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more than friends?
I'm 15 and a female. well, there is this kid in 2 of my classes and ever since the beginning of school we've been really good friends. He always says like stupid or gross jokes and i kinda laugh at how like stupid it is and he just laughs at me in a nice way because he knows i think its funny/stupid. but like this whole year i just have been putting in my mind that hes a friend and nothing else. because my friend kara thinks hes a total weirdo but they are still kinda friends. which is confusing but, haha. I think we flirt but don't really realize it. like i sit next to him in biology and he always pokes me and stuff because he knows it bugs me. but in a good kind of way? my biology teacher always joked about how we should date, but i never thought anything of it because my mind would think its just "him". but now I can help but think, do I like like him? I'm not sure what I should think. He has a girlfriend too but I want to know what he thinks of me, but I don't want to ask him because that would totally ruin everything, atleast i think.. Help!
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I think out of your best interest and also keeping his in mind stay on the level you are at right now. If he has a girlfriend then you should stay away until that is over because asking him how he feels about you will not only make your friendship weird but it would jeopradize his relationship. However how you explain it he is fliting. Poking you just to make you madis mucho flirtacious. Just stay away until him and his girlfriend break up and when that happens be there for him to help him cope, that will bring you guys closer and maybe start a flame. Hope I helped. <><
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If he has a girlfriend stay away.
That would make your friendship extremely complicated if you let him know whilst he was dating somebody else.
If you are considering if you like him or not, I think you must have some small attraction to him otherwise you wouldnt think twice or cotemplate if you like him or not.
You guys are great friends, and if he has a girlfriend, he may not be all that into you. He may have a small attraction to you with all that attention he pays you, but then again, maybe not.
When he and his girlfriend are over, be a good friend to him and don't make any sort of "moves" on him or let him know how you feel until there are some SURE definate clues giving you a bigger vibe that he may like you back.
And as for kara, mayeb if you tell her , she can help you out and give you some real advice because she knows him as well. If she doesnt take it well - she isnt a great friend then is she?
Don't tell him how you feel until he isnt in a relationship and there are defiante signs of it working between you two. Besides, you arent even 100% sure if you really like him yet.
You have a great friendship, dont ruin it when you're not fully prepared to see how you really feel.
Just be a good friend and yourself, thats what he probarbly values the most about you.
Good Luck :)
Sage
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If he has a girlfriend, don't pursue anything. You shouldn't ask him if he likes you, that might just make your friendship awkward. First, make sure that you do like him. Ask yourself some questions:
*Can I see myself kissing him?
*Can I see us hanging out outside of school and sharing feelings?
*Do I think about him often when I'm not with him?
*Do I miss him when we're not together?
*Am I attracted to him?
*Can I imagine talking to him all night on the phone?
If you answer yes to these things, you probably like him. Unfortunately, he still does have a girlfriend. You don't want to start drama or make anyone uncomfortable. Try to keep in touch with him over summer break. See if he wants to hang out some and try to get to know him better. If him and his girl do break up, then you can ask him how he feels. Say something casual like, "We've gotten to know each other really well over the past year, have you ever thought of us as anything more than friends?"
That way you're leaving it open. It's just an open-ended question. It doesn't come out and say that you like him and it doesn't say that you don't. It just opens things up and leaves room for a new way to think about each other.
Darby(:
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