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How Do You Get Over Someone You Love that Doesnt Love You Ba
I could go through this whole story, but I wont so I'll try to make this short.. by the way, 16/f
So I went out with this guy. And, everything seemed perfect. He always said how he never wanted to lose me and how much he loved me. He was always afraid he would lose me. I also loved him soo much. And we had always said if for some odd reason we broke up, we would always be friends. But one night, he broke up with me. He said he didnt feel a connection. Of course I was upset about it for a few days, but I was happy we would still be friends. We talked for a little while after that, but then he started getting weird. He changed, and completely shut me out of his life. Its been since this past January, and Im still in love with him, barely making it through each passing day, trying to find a way to get him back, even just as a friend. He wasnt just my boyfriend, he was my best friend, whom I told everything to. He was the only one that understood me.. His best friend keeps telling me not to give up, but every time it seems like we are going to get back to normal, he just breaks my heart again and again. Ive tried to give up on him, but I cant. I think its because I dont want to, even though hes literally killing me. At this point, I dont know what to do. Ive been getting a few of my close friends' opinions, his best friend's opinion, and his cousin's opinion. And I just dont know what to do.. Please help..
--S0methingM0re
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i think that you need to talk to him. he must have a reason for suddenly changing his mind like this. you don't deserve to be treated like this so i think you should just have an open conversation with him telling him exactly how you feel, hopefully this will make things better. if talking to him still doesn't work then you need to make a decision...you can either try to move on because you deserve better... or you can give him time and hopefully he will come around, just be careful not to waste your time waiting on him.
i hope i helped.
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Ah. Unrequited love. It sucks. haha
just give it time my dear. Everyone goes through it and you dont deserve this guy breaking your heart. It is time to try and move on. Listen to sad songs, cry. It works. Have a girls night at home and just cry with your closest friends there to comfort you.
I mean just wait for him. He obviously isnt ready for a commitment or he wouldnt be pushing you away. Just give it time.
-hayley
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Well i'm going through something pretty similar but i have gotten alot of advice from various friends so maybe it'll help.
A common antidote to this type of thing is usually just time. It hurts but if you take each day in stride and try to just ignore your feelings they eventually fade, Granted it doesn't sound like the healthiest advice but its something that works over time. Just try to block out all those memories you had with him or if you're a stronger person than I try to remember them as good memories but nothing more.
Another thing thats not really ethical but sometimes helpful is a rebound. I have a friend who got over a guy like that when she went out with another guy who was just simply better for her. Now she couldn't careless about her ex and is completely convinced she's found her soul mate, again. Although other times a rebound can also help you realize that what people say is true and that there really are a lot of more fish in the sea and if this one guy can't take the time to take into consideration YOUR feelings and not just his own then he's really not worth the chase.
If this guy really was your best friend just because he wanted to be with you then he was just a really good boyfriend not a best friend. The only thing that would have proved that is if he had come through after the break up and apparently he didn't. The best thing to do though is to just forget about love altogether. Keep yourself busy with work, school, friends, and such. Try anything to keep your mind off of him. After awhile you'll realize that your feelings have indeed faded and your ready to move on.
Hope i helped and good luck.
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