about

name's chelsey.
i'm 16,i'll be 17 in a little over 3 months.
i've been through a lot,and i have a lot of wisdom in different areas.
i'll try my best to help you in any way i can.
just ask :]

advice

I'm really interested in learning to eat more healthy...I am at a good weight right now and I want to stay there, so I'd like to know how I should eat. Fad diets are stupid, they don't last, they don't work. Healthy, well-balanced eating is what you can stick with for life. This may sound a little weird, but I'm not quite sure what healthy eating IS. Like...can someone give a sample menu of a healthy day of eating. Are snacks ok? Like, if you want to maintain your weight, what should you be eating. (I'm a 5'5 female who is 125 pounds.)

If you want to maintain your weight, just keep doin what you've been doing but try to add a little excercise and healthy eating into your plan too. Hope I helped!

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How do you know when you're in love? And I mean really in love, not lusting after something you can't have, not loving someone, IN love, with 'the one'. How do you know?
Thnx,
Hallie

When your in love you won't have to ask, you'll just know.
*x0oLoViN'iTo0x*

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How do you get rid of styes in your eye? I have one in each eye right now and they hurt so bad and it hurts to blink. You can't see them but they hurt like heck. How do you get rid of them and what are they? How do they form and what are some ways to prevent them?? Thanks.

I've had those before and I just went to the eye doctor and got some eyedrops that make them go away really fast. The only way to prevent them is to not wear any eye makeup, though. Hope I helped!
*x0oLoViN'iTo0x*

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I'm really scared bcus i'm only 14 and i've found out i'm pregnant. my ex doesnt know bcus we had a really bad fallin out and my mom wud totally freak if she found out. Wt shud i do. i'm scared to tell enyone even by best friends! i just act normal but i can nevva take my mind off it!

You made a bad decision by having premarital sex, but I'm not gonna preach about now that it's done.
You have got to tell your mom. Oof course she'll be upset and probably even mad, but there's no way you'll be able to hide it for too much longer and you really need her love, support, and knowledge to get you through this. Hope I helped!
*-*God Bless*-*
*x0oLoViN'iTo0x*

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OK me and my mom always teld to get in arguments and stuff! and she has always drinked and stuff even b 4 i was born!when ever she gets drunk and stuff shes always a bitch! and one time i hit her and i felt really bad! and she still drinks and me and my dad dont know what to do! he always calls the cops on her and stuff and says hes gonna make her move out but he never does! she is still living here! most kids wouldnt want their parents to get divorced! but im praying every night that thaey do! i dont realy care! and im having problems at skool and no 1 likes me! and when i say no 1 i mean no 1! i have like 4 friends @ my whole skool! and ppl always want to fight me! i have alot of drama in my life and i dont know what 2 do! i hate break ups and bad stuff ALWAYS comes 2 me! my friends turn against me and so do my bfs! and soo are my parents! my dad always yells @ me! and he drinks 2! just not as much as my mom! somtimes i really think about not living! like runnin away or whatever! should i! i cry everynight! yesterday i didnt go to skool cause i was cryin cause i hate my skool! and my parents wont transfer me and they dont never do anything about my problems! what should i do i need really bad help! i rate 5s! IM me on AIM southpolehunny14 to talk! THANX!! KAYLA!!

Ok, just calm down. Sounds like your dad is too scared to kick your mom out for some reason, but if everything you said is true, then she really needs professional help. You need to talk to your dad and try to get your mom into some kind of rehab facility. I know it'll be hard,and she would probably be gone for a few months, but it could be even worse if she doesn't help soon.
Good luck talking to your dad and God bless!
Hope I helped!
*x0oLoViN'iTo0x*

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Well i've been dating my boyfriend for about 2 months. He has had sex before and I havent (15/f). For the past couple of days I have really been thinking if i want to do it or not. My boyfriend is perfect, but im kinda nervous about the whole thing. Dont get me wrong, I do want to have sex with him, but its only been to months and i think its kinda soon. I have been sort of leading him on, but i really thought about it today and im jsut not ready. What ways can i tell him that im sorry for leading him on but im just not ready yet?????
Please help

Sounds like you just answered your own question: say it> "I'm not ready" if he doesn't understand that then you shouldn't be with him anyway. Hope all goes well.
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i got my gf pregnant and we havint told anyone yet should we tell someone like our parents
or should we not. and since i got her pregnant should we like get marryed or something i mean i am not ready for that i am only 15

Well, you should have thought about that before and not had sex with someone you weren't ready to marry. But you've already done it now and there's no going back, so you have to do the resposible thing and talk to your parents about it.It's gonna be tough but your just gonna have to suck it up cause you are thew one who got hr pregnant and you have to take the responsibilty of helping her out. Hope I helped and good luck!
*-*God Bless*-*
*x0oLoViN'iTo0x*

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I started cutting my self about a year, and I just did it to see what it felt like and to maybe finally get some attention from my mom and now I cant stop... its like after every little argument I have with her I have to go up to my room and cut my self or it doesn’t feel right. I have tried to stop and I have even made promise to people but I just don’t know what to do any more it seems like its getting out of control and I don’t want to have to go see a therapist because I don’t know if I could come out and say I have a problem so basically I’m just asking what I should do...?

Gah... I really don't know what your going through ,but maybe it would help if, when you get mad or upset, instead of cutting yourself, just go in your room and use your pillow as a punching bag or something like that to make you feel better and let out your anger.*Sorry I couldn't help more...*
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This may seem like a random and completely dumb question to some, but I'm actually quite serious in asking this. My question is that why is it that young girls ages 12-14 and some even younger, feel that they NEED to have a boyfriend just to fit in? You girls don't understand, when your time comes to have a boyfriend, you'll find someone who will like you for you. Also, my other question is why do you feel the need to dress provocitavely, exposing your breasts, butt, and stomach just to look "sexy"? You don't need to be showing all of that to look sexy. You can be completely covered up and still look gorgeous as ever! That was just my random question for today. Any young girl that feels that way, you can feel free to answer.Thanks.

True, so very true.

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i have this friend beth and shes makign all of these bad choices liek havin sex and doin drugs.. how do I help her?

There's not really anything you can do except talk to her and let her know your there if she needs you. She really needs God and you could help her see the light.
*Hope I helped!*

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I have it! I've been useing special shampoo for 3 weeks but it's not helping! Please help!

Have you tried Head and Shoulders? That should work.... but otherwise, I'm not sure.
*Hope I helped!*

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I'm very confused.
My two best friends are starting to treat me like I'm a little kid or something because I haven't gone as far as they have, because I haven't had a boyfriend in a little while. Which I think is fine because I'm only a freshman, and my life doesn't revolve around that stuff. But it still annoys me that they act like I'm immature or something because I haven't gotten fingered, and because I didn't approve of my friend having sex with this guy for revenge. They also make fun of me for being really straight edge which I don't think I am. They think they are really cool because they hang out in a specific neighborhood in brooklyn sometimes.I don't know, I guess it just annoys me that they think they are much more mature because I don't get shit drunk and coked up all the time, and I refrain from making out with bunches of people. But I don't want to yell at them or make them think I don't want to be friends with them anymore. What should I do?

mature? Please! You actually think that they are more mature than you because they have sex with everyone and their brother and are jacked up on coke? There the ones who need to grow up.

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I am thirteen years old and in the 8th grade. I am quite shy around new people and do not make friends easily. What is a good way to get over my shyness and make friends easily? Also, where is a good place to make friends?

Just start talking to people and be bolder. Your never going to make friends if you don't talk! Hope I helped!

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Well, in my free time, i like to create routines for songs that I like. Well, I do hip rolls in a song, and my question is, why do my hips get so sore after im done doing them??? Its not the first time i have done them, I used to do them a lot, now all of a sudden they hurt a lot. Has this happened 2 any1 before or do any of you know what it is??? Much help is appreciated!

I am a dancer, but it's never hurt when I've done hip rolls before, so idk. You could be hitting a nerve or something. Hope I helped!

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What is a lap dance? And what is oral sex? My friend talk about that and i just sit and listen.. but nothing i understand.

Think about that question for a second (the names:lap dance & oral sex) and if you use your imagination, you can figure it out. Hope I helped!

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Does anybody know what to do about pores? I have pores that show all over my face. If you know what to do, advice would be nice. Thanks.

try pore minimizer cream. Hope I helped!

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my parents get mad at me whenever i say something about religion that doesnt agree with their views. they tell me im to young to have an opinion about that kind of stuff. and i do. and im not that good at communicating. so should i just tell them that i believe in god? even though i have doubts?

thanks.

No one is too young to have an opinion about or believe in God. You just need to talk to your parents about your beliefs. Hope I helped!
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I feel lately that I am a fake Christian. I say I believe in Jesus, God, etc., but I just am not very knowledgable about Christianity on the whole. All I know is, when I'm talking to God, or the few times I go to church, I am very happy, because I do know that God and Jesus love me. And my family - they all believe and everything, we're just not the most religious people, I guess. But I realize that we need to truly accept Jesus into our hearts in order to enter Heaven, and I don't even feel truly like I've done that yet. I've never brought it up with my family, but I really want all of us to get to know God and Jesus so that I can expect to meet them in Heaven, because this is kind of a priority. But how do I do this without basically saying, "Okay, here we go, we are going to believe in this whether you like it or not"? I know that sometimes people get kind of offended because they think I force my ideas about religion upon them... Sorry for the long question - I rate!

Pray to God that you want to accept Jesus into your life as your Lord and Savior, and that's it, your saved!

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Hey!I am about 5'6" or 5'7" and around 140 and 145 pounds and I want to lose maybe 10 or 15 pounds..if I do yoga and crunches will it help me any?If it won't what can I do to help me lose the weight?Thanks!

Yes, both will help considerably, especially crunches.

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I weigh about 131 pounds and I'm 5'4 (I'm a female) I'm kinda curvy, but I would like to weigh around 115. Is this seriously a realistic weight? If so, how should I go about losing the weight in a healthy manner?

A realistic weight for your height would prabbly be more like 120. Hope I helped!

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