|
Mom needs control of her life!
I don't exactly know how to explain so I'm just gonna try. My mom is a great mom and I love her so much! But all she does is try to please people and my brother's take advantage of that. One brother always makes her go out and buy alcohol for them and he gets drunk all the time with his friends. My other brother treats her like she's trash! He talks back cusses her out, calls her names, etc. It's scary sometimes because they get her to the point of tears and sometimes she actually does cry and my brother's and their friends keep going. She's told me before that the only thing that's keeping her from just ending her life is us kids and if we turn on her then what does she have? Nothing, and I'm scared she's gonna take her life. I want to help her get control of her life but I don't know how i mean I'm only 13! Please help! *thank you*
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Families?
She should not be treaded on. Plain as that! Get her in a place were theyre not bothering her...and tell her to take a step at them! Next time they askher for something she should be assertive and make them do wht they want to do! Every time she cries, she's just giving in more :) Also, be there for her if you arent already! She needs someone like you :)
]
You should tell her how she should treat your brothers. If she wants to please you she'll listen. If that doesn't work try being the authority figure in the family. Tell your mom that her kids have to listen to her and they will.
Hope I could help!
~K.C~
Please rate.
]
OMG... i am soo sorry to hear that... i know what you are going through... my mother also said that to me... and ending life stuff with out kids and all that. but it wasnt because of the advantages and stuff but i totally get your story. First, i would do is talk to an OTHER adult that you can TRUST! it can be anyone, school teacher, guidance counselor, your aunt. but remember this You ARE THE ONLY ONE WHO CAN HELP HER!!! KEEP REMIND HER THAT YOU LOVE HER, AND STUFF. AND TALK TO AN TRUSTWORTHY ADULT!! AND FAST!!!
OR THIS CAN GO BAD!
and i know this better than anyone else because i am same age as you and have only one parent and have mother who lives for their children.
so trust me on this. i know what you are going through and please tell an adult and tell them what is going on with your family, and tell them to help your mom get counseling to help her get back her control. and also for your brothers. to get some rehabs on drinking and some MANNERS toward adult figures. so tell an adult and fast so your mom and brother's can get counseling and talk things over. trust me, it will get better after that.
and remember
to tell your mother that you LOVE HER
and let me know if you need more help because i am here for you.
]
Wow, this is a huge problem. Do you have a father in the house? If so, you need to get him to fend for his wife. You need to get a 3rd party in there. Try telling a grandparent, uncle, or other person. If you are close to your brothers, explain to them how bad you feel. Keep your mom going, you may have to be the adult for awhile. She obviously has serious confidence issues. Maybe you could find a self-help group to build up her self-esteem? Good luck, and I'm here if you need me.
]
i dont have any siblings so i'll try my best, :). When your brothers yell and talk to her in a bad stand up for her, or when you see her down talk to her and say things like "Mom I love you and i think your the best mom in the world" things that will make her feel alot better.
]
More Questions: |