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Rebounds? Do they work out?
So, i had a boyfriend for a year and a month, and we broke up for a stupid reason.
So barely a month after breaking up, he gets a new girlfriend.
It's so weird because our relationship was as perfect as possible, and we were best friends. We told eachother everything, we cried together, talked all night on the phone, and he was just one of the most important people in my life. I'm still not sure what went wrong, exactly, except for when i was having a HORRIBLE, horrible day, and i told him i was "confused about me and him," by which i explained thoroughly that i didn't mean it, because i really didnt. I think thats what started it, but i think that was something we could have worked through, it didnt have to break us. Also, he said alot of things were going on in his life and that he was depressed. Its family issues, mostly. He also said that he just couldnt handle a relationship at the moment.
But i loved him, so i let him have his space.
I loved him, so i was there for him. I wrote him a letter telling him that no matter what i would be there for him. And he appreciated it because after he read it it looked like he was about to cry. He has a lot to handle, but i dont know that, during this, why he wouldn't pull me closer instead of pushing me away.
His sister died in October, and i was there through it all.I saw him cry, i listened to him miss her.
Anyways,
He said he still wanted me in his life, and I, by all means, wanted him in mine too, because he meant so much to me, and i thought i did to him, too.
I then realized that i couldn't have him as a friend, because it hurt too much and i was expecting too much out of this new "friendship" because i wasnt used to that.
So i stopped talking to him.
He called me, not too long after me deciding to stop communicating with him, telling me that "my voice calms him down" and that "he just needed to hear it"
he apologized for calling through text, and i told him its okay but that i just didnt understand why he did it, and he told me that he didnt know if i cared, and i said i always will, just not in the way i used to because thats not what he wanted anymore.
then, he said that he understood and that if i didnt want him calling, that would be totally fine
and i didnt answer.
15 mins later, he texted it again, and i didnt answer, again
15 more mins later, he texted me saying that the last thing he is going to tell me is to not tell anyone what he told me
and i didnt answer.
But now, less then a month after breaking up, he has a new girlfriend already. He has done this before, but he came back to me.
When i see him occasionally, he stares at me, and it obvious. He even has this smile on his face as he does it. I want to know what that means?
He's not a bad person at all, he has never been a jerk to me, even though i wish he was sometimes so that i would have a reason to hate him and get over him.
But i dont know, somehwere in my gut keeps telling me that it shouldnt have been over. It was mostly miscommunication, i think.
I just wish he missed me.
My questions are mainly:
1. What do you think is going on with him?
2. Is she a rebound?
3. If so, do rebounds ever last?
4. What should i do?
thank you so much, sorry this is so long, but its something i cannot get off my mind.
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he's been through a lot. he obviously loves you. he might have pushed you away because you remind him of the bad times because you were there through it all, he might just want to forget his pain and move on with his life and the only way he knows how to do this is to get rid of the main part of his life from back then...you. and yes, i do think that she is a rebound, and no i don't think it will last. i think that you need to try to move on even though you love him and i know it's hard to do, but he needs to figure out his life for now and you don't know how long that could take, and when he has, maybe you two can work things out.
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What you need to do is move on and get on with your life. You have to let go of him or you will forever be the girl too hang up on her ex to hang out with. If you were ment for each other it will happen but until it does you need to grow into your own person and learn to be independent and yes sometimes rebound relationships work out so stop wishing bad for his present relationship and go out and get your own.
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