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Having sex for the first time.
Okay, so im going to have my first time in august with my boyfriend. I just have a few sex questions.
its pretty much impossibal to get preg. if you use a condom right?
does it hurt the first time?
can i have sex without birth control?
My periods are usually unusual, so im going to be scared if my period comes late [it usually always does] so how will i know if im preg. or not?
how do you use a preg test? im going to use one just incase.
are you sore in the morning?
anything else i need to know?
thank you :] and im 15 1/2 female. Please don't tell me that its stupid and im too young because i really love my boyfriend
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Okie, yesh, your can get pregnant with a condom, its only 99% chance it works only way is abstinences it means dont do it at all, and u can have sex without birth control but if the condom breaks you can get pregnant, and usually the first time hurts
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Now, please don't take this the wrong way, but I'm highly concerned of your lack of knowledge about sexual interaction before engaging in these acts. I will try to do my best to answer your questions thoroughly so there are no misunderstandings.
1. Condoms are actually only 97% effective is used 100% correctly and with each and every act. Face it, we're simply not perfect human beings. Do you know that "perfect usage" means that if the male pulls out he must instantly put a new condom on (remember, without his half-sex-up penis coming in contact with the outside of the fresh condom)? There are quite a few of those little "facts" about perfect usage too. Most people aren't aware of that so they aren't considered perfect users either. With TYPICAL use, condoms are actually about 88% effective. It doesn't sound too bad until you take into consideration that it means that in every 12 sex acts with using a condom, a baby will be born because of the condom's failure. That's a lot and pretty decent chances if you engage in sex frequently.
Percentages taken from:
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2. For most women their first few sexual contacts are uncomfortable but it usually isn't as severe as to make them burst into tears or something. Your body is not naturally wide enough to accommodate a penis without stretching. Being a virgin means that your body hasn't ever been stretched either so it will go through a lot to fit a penis. There is also the possibility of your hymen needing to be broken, see this question here (my answer) for more information on your hymen:
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3. You can most certainly have sex without birth control but you better be aware that your pregnancy risks increases dramatically. I would guess that one of the safest ways to NOT get pregnant during sex would be to use a male condom (88% pregnancy prevention) and the hormonal birth control pill (92% pregnancy prevention). Male condoms help to be a barrier from infections and diseases so it lessens the risk of contracting harmful things; however, it is not completely effective on that either so you should always take caution on choosing a sex partner. Anyway, using both of these types of birth control together would be a wise choice. Here is a question about how to get hormonal birth control:
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4. To figure out if you're pregnant or not you should use as many methods of protection as possible. Your periods being irregular is not going to help the situation so you best protect yourself to the fullest. For you, I would suggest waiting 2 weeks after your period SHOULD come and then purchasing a home pregnancy test to see the results. The 2 weeks should compensate for your natural irregular cycle.
5. A home pregnancy test is not completely accurate so please know that. If it shows a positive then you truly are pregnant; however, sometimes it can show a negative when you are pregnant. I know a girl who had her home pregnancy tests show negative the ENTIRE time she was pregnant!
Some home pregnancy tests are better than others. According to a couple of studies done, First Response and Early Result Pregnancy Test are the two best kinds to purchase because they are slightly more sensitive than the others.
6. In my experience, the ONLY time I've actually been sore in the morning is when the sex was exceptionally good.
7. Of course! For your own safety you should read up on some facts about things like:
STD percentages:
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STD photos (seriously, it's best to know what they look like in case you experience weird symptoms you can compare it):
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Pregnancy costs:
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Here is a link about some things you should think about before engaging in sex. The site really makes you think about things you overlooked before:
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...and here is a link about virginity too. It gives good examples of what they're talking about so you're able to understand them clearly:
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It's better to be extra safe now than extra sorry later so please take the time to research. I only want you to be happy and healthy so please do not take my sending you to a lot of links as rude, I am only caring about your well-being. If you have any more questions PLEASE feel free to drop them in my inbox :)
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1) Condom is one of the BEST birth control methods out there. Prevents STDs as well as pregnancies. Make sure there isn't a rip and use a brand that's trustworthy. In this case, name brand does actually count. Make sure your boyfriend knows what size condom fits him best. yeah, i know it sounds funny but trust me. The wrong fitting condom can lead to strange consequences.
2) I guess it varies between women. For some, it hurts like no other pain on earth. For others, it feels more like an indian burn. The best way to ensure the least amount of pain is to relax. And foreplay is definitely a time to get you nice and relaxed.
3) After two weeks or so, you can take a pregnancy test if you're THAT worried. If you're using a condom and it didn't rip or leak, you should be fine.
4) Buy pregnancy test at your local drug store. Pee on the stick. Wait for a minute for results. The instructions are right there on the box. So you'll be able to be guided through it.
5) More likely than not, you are gonna be sore. if not uncomfortable.
Spend time getting to know each other's bodies before you do the deed during foreplay. Explore. Learn what you like and not like. Do you like to be touched there? Does he like it when you kiss there? stuff like that. If you don't feel comfortable or have second thoughts, tell him. Don't worry about him doing whatever. Don't do it because he wants to.
I've got to admit, you are a bit young. But it's not stupid to want to explore your sexuality AS LONG AS you're doing it safely.
cheers,
stargirl
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ok 1. its not impossibale you can still get pregnant there is always a slite chance it tells you on the box its like a 98% chance or something that it works.
2. yes it hurts i wouldnt know but from wat i heard from my friends it hurts like a motha fro
3.yes you can have sex with birth control its an option you have
4. you know if your preg. or not if your more than two weeks late like that doesnt tell you if you are or not but its a slight chance so i would take a pregnancy test if there are symptoms that you are pregnant like nuasia stuff like that
5. to use one i believe that you buy it first haha and then like it has directions im sure that you wait a certain time when you remove the cap th at it has and this little flat part that you pee on and you wait how long it says too ( let me remind you that this all knologe from others experiences and not my own so if im totally off gaurd on somet things i totally apologize! and im glad you love your boyfriend i hope all works out for the best love <33
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Okay, so I guess I'll just answer question by question.
- No, it is absolutely NOT impossible to get pregnant while using a condom. There are no condoms (or really any kind of birth control) that's 100% effective in preventing pregnancy. Plus, there are other circumstances to take into consideration, such as the condom breaking, or falling off or even being defective (make sure its a trusted brand - and not expired!)
- Yes. If you're hymen hasn't broken already, and if you're not used to much penetration in that area, it is supposed to hurt. If it hurts too much make sure you let your boyfriend know. And if he does break your hymen, you'll probably start to bleed so don't get too freaked out about that.
- Yes, but if you're concerned about pregnancy (which you obviously are) you have to make sure you use some kind of contraceptive (aka a condom).
- There are other signs you can use to see if you are. Read this to see: [Link](Mouse over link to see full location).
- How each one works/says you are pregnant usually differs, so it depends on the one you get. But basically it's a white stick like thing that you pee on and it will tell you if you are or not.
- I guess that depends on your body and how much it hurt when penetrated. I think it differs from person to person.
...i guess that's all I can really say for now. If you want to go through with it then it's all up to you. But make sure you think of all the factors beforehand. And most of all, BE SAFE !
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No, it's not impossible to get pregnant if you use a condom, There could be a rip in the condom or anything.
Usually, yes It does hurt the first few times.
Yes, you can have sex without birth control, I'd advise you to get on it though if your going to be having unprotected sex anytime, I'm almost six months pregnant at the moment.
Take a pregnancy test about three or four weeks after you have sex, Just to be sure.
I wasn't sore the next morning, but everyones different.
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hey there!! =] im going to try to answer all of your Q's.
- it's not IMPOSSIBLE to get pregnant while using a condom.. because there is a Small chance you can.. not big though. also, the condom may break..
- yes, it does hurt the first time, so it's okay if you feel uncomfortable.. but make sure he takes into consideration your feelings, not just his.
- you can have sex without birth control.. but you can take it if you want to be extra safe.. these are prescribed and have to be taken everday whether or not you have sex.
- how to know if you're pregnant.. well there's no sure sign right away. the most soon one may be implantation bleeding. which is when you bleed, but not as much as your period. this happens 6 to 10 days after conception. headaches... this site has more info [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
- to use a pregnancy test, you have the choice of urinatiing on the stick, or dipping it into a cup that has your urination. the box usually has instructions just in case :)
- usually, after having sex, you are sore because the area isnt used to this happening.. so dont be alarmed..
anything else, just msg my inbox. you can also google 'pregnancy symptoms'
good luck and stay safe !
flirty :)
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