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Okay, for everyone or anyone who answers this, I really want a good answer. So here it goes.. My best best best friend is moving..because her divorsed parents are getting back together. and she seems fine with it. Our town (i dont want to sound posh about this one..) is a pretty rich town, homes go up to 1.1 million. and so her mom doesn't want to pay that kind of money for a house. Its so scary, because we are so close, I don't know what to do!
signed,
best friends for n/ever? (link)
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aww i know what you mean. because i had to go through same thing. well not same but similar. we didnt live in same neighborhood but we were so close that we called each other SISTERS. then when we graduated middle school we had to be seperated because we were going to different high school. but we still kept in touch through the email and IMing each other and phone calls. and once in a while we got together and have fun..
also, i had this other friend. we were really really close, but she had to move to different country... (we never saw each other ) but we are still keeping in touch after 3 years and sending cards and gifts to each other.
and calls and all that...
and be happy for her parents and she will appriciate you for that.
and i hope this helped
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there is a guy that i have liked for 2 monthes now and every night he asks me to sneak out with him.....to make out and crap like that and i talk to his friends and i found out that he never liked me but he asked me out 2 weeks ago but the only time he will hang out with me is at night when we sneak out!!!! sometimes i say no but he always says he has a surprise for me which always works but im tired of just talking to him at night i want to hang out with him and talk during the day as well but he wont!!! so i no i should break up with him but i dk!!! please help me!!! (link)
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OF COURSE! YOU DESERVE MUCH BETTER THAN THAT GIRL!
trust me it will all be for best! if he really cares about you, he will NEVER wants to do those stuff to protect you! and if you are free from that guy, you will end up meeting a BETTER guy who doesnt want to sneak out or do anything bad.
and who loves you for you!
so get out there and place your opinion!
if he wants his little night play mate than he can just go find another one because you deserve so much better than that!
and other guys will see what you did and probably think its cool of you to place your opinion!!
so go ahead girl! get your life back on track of your DREAM!
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A couple months ago me and this guy got together. Turns out he said he just wants to be friends. Anyway, Im going to see him next week he lives in west virgina i live in north carolina. When I say get together I dont mean go out I mean we just act like a couple. Anyway, I was talking online and I was like "I cant wait to see you I mean see all of you guys" and he was like "yeah I cant wait to see you either" does this mean he wants to "be with me" again? and not just friends? (link)
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well i guess it all depends. i mean he could just have said that because he was nice. and if you really want to know that he likes likes you than you can do is make him JEALOUS. you know, flirt with his other friends in front of him. and see how he reacts. or you can just straight out ask him if he likes you more than friend. BUT even if he does, there is many chance that you will get hurt after the relationship, because he lives far away from you. well not that far but i mean doesnt go to same school. its either that or you will find a new guy at your school. but Since its summer!
SOAK UP THE SUN AND LAY BACK!
HAVE FUN! and what if he dont like you, there will be other guy who does and just ask him casually
"hey so and so, do you think of me as more than friend?"
and he will either say yes or, actually no.
and if he says yes, thats great.
and if he says no...than say
"ok good thats what i thought but my friends keeps telling me that you liked me more than as friend"
you know , so you can save some embarrasment =)
so i hope it works out for you
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I love making up my own songs and singing them..the problem is, when i write them down, they look so retarded and then I forget the tune and everything screws up..my question is, how do you write lyrics that match with the tunes? I would love to be a singer one day but that won't happen because I'm asian, but whatever..um what are some tips for writing song lyrics and thinking of tunes? Thanks..I rate (link)
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well first of all, i am asian too, and well you might be the same person who asked about the mascara but anyways... i love playing instrument like Piano and Guitar and all that. and i tried writing own lyrics too. but its hard to remember. but you should make the melodies first. see if melodies you made is Minor or Major. so if its major than pick out one of your lyrics that is happy and fun, try to fit that in the major.
and if your melody is minor, pick out one of your lyric that is sad and depressing and try to fit that in to your melody.
easy way is , you should just pick some chords and write the music to chords, changing chords every measures, (unless it doesnt go with music)
and when you are done with chords, put some notes in than badaboom you got a music~
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I noticed how people bribe in their questions, as in "I'll rate a 5 if you answer". Isn't advicenators supposed to be about HELPING? What happened to the world? (link)
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haha i know! i didnt even know what that meant because i was newbie... and i was like what the heck is that???
and i noticed the ratings in my column.
i answered to the people who didnt say that but i still got five because i Give good advice. not from bribe and you are so right!
YEA!! Speak your opinion!!!
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Does anyone have really good ideas to do over the summer?
WHAT I NEED:
1.Something that pays
OR
2. Something really fun and inexpensive
thnx! (link)
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yea i totally get your drift. because there is nothint to do in my small town. BUT you can gather up your friend and go to the swimming pool( if your friend have swimming pool, it would be better) and go to mall, with your friend, and make them try on some craziest clothes you can find and let them find one for you too
and go to the movies. there are good movies playing right now
"Sisterhoold of Traveling Pants"
and on june 16th or something
"the Perfect Man"
and i read that book and its so interesting and fun. so try those..
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is there such a thing where your so depressed is it posibly you could die from it
and is it bad if your so depressed all you want to do is curl up in a ball and hope that god could fix all things and is it posible for him to do that for me i think it is but iv asked many things from him and i dont kno if he would help me with this one or do i have to do all the work again
you kno who this is (link)
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there is such as those things. Depression can lead to suicide, cutting, burning, drugs, and all kinds of stuff.
i was in depression. but not too bad. i just ended up writing threating emails to my friends that im going to kill my self, but never did.
well you know the world is against you. all the things that is happening is dreadful and sucky.
well these are stuff you can do to prevent you from getting more depressed.
Listen to the music. Crank UP the Volume!
and Dance (in your private room) till you are tired! Jump Around!!! Skip around!!! HAVE FUN!
and second. join a club with your interest and you will start making new friends who will end up as your best friend and who will cry their heart out if you start doing those stuff... cutting etc.
and if you cant do all of those, EVEN IF YOU WANT TO . talk to and trustworthy adult. it can be your parent, teacher, guidance counselor, aunt, uncle, whom ever.
and yes i know all those because i cut my self and my best friend found out and she started crying in school so i felt bad and never did it again.
and there are few times to time that i feel the world sucks and aint gonna get better. but thats not true. now i pray. pray to GOD. and later when i think of all those, it had happened with purpose. like teach me lesson, or becaused i lied too much i deserved it. but things will get better sooner or later. i cant promise you if God will answer it right away, but its better to think someone have your back right?
and if you need someone to talk to, i am here to talk to you. so drop me an email if you need someone to talk to
my email is
pinkfairy1773@aol.com
hope this helped
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I'm currently on a swim team and eatin much healthier, but today my friend and I went to the pool and she only brought sodas to drink it was very hot so I broke my 3 week chain of no sodas. I feel terrible, I also ate a few cookies, how can I keep from eating the bad stuff when the oppurtunities right in front of me? .. Ill rate :] (link)
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ok this is really hard. i know i've tried. i had the same problem. my relatives went to picnic and all the people were pigging out on chips and sodas and all that. but i didnt want to eat any of it because i was on diet and exercising stage. so i just picked up a chip and was about to eat it so i threw it on the ground. (yea there is some self control there =)
well i know its hard. because i cracked too. popcorns and sodas...so i will probably say, its not bad to eat all those. just eat only a little.
my cousin used to eat the chips right out of the bag but now he only takes out certain amount and eat only that, and now he lost bunch of pounds.
see it doesnt matter if you eat snacks.
just eat only a little, and if you think you are eating too much, just DUMP it on the ground so you wont be tempted to.
i hope this helped. and if your mouth is craving for something, try eating those 100 cal only snacks, and fruits. but still, if you eat lot of those, it will do same affect as chips and sodas.
so keep in mind, little amount wont hurt you and eat healthy snacks instead.
this is my last trick up in the sleeve =)
well if your friend takes out a chips and you really dont want to eat it... tell your friend to spit on the food. not like drool but you know, the raspberry all over the food, so you will get grossed out before eating those and you WONT eat those lol
hope it helped
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I am getting ready to paint my room but since its small afterwards I want to move stuff around but the way I want to do it this big dresser will be sideways what can I do? (link)
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oh i love doing that stuff... you know interior stuff...well you should really get this CD they only cost 9.99 or less at wal mart and the CD is called 3D home Interior Deluxe. and with that you can pick the size of room, (which means you can make it exact size of your room. and there is paints you can put it on your wall. and all that
but thats just for the Comp user. (well i didnt want to call Comp geeks... but i guess i am)
well its kinda hard to Imagine a room so can you at least draw me a little square with size and where are the windows and the door? so i can think about it and what kind of theme would you like it to be?
because every person's room gotta have a theme to match and all that and well look good and since you are putting effort to paining might well as do the other right?
and here is what you can do alone.
pick a theme.
1. what color (cant be too bold that makes your eye go blind if you look at it too much)
2. surroundings (what can you do to accesorize?)
3. where will all the stuff go? (including your dresser)
IMPORTANT OF ALL!!! DO NOT ... I REPEAT.. DO NOT
MOVE THE FURNITURES AND ALL THAT
before you draw it out to see if it would look good.
not big fancy drawings but just big square for your room. and rectangle for your bed, and stuff like that... so you dont have to move your stuff over and over if you dont like it.
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hi i am asian and i curl my eyelashes.. the thing is when i put on mascara, my eyelashes like overlap.. they dont clump together its just when i put on mascara the lashes overlap eachother.. how can i help this? i need helpful tips like not type of mascara to use (link)
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OMG you have SAME problem as me!
because i am Asian too... so if you see this send me an email so i can get help from you and you can help from me and i think its cool to know other asian girl because i am the only asian in my school except for my sister but she dont go to my school anymore...
and well... she's my annoying sister =)
oh yea my email address is
pinkfairy1773@aol.com
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what are some good fruits to eat to get healthy and lose wieght ? (link)
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well most of fruits are healty but you cant lose weight from eating fruits...
well i guess you mean substituting fruits for snacks?
well Oranges are good and in season.
Apples. not the REd REd ones but kinda red ish greenish ones... sorry i will tell you the actual name if i can remember it...
it started with G.
anyways...
those are in seasons and good and healty
and bananas...
and with apples, wash it throughly and eat the skins too because matter of the fact. all the good stuff is in the skin.
and most importantly!!!
Fruit is Can make you gain weight if you eat it constantly and 24/7
and dont eat it with every meal
eat it on mornings. and lunches... but NOt with
DINNER it rather makes you gain weight
so keep in mind
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i have underarm flab and some fat on my back...i mean im a pretty fit girl like my legs are skinny and my stomach is fine but my back and underarms are having a lil trouble...so what is a good excersise to get this crap off my back and underarms... HELP SUMMER IS COMING!!!!!! ill rate u high!!! (link)
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ok i have same problem.. well i am fat all over but i have those arms and stuff. well i dont know about back but with arms i can hook you up with.
LIFT SOME WEIGHTS GIRL!
do some dumbell. not heavy ones like 50 pound but even with 3 pound dumbell and you do it every day 15-20 min per day (well if you are a starter you should only do it 5 min per day and raise it little by little because if you accidently go over board and pull your muscle its bad)
so do it only 5 min per day
and after week raise it to 10
and 15 and so on...
and it will get better so let me know how it went.
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I'm a 16 year old female..I am 5'2 weighing 105 pounds. People say I'm thin...what they don't know is I have 3 layers of fat on my tummy..I often find myself "sucking in" all day. What can I do? Everyone always says crunches..but they're not helping. Please give some detailed advice and tell me what to do..tell me how to do it. Thanks so much-I need to get abs in 2 weeks! Yikes! (link)
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well no offense but you are thin. but i think i know ur drift.(i cant tell my weight because its embarrasing) well because my friends says i am not fat at all and i actually wears medium sized clothes. and all that BUT because i suck in my stomach like you do ... and since they think i am not all that fat they ask me to go swimming with them. but NOO way that i am going to show them my fat thigh and "rolls" with bikini swim suit. i mean i can wear tankini but still i will be compared to the other girls and my tighs will still show... so i totally understand you.
i find my self sucking in all day too.
and i get so jealous at those girls who are so super skinny in magazine and my friends who can show off their body in bikini..
so i started exercising... well i always start doing that but i quit like in 1 day. i did crunch, the video thing, and salsa, the video thing. and finally i decided to just do the mini stepper thing i bought few months ago. i know people dont have that always but if your house have stairs or something like that then try walking on those. well hmm this is hard to explain. but i will do my best
just use one stair and go up down up down and stuff..
well if your family is financially ok then you should get a tredmills or mini stepper.
and dont try to just get abs... since you are doing the exercising go for whole body..
and thats more important because if you do whole body, it will get in shape and looks better .
i mean imagine this. girl with skinny flat stomach with thick thighs and arms... not that you are that or anything but it will be better if your whole body got the energy.
so do that for 30 min per day. and you will start losing weight..
i mean i started doing that for 2 weeks straight and i lost 4 pound already. but i might gained some because i lost the motivation and started snacking like pig and not doing the exercising..
but i am starting again
and oh yea,,, importantly! do not snack like pig like me... its a major kill for the exersize...
so lay off those chips and all that junk food and eat healty and you cant skip a meal because the calroies you take is calroies you lose. so if you only eat a little you will lose only little weight even if you exercies like maniac.
so remind your self to eat healty and if you mouth is craving for something, eat fruits and veggies. well fruits taste better .
and let me know how it went ok?
because i am trying to lose some weight and if you know any way to get motivated let me know.
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I don't exactly know how to explain so I'm just gonna try. My mom is a great mom and I love her so much! But all she does is try to please people and my brother's take advantage of that. One brother always makes her go out and buy alcohol for them and he gets drunk all the time with his friends. My other brother treats her like she's trash! He talks back cusses her out, calls her names, etc. It's scary sometimes because they get her to the point of tears and sometimes she actually does cry and my brother's and their friends keep going. She's told me before that the only thing that's keeping her from just ending her life is us kids and if we turn on her then what does she have? Nothing, and I'm scared she's gonna take her life. I want to help her get control of her life but I don't know how i mean I'm only 13! Please help! *thank you* (link)
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OMG... i am soo sorry to hear that... i know what you are going through... my mother also said that to me... and ending life stuff with out kids and all that. but it wasnt because of the advantages and stuff but i totally get your story. First, i would do is talk to an OTHER adult that you can TRUST! it can be anyone, school teacher, guidance counselor, your aunt. but remember this You ARE THE ONLY ONE WHO CAN HELP HER!!! KEEP REMIND HER THAT YOU LOVE HER, AND STUFF. AND TALK TO AN TRUSTWORTHY ADULT!! AND FAST!!!
OR THIS CAN GO BAD!
and i know this better than anyone else because i am same age as you and have only one parent and have mother who lives for their children.
so trust me on this. i know what you are going through and please tell an adult and tell them what is going on with your family, and tell them to help your mom get counseling to help her get back her control. and also for your brothers. to get some rehabs on drinking and some MANNERS toward adult figures. so tell an adult and fast so your mom and brother's can get counseling and talk things over. trust me, it will get better after that.
and remember
to tell your mother that you LOVE HER
and let me know if you need more help because i am here for you.
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i would really like to be more healthy. you know, toned muscles, eat healthy foods, etc. the thing is, i know exactly how to do it, what foods to eat, what to avoid, great exercises, etc. the only problem is i can NEVER be motivated enough to stick to a healthy lifestyle. reading through all this health advice really gets me excited about being healthier and such, but then when i actually go try it, i am never motivated enough to follow through! any tips? (link)
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OMG do you know all that??? please share it with me and i will help you with motivation part. because i get all motivated about all that
but i just dont know the right food and all that.
so please email me with those please???
i am sick and tired of being just lady friend who is nice and "plump" (i am fat i admit that)
my email is
pinkfairy1773@aol.com
PLEASEE EMAIL ME WITH THOSE INFOS??? PLEASE?
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Is Algebra I , Physical Honors,& English Honors hard ? I'm just so worried and don't try to be overdevastingly tramatic. Just be honest with me. Is it? (link)
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Algebra I i took it when i was in 8th grade... and now i am going off to 9th grade and have to take geomatry honor.
i dont know about physical and english .
but i guess english honor's is kinda like language art advance class.
well it was fairly easy for me. the language arts i mean.
well i guess it depend whether you are a person who actually does homework.
it would be easy for you if you were A B students or even better, straight As..
and for Algebra I hmm... i cant say its easy because it is sooo not...
but if you are good with memory (since there is like whole bunch of formulas... well not the areas and volumes but i mean like slopes)
i will give example (--- meant fraction divison line)
Y2-Y1
Mx= ------
X2-X1
and there is lot more where that came from.
but if you are fairly good with math you should try it out.. i mean i was lost few times but i managed As and Bs in that class for whole year
and here is good thing about it.
(you have to pass some test to get finish the Algebra I so you can move on to geomatry)
if you finish the Algebra I you can go to Geomatry which i heard is easier since its all shapes. and well you have to take it someday so why not now?
hope this helped..
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Ive always had a small group of friends that all got along. Well in the past 3 days it all fell apart. One friend got mad at me for something totally retarded, and then all of a sudden the other friend had a problem with me too. Now come to find out they've been talking behind my back about it. Im not saying they're totally at fault for whats going on because I know I am partly responsible for it, but I dont see why they couldnt come to me and say whatever it is they had to say instead of ganging up on me and then talking behind my back. I just dont know what to do. Ive tried talking to them about it and that didnt make anything better they just acted as if I was full of it and ignored what I said. So should I just give up on 2 people who were my bestfriends and get over it, or keep trying no matter how bad things already are? Please help. And if anyone wouldn't mind it would be easier to give off the whole situation over aim to give a better view point. Thanks again everyone. (link)
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YOU SHOULDNT APOLOGIZE for what you didnt do. if they were REALLY your friends, then they should trust you the words you are saying and forgive you. so go ahead and go make new friends since the school's out and you will have new start.
well here is story of my life that you can relate to.
beginning of middle school i was scared because i didnt know anybody. i was new. then i met this girl who was also new and had all the same class with me for whole 6th grade. than we became unseperable. we joined dance team and all that. then beginning of 7th grade, we didnt have all the same classes but we were still pretty close, then almost at the end of the 7th grade we had fight about some stupid thing. i dont know why we fought in the first place. and since she was hispanic she started talking stuff about me infront of hispanic people in spanish so i wouldnt understand (i was in this group with all the foreign students and all of them were hispanic except me. i am Asian)
then i didnt even start the 8th grade with her mocking and all that. then before 8th start she called me and apologizd than later she called me (the 8th grade starte already) and she started cursing at me for not saying hi to her when i didnt even noticed she said hi. next thing i know is that we are back to same place where she cursed at me with her hispanic friends and i was left out. but since i was straight A students i was put in the advanced classes and since she was dumb as rock she was put in the intensive classes so we didnt even have single classes together and thank god. I wasnt a social loser, i mean i had friends and the popular kids didnt say stuff about me and they were fairly nice to me, except for this boy who made fun of my name but he was just being pain in the butt, because he complimented me on my shoes and my drawings. but he kept going with the name calling thing but he stopped later. well anyways popular kids were nice to me and talked to me once in a while and stuff. then i met this girl, i didnt notice her at fisrt, but later i found out i had all the same class with her, i didnt know why but i wanted to talk to her and share her my secrets. and as the years passed we became inseperable, more closer than the friend (backstabber now) i had last time. and even though we are off to high school and we are going to go to different high school we are still keeping in touch and we call each other sister since we are so close.
and what i am saying is, things may look bad now with the people saying stuff behind your back, trust me i know, because i was in that situation once. but it will get better, just ignore them and make your self some new friends who forgives you and dont say stuff behind your back.
i hope this helped and if you need more help i am here to listen.
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I have a few pimples and alot of open pores and my skin is very oily. I want to get rid of the open pores and my oily skin (I really dont care about the pimples I dont have many). My question is does anyone know a product that will take away the excess oil in my skin and close my pores. It can be 2 products. I dont think there's a product that will do both. (link)
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well you can consult your facial doctor...sorry i dont know what they are called. you should buy those teen magazines such as Cosmo Girl and Seventeen. they have lots of information about what you can do with different types of skins and stuff... it may not be on the issues all the time but if you keep looking it will help
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my moms best friends son is 14/m (hes going into 9th grade) and we went to dinner with them tonight and he was really quiet and while all the adults were talking and all the kids were running around he picked up his knife and started kinda sawing at the back of his hand and the second he saw that i saw what he was doing, he stopped. and later that night he asked if he could walk home to practice his guitar before they all got home (we are neighbors and we all live close to where we were having dinner but not close enough that most people would walk home right before a big thunderstorm) and when his dad said that they were all going home anyway he looked kind of mad. so i guess i have two questions, can you cut the back of your hand (like cutting suicide wise) and should i be worried about him like what should i do
please answer me really soon because if something happened we would all be heartbroken
and p.s. his mom said that he was never upfront snotty, but he never likes going places with his family and stuff and that he was doing well that night. does that mean anything?
sorry, this is a stupid question but i'm just worried about him!
i rate!!! (link)
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First of all ! do NOt think that he cant kill him self from cutting. like what other advice said.
it had been proven that person CAN actually kill them self from cutting.
if he cuts too deep he can even end up in Emergency room
and if he accidently cuts his blood stream close to his wrist he can die.
and second of all you shouldn't tell his parents. try to work it out for your self
because he CAN kill him self he he find out his parents knew
because he might not want to deal with all the stuff his parents are doing
that why perhapes he didnt tell them in the first place
and third no of course your question is not stupid. i have friend like that who Enjoys cutting him self and burning him self and making weird signs with needle i think he told me he sewed him self or some sort and i was so scared and he do drugs like weed and smokes and get stoned and drink...and he has bad rep around school and even though he has friends... at first i thought he was major weirdo and problem kid because we live in same neighborhood and his mail was delivered to my house saying that he needed to go to qourt for something...and i told my self that i wasnt gonig to be like him. then i found my self cutting ... well i didnt cut deep or anything but cut to bleed a little and leave scabs or stuff...then i got my friend crying and stuff i didnt mean to make her sad and stuff but i read it on magazine this girl was doing it because it made her feel good and i guess i believed that and trust me... no good feeling came out of it...
sorry gettin carried away with my story...
well you can try to get to know him. like i did. well it didnt happen like gradually well kinda..
first you can go over to his house "saying your mom wanted to give certain things to his mom"
(it would be better if she wasnt home so you can talk to him easier)
and well you can bring some sort of stuff that he can be interested in.
if you have guitar it would be soo much affective.
here is my story again but it provides some info about how i got to know him.
i took guitar lesson and i brung guitar to school and he kinda noticed it.
and i made a necklace out of guitar pick. like punch a hole through the guitar pick and
hang it on your necklace like a charm. and i wore this doggy collar thing (i actually didnt buy at the pet store i bought it at clair's)
and wore it and he thought it was cool and i asked him if he wanted to wear it and he said ok
and he let me wear his skull necklace for class. and i am pretty sure kids who cuts them selves likes
those stuff... like stuff from Spencer's gift shop. and well that was my story providing info on how u can get his attention
and you can ask him to take you to the place where he takes his guitar lessons.
and you guys get to walk or whatever. and have "intimate" conversation.
oh yea now i remember how i got to know him better.
i was going to office to make copies for my teacher then i went to guidance office because i didnt know where to get copies
and i was favorite students around the guidance counselor. (they were also selling tickets to the dance then.)
so when i was wating for the copies to get uh...copied. that boy came in and we only said hi.
and i got my copy and i started leaving and he was still waiting for his ticket but i walked slower on purpose
(now i think about it , i always wanted to help him but i couldnt because i didnt really know him)
well then he catched up to me (as i hoped to be) then we started talking ...dont ask me what we started talking
because i have no idea. i forget stuff easily. then the lady who sold him the ticket called out to him saying
he forgot his change, then i said "well bye" then he said "wait" and i was surprised because we werernt that close
so i was like ok then he came out and we talked till we had to split our way for the class (we had different class)
than we kept talking even though we almost had to yell to hear each other.
and here was another stuff you can do. you can get to know him on the way to the guitar lesson.
and "accidently" bumping in to him in neighborhood.
and if you get to know him better and stuff you should ask him why he do that.
and its most likely he will say something like "because it feels good "
or something like that and he might not want to talk about it and if you feel that
he dont than drop the topic.
and well i dont know how i made that boy say this but he said
almost everone hates me. or something like that
and i said well i dont. and he started talking to me more then.
so if you can make him say that
i think i asked him why do you cut your self or something like that
or straight out asked him do you think people dont like you.
so you should ask something like that
than you have excuse to write him a letter like i did.
saying that people who hates you and dislike you are all bunch of losers and
they dont know you so you shouldnt even care for those people
and what im saying is, make him feel good about himself
and show (well tell in this case) that you are there for him and
you wont force him to talk. so write something like i will always be
there for you if you need someone to talk to . and say like Keep In Touch
'You know where i live and if you have email , send me an email
and give him your email address.
he might never send email to you, or come to talk to you.
but its most likely that he will. becaue that boy emailed me
and we are now good friends.
even though i might never be able to stop him from that
he will know who to talk to when he needs help..
and oh yea,, when your mom's best friend's son admits
something like he do drugs and gets stoned, dont freak out
say oh ? how did you get the material. and sound like
you think thats bad. because he will open up more if
you dont criticize him that way. trust me. its all good if you just
dont sound freak out.
and also you can do this to talk to him (but this only works if you are friend with him)
you can SCARE him. and write him an email saying stuff that he do. cutting , and saying that your life is living hell and it sucks so bad and it aint going to get better and that you decided to kill your self.
and if he calls you, dont answer the phone. and dont reply anything. (such as emails and letters)
and make him think that you really killed your self.
then surprise him by going over to his house and ask him to come with you to some coffee cafe or where ever you want to talk to him.
and ask him if you scared him... its most likely that he will say yes
and if he say no ,than forget him because than his not a good friend
but if he says yes,,, than tell him i am sorry but i had to do that because
i wanted you to feel same thing i feel when ever you cut your self and
injure your self.
and talk about it.
well i hope that helped and if you have more question
you know where to email me. and i hope this helped
with my life time story =)
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Yes, I'm going into high school next year and yes, I am freaking nervous. I know it's not as exaggerated as the movies make it seems, what with the plastics and all, but I'm not quite sure what to expect. Somebody enlighten me? (link)
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omg i totally get you... i always think about that too... i mean those movies like mean girls and stuff... they make high school seem so hard and well mean girls everywhere you turn. and you can\'t even confide in adults because they always say \"you will love high school... thats the best time i ever had in school years\" and goes on and on about their high school life...
well i am just about to start high school this august...and i was so scared that i even consider failing the 8th grade on purpose... but when you think about it... all of your friends will move on to high school except you so it wont be same.
and well here are some tips you can survive the high school.
first... do not hang alone...those people will pick on the person who is alone..
so try to be friendly and smile a lot..even if they dont smile back. and have at least 2 friends in each class you can hang out with ... and sit by... you need 2 because just in case 1 is absent right?
same with lunch...doesnt matter if you sit with cool kids just have fun hanging out with your friend... and need more than 1 just in case...
and trust me...all that popular talk... its boring... ists all about i like this blah blah yea louis voutton purse blah blah prada bag blah blah...
not that i\'ve been one of those people... but ive read so much book about high school teens...
and one thing i was worried about was drugs and smoking and alchohols...
you have 2 choice...
1. drink and get high so you look \"cool\"
2. say no and get rep as loser
i know its hard to pick either one...
( if you must hang out with the cool ones do this)
here is trick...drinking just get a can of beer and say i gotta go to the bathroom and bring the beer with you because they wont even care if you bring it because they will be already drunk and wont care what you do...and when you are bathroom dump it out in the toilet and flush...
but not all of it... just leave like a gulp...
but that only lasts one time in few hours...because it will seem unnatural if you go to bathroom all the time..
and if they offer you more say you got some left and shake your can...
and pretened you are drinking...
i know its bad to do that and all but that was just example just in case that actually happens...
and for smoking...
dont know yet so if that happens to you let me know so i can do some major thinking
and well if you got friends and if you are not a major loser ... i dont think you are...then dont worry about it...
i thougt going to high school will be a drag but as you think about it more and more...its got to pass some day and it will ... if you enjoy the school activities...trust me i can't do any sports.well i dont know because i dont even bother to try at all ...but every one is good at something...
and think this... i am suffering with you...
so let me know if you need some more advice...
and oh yea.. if you happen to be those "uncool"type like dont know what to talk about or what to wear you can email me because i had lots of those projects done... i made over this one kid who was called "paste eater" into fairly decent kid ...
so let me know how it went...
and oh yea forgot this...
if you have people who are bothering you like seniors or something... just ignore them or... here is what i do... its perfectly legal and scare the crap out of them...
say ... oh sure you lay hand on me and hit me all you want... it wont bother me when i get all of your life saving for pressing charges against you for using violence...
well i dont know about all the laws but i think person can even go to qaurt for the stuff like that
so dont use violence back... use threats...
they work more...
and oh i am sorry if i am teaching you the all the wrong things...
well high school cant be that bad right???
i mean i have friends who is 1 year older than me so they have already been through it and when i see them they seem happy and you will have fun too making new friends and romances with your someone special and trust me i \'ve gone through more bad stuff from backstabbing friend who say bad stuff behind my back but it turned out to be ok because popular kids hates her too and they know now i am now friend with her (she was my best friend and back stabbed me) and its all good even though people pick on me some times but those are just weirdos... who are racist...( i am asian)
and well i thought 8 th grade would be a drag but now i dont regret going to school at all ,,,
i made new best friend
and i ve made more guy friend (sadly no bf)
and the popular kids like me
they are always nice to me...
its not like them for to include me on purpose but dont say anything bad and smiles at me and say hi and stuff...
so dont worry and i will be there for you to talk if you have any trouble
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