Get over her.

She's just not into you and if you keep trailing after her and continue with her, it'll ultimately drive her away. Or worse: it would put you in the back up boyfriend tank. If ever comes the time when she's desperate for a date or stand in bf, she'll call on you. And that's just a horrible way to use you.
It's obvious she put you in the friend zone when she said that she wants to be good friends and usually, when a girl puts a guy in the friend zone, she will never see him as a potential partner.

cheers,
stargirl

Let her hate you.

Here's why:

She went out with him but they broke up. She would assume that her best friend is on her side about things so when you kissed him, that was probably a stab in the back for her.

However, she needs to learn to let go. There's a reason why they're called exes. So let her hate you over some stupid little thing because it'll help her move on (hopefully).

cheers,
stargirl

Do you do the same thing every time?

Sometimes it takes more than just going down to get her off.

Tease her. Plant butterfly kisses on her especially ticklish areas on the body. Or even before the clothes come off, give her a massage. The point is to get her excited and wanting so by the time you sample her nectar, she's practically cumming from your actions alone.

Read up on that stuff. Foreplay, intimate massages, etc.

Find out what gets her motor running then she'll have you begging to go down on her.

cheers,
stargirl

Think about what sort of guy you want to get into a relationship with. Is he a bookworm? is he a sports nut? Then go to those events where you would meet those kinds of guys. Poetry reading or a local ball game. Guys can be shy, so introduce yourself. Be friendly, amicable.

Don't be so concerned about getting into a relationship. When it's meant to happen, it'll happen. Sometimes, the answer is right under your nose!

cheers,
stargirl

Talk to him about him being clingy. That's the best way to address the issue.

And to be honest, a relationship can have its lulls but some things can pick it right back up again. This could be included in the clingy talk.

You could also do things out of the ordinary like go to the batting cages or mini golfing. Or go to the local hang out separately and pretend to be strangers. It could spark up the romance that drew you to each other in the first place.

cheers,
stargirl

Please learn how to type. Really. It's a good skill to have.

Achieving orgasm (not orgasim) depends on the person. Best way to learn what causes you to orgasm is to explore different stimulations (anal, clitoral, vaginal, etc) on their own or pair them together (i.e. stimulating your vagina and clitoris at the same time)

cheers,
stargirl

You might've bumped up against the hymen.

Blood is the usual accompaniment of when it's broken. Along with a varying amount of pain.

cheers,
stargirl

1) Condom is one of the BEST birth control methods out there. Prevents STDs as well as pregnancies. Make sure there isn't a rip and use a brand that's trustworthy. In this case, name brand does actually count. Make sure your boyfriend knows what size condom fits him best. yeah, i know it sounds funny but trust me. The wrong fitting condom can lead to strange consequences.

2) I guess it varies between women. For some, it hurts like no other pain on earth. For others, it feels more like an indian burn. The best way to ensure the least amount of pain is to relax. And foreplay is definitely a time to get you nice and relaxed.

3) After two weeks or so, you can take a pregnancy test if you're THAT worried. If you're using a condom and it didn't rip or leak, you should be fine.

4) Buy pregnancy test at your local drug store. Pee on the stick. Wait for a minute for results. The instructions are right there on the box. So you'll be able to be guided through it.

5) More likely than not, you are gonna be sore. if not uncomfortable.

Spend time getting to know each other's bodies before you do the deed during foreplay. Explore. Learn what you like and not like. Do you like to be touched there? Does he like it when you kiss there? stuff like that. If you don't feel comfortable or have second thoughts, tell him. Don't worry about him doing whatever. Don't do it because he wants to.

I've got to admit, you are a bit young. But it's not stupid to want to explore your sexuality AS LONG AS you're doing it safely.

cheers,
stargirl

don't worry about it! Once he gets to know you and you him, things will go the way they go. If he's right for you, he'll understand the inexperience and will be willing to take it your pace.

And you shouldn't worry whether or not he thinks you're pretty. In the end, it's the inner beauty that lasts and shines through the most.

cheers,
stargirl

Nothing wrong with friends with benefits as long as both parties are clear on the terms.

I have a feeling you're going to be kept busy enough during basic to not spend all your emotions and feelings on him. So let things play out.

After all, the spontaneity of a friends with benefits relationship is what makes it exciting! Let it play out. Who knows? It could be fun.

cheers,
stargirl

Have you tried secondhand stores? You'd be amazed at the gems you'd find there.

I found a pair of yellow skinny jeans for my cousin at one once for like...15$

cheers,
stargirl

This is rather simple: You shut him down. He feels defeated. And therefore doesn't feel a need to talk with you anymore.

Kinda common for the type of guys I call "vultures." They play the part of the nice guy or whatever, then use that closeness to swoop in for the kill. Then when you shut them down, they say it's ok when really they aren't ok and go try their tricks on another person.

Best thing to do is to just drop him. Most likely, he'd rather get in your pants than in your head.

cheers,
stargirl

There is no safe way of making them grow. Especially at your age. Trust me, as a woman whose boobies didn't show up til her 20's, I do feel your pain.

But you gotta take a look around. Today's fashion sense is aimed for the ladies rocking A cups. Like those rocker tees and the 'save the world' shirts.

You could also induce the illusion of boobs with a push up bra or halter tops. If you're particularly skinny (which, methinks you are), a halter top is a good way of faking boobs without making the rest of you look like a stick.

I've also heard drinking milk every day and massaging your breasts to increase blood flow helps the growing. But it seems like an old wive's tale to me.

Don't worry about the boobies department! You might just be a late bloomer!

cheers,
stargirl

First: Why do you need to lose weight so fast? why not buy the next size up or an outfit that compliments your shape?

Second: There is no HEALTHY way to lose weight in less than a week. There are probably ways out there but you're going to pay for it in the long run.

cheers,
stargirl

Call for a family meeting. Is there any way for you to sit everyone down and find a way to get the reason why the hitting has happened?

There could be some deeper issue at work here that is happening without your knowledge. Why does your sister target your brother? Instead of getting her to stop, you could ask the root of the problem. What's the motive?

Not too many things "just happen" for no reason. An attack like that could be a deep seated resentment or something.

cheers,
stargirl

Give it time.

Research study shows that a lot of women often feel like they miss their ex and want to get back together with them for about...3 months.

The best thing you should do is just go out, have fun, hang out with your friends and stuff. And soon, one day, you'll realize that you don't miss him or need him anymore.

cheers,
stargirl

A great way to face your trust issues is to go to a professional (i.e. psychologist/psychiatrist/therapist) about it.

But in the case you can't afford it, it sounds like you are ready to take a personal journey to find yourself. Before we can reach out and love others, we need to reach in and love ourself first.

Concerning your orientation, after you have gotten to the point of liking yourself, it might be a good time to open up and try dating women to see if it works for you. You don't need to escalate things so quickly, you could tell them that you're interested in a slow relationship to see if it would lead anywhere.

Cheers,
stargirl

P.S. that jerky ex of yours needs a good dose of humanity.

I guess it's a question of which you would rather: lots of friends that you don't really trust or a handful of friends you do trust.

Sometimes it takes years to break out of your shell. But you can do it by doing small things like...joining clubs of similar interests at your school. that's a quick way to make friends. Plus you would already have a subject to talk about with them. a connection with them.

One of the things to break shyness is to find your niche. It may take a while but once you do, a whole new you would emerge.

So...just relax and don't worry about it! Let people see the real you and the ones that are worth the time and attention will make themselves known.

cheers,
stargirl

You've gotta also factor: What if...call me crazy but...what if the grass really IS greener on the other side? Instead of dreading about all the things that could go wrong, you could also think of the things that could go right with the big move. You just won't know until you try!

And Jack's right (I think this is the second time I've run into him on here, haha) If he really IS "The One" then it wouldn't be a problem. However, just because you believe he's it doesn't mean that he is. There's a whole buffet out there, you should sample before you're sure.

cheers,
stargirl

The link that Jack posted was REALLY helpful. It has a lot of different solutions.

Although if you're too lazy to click on the link and fish through to see what works (and believe me, we all have those days), I can offer a diet/exercise regimen that is healthy AND works.

First off, don't compare yourself to others. It'll only cause health issues and heartbreak.

Second, have you tried eating about 5 or 6 times a day?

Yes, I am serious. A solid breakfast within 3 hours of waking up, a snack 3 hours later, a light lunch 3 hours after that, a snack 3 hours after that, and dinner 3 hours after that. And no eating 4 hours before bedtime. What this does is it jump starts your metabolism by getting your body used to breaking down food constantly instead of starving yourself, then gorge, then starving, and gorging. Eat in small portions. Like kid sized portions.

Third, are you active?

Walking, biking, sit ups, push ups, the works. No, I'm not telling you to dedicate and slave yourself to a militaristic regimen. Another good idea (especially if you're one of those busy bees) is to work out 15 minutes straight every day. 7 days a week. You can spend 15 minutes hula hooping. It doesn't matter. Just 15 solid minutes of working out. If you want to do more, go for 30 a day. Just make sure you do them every day. If you only work out on the weekends, it doesn't benefit your health or your weight. Weekend workouts is what it feels like: Torture and punishment to your body.

And drink plenty of water and milk! Water keeps you hydrated and milk builds strong bones!

Don't expect results in a week. Let's be honest. In real life, results don't show up til...at least 3 weeks. Maybe a whole month or even more! The point of this is to live a healthier lifestyle. Looking good is just a benefit.

Hope that works out for you!

cheers,
stargirl

I like helping people. Yeah, that's about it.

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