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This is gonna sound like a stupid question, but do guys really care about how much a girl weighs? i'm definiely not the skinniest person but i think i am really pretty. im also a really nice person, with a great sense of humor. but im 21 years old, and ive never had a boyfriend. so do guys really only care about looks?
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I am 21 as well and fluctuate between a (US) size 14 and a size 18 depending on how much I'm working out at the time, but I am one of the healthiest people I know. I've had to learn after years of struggles and failures to lose weight that I have to accept and love myself the way that I am. All the while of being this size, I have never been in the absence of men hitting on me. Not every man likes a plus size woman, but there are plenty of them out there who do. If you're not getting attention from guys, perhaps you are projecting the image that you'd like attention. You absolutely do NOT have to do anything promiscuous in order to get attention. That isn't what I mean. Just don't let your size get you down or make you think you're any less attractive than girls who are thinner than you. It might be hard to believe, but confidence makes a huge difference. If you want people to think you're attractive, you've got to project the image that you are attractive. So whatever makes you feel pretty, go ahead and do it. If that means getting a nice new top or getting your hair done, do whatever it takes to make YOU feel pretty. Somebody WILL notice.
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In the Real World - Looks Always Count
Dicks,Judgemental Guys who want to get in to your underear - Looks Always count
The Right Guy, The One - Looks Will Never Count
I think if you're a nice person, that should really appeal to guy when it comes to him LIKING YOU not being attracted to you. The image would come next because he would already have fallen for you personality = ]
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The right guy will not care about how much you weigh. Sure, everyone has their own preference but if you click emotionally and personality-wise, I think that will matter most. Obviously, it helps to take care of yourself and look good no matter how much you weigh and as someone said below, you do seem to have good self-confidence.
As a big guy, I had the same insecurity too and wondered the same about girls. Hell, I always do when i'm single. When I do find it or when it finds me, love always turned me around and makes me feel new. I hope you find the same too. Best of luck :)
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In the real world looks matter.
That is a truth that no amount of "But if you're nice and funny and caring it shouldn't matter" talk can erase or undo.
Now, in your case, without specific physical descriptions, pictures (which I don't advise posting on an anonymous forum) or something else to give us an accurate idea, we can't tell if thats your specific problem.
Being overweight isn't fun. I am a regular gym patron because my body tends to store rather than burn, and I will never in my life (even if I dedicated my life to it, I think) be a chiseled masterpiece.
But I keep the belly down and try to make sure that I have pectoral muscles instead of man-tits.
But I also feel better like this, both about myself, about my health, about everything. Does it suck for me that I have to work for something some people get genetically for free? Yeah.
But then, there are skinny guys out there who will never manage to have my arms and chest, no matter how much working out they do.
Everyone's got problems. Work to fix them as best you can. As far as why guys don't ask you out, you need friends to help with that. Theres only so much good advice that can be offered by people who don't know you in real life.
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I can understand were your coming from. I'm not the skinniest either, Im also nice, sweet & careing. Even though I don't have that much confidence *very good thing to have*
It just seems like all guys care about is the outside not at all about the inside, which the inside is what matters. Guys can be quite the b****
sometimes- but that doesn't mean you won't find Mister Right one day!
Don't give up! - look at me I'm only 15 & given up which has got me No dates, boyfriends, ect.- Don't give up! Have hope!And if you want wear less covering clothing. Maybe try asking a guy instead of waiting for them to ask you for a realationship.
Hope I helped.
-Lily
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First and foremost, you SOUND like a great person and you seem to have a great level of self confidence.. that's attractive to ANY man.
There's all kinds of guys out there, but they are all very different.
There's those guys that are a******* and care only about the looks. Then there's sweet guys that don't care so much about looks. Personality is everything in a person. I, myself, am attracted to a guy who knows where he's headed in his life, and is down-to-earth. There's some guys out there that have high standards for the girls they date, and yes it is pathetic. Then there's that guy that could be attracted to you and you dont have a clue. That guy falls for you because of your personality, it's just that you wont see it because he's not looking so much (or telling you) about your hotness. I don't think youre doing anything wrong, just the right guy hasnt stepped into your life.. BE PATIENT.. it's def worth the wait. :)
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The only stupid question is the one that remains unasked. If someone doesn't want to date you because you have a few extra pounds on you than they're the ones with the problem. You know that you are pretty, funny and nice and that's all that counts.
Looks don't matter unless your appearance is always disheveled or looks like you aren't taking care of yourself. From what you have stated you aren't grossly overweight at all. You're fine.
Guys might not know how to speak to you if you appear shy and aren't outgoing. You have to show them you're interested and initiate conversation. If you like someone invite them to a party, flick or coffee. You'll be surprised at who says yes.
Age and dating don't matter. The fact you have never had a date at 21-years-old bodes well for you. You won't have to deal with immature teenagers and mind games. You'll likely find a real man.
Join clubs, take classes etc. and go where you can meet new people. It might take a while months, a few years etc. but you will attract someone who is right. Even if you are 30 and haven't ever dated that's not an issue. We all experience certain things at the right time.
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Um well depends on the guy actually.. some guys dont care if your overweight, some guys do.
I mean a lot of people not just guys think of looks but also personality, personality is key.
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the only people that won't date you because of your weight are shallow, low-lifes. get over them. they won't make you feel any better; only let you down.
someday you'll find "MR Right" and it will be someone who respects you for who you are. have a look around and maybe go down to a club or Mall and have a look around. if they look avalible... go for it!
abiee xxx P.S good luck
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