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I am nervous around my husbands family
well i just recently got married to the most wonderful guy you would ever meet but i always seem nervous around his family and i don't seem to get any better around them and i always feel self consious around them.............could someone tell me whats wrong with me and give me some advice
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Your reaction around his parents is normal for newlyweds. Especially if you never got to know them before you married their son. No matter, now is your chance. Invite your mother in law to lunch, tea or have all the in-laws for a bar-b-que. Ask them questions about themselves. People love it when you want to know about them, They are their favorite subject and will talk your ear off. Then, you will not be so nervous. It is important that you stay on good terms with his family. Most marriages that I have seen, (Quite a few) do not last if you cannot get along with his family. Although you are married to him, by marrying him, you accepted him for everything he brought with him. Including his family. So yes, you did marry his family too.
They are going to be part of your life now, forever, especially if you have children with your man. Do you listen to Dr. Laura? Check her out at drlaura.com- You have nothing to fear but her wrath! She tells it like it is, if you have not listened to her show on the radio. In the LA area it is 640 am at noon until three pm M-F.
-- Stay Honest
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I suspect you think they are judging you and you're afraid they won't like you or think you're good enough for him. My advice: be confident that he loves you and picked you. You aren't married to his family--you are married to him and it's his approval that matters and you obviously have that or he wouldn't have married you.
Have any of them done anything to make you uncomfortable or is it just new people nerves?
Do you have anything in common with any of his family members? That would be a way to converse and interact and allow you to be more comfortable.
My husband has family members that I can not tolerate. For the few minutes I have to endure their company I smile and act civil because I know that I don't have to love my husband's family to love him.
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