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>>> *How Do I Stop Myself From Falling In Love With Him?* <<<
Okay, so recently I enlisted into the military. That day I found a really great guy who I really like alot, even though I've just had the chance to really talk to him once.
I can see myself falling fast and hard for him. Here's the problem though, we only agreed to be friends with benefits, and I'm not going to push anything on him because he leaves for basic in October. But, how do I control myself and my feelings when I'm with him.
I'm 17, but he's the first thing that I've had that was even close to a boyfriend. Don't question my morals for having a friend with benefits. My thing is that I want to have fun this summer, and he's the guy that's supposed to show me a good time.
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Understand that I am not questioning your morals... I've had a friend with a benefit plan once before too. But I would like to ask a few questions...
If you can see yourself falling hard for this guy and you know that the situation isn't exactly ideal for a healthy, long-term relationship... How is sleeping with him going to help you?
I ask because I've been there... And when you are intimate with a person, it's difficult to keep them at arm's length emotionally. The real question to ask yourself is: can you do that?
If you can, super. Have fun. If not, run while you still can...
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Nothing wrong with friends with benefits as long as both parties are clear on the terms.
I have a feeling you're going to be kept busy enough during basic to not spend all your emotions and feelings on him. So let things play out.
After all, the spontaneity of a friends with benefits relationship is what makes it exciting! Let it play out. Who knows? It could be fun.
cheers,
stargirl
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