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-- Stay Honest
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btw before you read this im 13/f
ok i added this boy on my cousin's myspace.
so then he messaged me "your hott would you fuck me. ?
and i go" why.?" and he goes cuz "your hot and i will definatly fuck you."
than i go " are you virgnin?"then he goes "yeah i am.. if you r i would make you not a virgin.=]"
and i go "yeah" then jokingly i go "okk. good. "
he goes" how big do you like them" and i go i d ont know and he goes "well mine is 7inces. thats big enough for you baby =]" and i dont know him. my cousin knows him .
is he joking.? would he know i was joking.?
Hello,
There is no way to tell if he is joking or not. (Does not sound like joking to me) There is no way for him to tell if you are joking. Realize that if you are joking or not. he may not take it the way you mean it.
Your age has absolutely nothing to do with how mature you are.
He sounds very rude and disrespectful towards you. I bet he has said that to every girl he has chatted up on myspace. You sound much more mature than he does. Ultimately how you deal with him is your choice. Please be careful and use protection EVERY time you have intercourse.
Just the way he talks to you, should be a warning that he will love you and leave you de-virginized. He sounds like one of those guys that look to take virginity and move on to the next virgin.
Do not be fooled by anything he says. Trust your gut feeling about him, ok.
Good Luck
- - Stay Honest
okay, so the last two years i have become more miserable-between family and friends, but, this year it has reached a new extreme. ive tried cutting and purging, running, boxing, but nothing helps. i just feel this emptiness. Sometimes, life isnt even that bad, but for some reason i feel the need to be sad. i dont have energy or desire to to do the things i used to do, and i just dont care. i suffer from anxiety attacks and im not even sure how to handle them, how do i make them go away? somtimes i just break down and cry, and i just want to go away, i just feel like i dont fit in.
Hello,
I know this sounds simply weird but it seems to me that your diet and your environment have a lot to do with your 'sad' feeling. Maybe you should also look into a mood disorder of some sort. Try calling DR Laura. She is on AM 640 in Los Angeles area from noon to 3 every day. She would be good for you to consult, she is free if you get her on the show.
Good Luck
-- Stay Honest
hi im 12 I was real smooth with talking to girls last year but this year i seem to be a friget especially with my girlfriend and because of that we broke up and i was pretty sad about that because i really liked her alot but now i like a different girl and if we go out i dont want to ruin our relationship because i cant seem to talk to her(the girl im going out with) about anything i doint know what happened so i need sum help with talking to girls(especially my girlfriend) thanks and if you want to talk to me about it my msn addy is flamephysco@hotmail.com
Hello,
Communication issues at 12 years old. Try ruling out a few things before you try to talk to anyone, especially your girlfriend. Look up something called Asperger's Disorder, or Asperger's Syndrome. If this doesn't describe you, then maybe you should see a counselor with your problems.
Good Luck
-- Stay Honest
I have been with my partner for 3 years and i am still madly in love with him, but i feel that he does not feel the same? How do i get the romance back?
I don't feelgood enough for him any more
Hello,
Go to www.drlaura.com and look for her books on the things that women do to mess up their lives and the proper feeding and care of husbands.
You will have it back in no time!
Good Luck
-- Stay Honest
16/f..My dad (47) lashes out at me for sometimes no reason or just the tiniest things. If something MINISCULE drops on the floor, he starts yelling at me, calling me a pig, an idiot..whatever. Today, I wore the wrong type of pants for my volunteer job...and he lashed out at me like never before, blaming me that he's gonna be late to work (when he wasn't even ready himself, he can't keep track of time and blames it on me at the last minute) and on the way there, he kept on mumbling to himself about what an idiot I was..what a bloodsucker I was...how I was a failure in life...And I just think it's completely irrational. If it was my sister's turn to walk the dog, he'd make ME do it...because he just wants to poke fun at it..the fact that I seemingly never do anything around the house. He controls what I eat and, unaware that I can contain myself, yells at me when I eat something extra or when I get a yogurt past 8 o'clock at night.
After all this yelling and screaming and driving me to tears and hysterical fits...he apologizes, acting like..oh, it was your fault..but I'm sorry I yelled at you. I'm sick of forgiving him and I hate him sometimes. I'm actually so used to his yelling everyday, that I'm beginning to hate him like forever. I know I COULD live without this stress...the nerves. He drives me up the wall with his screams. Only with HIM do I throw tantrums. I'm a very calm person and I can stay quiet for days. But he just makes me shout, yell and bawl my eyes out. He doesn't even respect the fact that I'm on a serious depressing medication (Accutane).
What can I do about this? Anyone who can relate?
Hello,
He is the reason you are on meds. He is causing you severe mental damage. STOP IT NOW!! NO one has the right to yell or scream at you much less call you idiot or anything else. You are living in an unhealthy environment and are being mentally abused!
Your mother allows it so that is neglectful. They both need serious help and you need to cry out for them if they do not get it themselves. Your father is unhappy.
I suggest reading up on a disorder called Asperger's, also maybe look into mood disorders if that doesn't describe your dad. Many men and women have this and do not even know it. Some embrace it when they find out they are not alone. There are ways of dealing with it and being a happy parent to their children. Others deny it and become even more angry at the accusation. The fact is that girls are harder to diagnose than boys.
Your dad needs help to see that you are not the cause of his unhappiness, but you are affected by it.
Ask your parents to seek serious help or you will have to move out. You cannot allow yourself to be subjected to that kind of mental abuse. Do not take it from anyone, not your dad, not your mom, not your siblings or class mates. You also do not have the right to yell at anyone either. EVEN IF THEY YELL AT YOU. Let me explain something very simple. When you let your anger take over and you start screaming, your IQ drops 30% below your normal operating range. The longer you scream the more it drops. It is important to remain calm, no matter what.
If they do not agree to seek professional help, you need to go to a safe haven, a school counselor or your local police station. You need to have them brought up on charges for mental abuse and neglect. Runaway to the police station the next time he yells and calls you names. Get away from there anyway you can. By doing this you will force them to deal with this like an adults and find a solution to this behavior from both parents.
When the Law gets involved, people tend to take it a bit more serious. Sweetheart, you are on depression meds at 16 years old. You r parents are the cause of it, not you. If you were in my household, a non screaming household, you would have no meed for mood altering drugs. A happy home produces happy children. A screaming home produces more screamers. Stop the cycle now!
Make sure that your mother is named as someone who allows the screaming and the name calling. Without her being held accountable too, there can be no real change on their part. She needs to learn how to be a mother and protect you from harm, physical and mental.
Good luck to you. If need someone to speak with you can call me or try a national hot-line if you feel better with that. My number is 818-288-3738, California. Ask for Tammy
-- STay Honest
hi i was wondering if i can have your aol screen name to talk..i really need someone to talk to ..and theres too much to put in ( not just like one question)
please help
Sorry, I am not on AOL. but if you give me your number I can just call you. I am able to help you better if I talk directly to you. OR you may call me anytime. I am in the Burbank - Los Angeles Area.
Text me your number and I will call you. 818-288-3738
Hope to hear from you soon,
Sincerely,
Tammy
well i just recently got married to the most wonderful guy you would ever meet but i always seem nervous around his family and i don't seem to get any better around them and i always feel self consious around them.............could someone tell me whats wrong with me and give me some advice
Hello,
Your reaction around his parents is normal for newlyweds. Especially if you never got to know them before you married their son. No matter, now is your chance. Invite your mother in law to lunch, tea or have all the in-laws for a bar-b-que. Ask them questions about themselves. People love it when you want to know about them, They are their favorite subject and will talk your ear off. Then, you will not be so nervous. It is important that you stay on good terms with his family. Most marriages that I have seen, (Quite a few) do not last if you cannot get along with his family. Although you are married to him, by marrying him, you accepted him for everything he brought with him. Including his family. So yes, you did marry his family too.
They are going to be part of your life now, forever, especially if you have children with your man. Do you listen to Dr. Laura? Check her out at drlaura.com- You have nothing to fear but her wrath! She tells it like it is, if you have not listened to her show on the radio. In the LA area it is 640 am at noon until three pm M-F.
-- Stay Honest
15/f
ive recently realized that i have a hard time talking about myself and my problems to my friends. sometimes i feel like my problems are too boring or too weird compared to other peoples' problems.
for example, way one of my problems that i wish i could talk about is this problem itself. but i feel like i'll be judged badly and im scared that nobody will be interested long enough in what im saying to help me through it.
honestly, the only problem im comfortable with sharing is boy problems because there are so many diff ways you can go with it, and it is "socially acceptable" to have boy problems. everybody has them and boys are fun to talk about! but i dont really have that many boy problems, and its pretty boring to talk about one problem all the time.
ive never really let myself become vulnerable before, you see, so right now im trying to learn.so i just need advice on how to do this. thanks.
Hello,
You sound just like someone I know. He has the same issues. He is my lover, best friend and soon to be husband.
He has learned how to deal with them through educating himself on the issues and why he has them.
Here are two links for you to go read up on it.
http://www.udel.edu/bkirby/asperger/aswhatisit.html
http://www.aspergers.com/
Good Luck
If you need to talk with someone, please just ask and we will call you!
-- Stay Honest
i wanna lose weight i want a nice body! how can i get that im on a diet i work out but i still dnt lose much weight...:( y?
i need help plez people...:/
Hello,
This diet is the best diet you could ever be on the rest of your life. This is not something you do for a few days to lose weight. You must change what you are eating to follow this diet. If you do this, I guarantee you will be able to lose weight easily and keep your muscle mass. Working out is excellent, keep it up. This diet will amaze you and you will be swearing by it forever! Jenny Craig is nothing compared to this diet. Just get the book, and follow the diet recommended for you.
Good luck with this, I am sure that you will see perfect results in just a few weeks of being on the new diet. The longer you stay on it the healthier you get. I have known people who have reversed serious health problems in just 2 months of starting it.
I myself have lost almost 70 pounds, without working out at all, in just 4 months. I only followed part of the diet, so go for it!
Copy this address to your browser!
http://www.genotypediet.com/publicsite/funnel/bloodtype.aspx?np=1&cid=diet%20by%20blood%20type|1487813441
-- Stay Honest
I jut bought 4 goldfish yesterday
Two are orange and are Fantails. The other two are black and are Black Moors.
They are only young so they are still quite small.
I think they might be bored.
They have blue pebbles and a background as well as two real plants and a small artificial plant.
The tank is the right size for the fish but do you think they need something else to keep them entertained other than a couple of plants?
Also I was wondering how you tell whether they are male or female.
Hello,
Goldfish keep one another company, they play games and chase one another. The extra plants would probably overcrowd it if you already have plants in the tank.
Goldfish like bubbles too. Funny I know, but you should put a background on the tank and get a long bubble wand to fix in the middle of the tank. They'll love it you'll see.
To tell male from female you should do a search on google 'sexing goldfish' or 'how to tell male goldfish from female goldfish'. Read anything you can get your eyes on. The pet store has all kinds of books on them.
Good Luck! If you need anything else, please ask!
-- Stay Honest
I have a cat that's a real mouser, and I was wondering what kind of a small pet I could get that he wouldn't kill. He catches rabbits almost as big as he is and he's good at getting birds, too. It would also be helpful to know how I can protect any kind of a small animal from him. Thanks!
Hello,
Like the other advice a small dog would not be attractive to your cat, neither would anything that won't run from it. The reason your cat catches these animals is because of the chase. The cat plays with it before killing it. Bringing the catch home is just instinctive, some call it a gesture of love-like a gift.
A fish is a good small pet the cat cannot get to also. If you get a bird, get a Macaw. Anything smaller would need to be kept in a cage for protection. Your cat will not mess with big birds.
Good Luck!
-- Stay Hoenst
Hey y'all!
I'm trying to sell my horse, Mona and I've had her on the market for a while - not a horrible long time, a bit over a month and all I have gotten was one phone call and she just called asked her age and if she was a gelding or mare and never called me back.
What I don't understand is Mona is a very nice horse. Shes bred nice (by Mattie's Tavern), never raced. Shes a nice big horse (16.3) has been a 4-h/pony club horse and even showed the A/AA circuit in childrens hunter/eq.
I think I was offering a very competitive price at $3500, and now have lowered it to $2000, because she has to be gone by mid-june so I can bring in my equitation horse.
I've advertised her at Equinehits.com, equine.com, I think dreamhorse.com. I have a video on youtube. I have even advertised locally, at the shops in town and even traveled to the closest city to post some ads.
WHAT SHOULD I DO!?!
Hello,
She sounds like a nice horse. Seems that you should be looking at the way you word your ads. Maybe there is something in the ad, or not in the ad that is causing such a small response.
Placing several ads in the same papers also gets you more exsposure. make sure your ads are different in content.
Try national advertising too. The nifty nickel is where my family turns when they need a good horse, or boat, or whatever.
Hope I gave you somethings to consider. If you need anything else, please ask!
-- Stay Honest
I found a dog a few days ago in my neighborhood and I tried walking around trying to find her owner and I couldn't so she stayed all night in front of my house. I didn't tie her up or anything she willlingly stayed and the next day I found her owner who lives just a few houses down from me and the dog keeps coming back to my house and sits on the front portch. Last night I found her again and put her in their fenced back yard but she must crawl under it and get out because when I was walking home she came back out. I think she likes me so much because I fed her and gave her lots of attention before I returned her and she likes me a lot more than her home. What sould I do to keep her from returning. Her owners knowd when she leaves she comes straight to my house but THEY don't come get her I take her to them and she is hesitant about it.
Hello,
Sugarplum07 has a valid point. The dog is your neighbors responsibility, not yours. Although I agree with some of the advice given, I have to disagree with giving the dog back to them.
The dog is obviously neglected and feels unwanted. There is some reason that she keeps coming to you. Are you able to keep her? If so, you should just keep her. Before you do decide to keep her, have that talk with her owner. Let the owner know that the dog obviously does not like them and wants a new best friend. It is common for dogs to do this who are beaten and/or neglected. If the owners refuse to let you have the dog, then call the police and tell them you belive the dog is neglected or abused.
If she is getting out of their yard a lot, this means she spends a lot of time in that yard, alone.
If you cannot keep her, try and find her a good home where she will get the attention needed. You might be able to find a no kill shelter to take her to as well.
I have seen many dogs behave like this because of bad owners. The dog wants love, food and companionship, three basic needs which she got from you.
Please do what is right for the dog. She is calling out to you for help. Don't ignore her by taking her back to her owners. They obviously do not care about her.
Hope I helped you. If you need anything else please ask.
-- Stay Honest
My brother has come to live with us for a bit then he's moving to the other side of the country. But he has a dog and she's staying with us because he can't take her. But the problem is, she only listens to and obeys him. She'll behave around him and then when he's not around she'll become aggressive. Now, she has bitten my brother twice before but that was only when she was around food. But she's so unpredictable. She was in the garage and my cat walked by and the dog walked up, sniffed him, then tried biting him. I was so afraid she was going to hurt him. So how do I get her to STOP being aggressive towards people, animals, and to stop being food aggressive?
She has been around other dogs before, so she's pretty social. Even with cats. Oh yeah, and another question is, how do I get her to listen to me, too? She only listens to my brother and when he's around she wouldn't try to bite my cat. So..yeah. :/
Hello,
This is a subject I am educated in and have much experience in successfully training dogs.
Right now, she is trying to establish her order in your family. She will bite anyone to show she is boss. Be careful with this dog around your kids until she no longer needs to establish an order. When she knows that ALL the humans are boss, she will not act like this anymore.
Aggressive dogs, like the one you describe need to know who's boss. Although the other advice you have been given is good for some dogs, the aggressive ones usually will not stop aggressive behavior with treats and clicks. It may work for less aggressive dogs, but I doubt it will work on her.
Her alpha male is leaving her and she knows it. Do not be fooled into thinking she does not know what is going on. She knows and she doesn't like it one bit. She behaves for him because he is the Alpha male and she his mate. Even if he has a human mate, the dog does not see it that way. She has probably always been aggressive with the food. It is just getting worse because she is in unfamiliar environments and feels she needs to be aggressive to survive.
I agree that a lot of love and cuddling is what she needs. But, she also needs to know that you and your family are the bosses now. This kind of aggression can be dealt with kindly but firmly, and you should see a difference in her in just one session.
Many people frown on this method, but it works better that any others, the results are quick and it is painless for you and the dog.
Start with putting a choke chain or a rope with loops on either end. Make sure that when you put it on her the collar makes the letter 'P'. The long end of the collar should be on the left and the loop on the right. Place it on her, and attach a short leash. Have someone put food in her dish and then you, holding the leash, walk her to her food. Then, have an adult attempt to touch her food or whatever is needed to get her to be aggressive. You need her to display the unwanted behavior so you can correct her. As soon as she growls, or shows any aggressions, jerk up on the leash just enough to knock her off balance. As you do this, firmly say 'NO' and drag her away from the food dish. Keep her at least 10 to 15 feet away and make her sit for a few moments. (If she doesn't sit right away when you say sit, jerk up on the leash as you push down on her rear end, forcing her to sit. If she moves before you let her, bring her back to the spot you told her to sit, jerk up as you say sit while forcing her rear end down.) Once she stays sitting for a few moments, walk her up to the dish again, and do the same thing again. Do this until she stops reacting to anyone getting close to her or her food.
Dogs can only really handle about 10 to 15 minutes of training at a time. So, you will have to work with her every time you feed her, for just a few feedings. This should be all it takes for her to get the hint. You do not need to jerk on the choke very hard. It is not meant to hurt the dog, just knock it off balance for a moment. Which they hate by the way and do anything to stop it. She will learn very quickly that her behavior is causing her discomfort. Dogs are not stupid.
Ignoring bad behavior tells the dog it is ok to do. Dealing with the bad behavior tells the dog it is not ok and there are consequences.
Do not treat her like a child, treat her like a dog, but love the heck out of her. Animals should never be treated like a human child. It gives them mixed signals. Training with treats tells the dog she will get a treat every time she does something you want her to do. When you stop giving her treats, she stops doing what you want her to do. Treats are nice and should be used with a lot positive praise only after she has completely finished a training session without the unwanted behavior. Only treat her when she does not respond to anyone getting near her food, other animals and humans. She will be more likely to want the praise and attention than the treat.
I hope I helped you out. There are books that teach this method and it is the method used to train guard dogs, police dogs and rescue dogs. It is also a similar method to the one 'The Dog Whisperer' uses. He is VERY good at rehabilitating aggressive dogs such as you girl.
Good Luck with her. I am sure once she learns who is boss, she'll be a very happy obedient dog and a great family pet.
If you need me further, please let me know.
-- Stay Honest
okay.. so there is this guy that i have known my whole life.. and my whole life i have had a crush on him. from puppy love in preschool to crushing hard in middle school, ive always liked him.. his parents and my parents grew up together and we have grown up together, but we hardly see eachother because he goes to a diff. school.. i have not stopped thinking about him for over 2 and 1/2 years now.. its just that i couldnt imagine living my life without him. hes amazing! theres a few other things though.. first of all- not only does he go to another school.. im gonna be a soph and hell be a freshmen. my birthday is in may and his is in sept or oct. so its not like hes waay younger.. and all of my friends say that its weird.. except my besties.. but they say "wow. i think you love him." idk! the other thing is- he has a g/f.. i know i know.. that seems really bad.. but the thing is he is e one who always txts me first.. well most of the time. but whenever i try to txt him hell never txt back! and its not like im flirting.. i just want to talk and get to know him. you know- start out as friends.. i have no idea what to do.. im not sure how i feel about him and i really do want to talk to him. one of my bffs that ive known forever and also knows him to says i should just tell him how i feel.. but i really dont want to make it awkward between us or anything.. could you please help me?? if there are anymore questions that i could answer to help you figure out my problem.. i def. open! thanks soo much!
Hello,
Are you OK? If you need a live person to talk to, I will be more than happy to have a life coach call you, free of charge.
He has a girlfriend, The moral thing to do would be to leave him alone until she is out of the picture.
You are right, telling him would make things awkward since he has a girlfriend already. On the other hand, guys are ego maniacs and instead of dating you, he is settling for someone else because he is too 'shy' to tell you how he feels.
Say nice things to him and do nice things for him. If you really want to win his heart, read a book called 'The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands.' Google it.
I know, you are not planning to marry him, but you more than likely will marry someday. That book is the key to keeping a man happy. They need their ego stroked, it will tell you how!
Please, focus on school and improving yourself. Save yourself for him if you must, but do not let it stop you from living.
Above all, be honest with yourself and everyone around you. Yes, you can be in love with someone and not tell them. It is not lying when telling them will break up an existing relationship for personal gain. You can however, slip once and say 'I love you' and then never say it again unless you are in his arms on your wedding night. If he notices that you said it and he asks you about it,
Answer with "I did?" or "Did I?" Then ask "Why? Do you love me?"
The not texting back when you text first issue, is easy to solve. Stop texting him first. Only text when he does it first. Make him initiate contact, you respond, that is it.
Now just brcause you cannot kiss him, does not mean that you cannot kiss up to him. When you do text him, after he's initiated contact, be the woman that worships the ground he walks on. He will come around, or he won't. The important thing is that you get to know him to see if you really are in love with him.
Good Luck! Remember we can call if you'd like to talk.
-- Stay Hones
This was rated a 4. Not sure why? I did assume that you are still a teenager. You stated it in your question. This is good advice and may have been ranked unfairly. The bottom line is that you are going to make yourself sick thinking about his boy that you call a guy. A guy is someone who has reached early adulthood. It is not healthy for you to continue to 'think you love him'. U
Unfortunately, you are not as mature as most 16 year old I have known. Otherwise you would see how valuable this advice is, and follow it.
Never the less, if you need someone to talk to we are here.
ok the thing is a friend of mine might be bi. but the thing is, would she act any different if she is? i mean i havent known her for long, and i dont know if she acted differently b4. but a friend of hers and mine as well(she known her 3 years ago) told me she acted different this year. im worried, does it make a difference if a persons not straight? one of my friends told me she had a bi friend and dat she isnt different. well the thing is i dont noe any bi or gay or lesbian people so i dont know. i need advice! please! thank you.
Hello,
Wow, are you ok? You seemed really bothered by someone's sexual preference.
It should not matter to you what her sexual preference is unless you plan to have sex with her.
People experience life differently. Therefor people change. I am not the same person I was a year a ago and neither are you! You may look the same, but I bet you have changed somethings about yourself, right?
The best thing for you to do is talk to the girl and get to know her.
I had a friend in high school that I hung with ALL the time. She was straight when we met. About a year into our friendship she cheated on her boyfriend with a girl. I had no idea she was bi. I didn't stop being her friend because she was bi. I stopped being her friend because she cheated on her boyfriend, who also happened to be a close friend I had known much longer than her.
The point is, never try to figure someone out according to race, color, sex preference or religion. Always judge them on their actions and moral ethics. Befriend this girl even if she is bi. How do you know you are not bi yourself? Have you tried it? I haven't yet, and don't plan on it, but you never know what the future holds.
-- Stay Honest
When my boyfriend gets me aroused, I get terrible nausea and sharp pains. Does anyone have this problem? Or know what causes it? He feels terribly about it, and I just want it to go away. HELP!
Hello,
Similar things have happened to someone I know very close to me. ME! Go see a chiropractor!
I was experiencing severe pain whenever aroused and during intercourse. I steered clear of sex for weeks because one encounter left me in pain for that long. I spent hours and a lot of money on doctors and tests at the hospitals. I had my OBGYN doctor stumped. They could only say, "Besides having a small uterus, we find nothing abnormal!"
Having a small uterus and some bones out of place felt like giving birth all over again.
I recommend a chiropractor. Get adjusted 4 or 5 times, and see if it makes a difference!
Good luck!
-- Stay Honest
-- Stay Honest
For those of you with stubborn girlfriends, this goes out to you.
Ok, so I have an incredibly high sex drive. If I have enough energy, sex 3-4 times daily for 20+ minutes is what I'm good for.
Now, my girlfriend's drive matches mine, but unfortunately her vagina just can't keep up. After 15 minutes of sex, she begins to get slightly raw and even has some inflammation of the lower lips. If we have sex 3 times in a day, its possible she won't be able to have sex at all the next day or two until she heals. Also, the anticipation of pain during sex very much decreases her sex drive.
It wasnt always like this. But, not to put too fine a point on it, she doesnt get or stay as wet as she used to. I think that this is probably a large amount of the problem. Not enough lube means she has alot more friction, etc etc.
She also hates lube. Refuses to allow me to bring astroglide anywhere near her.
So, I'm in a bind. We both want to have more sex, and its just not working out very well.
First question, any ideas on talking to her about using lube, convincing her to at least try it?
Second question, any ideas on solving this problem without lube? I can spend time warming her up, but it doesnt make a ton of difference.
Hello,
Does your girlfriend play with herself? Does she rub her clit in forplay and during intercourse? Has she ever orgasmed on you? IF she's not on meds and her diet or age are not to blame, then maybe she just needs the right kind of stimulation.
Females have good reason to hate astroglide. It loses its lubrication factor shortly after the friction begins. Not only that, it gets sticky and that is a huge turn off.
I had similar problems to your girlfriend. I searched high and low for a good lube. Try a lubricant called wet platinum. Read the label and get the ones that are water based. Some of the lubrications out there do not react kindly to silicone toys and latex.
The water based wet platinum works really well and great clean up after words.
Have you attempted placing the lubricant on the head of your penis before contact with her? Just a small dab on it before intercourse should be just enough to start with and see how long it lasts for you. If her vagina gets to sore, switch to anal sex. Wet platinum works REALLY well for that too.
More important than what you should do to convince your girlfriend to use lube is finding out what the lube does to her when she uses it. She may be allergic to some ingredient in the astroglide.
When we used it with a silicone toy and a condom, it actually created intense heat followed by horrible burning and irritation for days. The condom actually bonded to the dildo and we had to throw it away. So, be careful about the lube you choose and how you use it!
Take care,
-- Stay Honest
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I'm not sure if this is the right category but it's the closest.
I am currently doing a TAFE course. I need to write a one page report on how I think my company could improve it's products and/ or services.
I work in a Medical Centre with 5 doctors. I have no idea what to write!!! I think our services are really good. I don't think there is any need to improve them.
Please help!!!
Thank you :)
Hello,
You should ask the people that utilize the products and services, like patients and other clients. Find out what their complaints are and go from there. You will start finding ways yourself once the wheels upstairs get turning.
-- Stay Honest
well I was with this guy at the start of the year well we broke up and he still told people that he likes me...me and him had stopped talking for a while and then started talking again because we both hung around with this girl named millisa now when i sy talk i mean hi and bye in the hall she tells me he likes me but she lies alot..well latley he has been talking to me and giving me hugs when ever I ask for them..but whenever anyone else asks for hug he says no...and when any of my friends try to talk to him he walks away without saying much..now can this mean he likes me or am I just a cool friend
Hello,
Sounds to me like you have friends he doesn't like.
If you really like him, you should just tell him.
Stay away from those friends he seems to not like. In fact just stay away from anyone who tells lies, like millisa.
Don't listen to other people. Talk to him yourself and communicate with him honestly, forever.
-- Stay Honest