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showing him I really do care
So, my boyfriend and I have been through some really rough times and he screwed up a lot. I really do love him and for awhile lately he doesnt believe that I truly do love him. Maybe I hold a deep down grudge and he gets that vibe but bottom line is I really do care about him. Question is--how can I show him I love him (we are not teenagers) without writing it in a card or letter or getting him a gift. It doesn't seem like enough when I just say it. thank you very much.
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Hello,
The advice you have been given is good advice.
However, I believe it will take more than cleaning up after him and making his favorite meals. I know that you need to change what you are doing, right now.
Instead of giving him small pecks or quick kisses, give him a long sensual kiss every time he walks by or you pass him. Rub his back every night.
Take candlelight baths together and rub his feet.
Material things will never take the place of action.
My idea is to get him that card you spoke of and write "Let me show you how much I love you!" and attach a string for him to follow into the bedroom or where ever you are waiting, horny and almost naked. (or just attack him when he walks in the door}
Make your relationship fun again by focusing all your attention on him. Call him often and say "I miss you, I love you and can you come home early, I am horny as heck!" Even if you are not horny, it will make him feel wanted by you and thus he will feel loved by you. He may not always be able to come home, but it makes his day having you horny at home, wanting him. Men who are treated like this rarely stray and become happier with their mates.
He doesn't believe you love him because of the way you show it. The less physical you are with him the less he believes you. The less you stroke his manly ego the less he knows of your love.
Buy a book called 'The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands'. Google the name and read the book. I know it will save you and your relationship.
-- Stay Honest
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When you dont think that when you say I Love You, it dosnt come out of no where. it comes out of the heart. so your boyfriend knows he screwed up and you should tell him you really mean it, from the heart.
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He knows he has screwed up alot and that is why he is aprehensive around you. He it suffering from guilt. It has to play itself out. All you need to do is be there. Go the extra mile while you re at it. Kiss him a little more, cook his favourite meal, clear the house and order his favourite movie, after a while he will come to you. On an emotional level, and all will be good. Not perfect, just good.
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