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Ive always had a small group of friends that all got along. Well in the past 3 days it all fell apart. One friend got mad at me for something totally retarded, and then all of a sudden the other friend had a problem with me too. Now come to find out they've been talking behind my back about it. Im not saying they're totally at fault for whats going on because I know I am partly responsible for it, but I dont see why they couldnt come to me and say whatever it is they had to say instead of ganging up on me and then talking behind my back. I just dont know what to do. Ive tried talking to them about it and that didnt make anything better they just acted as if I was full of it and ignored what I said. So should I just give up on 2 people who were my bestfriends and get over it, or keep trying no matter how bad things already are? Please help. And if anyone wouldn't mind it would be easier to give off the whole situation over aim to give a better view point. Thanks again everyone.
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Stuck,
You've tried talking to them and tryed working it out if they won't help the situation themselves then they obviously weren't best friends or maybe not even friends in the beginning. So ignore them your real friends will help you out with gossip issues. The girls will realize they lost something. I know it's really hard to lose good friends and move on and forget it, but if that's what it takes. Find better friends! :]
Sincerly,
hightopgrl
(I hope my advice helped)
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Good friends should stick together, tell them that. Try explaining to them what you just explained here. And if they won't listen, tell them to listen and that it is very important. If they still dont listen tell them to in a firm voice.
Hope I could help!
~K.C~
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YOU SHOULDNT APOLOGIZE for what you didnt do. if they were REALLY your friends, then they should trust you the words you are saying and forgive you. so go ahead and go make new friends since the school's out and you will have new start.
well here is story of my life that you can relate to.
beginning of middle school i was scared because i didnt know anybody. i was new. then i met this girl who was also new and had all the same class with me for whole 6th grade. than we became unseperable. we joined dance team and all that. then beginning of 7th grade, we didnt have all the same classes but we were still pretty close, then almost at the end of the 7th grade we had fight about some stupid thing. i dont know why we fought in the first place. and since she was hispanic she started talking stuff about me infront of hispanic people in spanish so i wouldnt understand (i was in this group with all the foreign students and all of them were hispanic except me. i am Asian)
then i didnt even start the 8th grade with her mocking and all that. then before 8th start she called me and apologizd than later she called me (the 8th grade starte already) and she started cursing at me for not saying hi to her when i didnt even noticed she said hi. next thing i know is that we are back to same place where she cursed at me with her hispanic friends and i was left out. but since i was straight A students i was put in the advanced classes and since she was dumb as rock she was put in the intensive classes so we didnt even have single classes together and thank god. I wasnt a social loser, i mean i had friends and the popular kids didnt say stuff about me and they were fairly nice to me, except for this boy who made fun of my name but he was just being pain in the butt, because he complimented me on my shoes and my drawings. but he kept going with the name calling thing but he stopped later. well anyways popular kids were nice to me and talked to me once in a while and stuff. then i met this girl, i didnt notice her at fisrt, but later i found out i had all the same class with her, i didnt know why but i wanted to talk to her and share her my secrets. and as the years passed we became inseperable, more closer than the friend (backstabber now) i had last time. and even though we are off to high school and we are going to go to different high school we are still keeping in touch and we call each other sister since we are so close.
and what i am saying is, things may look bad now with the people saying stuff behind your back, trust me i know, because i was in that situation once. but it will get better, just ignore them and make your self some new friends who forgives you and dont say stuff behind your back.
i hope this helped and if you need more help i am here to listen.
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WOW...you are in THE EXACT SITUATION as my friend...and im one of the two best friends she lost. I wonder if you are her..i guess i'll find out when you take the peoples advice or not huh. Well i was the one she lost..because my friend,who was in your situation,was a mean person and alls she did was ignore me and talk crap. She never paid attension to this though. So i gave up on her. But i still like her..shes not a bad person if she wasnt so mean we'd still be friends. But i would say..if i were you..to forget about them..if they dont like you,just stop trying..far to many people try to impress others.
and ps--dont take the first persons advice--you shouldnt be like them,that makes EVERYTHING worse..thats not nice and sooner or later they'll find out,plus its bitchy to rip friends aparts for your likeing..things will be worse if you do that.
and PPS--im not mean like your "friends",just to tell you..you might have thought i was comparing myself to them about the backstabbing part..but i wasnt..
good luck anyhow..
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if i had friends like them i would be the one that is mad so let them cool down a few weeks then they will forget all about it
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Okay when you approach them, make it sure that you're not really angry at them because it'll really show. If you want your friendship to be back just apologize and tell them that you admit having a mistake on some parts but talking behind your back is such a cowardly way so ask them what is the reason why they're doing this? What's wrong with me? You say that one and I'm sure they'll respond. After all, you had a friendship.
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