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I feel sad all the time. Right when I think I'm having a good time, I just feel like crying. All the time I just want to cry.
Things just haven't gone the way I've wanted them to for so long and I just have this heavy weight of sadness on my shoulders. I can't even talk about it because I don't think anyone would want to hear it. My best friend and I talk all the time, but it's mostly about her. I help her through everything but can never tell her what's bothering me. I don't like to talk about it because I don't want her to leave me all alone like my other "friends" if she thinks I'm being stupid or selfish talking about myself. I don't want to be selfish.
I try so hard to be nice all the time and hardly speak my mind or bother people with how I feel because being nice is so important. But it's wearing me down. I keep everything inside and I don't think I could let it out because everyone would leave me again. Well, everyone that's left. It isn't fair, but I shouldn't say that. I don't want to complain because I don't want to come across as a brat.
I just want the sadness to go away. I just basically wallow in self-pity which isn't good and I know that. But I can't pull myself out of it. I don't know how to. I feel like such a bad person because I probably am. I'm trying to change things about myself so maybe I can feel better, but I'm never good enough. I'm so upset and I just want to stop crying all the time. But I can't. ='[ (link)
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you just really need to talk to someone. when you don't talk about your problems they just stay inside you and weigh you down. i know its hard to talk to people about your problems but it seems like you have a close friend so you should try talking to her. you need to stop thinking of yourself as a burden to people cause you deserve the same courtesy that you show others. if you ever need to talk to someone you can IM me at advicegirl118.
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17/M
She says I'm not good enough for her, but I know she's the one who doesn't deserve me. I've liked her for 15 months now. She's done nothing but jerk my emotions back and forth. She the only person I keep in my life who has never opened up to me... or anyone else. I want to be with her so badly. Why can't I get her out of my head? (link)
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any girl who would tell you that she is too good for you is not worth your time. i think that you should try getting over her, she doesn't deserve you. as for the reason why you can't get her out of your head... she probably represents the idea of love to you, people always want someone that is out of reach because it always makes it that much better when you actually get them. even though you really like this girl i think you just need to get over her cause she doesn't seem like she is even worth pursuing. i know it sucks to hear that but i think its the right thing to do.
i hope i helped.
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16/f
I've been dating my boyfriend for a year now and lately I've been having crazy jealousy issues. I really have no reason to be jealous or suspicious of him because he's never really done anything to make me not trust him (that I know of). See, he's a year older than me, I'm a sophomore and he's a junior, and for half of the day he's at a different school than I am. There's a girl that goes there that also attends our school that I think he talks to. I'm weirdly jealous of this and thinking about her makes me angry. I don't even really know her other than she was in one of my classes. I always have these dreams that he leaves me for her. He denies that he even talks to her, which I know isn't true. Today we were at the store and she was there and she waved to him. It seems pretty harmless, but I got really upset.
I can't stand feeling like this :\ I get really jealous and I know it has to do with my own insecurities. But if he doesn't talk to her, and what he says is true, then this isn't fair for him.
So I suppose my question is, how would I go about getting over this stupid jealousy problem?
please help :[ (link)
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you can never really get over jealously, as long as you love someone you're always going to be a little jealous of the other girls that they talk to. if you two have been dating for a year then you know that he must love you a lot and i doubt that he would lie to you about this girl. you just need to realize that he wouldn't stay with you for a year just to leave you for some girl that he says he doesn't even talk to. you just need to trust him because if you act insecure it might drive him away.
i hope i helped.
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So, i had a boyfriend for a year and a month, and we broke up for a stupid reason.
So barely a month after breaking up, he gets a new girlfriend.
It's so weird because our relationship was as perfect as possible, and we were best friends. We told eachother everything, we cried together, talked all night on the phone, and he was just one of the most important people in my life. I'm still not sure what went wrong, exactly, except for when i was having a HORRIBLE, horrible day, and i told him i was "confused about me and him," by which i explained thoroughly that i didn't mean it, because i really didnt. I think thats what started it, but i think that was something we could have worked through, it didnt have to break us. Also, he said alot of things were going on in his life and that he was depressed. Its family issues, mostly. He also said that he just couldnt handle a relationship at the moment.
But i loved him, so i let him have his space.
I loved him, so i was there for him. I wrote him a letter telling him that no matter what i would be there for him. And he appreciated it because after he read it it looked like he was about to cry. He has a lot to handle, but i dont know that, during this, why he wouldn't pull me closer instead of pushing me away.
His sister died in October, and i was there through it all.I saw him cry, i listened to him miss her.
Anyways,
He said he still wanted me in his life, and I, by all means, wanted him in mine too, because he meant so much to me, and i thought i did to him, too.
I then realized that i couldn't have him as a friend, because it hurt too much and i was expecting too much out of this new "friendship" because i wasnt used to that.
So i stopped talking to him.
He called me, not too long after me deciding to stop communicating with him, telling me that "my voice calms him down" and that "he just needed to hear it"
he apologized for calling through text, and i told him its okay but that i just didnt understand why he did it, and he told me that he didnt know if i cared, and i said i always will, just not in the way i used to because thats not what he wanted anymore.
then, he said that he understood and that if i didnt want him calling, that would be totally fine
and i didnt answer.
15 mins later, he texted it again, and i didnt answer, again
15 more mins later, he texted me saying that the last thing he is going to tell me is to not tell anyone what he told me
and i didnt answer.
But now, less then a month after breaking up, he has a new girlfriend already. He has done this before, but he came back to me.
When i see him occasionally, he stares at me, and it obvious. He even has this smile on his face as he does it. I want to know what that means?
He's not a bad person at all, he has never been a jerk to me, even though i wish he was sometimes so that i would have a reason to hate him and get over him.
But i dont know, somehwere in my gut keeps telling me that it shouldnt have been over. It was mostly miscommunication, i think.
I just wish he missed me.
My questions are mainly:
1. What do you think is going on with him?
2. Is she a rebound?
3. If so, do rebounds ever last?
4. What should i do?
thank you so much, sorry this is so long, but its something i cannot get off my mind. (link)
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he's been through a lot. he obviously loves you. he might have pushed you away because you remind him of the bad times because you were there through it all, he might just want to forget his pain and move on with his life and the only way he knows how to do this is to get rid of the main part of his life from back then...you. and yes, i do think that she is a rebound, and no i don't think it will last. i think that you need to try to move on even though you love him and i know it's hard to do, but he needs to figure out his life for now and you don't know how long that could take, and when he has, maybe you two can work things out.
hope i helped
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so for junior year Mandy came to my high school. She is known as a slut but our school is really chill so everyone was eager for her arrival. me and mandy became really close. shared secrets and instantlyclicked. she was knwn to be a social climber but i ignroed that. then she became friends with the prettiest girl in my grade, Rose (who is also best friends with the hot seniors) and kind of stopped talking to be an my friends. but wtrv we were still friends. then i heard she hooked up with this senior. she never told me about it so i called ehr and kind of hinted it out of her. she got mad that i didnt straght out tlel her but wtvr. then we had a lseep over. that sat night there was a senior party. i am not friends with the seniors but she and Rose did so i came. we all amde a pack to not leave me but they did. i got drunk and bad stuff happened. after the party things were never the same. she stopped tlaing to me and is was really sad. we are going ont he sam summer program so i decided to cal her to clear the air. she was such a b***h!!!!!!!!! like sayingall my bad qulities and stuff and i like was just shocked at how soemone who i was bets friends could htink of me liek that!!! i was like are you kidding me? she said that she views me in a bad light now ever since th party. i was like fi my friend made a mistake iw ould never hold a grudge how dare you! she also said that her and her friedsn could make my friend (who she doesn;t like, who is also going on this summer prigram) life a living hell!! who the hell does she htink she is. i am realllly nervious for summer now. i still have schol time with her which will be awkward but i could handle that. i feel since she is SOOOO manipulative that she will befriend everyone and eveyone will be firneds with ehr and i will have a terriable summer. please help. give me advice that you persoannly would take bc just syaing "ignore her" wont help.
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wow she sounds like a huge bitch. the good thing is that you will have your friend with you over the summer, whenever you are forced to spend time with her just be really nice to her and act like nothing happened, it'll kind of piss her off. she wants to make you feel like crap, it makes her feel powerful, so if you just act like everything is fine then she wont have power over you anymore. if you really want to piss her off then act like she would and befriend everyone first. never say anything bad about her, say nice things about her but just slip some subtle comments about her to the people at the summer program.
hope i helped.
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Me and this girl did everything but sex last weekend and now shes saying she doesn't want to
be my first and everything cause i'm still a
virgin. And im like ok we won't i promise. Then
shes like i don't want to hook up. And im like ok we won't. and shes like seriously? and im like
yeah if you don't want to.SO a little about her past, she broke up with her ex a couple months ago
because he cheated on her and that really messed her up emotionally and now has trust problems with
guys which is why she doesn't want to date me or hook up now and why she doesn't want to be
feeling these emotions. Well im starting to like her and i just don't get it. We had this almost same conversation about 2 weeks ago before we had
that one night of greatness lol but she said if your looking for a girl to date, im not it, and if
your looking for a girl to hook up with im not it. So idk wth's going on, any advice? thanksss (link)
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i think you need to give her time. she feels very uncomfortable trusting guys now because the one guy that she put complete trust in betrayed her. you need to let her build up a trust with you before you two can think about moving any further. just give it time.
hope i helped.
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I could go through this whole story, but I wont so I'll try to make this short.. by the way, 16/f
So I went out with this guy. And, everything seemed perfect. He always said how he never wanted to lose me and how much he loved me. He was always afraid he would lose me. I also loved him soo much. And we had always said if for some odd reason we broke up, we would always be friends. But one night, he broke up with me. He said he didnt feel a connection. Of course I was upset about it for a few days, but I was happy we would still be friends. We talked for a little while after that, but then he started getting weird. He changed, and completely shut me out of his life. Its been since this past January, and Im still in love with him, barely making it through each passing day, trying to find a way to get him back, even just as a friend. He wasnt just my boyfriend, he was my best friend, whom I told everything to. He was the only one that understood me.. His best friend keeps telling me not to give up, but every time it seems like we are going to get back to normal, he just breaks my heart again and again. Ive tried to give up on him, but I cant. I think its because I dont want to, even though hes literally killing me. At this point, I dont know what to do. Ive been getting a few of my close friends' opinions, his best friend's opinion, and his cousin's opinion. And I just dont know what to do.. Please help..
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i think that you need to talk to him. he must have a reason for suddenly changing his mind like this. you don't deserve to be treated like this so i think you should just have an open conversation with him telling him exactly how you feel, hopefully this will make things better. if talking to him still doesn't work then you need to make a decision...you can either try to move on because you deserve better... or you can give him time and hopefully he will come around, just be careful not to waste your time waiting on him.
i hope i helped.
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well lately i feel...pathetic! there is this stupid guy (my ex) and he wont talk to me anymore. i dont even like him i just have never been rejected by a guy before and hes not talking to me. hes afraid that i might call him out (hes like that-he hates confrontation) im trying to move on and now that i realized why i kept bothering with him so much i dont think it will be that hard to leave him. but i am so mad at myself for wasting time on him and jor being treated badly. hes a JERK and i keep letting him treat me like shit!! i've started cutting again which i stopped because im so mad at myself and frusterated. what should i do?? i dont know what to do when i feel pathetic instead of cutting...
Please help!! thanks :) (link)
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You need to forget about this guy. He sounds like a jerk. I know its easier said than done. I think the best way to go about this is to confront him even though hes avoiding you and just tell him everything that you've been wanting to tell him for all this time, after you do that i think you you'll feel more free and you wont have to turn to harmful things like cutting yourself...and...even when you do feel miserable and pathetic cutting yourself is not the answer, when you cut yourself you're proving that this guy still has power over you, so I'd say that you're first step to forgetting about this jerk is to stop cutting.
I hope i helped.
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