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I joined this site when I was very young (hence the ridiculous username) but now I feel I'mn old enough to give out advice.Ask me anytime. I have had my fair shares of family issues, as well as good at solving relationship problems.
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See theres this guy i really really like and he liked me before but i choose another person over him and now hes with this girl but he says he still likes me and i dont know what to do... i mean should i straight up tell him my feelings for him or just let go....We talk on the phone all the time and on the internet we hang out accasionally...but if i should tell him i wuoldnt know how to tell him on aol phone or person i mean i really like this guy and i would die for him and i think that we would be better off together...So what should i do?
You just need to tell him in person how you feel, be mature.
He's done his part by letting you know how he feels, so now you must do so in return.
You have NOTHING to lose because you know he likes you.
You like him, He likes you = Happiness
You know eachother, you talk to eachother , you get on - so that's it.
I always say if someone has a girlfriend then dont tell him , but if he is telling you that he likes you, then you should just let him know and tell him prehaps maybe you shouldnt go out, but go on a few dates first - after he has finished with his girlfriend. A leave it for a while...that girlfriend could be pissed (excuse my language) if she knew about your feelings..
The fact he is with a girl when he likes you is very wrong . Don't be suprised if he does the same to you. I hope he doesnt
Good Luck
Sage :)
well, like this guy
hes soooooo hot and he might say yes if i ask him out, but the probllem is he just broke up with his girlfriend should i ask now or later
plz help me i like him alot
thanks
Love yuh
Ask in a couple months time or when you think he's cleared his head and he's okay.
If you asked him now, and he said no - that's pure rejection and awkwardness
If you asked him now and he said yes - isn't it a bit wierd how he would just get over his girlfriend quickly.
If he was going out with you would he really have FEELINGS for you..is he on rebound? is he dating for the sake of dating?
If he can turn his emotions off that quickly, then he really isnt a serious guy.
Wait, then date.
PS - Saying he is SOOOO hot isnt a good enough reason to go out with him. His personality must count, other wise its more than lust than love...unless thats what you want.
i need a boyfriend really badly
but all the guys at my school are supper immature
and no i'm not one of those REALLY ugly people.
For the record even If you're "ugly" , that doesn't mean you wouldnt get a boyfriend.
If you "need" a boyfriend, it just shows your lack of maturity.
You can't just NEED a boyfriend. If you were fond of someone you could. You can't just plan or force yourself to find someone.
It does NOT work like that
Why do you have the NEED to be in a relationship? If you like the idea of a relationship thats good, but don't start out looking for one because it always ends in tears.
If you want to start getting to know more boys, prehaps different ages, try to join as many clubs and activites as possible. If you know someone older, maybe a cousin, ask if you can hang out with them. That way you'll be around who act as mature as you.
Having a boyfriend isnt the best thing in the world. The Novelty will wear thin
my name is allyson. im not sure if you still go on your website or anything, because it might be old. but i really need advice. i have a boyfriend, we've only been going out for about a month. he wants to "make out" and thats okay with me. ive kissed guys before, but not ever "madeout" and i want to, im just really nervous. hes never made out either, im just worried i will be bad-- or mess up. im not sure of what to do.
"just follow with your partner" or whatever everyone else says wont help. i feel prude... but i really need some advice!
You just need to be relaxed and comfortable.
He hasnt made out either, so it's a sort of important time for both of you.
If you're comfortable with eachother, and that fact you both havnt made out - I'm sure he isn't shallow enough to laugh at you, or something along those lines if you "mess up". Just enjoy it...it might not even be you that messes up
Noone is never sure "what" to do, but whereever you hands want to go, let them. Wherever you body goes let it - just don't take it too far if you're not comfortable.
If you're worried etc talk to him about it.
This is gonna sound like a stupid question, but do guys really care about how much a girl weighs? i'm definiely not the skinniest person but i think i am really pretty. im also a really nice person, with a great sense of humor. but im 21 years old, and ive never had a boyfriend. so do guys really only care about looks?
In the Real World - Looks Always Count
Dicks,Judgemental Guys who want to get in to your underear - Looks Always count
The Right Guy, The One - Looks Will Never Count
I think if you're a nice person, that should really appeal to guy when it comes to him LIKING YOU not being attracted to you. The image would come next because he would already have fallen for you personality = ]
Me and my "boyfriend" had sex for the first time. He's a big jock and I was really excited that someone was actually interested in me. So when he came over to my house he wanted to have sex and I for some reason agreed to do it with him. Anyway, my period was 4 days late and I was freaking out and my bestfriend told me to take some pregnancy tests. All three of them that I took were positive. I told my "boyfriend" about it and he just laughed and broke up with me. I want to keep the baby, but I don't want to me known as a slut for the rest of my school life because I made one mistake. I don't know what to do. i still have to tell my parents too and they think I've never even have had a boyfriend before. I just need some advise, and please don't say, "your way to young to be having sex" because I already understand this. Thank you!
It may be wrong, but I'd consider abortion.
And tell your parents.
They'll be angry with you and probarbly lose trust, but that's better than bringing a baby into the world where the father is a dick, and that baby wont have a father,and that the baby was an "accident". I'd hate to be a child that wasnt actually meant to be born..
Tell you parents, or someone like a sibling, cousin or trusting adult and consider abortion. You havn't lived life yet and it's not fair that one tiny mistake can cost you the rest of new experiences and memories.
someone I talk to on aim a lot uses the expression XD.. what does that mean? I've looked on the internet but couldn't find it anywhere. Thanks for anyone who helps =]
XD = Smiley,Exsatic Happy, Funny Face
It you turn it the right clockwise it looks
like a face...the x is like the eyes closed/crossed and the D is the mouth wide open.
Here is an image to help you -http://hooded.files.wordpress.com/2009/02/xd_smiley_by_jackerabi53.jpg
if you need info ( I know, I know I'm dragging on the advice now) -
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/XD
I'm 15 and a female. well, there is this kid in 2 of my classes and ever since the beginning of school we've been really good friends. He always says like stupid or gross jokes and i kinda laugh at how like stupid it is and he just laughs at me in a nice way because he knows i think its funny/stupid. but like this whole year i just have been putting in my mind that hes a friend and nothing else. because my friend kara thinks hes a total weirdo but they are still kinda friends. which is confusing but, haha. I think we flirt but don't really realize it. like i sit next to him in biology and he always pokes me and stuff because he knows it bugs me. but in a good kind of way? my biology teacher always joked about how we should date, but i never thought anything of it because my mind would think its just "him". but now I can help but think, do I like like him? I'm not sure what I should think. He has a girlfriend too but I want to know what he thinks of me, but I don't want to ask him because that would totally ruin everything, atleast i think.. Help!
If he has a girlfriend stay away.
That would make your friendship extremely complicated if you let him know whilst he was dating somebody else.
If you are considering if you like him or not, I think you must have some small attraction to him otherwise you wouldnt think twice or cotemplate if you like him or not.
You guys are great friends, and if he has a girlfriend, he may not be all that into you. He may have a small attraction to you with all that attention he pays you, but then again, maybe not.
When he and his girlfriend are over, be a good friend to him and don't make any sort of "moves" on him or let him know how you feel until there are some SURE definate clues giving you a bigger vibe that he may like you back.
And as for kara, mayeb if you tell her , she can help you out and give you some real advice because she knows him as well. If she doesnt take it well - she isnt a great friend then is she?
Don't tell him how you feel until he isnt in a relationship and there are defiante signs of it working between you two. Besides, you arent even 100% sure if you really like him yet.
You have a great friendship, dont ruin it when you're not fully prepared to see how you really feel.
Just be a good friend and yourself, thats what he probarbly values the most about you.
Good Luck :)
Sage
There is a word for when you are something, but you act as if you are not and you say the other person is. Like if a person is always sad and they go and tell everyone that you are sad (when you are actually happy and they are the one that is really sad) and they get people believing that you behavior is now "sad" what is that word...i think it starts with a P (but maybe not :P)
thanks
(false) Pretense ? Pretentious?
"the act of pretending or alleging falsely.
a false allegation or justification
insincere or false profession!"
Alright thank you ahead of time for listening to me!
Well i just wanted to know how old you think you have to be to get married. Cause me and my boyfriend are 15, but we dont plan on getting married anytime soon. But i just wanted some opinions out there on how old you think a couple should be. Cause im just saying, if we could now, we most definatly would! haha. ;)
Thnks again!
In my opinion, there is no set age for when you get married.
Obviously I believe you should finacially stable otherwise how can you afford a wedding, and then afford to look after eachother after?
I think you should get married when your mature enough to make sacrafices for eachother. As long as you've been together enough to know eachother well, you are confortable and have plenty of memories and experiences to share, that's when you should be ready to get married.
I believe the younger you are, the less likley you are to understand the bigger sacrafices and problems and challenges that come along because you've grown up too quickly and would be dealing with issues that too hard to handle because you'd be emotionally immature.
That's just my view. I'm nearly 16, I'm the same age as you, so obviously I can't really speak from experience haha.
Anyway,
I hope you gain more perspectives than one,
good luck to the future with your boyfriend
:) Sage
what do you think about cousins dating?
Strange, I asnwered this question a couple of weeks back!
I think it's wrong. They are flesh and blood, for me it would be as almost as bad as dating my sister or brother (EWW), because they are family
I hope you've enjoyed my opinion.
It's a contraversial topic.
:] Sage
I like this guy I have been really good friends with..and we text and chat ALL the time...he has told me many times that I am hot and pretty and he likes talking to me...just recently he told me and ONLY me that he was moving and he wanted to be in a relationship before he moved..but he likes another girl. Should I give up on him?
I know everyone else is telling you to say how you feel but I personally wouldn't bother
He is moving
and he already likes somebody else.
he may end up hurting you in 2 ways.
Either - He'd hurt you because he'd reject you and go with this other girl OR
- he'd hurt you because he'd go out with you but you'd have no idea where his feelings or head lies because he can't just STOP feelings for the other girl he claimed to like. That isn't possible
If I was you I'd wait for somebody else who isnt moving, and can focus their feelings and attention on you. and only you.
good luck.
PS - wherever he is moving, there could be potential girls you wouldn't even know about..sometimes guys just can't help themselves. I mean look at him now - crushing on you and another girl whilst you can actually see whats going on.
so i like this boy alot at my church, so far, i have been making all the effort to get us together. i know once we get together he would make an amazing boyfriend so im not giving up on him. i wrote him a note for his birthday and put it in a birthday bag with other things as well and he wrote me a note back saying his exact feelings for me and i couldnt help but smile. he gives me butterflies everytime i see him :) he also called me once which was a big leap for him and i couldnt even talk thats how shocked i was, that however, is the only conversation we had, through notes and phone. i guess my question is, should i sit back and let him come to me now becuase i did everything else?
This is really sweet...
I think you should just go for it and next time you see him, just ask if you want to meet up. Or phone him either way.
The sooner you meet up with him, the quicker you guys can get to know eachother more and be more confortable and less shy!
I'd just go for it, you know he likes you, he knows you like him, so there's nothing stopping you. The only thing that would be stopping him is his lack of confidence.
You have feelings for him, so act on them!
Good Luck
Alright, ill just cut this short and get to the point:
Well i am 15 years old, my boyfriends 15 years old. We both go to the same school. Started going out about 7 months ago + have been since then. We have one of the best fricken relationships i have ever witnessed in my life. I do NOT know what i would be like without him in my life. I love him with all my heart, so much that no one can understand that except me + him. But i have been grounded and havent gotten to see him on the weekends at all for about 3 months now. (Except i see him at school, but still) And usually if that happened with someone else, they would have broken up with me cause they cant wait for me to be ungrounded. But him, no, he has been with me through this all and has stuck with me through it, and still loves me and acts like he always does. And it just makes me so fricken happy that hes like that. Cause of him, i am able to trust people more, and i dont know..i just get this wierd feeling thinking about him all the time..but a good wierd ;) And it feels SO good to know that he loves me and that i have nothing to worry about with him, cause i havent been with him on the weekends cause i usually always am. But in the past, my ex-boyfriends have cheated on me, lied to me, and almost every bad thing you could think of. And thats where i got my trust to dwindle down to almost nothing. So when i met him, (Dominick) I thought this would all happen again and i didnt trust him AT ALL. But once a week or so into our relationship, i got a big wake up call; I realized that he was the only one i could trust and that he was just the right one for me. It was so wierd though, cause i just got this really good feeling and i just realized all this. It was actually kind of cool if you ask me. Like i realized that he was the one i want to spend the rest of my life with + i just love him SO MUCH! But yeah, my real question is..would you call this love? I KNOW im in love but i just wanted some opinoins out there.
Thanks for taking your time to read this + sorry for the length. But thanks ahead of time!
I don't think you're in LOVE (strongs feelings,though)
But I do think you feel so much for him because for once, he has treated you better than any other guys have.
I just think you're overwhelmed at the fact, he's pretty decent compared to all the other guys out there.
It does seem you guys have a healthy relationship, which is the perfect foundation for when you do eventually realise what truly love is with him.
Good Luck
Ok so for english we had to write a poem on loves and losses and i wrote this one. Please give me your honest answer on everything and if you have any ideas on how to make it better thanks!
I love you now,
I lost you yet,
I will always be here.
Don’t you fret
I know it hurts
But life goes on
I will try not to listen
To those sappy love songs,
Cause when I do,
I think of you
And what we used to be,
I just wish you would see
I gave you everything,
Yet you pushed me away,
I promise I will miss you,
Every single day
Me and you,
We can find a way,
And maybe…just maybe
We can be together someday.
I think it's lovley and very personal.
If you want to gain more persepective from other people, just like yourself , visit
www.allpoetry.com - I'm a member on their and it's a great place to write and see what other people's take on it are!
: ]
I hope your teacher likes it
I was just wondering and wanted to ask....What do you think about first cousins dating each other??
I personally think it's very strange, all my cousins are boys, and I don't know. They're like brothers
But I guess if you like someone, you like someone
it shouldn't matter about other people think, obviously it easier said and done.
like i know this is a stupid question but what exactly discribes the word 'fanny' ? is it the butt, or the other private part down there? and is it the girl or boys part, ot both?? haha i know weird question but i wanna make like really sure
I'm english too...
And we use it as a term Vagina.
Fanny was used to describe butts ...but that was a long time ago.
It's vagina.
I was late for about 14 days being two weeks , then started my period . Now I have been bleeding but it's off and on for about 3 days now. Is that normal ? I am just wondering because I had a friend who had her periods an was pregnant ?
If you've had sex and your partner had cummed inside of you - Then there is a chance you are pregnant. HOWEVER it is so unlikley you are pregnant if you're having your period.
You period was probarbly late because its a irregular - which is pretty normal. Periods can be so mucked up - trust me I know.
If you're really worried by a pregnancy test
does anyone ever feel like they dont know what to do or how to feel and you just want to crawl in a dark place somewhere and just sleep? not because youre sad in particular, but because you dont want to deal with anything and anyone... how do u get over feeling that way?
For me I like to sleep, go out with the people that make most happy in life, forget about the things that are bothering me like work by saying "SO WHAT"..I have a positive (but sometimes cheeky attitude) where I will think SO WHAT if I dont do my work? I'll get into trouble, maybe a detention but thats it! This reminds me not to worry too much because the concsquences arent bad - we just make them see bigger than they are.
I also find talking about my problems to people closest to me helps me vent of steam, crying also is like a burst and sense of relief it really is. But most importantly I write. Stories, poems, diaries, or letters to people who have annoyed me (obviously I dont send them)..www.allpoetry.com is my escape route. Try there..and also listen to music,a defiante cure.
I hope you feel better
Hi!
13/f
Well, I just recently talked to my first boy friend from like 2nd grade and we technically didn't call each other that but ...we were. Well, his name is Andrew and he's a nice guy. Well, I really have a big crush on him now...even though we just started talking on Sunday. Well, today I asked him if he had a girl friend he said " No". I was nervous to ask him ..but he made me . Well, I told him that I didn't have one and he said " Cool". Well I told him I liked him and he said " Oh, we don't even know each other much". I told him that I knew that and I think we should be friends for now until we get to know each other and than we can go out or something and he said that sounded good. So, I was wondering if we would eventually go out. We have A LOT in common. It surprised me how much. Well, I asked him if he remembers much from when we were young and he said " yaaa , kinda". Well if he did he should of remembered that we almost kissed...but lol his mom ruined the moment...she opend the door soon as his face was up to mine. We had so much fun together...so do you think he'll eventually remember all that stuff? Do you think we could go out ? What should I do to keep patient?
Thanks!!
Oh, and I'll rate fair!
Usually, as a girl, we can recall quite a lot but highly doubt he'd remember - boys can be silly that way...but ask him what he remembers because he might remember things you didn't even know about..
I cant really predict if you guys will go out, but if you are in eachothers company and are having a lot of fun - he could develop feelings for you and things will go on from there..!
I think it's a good idea to not push things or be clingy to meet up with him as that could ruin a potential good friendship/relationship
Of course I am not accusing you of this, but don't get all "hung up" on the childhood thing. The typical he was my childhood sweetheart, and now I like him again etc etc, I am sure you arent like this but sometimes you need to highlight it as people who crushing on others can be seen as vunerable and gulliable - and I wouldnt want you to be upset if things dont work out the way you would want them to HOWEVER..I believe this isn't the case. I think you should keep your feelings to youeself for a bit - meet up, hang up, and prehaps if you still like him, and if you pick up on any signs that he might like you - prehaps ask him if he likes you etc.
I think you should go for it. You have nothing to lose, and its always great to know someone who has so much things in common with you and strong foundations, and good childhood memories.
Good luck