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how do keep romance alive
I have been with my partner for 3 years and i am still madly in love with him, but i feel that he does not feel the same? How do i get the romance back?
I don't feelgood enough for him any more
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This happens a lot in relationships, and it obviously depends on both people to make it work... but to make it work means to communicate. I know it's hard to be able to communicate about something that I'm sure makes you feel vulnerable, but it must be done if you want to "save" your relationship... or make it better.
The relationship isn't over for a reason... because he still cares about you. If he didn't, he wouldn't be with you for as long as he has been. Maybe he feels the same way as you, and maybe thats why he may seem like he's distant or not in love with you.
Either that or something may be on his mind. Are you guys stressed? Do you have some unresolved conflict from the past? Do you both get enough alone time together?
Because it depends on all these factors... because the way he may be feeling may have nothing to do specifically with you.
You just have to tell him exactly how you feel. If he's not sure what to say, just ask him "do I still make you happy?"... if for some reason he feels the same way as you do, then you guys should go out for a nice dinner one night and discuss it.
Just make sure you don't put any false accusations on him, or get defensive... but simply be yourself, and tell him exactly how you feel. Ask him if he still loves you (which I'm sure he does)... And let him know you're madly in love with him, and he means the world to you.
It's definitely important to remind each other of these things.
good luck.
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I am sorry that you don't feel good enough for him anymore. Does this reflect the way he treats you? or has there been events within the last 3 years that have lowered your self-esteem? Does he say or do anything to make you feel that he doesn't feel the same? These are things to think about.
How is the communication in your relationship? are you able to talk to him and tell him how you feel? If the relationship is strong, then you shouldn't feel not good enough.
To bring the romance back you might want to consider what he would like. Often in relationships One partner will do special things for the other That he or she may want for themselves. For example, you may like romantic candlelit dinners w/ soft music. So you will cook a special dinner with that ambiance. Just because this is your romantic ideal, it doesn't necessarily mean it is your partners ideal. Within three years you should have a good idea of what your partner likes. Do something special for him. If that doesn't reassure you, then it is time for a talk. If he doesn't indicate that there is a problem on his side, Do Not keep bringing it up. It will be something that you have to work on within yourself.
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Hello,
Go to www.drlaura.com and look for her books on the things that women do to mess up their lives and the proper feeding and care of husbands.
You will have it back in no time!
Good Luck
-- Stay Honest
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Treat him like you first did when you met him. Go the extra mile to be nice and spice up your love life. (Flowers, candle lit dinners) When someone notices you trying so hard they usually try hard as well. If this doesn't work after about a month or so, then you should talk to him about it. The best thing you can do is to be honest with him.
Hope I helped and good luck! :)
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