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I could go through this whole story, but I wont so I'll try to make this short.. by the way, 16/f

So I went out with this guy. And, everything seemed perfect. He always said how he never wanted to lose me and how much he loved me. He was always afraid he would lose me. I also loved him soo much. And we had always said if for some odd reason we broke up, we would always be friends. But one night, he broke up with me. He said he didnt feel a connection. Of course I was upset about it for a few days, but I was happy we would still be friends. We talked for a little while after that, but then he started getting weird. He changed, and completely shut me out of his life. Its been since this past January, and Im still in love with him, barely making it through each passing day, trying to find a way to get him back, even just as a friend. He wasnt just my boyfriend, he was my best friend, whom I told everything to. He was the only one that understood me.. His best friend keeps telling me not to give up, but every time it seems like we are going to get back to normal, he just breaks my heart again and again. Ive tried to give up on him, but I cant. I think its because I dont want to, even though hes literally killing me. At this point, I dont know what to do. Ive been getting a few of my close friends' opinions, his best friend's opinion, and his cousin's opinion. And I just dont know what to do.. Please help..

--S0methingM0re

Ah. Unrequited love. It sucks. haha

just give it time my dear. Everyone goes through it and you dont deserve this guy breaking your heart. It is time to try and move on. Listen to sad songs, cry. It works. Have a girls night at home and just cry with your closest friends there to comfort you.

I mean just wait for him. He obviously isnt ready for a commitment or he wouldnt be pushing you away. Just give it time.
-hayley

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13/f

so my best friends boyfriend likes me A LOT!
i told him to stop but he still keeps flirting.
he keeps calling me, he gave me a song and he write me a lot of notes. What should I do???

tell your friend about it and how your feeling. I mean he shouldnt be bothering you, and your friend deserves to know.
-hayley

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(Story short) last year told BFF (Lara) I am bi and I have a crush on her. She is unsure of sexuality and not like me in that way. Lara and I are great friends hang out a lot and have fun together. We argue playfully and disagree on things. We push each others buttons and have a laugh. But then our friend came up and said that we are like an odd couple. I shut my mouth and ignore what she just said as so did Lara. Why did we stay quite?

i am a girl...

you probably just stayed quiet because you was speechless. Maybe you both got worried that someone found out about your secret?? Maybe lara is getting some type of feelings there? Just a thought though haha..
-hayley

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So I'm considering going to a college where a huge fraction of the student body belongs to either a fraternity or a sorority. I wanted to get a gist of what Greek life is like, and what the pros/cons are.

detailed explanations def. welcome!!
thanks :)

im thinking of joining a sorority too, but i still aint sure. I think that you have stuck up people anywhere though, and you shouldnt stereotype.

http://people.howstuffworks.com/sorority.htm
-hayley

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so i am like.. in love with my best guy friend. we are both 15 years old. we had liked each other about 2 months ago but he also liked another girl. him and i hooked up and stuff but after a while he started to like the other girl more. it was confusing on how they got together but he wasnt trying to be a jerk to me. now him and her are broken up because she was a jerk to him. should i make a move on him? im scared to do anything with him because i dont want to get hurt and he doesnt know that i like him still. half of me doesnt want him to know anyway.
helpppp:(

well he just got dumped by a girl, so maybe he isnt ready yet? And are you willing to get hurt or take a chance and be happy. I wouldnt exactly make a move on him yet. I say give him some time and you think it over.
-h-

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ok so theres this guy who always grabbing my but which he does to alot of girls. but hes always helping me with starting blocks at track. and hes at my locker and putting his arm around my waist and playing with my hair which i never see him do to other girls sould i ask him out or does he even like me
14/f

i think he likes you but sounds sort of like a player. But i say see how it plays out. I wouldnt ask him out because in this case he could just be a flirt so be one back and see what happens.
-h-

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Ok, so 15/f...
I get along with pretty much everyone in my class. But, there's this one girl who just goes out of her way to bother me =( It's like effecting my self esteem. I don't understand why she acts this way. Like, I'll just be sitting there and she'll say something funny so I'll laugh and next thing I know she's all like "Did I tell you you could laugh?!" Ugh I hate her. But I can't just ignore her because I feel so totally stupid and self-conscious because of the way she calls me out in front of everyone =(
Any advice?

Stand up to her. Honey if you let others push you around you will just be a welcome mat for more to come!

next time she says could i tell you could laugh?
just say "did i tell you, you could tell me when to laugh? ugh NO...."

if she wants to get smart with you, then get smart back. Everyone might say ignore her but trust me it only makes it worse. And you thinking down of yourself is exactly what SHE wants. Why bc she feels that way. I know its cliche but its true. Dont be afraid to stand up to her. Bark is worse than her bite.
-h-

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13/F There this really cute guy and i like him and yeasturday he said I LIKE YOU AND he's really populair and i like him so i didn't kno wut to say becasue ppl would make fun of me if i said i like him back so i dont kno wut to say and wut if u was just joking and playing around and we kinda freinds we talk all the time. help please

you shouldnt worry what other people think. Honestly that gets you NO WHERE in life. If you base your decisions on what other people think you will wind up losing who YOU are. So dont worry.

If you like him, tell him. Its not that big of a deal. Im telling you. He could have been joking, or he could have been serious. But seriously the only way you will ever find out is if you tell him. So stop worrying so much about what other people think is right and do what you think is right.
-hayley

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when ur at the movies with a guy, how do they make a move to make out? how DO u make out at movies? what should i know about and what should i do?

well, the biggest move of all time would have to be the stretch yawn rest...haha the guy "stretches" his arms, yawns and rests his arm on your shoulder...Then the girl lays her head on his chest and about three minutes later looks up at him with cute little eyes and then he should go in for the kiss...haha
but really to make out at the movies i would go to the back row so no one is googling you OR little kids throwing popcorn at you haha that sucks
Really the only thing you should know is that you shouldnt worry about it and just have fun with it. If you really want it make the first move...not talking about the stretch yawn rest haha but just lay your head on him or whisper something in his ear or put your hand on his leg.
Someone has to make the first move.
-hayley

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should kindergarten be mandatory? why?

well everyone i have ever known has went to kindergaten but i dont know if its mandatory.
It just gets kids ready for real school, like preschool.
Its just what you think really i guess.
-hayley

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I'm really in a huge trouble.

A week ago I just found myself falling in love with an 11 or 12 year-old boy(he won't tell me his age)

I'm 14.

I've been against having younger bf.

I donno what I should do.

How to deal with the situation.

We are quite close. his class is right next to mine.

And I really wanna know if he likes me too.

How do I do that?

I would really appreciate all your advises.

well there is really nothing wrong with dating a younger guy. I mean yes its traditional but its not like its a law. Unless you were 18 and he was younger but not the case.
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=511553

Watch his body language..does he look at you in the eyes?
Does he call you beautiful?
Does he seem nicer to you than everyone else?
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=506340

Just watch him closer, or you could just ask...
-hayley

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i have this friend, he is one of the four people that know i am bi, and i have a crush on him. we were goin back and forth with each other one day in a battle of wits and it went like this.
me: fag him: look whos talkin me:youre the one who went to the movies with me him:what, i hope you didnt think anything of that
basically thats how it went. then he said if i ever started puttin the moves on him he would knock me out. my problem with that is, that i honestly think he might be bi. because he acts like he is. i am not really sure though. some people have a gaydar, i dont. i cant tell if a person is or isnt by any means. but i really like him, and wanna go out with him. he is so cute, and sometimes he does kind of hit on me, but not anything major. what should i do??

wow. i have gaydar haha it sounds to me like he might be falling for you but is afraid. Which who wouldnt be. You are open about your sexuality you already know whats up haha he dont. Just give him time and talk to him about it. Maybe ease it into a conversation? good luck honey
-hayley

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So me and this kid have been on and off for about 10 monthes now. We recently started going out and over april vacation we had sex. It was both are first time. I was scared that i was going to regret it or that'd we break up and that it would break my heart, but he comforted me and told me that we love eachother and that were never going to break up. An excact week after we had sex he breaks up with me. I miss him more than ever and I'm so hurt that he would do that to me. But i know it time to move on. How do i get over him?

cry..

thats what i do to get over a guy. i just find a really sad song and listen to it over and over and just cry my eyes out til i fall asleep. Like over it-katherine mcphee...its kind of a different story in the song but it still works ;]

or you could just write him a letter but not give it to him.

I noticed you said on and off...i wouldnt get back on with him because it sounds like he only used you for sex. and once he got what he wanted he left. You can do better

-hayley

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okay im a 17/f and i hooked up with this guy that i like. well it turns out that he only hooked up with me to see my boobs and i got really mad. and this was over spring break about a month and half ag o. well when we came back to school i told alot of people and he got mad and told everyone that i lied. but i didn't! and i said sorry to him but when i said sorry he denied that we hooked up and said that i lied to everyone and he's really arrogant and i told him that he needs to get over himself and accept the fact that we hooked up. and he said that its best if we just don't talk. so yeah now he won't talk to me and im really upset about this and sometimes i'll just start crying in class. he's in 2 of my classes. & alot of people from some of my other classes know what happeend. because he'll never forgive me and he's holding a grudge against me. what should i do? should i try to apologize to him again?

Dont apologize to him!! he is a jerk and isnt worth your time!! you have absolutely no reason to apologize to him, he should be apologizing to you. SO i would suggest just letting him go because he aint worth it.
-hayley

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well there is this boy that i like a school everyone is tellin me i should be with him and i do like him be i think he is Conceded what should i do??????

he could be different to you...are you willing to take a chance on that one?? I mean we all hate conceded people, matter of fact even conceded people hate conceded people. haha. Just tell him how you feel. You could end up finding the true him, and if he blows you off, he is a JERK, so just forget about him.
-hayley

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Someone says he has got me a suprise.

He gave me 3 clues which were:

- Its pink

- It blossoms

- It spreads itself

He insists it is not a flower of any sort

I can't work out what it is and neither can any of my friends!

Help!

im thinking something very dirty...umm it would either be a vagina or a penis, but quite frankly i think its the first one...haha
-hayley

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OK SO.
here's the story. (im 15)
My parents think im like a little kid still.... but im totally different in school.
I wouldnt be surprised if they still think I think boys are yucky.
I definitely DONT. but its like im a kid here, and different at school.
at school i swear sometimes (try not to)
i see hott guys and like them
when i get home....
im daddy's little girl, and they dont think ill get a boyfriend for a while, and i think they think i dont even like guys yet.
AND I TOTALLY DOOOO.
i feel that it i change my home life.... everything will change
and i would feel REALLY AWKWARD telling them guy stories and stuff like that.
i dont know what to do.
It's like the other day i had to lie to them that i was hanging around with a guy and my friends because i didnt want them to flip out and not let me go.
for instance..... they found a guys number in my phone (my friend joe) ya he's my friend and in my class.
My sister found him in my phone and told my parents and now all they say is.... ohhhhh she likes joe ohhh. all that stuff. which i dont like him like that. So ya they make a big deal out of everything. saying stuff like oooo are you inviting joe to your party..... and i dont even like him.... they are just being annoying,
im afraid to tell them any guy stuff because they will over react about it
another example is....
i slept over my friends house for the first time...
and my dad called to check if there was gonna be any boys there!!!!!!
ya. i know
help?
thx babes
sorry its so long

Okay im 15 too so i know what your going through. And technically we ARE still kids, and you should enjoy it while you have it!! Yes you may be mature. Different at school. Thats the way i am. I think it is just because they are our parents so therefore we treat them different. You will always be your parents little girl, and they will always baby you because they dont want you to grow up and they have trouble grasping the conversation. You just got to learn to take a joke and ignore them. I know its hard but trust me, as annoying as it is, its worth it haha
-hayley

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hi well this is about me & my boyfriend.. we both have trust issues..but weve been dating 7 months so we trust each other with everything..but im very paranoid bout him going thru my phone..bc, well my parents split up & now my mom & i are dirt poor, & i cant afford my phone. so, im REALLLY not proud of this, but i send this guy..pictures..& he pays my bills. so he text me last night saying "hey sunshine" & my bf saw it..& he kept asking who that text was from & i was drunk so i said idk then i deleted it. & then he saw i deleted it..& now he says he doesnt trust me anymore bc of me not telling him (he doesnt know about the pics..) & i feel so hurt bc he doesnt trust me anymore (but i would feel the same if the roles were reversed) but i dont have any money and i dont consider it cheating bc idk this person, theyre on another coast, & i have NO feelings for him. but it kills me inside whenever i do it & i want to regain my bfs trust but i just dont know what to do..about any of it..please help??

Wow sorry to say this but are you like constantly high?? This guy on "the other coast" could be a very very VERY bad person. He could live down your street!! Be a rapist a murder, and he has all of your cell phone info...Get A Job. It works better and its safer and you dont have to degrade yourself to get the money.

As for your boyfriend tell him about the situation. And tell him what you plan to do about it. Be open and honest with him. DONT LIE. Maybe if you just said the truth he would trust you.
-hayley

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16/f.
is is possible to be pregant without ever having sex and having your period two months in a row?

me and my boyfriend have done everything else besides sex. i gave him a hj one day and he cummed. but then he wiped his hands with a napkin. and a little while later (i don't know how long after) he fingered me. is it possible that i'm pregnant? even though i've gotten my period two months in a row now

There is no way you are pregnant. Yes you can have your period while you are pregnant but it is like 75% chance you wont. Just make sure he washes his hands or something.
-hayley

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i went on a "date" w/this guy(that i initiated) we went out for dinner, though we both never specified that it was anything more than that, and we hung out for a long time. i thought it went well, and he hugged me at the end.i didn't get any hint he wanted to see me again until he brings it up 3 weeks later randomly in the middle of our conversation.the 3 weeks leading to that i became upset b/c i felt maybe he didn't like me, even though he'd always become real happy to see me around.so even though this is what i wanted to hear him say, i guess 3 weeks of waiting overrode my enthusiasm.and later he convinced me to play intramural soccer w/him, i played one game and after the game he texts me and says "babe you're the best".and this is where it gets wierd: all of a sudden he changes and goes hot/cold switching and letting girls flirt w/him around me and not paying attn. to me. i don't understand. and now everytime i pass him by all he says is "will you play soccer?see you monday." he knows i can't play(it's too late at night) why is he being so annoyingly persistent? why would he care anyways, i bet had someone else had said no i don't want to play he'd leave them alone. i'm confused, i guess my question is how you think he feels about me. thank you for reading this and i'm really sorry for it being lengthy but any help would be very much appreciated.

Umm okay well im a girl but here is what i think!!

i think it is one of two things. Either he is testing you to see how jealous you get, which is what it sounds like because you said that he ignored you and flirted with other girls. Or he is just being a real asshole. But you are probably just really overthinking it. I say just tell him how your feeling. and tell him you dont want him flirting with any other girls, you want him flirting with you! haha
-hayley


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really i just think that you are overthinking the situation. I mean it is pretty much there that he is trying to make you jealous. But sometimes it takes other people to see it. haha

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