardless of the tumor, you can still hold her (though I totally understand why you may be nervous too. I know I was a little scared to hold my gerbil while he was sick.) But really, you won't break her by holding her and cuddling her. Just enjoy the time you have left.

You mentioned that when it comes down to it, your hamster is the only one around? If I'm having a problem, I know that my dog is the first to know, but I'm sure there's gotta be people you can turn to for comfort. Do you want to talk about it, if there's some issue that you feel you can't discuss with loved ones?
Feel free to IM or email at xlovexx463 if you need to talk honey.

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I wanna get an ipod. I want it small but need a lot of room. i have at least 2,000 songs. I love to run so i need a case that it can hold it while running. Which would you reccomend and does it have an armband/case that would hold it while i was running?

http://store.apple.com/us/browse/home/shop_ipod?mco=MTE3MDk

I'd suggest getting the 8GB iPod nano. It can hold up to 2000 songs and is $249.

Also, I suggest getting the "Nike Sport Armband for iPod nano", which costs $29.95. It's good for running. It keeps the iPod in place.

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How do you convert Movie Maker File into Video File like FLV. WMF. or in Media Player?

When you are all done with your movie project:
1. Go under FILE
2. Click SAVE MOVIE FILE
3. In the 'Save Movie Wizard', select saving it to My Computer then click NEXT
4. Choose where you want the file to be saved

It will save as a Media Player file. Once it's done saving, you can choose whether to play it as soon as you click FINISH.
Good luck!

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Can you give a song about your ex liking someone else? Or just about a guy like someone else. As many as possible please!!

"Like We Never Loved At All" by Faith Hill and Tim McGraw

"I'm Not That Girl" from Wicked by Idina Menzel

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My gf iss moving, and I also like this other girl at school, and she said she likes me. So when my gf moves away, should I get together with the one that I like?

When your girlfriend moves away, are you two breaking up? Or better question to ask, are you two already broken up? Because it isn't fair to her that you are sitting there waiting for her to go so you can get together with someone else. Girls aren't "Plan B"s.
Anyways, give it time if you actually cared about your girlfriend. If you didn't really actually care about her, which is the vibe I'm getting from this question, then sure by all means go for "Plan B".

Please don't ever refer to girls as back-up plans. It's very rude in my opinion.

EDIT: Thanks for the rating. So if I don't tell you what you want to hear you're just going to rate me low? That's real nice kid. If you want to think of girls as disposable, by all means go on ahead. I'm not going to tell you what you want to hear because it isn't right. I have my opinion and you have yours.

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it may be 80s, but yeah, its about a drug i think, and you put it in drinks, and its by some rapper guy, and its all about these chicks and him and the drug or whatever. right, well, the title began with an M and it kind of sounds like LL Cool J's "Control Myself"

Is it "Funky Cold Medina" by Tone Loc?

It was on MTV the other day for like their old school rap flashbacks and the first thing I thought of when I heard it was "Control Myself". =]

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i asked a question earlier saying i'd lost my best friend and my other friends too, people thought that we got in a fight or somehting..


i just realized that my bestfriend is a bitch and always has been, and she did a little thing that was just the last straw.. my other friends and i just grew apart and some try to talk to me and make me happy again but just nothing seems to work. i've gone to so many psychiatrists in the past and i take anti-depressants and nothing seems to work. i feel hopeless. seriously, the only thing getting me through everyday is my pets and photography..


any other suggestions that jkust might help??

i really need it. i have a good family and seeing my family out you'd think that i have a good life but i'm dying inside and i just keep bottling it up and hurting myself..

Wow, it's like we have the same life. Honey, I totally understand exactly where you're coming from honestly. Like, the exact same thing happened to me with my friends and right now I'm going through a rough time too.
Talking to a counselor or psychiatrist again could truly be beneficial to you. Honestly, once I had to go to therapy and it didn't really seem to help. But then I decided to try it again and I really felt so much better. Sometimes, you just have to try it again. Also, I suggest maybe talking to your family if you haven't already. Like really open up to them. When you don't have any of your friends on your side, it helps to at least have your family behind you 110%.
And I'm here if you want to talk or need more advice. Trust me, I've been there. Feel free to inbox me or email at xlovexx463@aim.com
Good luck sweetie.

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Hi! So thanks for the previous advice about my best friend and I going further. It helped. We sat down today and talked it through. We both decided we want the responsibility of it. We are both 100% sure about going thru with it now. I know!!! I can feel it. But I have one more question. This is kind of embarassing too. What do I do? I don't know how to do anything really. I am completely innocent. He knows this and is completely ok with it, but I still dont' want to look or seem like a retard. He wouldn't care, but I would. Do you have any advice about how to carry this out, things to do to make it special, or sexy? Please help. Your previous advice helped a bunch.

I totally get what you mean by the not wanting to look stupid part lol. Like, I'm a virgin too so I wouldn't know exactly, but I can apply it to other aspects of my life. Even around loved ones, it's still easy to feel worried about what they'll think. But, like you stated above, he won't really care because he loves you enough.
Anyways...like I said before, I'm just like you: never had sex before. But here's a link to a Videojug video. It's about feeling confident naked. Embarrassing topic I know lol. But honestly, confidence is the first step to anything. So, just do what feels right (cliche I know, I'm sorry). But really, I'd watch this video. It gives you a few tips to feeling good about yourself right before:
http://www.videojug.com/film/a-girls-guide-to-looking-good-naked
I'm sorry if this doesn't help or give you exactly what you were asking for. All I know is that with anything in life first comes confidence. He loves you, so you've already 'reeled him in'. I doubt he'll stop loving you just because you may not know everything there is to know about sex. It's your first time, relax. The thing about sex is that there's no like contest to it if that makes any sense. Like, if you love someone, I'd imagine it's really good no matter what.
If you have any more questions, I'll try and answer them to the best of my ability. Once again, I'm sorry if this didn't help as I'm no expert either on sex. But I'm here for you because I totally understand where you're coming from. Good luck, I hope it all works out and remember to use protection. ;]

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My best friend is a guy. He is amazing. I'm confused though because he wants to go to the next step in our "relationship". Sex. I think I want to, but I'm not sure. i've never done that before. What shouldI do. I'm scared. But I REALLY REALLY REALLY want to.

It sounds to me that he's kinda wanting to skip a crucial step: moving from friendship to full-blown boyfriend/girlfriend deal. Right now, it seems like he wants the whole 'friends-with-benefits' deal. (And hey, not saying that's a bad thing if your 100% comfortable with the idea of friends-with-benefits.)
Ask yourself if you really love him, like seriously deeply love him and care about him. Sex shouldn't be something you share with just anybody. Then, I would try an actual boyfriend/girlfriend deal first.
You shouldn't just rush into sex if its your first time, especially if you're even a tiny bit scared. If you're scared or nervous about it, my advice to you is don't do it.

I hope this advice helps you out. I'm here for you if you have any more questions about this.

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so ive tried pretty much every kind of acne wash possible. it seems to work for a couple of weeks, if that, and then i start getting pimples again. and lately, i have begun scarring. so now i have scars AND pimples all the time. does any one know what i can use that will 100% work and keep zits away? and also how do i get rid of scars? thanks so so much!!!

Okay this is gonna sound really weird but each night after you wash your face, put some Neosporin or Polysporin on your scars and zits. You know, that stuff you put on band-aids to go on cuts? I use that instead of zit cream.
Also for face wash try this product called: St. Ives Apricot Scrub. One of my friends recommended it for me and it's a really good face wash.
Hope you found this helpful!

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Does anyone know any good books similiar to the twilight series? I like fictional books with some "paranormal" aspect but nothing thats too over the edge in the fantasy section.

Some people reccomend A Great and Terrible Beauty, anyone here know if its worth the read?

thanks so much!

Have you ever read the Mediator series by Meg Cabot? They're about this girl who helps ghosts 'pass on' and she also falls in love with a ghost. Nothing compares to Twilight in my opinion lol but if you're looking for semi-fantasy books, I'd recommend the Mediator series.
Happy reading!

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ok so it is almost the end of my freshmen year in highschoool and i basically have only two friends about a month ago it wasnt like that.. me and my freinds got in a huge fight and now we are basically not friends anymore. i am now freinds with these two girls i love to death the fight wouldnt have been such a big deal if i had other friends to fall back on but i spent most of this year not trying to make new friends but sticking with the ones i had so my question is next year do you think i will be able to make alot of new friends or do u think everyone will already have there own groups i feel like its useless to try to make friends this year because i hate people in my classses and the year is almost over ? do u think i caan start again fresh next year?

It's never too early to start making friends. Why not start this year? If you go up to a nice group of people looking for friendship, I doubt they'd just throw you out right off the bat lol. There are so many opportunities for building relationships in high school such as sports and clubs. Try joining a few (if you haven't already) and just be as friendly as possible. Remember: You are all there to have fun so no real pressure. And don't automatically assume people won't like you (chances are it's usually not the case).
If you're still upset (not saying you are but if you are...) about what happened with your old friends, just bit by bit let go. I've been in this situation before with like aftermaths of friend fights, and I'm now starting to get over it and move on so I know where you are coming from. Just remember that the people who hurt you and can't see what a great person you are aren't worth your time. It's true, trust me.
Basically what I'm saying is: don't let the past affect your future negatively. It isn't useless to try and make friends, and it's definitely possible! Part of high school is meeting people and building relationships and chances are that's what everyone else is trying to do too. So no worries. =]
Good luck honey, I'm sure you'll do fine!

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man i love this boy to death im so real n i texted him from my cousin phone n he said he the only reason he kissed me for the first time is bc everybody wanted us to n he will never do it again n i love him oh so much n i dont wana break up wid him but im confused n he confessed bc i just had to ask what should i do well he just texted me so bye

You and him shouldn't listen to what everyone else is telling you to do (I know everybody says that, but honestly it's true...)
However, he said he'd never kiss you again? That's a harsh thing for him to say to someone else. He shouldn't be talking about you behind your back, he should come right out and tell you if there's a problem.
But, then again you kinda tricked him by pretending to be someone else. You have to ask yourself: Did I do this because I'm insecure about our relationship? If so, then you're not for real and it's not fair to either of you.
I totally agree with the person below me: When you talk to him, talk to him as yourself. Both of you guys sorta played each other on this one.
I would suggest just sitting down and talking to him about where your relationship is going. If you really do love him, the least you can do is be honest and open.
Hopefully this advice helps you out and good luck!


**EDIT**
I'm sorry, I misunderstood you. It sounded like you were saying he told people he'd never kiss you again: "he said he the only reason he kissed me for the first time is bc everybody wanted us to n he will never do it again"
I thought my advice was pretty solid except for that one little mistake, so I don't understand why you automatically give me a 1, but whatever good luck with your boyfriend anyways...

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what does "untitled" by simple plan mean? I realize the girl had a car crash when a drunk man crashed into her. then did the people fly around theyre room because it was like a car crash and they were effected bc those were loved ones? thankss!

A quote from the band about the meaning of the song:

"Over the last few years, a lot of people we know have been involved in tragic accidents caused by drinking and driving. One of the students at our high-school crashed his car driving back from a weekend trip and killed his best friend. It was a very sad time that none of us will ever forget.
When an accident happens, there are more victims than people think, and many lives are changed forever...Parents, brothers, sisters, sons and daughters, grandparents...everybody feels the impact.
We wanted to tell a story with this video: the story about all of the innocent victims affected by drinking and driving."

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I call myself a Christian but i dont go to church. I have been trying to get my mom to take me, but it seems we never have the time. I always feel guilty for this and i know im not agnostic. I really want to be a good Christian, and stay loyal to God. But i find myself always cursing, and always doubting him. Thanks for any advice! :]

I'm the same way when it comes to doubting sometimes. I think it's part of human nature to somewhat doubt what we can't, in the literal sense, see. We want to have proof I suppose.

I believe that you can still feel close to God and worship him even if you can't make it to church every single Sunday (or Saturday, depending on the branch of Christianity). However, going to church helps you learn about God and it's a cool thing to have a whole congregation sharing a spiritual moment. If you don't seem to find the time or maybe it's because your mom can't take you because she's wicked busy, maybe you could ask a friend who goes to church if you could go with them.

Does a church near you have a youth group? Youth groups are great for bringing teens (assuming you're a teen) together in worship and are usually open to people even if they don't belong to the church. For instance, my youth group has weekly meetings and we can bring friends if we want. There's lots of cool activities we can choose to go to throughout the school-week also.

There's always options, just be open-minded and don't freak out if you have doubts occasionally: you're not alone in that.

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Well for the past year i feel as if i put about 85% of the effort in me and my boyfriends relationship. Now he is a good boyfriend but its just the way i feel. Well i let my jelousy get in the way of our relationship ( so he says .) And he broke up with me monday night , But tuesday he told me how big of a mistake he made and he was truly sorry , he loved me with all his heart etc. But i want him to ( need me now ) . This whole year it was like he was my " Life support ". And when he had broken up with me my heart was broken and i mean broken . And i realized it wasnt healthy to be where i have to depend on a guy. I love him so much but this time around id like to turn the tables , ya know ? I took my moms advice ( not to call , text him etc. but to let him do all the calling ) and it worked , yesterday i only called one time and he called me 3 or 4 times , when usualy its me caling like every 10 mins . its hard but it makes me feel as if im not the " damsal in destress " . But how do i get him to be more ( on me , than me on him ) if that makes sence . I dont call him , he calls me ... What else . i want him to cator to me now . I love this boy , hes a major part in my life . This sunday will be our year . Advice please & no stupid stuff please . thanks :)

You should tell him how you feel about you putting most of the effort. Love isn't a one-way street (cliche, but it's true).
It's great that you've realized you deserve some effort from him (more than you've been getting now anyways) and now it's time for him to know that he can't have you if he's gonna be lazy about this relationship...
Clearly, he wants a second chance and knows he's messed up. He's trying to make it right now, so points for him. But just remember: It didn't feel too great for you to do most of the 'work', right? I wouldn't completely turn the tables on him, because relationships should be give and take on both sides. You need equality, not a total 360. Just my opinion.
Best of luck and happy one year!

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how come guys some year will act like they hate you and dont want anything to do with you, and then after a few years, they start to like you.

cause thats the problem that im having, in like 5-7th grade, guys acted like they didnt want anything to do with me, and now, in 8th grade, guys are all over me, and my mom said that their going to keep getting more interested in me as the years of high school come.

can anyone explain to me why their like that..its really confusing...

thanks for all your help.

It's called growing up. Guys at this age are finally seeing girls in a different way, and you've probably matured and grown too. They now see you as a possible girlfriend, not just 'that girl from that place...'

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Alright i know this is a weird question but i really would like to know.

okay so i'm ALWAYS hungrey i dont know why tho
when i'm bored i wanna eat when i'm watching tv
i wanna eat; I ALWAYS WANT TO EAT EVEN IF I JUST GOT DONE EATING. i'm not over weight or anything
i do cheerleading so i stay fit it's just i dont understand why i always want to eat.

if you know the reason why please let me know.
thank you xoxo

I'm 15/f too and I love to eat! I'm not overweight or anything either...it's just one of those things we teens do: eat =]
Though, I would suggest not eating in front of the TV because pretty soon you could always get hungry while watching TV. Try eating your snack/meal at the table or even while doing homework. Trust me on this; I used to eat in front of the TV all the time and couldn't understand why watching Full House was making me so hungry...
But it's totally natural and plus you exercise; that's good. It's not like all you do is sit around stuffing food into your mouth =]
No worries.

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