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I'm a raw and living foodest. For those of you who are unfamiliar with what that is I only eat foods that have not been cooked. I do this because it maintains all of the nutrients and enzymes intact and is much healthier. I'm not here to try to convert anyone. I think you can reach maximum health by eating all kinds of foods fixed all kinds of ways. This is simply my life choice. What I'm here to do is help educate people as to what is happening to thier food. Did you know that the pharmaceutical companies have lobbied to have a law voted on called "Codex Aimentarius" that will take away our freedom to take suppliments? It has already been implemented in Europe. Of course it is still ok for them to put steroids, antiboitics and harmones in our foods. Have you wondered why there is a great influx of people acting aggressively and out of character? I'm here to help guide you through this mess. If you want to eat meat...eat meat...just get chemically free meat. I'm here to help you understand what is happening to you.

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do your parents HAVE to stay in the room with you when you get a check-up? it's EXTREMEMLY embarrasing when he docotor looks at me and i dont need it to be even MORE with my parents and sister in there. can anyone tell me anything to help me feel like humiliated??? i'm going today..

No, your mother does not have to be in the room with you and you do have the right to ask that she leave. You do deserve your privacy. Your mother is probably doing that because she thinks you will feel safer. If you ask that your mother not be in the room with you be prepared to have a nurse in there instead. This is for your protection as well as the Dr.'s. His insurance won't cover any claims against him if he does not have someone else in the room. He could be accused of doing something he didn't do and w/o a witness to testify he would not be covered. Also as far as your protection is concerned he can't do anything to you that is unsolicited while someone is in the room. There have, in the past, been Dr.s who have done some not so nice things to people which is why now there has to be at least someone in the room with you, or the door ajar. Good Luck!



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LULABELLE

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Heyy Its just me again with another dumb question...



Whats the diffrence between a diary and a journal???

please tell me:-p
I rate 5 for anwers

love always,
me.

There is a difference between the two. A diary is the documentation of your day-to-day events, actions and thoughts about people place and things you experience. It is an exact record as you see it. Diaries are always records of actual events in a person's life. Journals, on the other hand, are much more creative and thought provoking. I like to write stories, for example. I didn't think that my characters were all that realistic, so I use to keep a journal of interesting characters I met or observed. I wanted to practice my writing skills, so, I'd to out someplace and just observe people then describe their physical characteristics to get practiced in describing realistic people for my stories. When you feel confused about a situation you can journal random thoughts that come into your mind. This sometimes helps people get clear on the direction they want to take with a situation. Nostradomos, the 16th century prophet, was journaling when he was putting down his visions of the future. Journaling is a great way to get your thoughts clear or to be creative. Journaling does not have to be factual it can be fictitious. I hope this helps.



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LULABELLE

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For English, I have to relate the themes in the novel "Pride and Prejudice" by Jane Austen to the my last book report/presentation, which is "The Phantom of the Opera" by Gaston Leroux. The problem is that the two books couldn't be more different in theme.

"Phantom" is a Gothic novel with themes like dangerous jealousy and hopeless love (Erik's hopeless love for Christine). It follows the life of a despairing madman.

Jane Austen's novel is a light comedy that focuses on, well, pride and prejudice. No diversity issues like in "Phantom" (except that Darcy is a mega-rich landlord and Elizabeth is a middle class girl in the countryside, but that's not comparable with the Phantom) and nothing extrordinarily dramatic that "plumbs the depths of a man's soul" or anything.

But this is my only option. Can anyone at least try to think of some comparisons in theme?

Absolutely! The two men had irrationally strong emotional feelings while the women kept level heads and were true to themselves and their feelings. Erik's irrational emotions stemmed from how the prejudice of others treated him. It was his pride, which lead him to jealousy. He felt that he had created Christine and therefore she belonged to him, which is also possessiveness. All are fear-based emotions. Darcy, for the most part, let his prejudice control his actions as well as the actions of others around him. He almost destroyed his true love and the true love of others simply because of his pridefulness. He was also prejudice if you remember, because he felt that Elizabeth was not in his social league. All the while both the women stayed true to their hearts. They know what they wanted in their lives and stuck to it.


I hope these thoughts help to stir those creative juices. You have a lot to work with here. Good luck!



Nanaste!



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Well recently my best freind told me that she no longer wanted to be my friend just because i wasnt pretty enough and all most everyone has to disagree with that she also told me i didnt have enough money because i could never go out to the mall movies ect.. very often cuz i never had the money. Then she wrote me a note in class today and said you dont have a good enough body to be my friend im only friends with people that weigh less than 103pounds! SO what should i do to prove to her i am a good person even though i dont have as much money to spend as she does? Should i start skipping meals to loose weight? Should i duble my gumnastics classes i mean i go once a week for 3.5 hours and its really expencive so how do i prove it to her? Please help!!!!!

Alyssa/13/f

I know this will be hard to understand. I wouldn't want to understand this either when I was 13. You have become attached to someone whom you visualize as your best friend and that is hard to let go of. This person that you are calling your best friend is not a friend. A friend is someone that is accepting of you the way you are. They appreciate the strengths that you do have and don't dwell on what they think you don't. Anyone who puts unrealistic guidelines down in order for her to hang out with people is not worthy of your attention. She is controlling you through fear. She has you jumping through hoops and she's enjoying the show. Skipping meals would be setting you up for a lifetime of the yoyo effect. Look around you at all of these overweight adults. They can't get the weight off and keep it of because of this very tactic. When you skip meals it puts your body into starvation mode. This means that when you start to eat regular again, and you won't be able to help it, your body will gain back all of the weight you lost plus some. It wants to make sure that you have enough energy (fat) in case there is another starvation period. The next time you try to loose weight it will be harder to loose. Your body doesn't know that you WANT to loose the weight. It only perceives it only as a lack and wants to make sure you will survive and not starve to death. Then the next time you try to loose weight and then go off the diet you will gain back what you lost plus more than your plus from the last gain. Now, if you want to loose weight for yourself the best way to do that is to cut out junk foods like chips, sodas, candy, cake, etc. Eat more fruits or raw vegetables like carrots and celery in between meals as a snack. You can eat as much of this as you want and not gain weight. Don't eat at fast food places like MacDonald's, Burger King, KFC, etc. Their salads have more fat in them than even some of their own hamburgers. Start drinking more water. A person should consume their weight in oz.s every day. That means if you did weight 100lbs you should drink 100 oz.s a day of water. You do these things and the weight will drop off in a healthy way. If doubling your gymnastic classes is what you want to do it certainly would help you health wise. But, if you are doing going to do it to impress someone else my vote is against it. Nothing good ever comes from our doing something to please someone who is looking for something to complain about. Lets say that you did everything she said you need to do to be her friend. I can guarantee that she would come up with another set of rules for you to succumb to. What I suggest you do is to ignore her. Be sweet to her and talk to her whenever she wants. Always say "hi" when you see her, but start moving on to better and more joyful relationships. Connect yourself with people who are not judging and just want to enjoy being 13 and to whom it doesn't matter if you don't have to money to do everything. You can still go to the mall and have fun and look. You don't have to spend money to go there. An idea for you to make money is babysitting. I use to baby-sit when I was your age. I bought a rabbit fur coat with my money and was able to go to the movies every week. I can feel your stress over this. I know how it feels. I too have felt I had to prove myself to someone else too. Take it from me it never really works out. I know I tried it. I wish I had a magic wand I could wave and make everything beautiful for you. You deserve to have a fun and joyful life. I know how hard this will be for you, but if you move on and develop other relationships you will look back and wonder what ever made you stress over a self centered egotistical small minded person like this. I wish you all the luck and if you have further questions feel free to contact me.


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Today at school, after lunch, my lips started tingling and they've been tingling all day. And when I lick my lips, it tastes metallic-y. I didn't eat anything that I'm allergic too or touch my lips after I touched something that I might be allergic to so I have no idea what it is. What could it be?

Blood cells contain hemoglobin, which carries oxygen. When blood breaks down, iron is released and causes a metallic taste in mouth. Bleeding can be from the gums, sinuses or nose. The taste can get especially bad when someone has post nasal drip and the dried blood sticks to the back of the throat. If bleeding gums are the cause then there is often bad breath associated with the bad taste. Another uncommon reason for a metallic taste in mouth is due to small electric currents in the mouth. When two types of metals are used in two different dental fillings a battery can be created. Some believe that it's due to the mercury leakage from dental silver/mercury fillings. This could create the feeling of tingling in the lips. Many oral or IV medications such as thyroid medicine, penicillin, and lithium can give a metallic taste in mouth. When someone is allergic to a specific food, the food can often be detected even in extremely small amounts. Food allergies, such as with sulfur dioxide (which is found as a food additive in a lot of packaged foods), can also cause this. Some gastrointestinal disorders can be aggravated by food allergies and cause burping, dry mouth, thirst, rectal itching and a metal taste. High protein diets can cause benign dietary ketosis (a stage in metabolism occurring when the liver has been depleted of stored glycogen and switches to a fasting mode such as occurs during sleep, during dieting, and during the body's response to starvation). This has also been associated with a metal taste. So, if you are trying to loose weight you may be taking in too few calories for your bodies needs. This would be setting you up for that perpetual yoyo effect that most overweight adult Americans are suffering from today. As far as the tingly mouth is concerned it could be anything such as that which I mentioned above for example. It could also be a sign of a pinched nerve or even some kind of nerve damage. I wouldn’t worry about it being this too much unless it becomes persistent and then I'd have it checked it out by your doctor. This type of thing is usually nothing to be concerned about. It will probably go away. Good luck to you!



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LULABELLE

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Hey folks :)

I need to interview someone about their childhood. And it needs to be a very long interview, problem is, I have no clue what to ask. Can anyone think of an INTERESTING question? Something that would really get a readers attention. I mean, if the reader is someone who does not know the person I'm interviewing..it's sort of hard to make it interesting, when that's the case. So any suggestions?

I'd appreciate it.

Thank you bunches :)

That actually sounds like a fun project. If you are able to use anyone you want I'm sure there is someone out there that you have wanted to know certain things about and you can use them. Ask them all the questions you've always been wondering about. If it's a grandparent you can ask them about their first love. Look into the history that was developing during their lifetime, such as the 60's. Ask them what they were doing during this time and how they felt about the political climate of those days. There's Viet Nam, Peace Marches, love inns, etc. If it's a parent you can look at the history going on during their formative years as well and ask them how they felt about it too. Some other questions that come to my mind are: What is your first memory about? How old were you when you had this experience? Do you remember your first friend? What did y'all use to do? What kind of games did you play when you were in preschool? Did you enjoy preschool? What is your first traumatic experience that you remember? Who was there? What is your first happy experience you remember? Who was there? What were some of your greatest adventures you had when you were a child? Did your parent every falsely accuse you of anything and punish you for it? What were their parents like? How did you like High School? Did you belong to any clubs? If so, what did you do in the club? What was your first dance like? What was your first prom like? What kind of music are or where you into? Did you play any sports in High School? If so what were they? What was your proudest moment in life/sports? What dreams did you have when you were young? Did you achieve them? If not, what kept it from happening? How was college life? Did you live on campus or off campus? Did you belong to a seroity/fraternity? What was the initiation like? What were the parties like? Did you get into trouble when you were in school (high school/college). How did you meet your significant other? What attracted you to them? What was your most romantic experience? Did you think when you were young that life would be like what it has turned out to be? What were your grades like when you were in school? Who were your best friends in school (high school/college). Did any of your friends ever betray you? What did they do? How did you feel? How was if resolved, if ever? Do you know where that person is today...These are just a few of the questions that come to my mind. You will know the person you are asking questions of. With each of these questions you can expand on them with more questions depending upon their answers. They will come to you. Simply relax and go with it. It will come to you. You can make an interesting paper out of any of these questions. You can put a kind of Tom Sawyer slant on their life when they were young. Me for example? I grew up in the 60s and in Mississippi. Martin Luther had a peace march past my house. I wasn't allowed to go outside and play that day because my parents were afraid someone would turn it into something other than peaceful. How did I feel about that? I was aggravated because I couldn’t understand what all the commotion was about. I also knew instinctively that I was growing up during one of the most exciting times in history. Where was I when President Kennedy was assassinated? In school and we were let out early. All my friends were made to stay inside and watch everything on TV and I wanted to be outside and playing. See how that can work? Good luck on your project and don't let your mind freeze up on you.



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is it true that you have to be really tall to be a model?

i asked this quesiton to some people and they said yes.. but some said you just have to be really tall if you wanna be a runway model..

what about normal models in magazines and stuff cause i'm 5'2" but i really wanna be a model and i don't know if i could be one since i'm so short=[

thanx! i'll rate high for nice, realistic answers =]

Unfortunately that is true. I lived in New York for a while. There was this absolutely gorgeous girl who was 5'8" and wanted to be a model. She was told everywhere that she was not tall enough. I think that 5'9" is the shortest you can be. So, for 1" she couldn't be a model. Now, I'm sure you know who Mark Walburg is. He started his profession as a type of rapper and then became super famous as a Calvin Klein model. Now he's an actor making tons of money. He's only 5'5" tall! Somehow he was able to slip in there because of his sex appeal. Why am I telling you this? Because I want you to see that there are always exceptions. You have to do something or be something very interesting or different that will cause an exception in your case. Another thing to think about is Hollywood. Most of the actors in Hollywood are very beautiful and very short. I think Sylvester Stelone is only 5'6 or 7" and Mel Gibson is not much taller. Tom Cruse is around the same height. Acting today is basically modeling. The actors are simply posing the expression of the emotion of the moment. You could get yourself noticed through commercials or shows which could create a demand to see you. Once there is a demand to see you they don't care how tall you are you can model anything. They will all be asking for you. You can also start doing some local modeling to get started. Hometowns are much more lenient about height. You just have to be pretty. Now these are just two ideas that I hope helps you spark some of your own. There are innumerable ways to get where you want to be, but one thing is for sure in my mind. You can do anything you want to do. You just have to know it. Don't let other's negativity convince you otherwise. It is because we let others tell us what we can and can't do that limits us. Know you can do it and things will happen that will lead you to your goal. I wish you luck.



Namaste!



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hey

hey every one well my dad always hits me for no reasona sif imh is step daughter he always makes me cry and if i tell him not to he will hit i dont know what to do he makes me feel as if im not part of the family :(

If your mother or other family members don't want to do anything about this I'd go to the authorities. This is child abuse and is not allowed by law. You can go to a teacher, school councilor, or even the police. My suggestion to you is that if he does this again before you get to someone I'd 911 it. This bully needs to be taught a lesson and jail is the perfect place for him. If your mother is doing nothing about it because she doesn't want to loose him, or afraid, then you are doing her a favor for reporting him as well. She may not see it at first but once the authorities get involved she will. Sometimes women fall into a mental trap because of their fear of being alone. Don't let this deter you from saving yourself. Good luck to you.



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hey

well i was wondering if ebay was real like do they take more money then there ment to and do they take the money adn not send the thing that you bought are they scammers or is it realy please tell me :):)

taek care every 1 love : hilda

They are very real. You can get some amazing things on eBay, but you do have to be careful too. Each thing listed on eBay is by an individual like you and me sometimes it's a retail store too. Some people give you your monies worth and others do not. The best way to check on someone you wish to buy from is to check their feed back. If they have a lot of negative feedback I'd read what the problems were with this person. If it sounds like they are not responding to their customers or being fair in their treatment, I'd stay away from them. You would probably be treated as badly as the last person. If they have a lot of good comments than chances are good you will have a good experience with them. Also, when purchasing from eBay always check what the shipping is on the item listed. I've used eBay to sell stuff myself. For the seller eBay is expensive and it can be difficult to make money. The higher the original listing price the more eBay gets. So, what I use to do is start the bidding at $.99 because it would cost me the least. I'd then put what I wanted for something into the postage and hope that people would at least bid up to what the postage would cost me. For example: I have a T.V. and I want $100 for it. If I started the bid at $100 eBay would take $55.00 of that. In order to keep that from happening I'd start the bid @ $.99 which would cost me $.55 no mater what the final bid was. I'd make the postage around $100 or $125 to make sure I covered what I wanted for it and the cost of shipping. The reason I am telling you this is because when you check the price on something you have to make sure you also check the postage. The deal might not be as great as you think because the merchant may have put their cost into the postage as well. eBay can be a lot of fun, so, I wish you luck in your adventure!



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Well, I broke the pointy part like literally broke it off of my elbow it was something like the elektron or something. well has anyone else broken the same part and if so how long did you have your cast on and did drinking milk help?

Dairy products. Contrary to popular opinion, milk and other dairy products are NOT a good source of calcium. The ratio of phosphorus to calcium is unfavourable and stops the calcium from being absorbed. In fact, regular consumption of dairy products will leach the calcium from your body. Studies have shown that osteoporosis is actually more common in milk drinkers. There are lots of other reasons not to drink your milk that the Dairy Boards won't tell you about. Drinks high in phosphorus (eg. milk, coke, any type of fizzy)coffee,tea, alcohol, sugar, and other refined carbohydrates and processed foods. High intakes of protein, synthetic Vit D, mineral oils in cosmetics, Prescription drugs including; anticortisone, thyroid meds and aspirin, smoking and last but definately not least lack of exercise. 1% of bone mass is lost per day of being bed-ridden. Specifically, weight bearing or resistance exercise is needed to build bone mass. Ironically, heavy exercise also increases demands for calcium. It is also suspected that phytic acid in grains & oxalic acid in spinach & parsley bind to calcium and make it unusable. But if you otherwise react well to these foods, eating them in moderation shouldn't be a problem.
But if I can't drink milk, how will I get my calcium?

Relax, there are lots of foods that have calcium in them. And in a more accessible form. The exact amount of each mineral in each food may vary from location to location depending on the conditions, but these figures will give you an indication of what foods are most calcium rich.


Food Serving size mg of Calcium


Fish :
Salmon, canned, with bones 1 cup 431 mg
Sardines, canned, with bones 100gms (3.6oz) 300mg
Tuna, canned, with bones 100gms (3.6oz) 290mg
Oysters, raw 1 cup 226mg
Fish, fresh, cooked 100gms (3.6oz) 35mg


Nuts and seeds :
Almonds, hulled 1 cup 300mg
Brazil Nuts 1 cup 260mg
Sunflower seeds, hulled 1 cup 174mg
Sesame seeds, ground, unhulled 1 tablespoon 100mg
Tahini (hulled sesame paste) 1 tablespoon 85mg



Soy Products :
Tempeh 112gms (4 oz) 172mg
Tofu 112gms (4 oz) 80-150mg
Soy milk (unfortified) 1 cup 60mg
Soy milk (fortified) 1 cup 300mg



Other Legumes :
Chickpeas, cooked 1 cup 150mg
Black beans, cooked 1 cup 135mg
Baked beans 1 cup 100mg


Sea vegetables :
Hijiki 1 cup 610mg
Dulse (dry) 1 cup 567mg
Wakame 1 cup 520mg
Agar-agar 1 cup 400mg
Kelp (kombu) 1 cup 305mg



Vegetables :
Rhubarb, cooked 1 cup 348mg
Collard greens, cooked 1 cup 300mg
Bok choy, cooked 1 cup 200mg
Silver beet or Spinach, cooked 1 cup 180mg
Beet greens, cooked 1 cup 165mg
Broccoli, cooked 1 cup 160mg
Dandelion greens, cooked 1 cup 147mg
Parsley, raw 1 cup 122mg
Watercress, raw 1 cup 53mg



Other :
Black strap molasses 1 tablespoon 137mg
Eggs 2 56mg
Egg yolks 2 52mg



If you want to take a calcium supplement. Which forms are best?

Not all forms of calcium have the same amount of elemental calcium in them, and they also have different absorption rates. Calcium carbonate is the best source, followed by calcium citrate. Read labels carefully to distinguish between 500mg OF calcium carbonate and 500mg elemental calcium FROM calcium carbonate. You would probably want to take about 1500mg a day. You would take 500mg 3 times a day. You don't want to take all 1500mg at one time. Your body wouldn't assemilate all of it in one serving.


Minerals work synergistically. You may need extra magnesium, silicon, fluoride, zinc, copper, boron, manganese, phosphorus and Vitamin D to allow your body to use that extra calcium. If you obtain your calcium from food sources, those extra nutrients are most likely already there.



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Do you have AIM?

I don't have AIM. I tried it once and am uncertain how to use it. I'm not that savvy with regards to computers. I do have an email address: lulabellesvoice@yahoo.com or pblivingintheraw@yahoo.com. I usually look at my livingintheraw address most often because I get so few emails at my other address. You or anyone else is welcome to contact me this way. Thank you for your compliment, I truly appreciate it.


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i'm an embodiment of confusion.
can you be in love with two people at the same time?
i'm so freakin confused, and so damn upset that i just have to be very open here, because i need help..
almost two years ago i got into.. what's it called.. "paper marriage"? or a "marriage contract" or something like that, that i'm "half married", means I’m not living with him yet. yes it happens in some of the muslim countries. i've known my "husband" for 6 years now. he was the one who fell in love with me, i said "yes" for some very stupid reasons, firstly i came to my country after a long time and was not used to the society here, i was living in saudi arabia, and i totally freaked out when he would tell me stuff like "i'll keep following you till you say yes to my proposal..." yeah it was kinda romantic, especially when you're 18 it is. actually judging him objectively i had no reason to say no, he's VERY handsome, we have the same profession now, he's VERY nice in EVERY way, a WONDERFUL guy, kinda guy a girl would dream of having as her life partner. BUT... we have very basic cultural differences, for one thing, secondly, there have been incidences where... i feel... some very basic elements of his personality have shown, which bother me. my basic needs happen to be "deep intellectual, open minded conversations and an awesome brain with a very high IQ". sex and all is secondary for me. i'm very romantic by nature, quite impulsive, restless, and usually so nervous i'm almost neurotic. he's not understanding at all, he has very shallow thinking, he shuts his eyes and ears to questions regarding religion etc.. he's not all that intelligent, though very hard working.. something which i really appreciate. there's not the slightest hint of "philosophy" in his mind and he thinks it's all crap. and he has caused me a LOT of pain many times... things which i can't forget because they really matter to me, they weren't just fights... i recently made a new "friend", (yes i do have guy friends...), this one is DAMN SMART, really, a very bright guy, he's hindu.. he's VERY open minded, he NEVER "tells" me what to do and what not to, he treats me like a "human being", like a "person" before like a woman (which means he gives value to my opinion and doesn't make my ideas a matter of his ego), and we are similar in so many of our weird ways. (by the way, not that i'm trying to act or trying to show off or to praise my own self here, but for some strange reason every person who has ever gotten to know me in my life has told me i'm "different" from other girls.. i think they mean other girls in my society.. don't know.. whatever.. but this other guys says that too.. and i'm so much like HIM that he has fallen in love with me).. the problem is, that i feel "love" for this guy, but also for my husband because we have spent some wonderful times together, and he was the first man in my life, my first love, i lost my virginity to him, and 6 years is a long time.
i NEED someone to tell me, whom i should be with now... i know this sounds stupid, but really i'm so freakin confused, both love me so much, both tell me they would do ANYTHING just to be with me, i love this new guy a lot, can't see him upset, we do have little fights but i love the way he handles them, he's very intelligent and can actually almost read my mind every time. but sometimes i get so depressed thinking about my husband, i've been telling him in the past that we're not made for each other, and it's ok, he can have his time to decide for himself. i think my being "different" is what makes him want me like he does, otherwise he doesn't like anything about me, i'm not religious at all, he hates that, i come from a differnet background, a different culture (of which he knew when he proposed to me and i reminded him again and again to THINK about his decision because it doesn't matter to me where he comes from but to HIM it might) and he's suddenly realizing that he hates my culture (i speak urdu, he speaks pashto etc) though he tries his best to accept me as i am, but he can't, the matter keeps popping up, he thinks MY culture is not honorable like his.. on top of all that, he denies that he hates these things about me, but his actions speak otherwise..........
WHAT DO I DO!!!
my apologies for this being tooooo long.. but i don't know what the heck to do.... i have noone to talk to about this, noone whom i can ask for advice..

I'm an American and one of my best friends for 15 years is a Muslim man. He and I had a relationship for 5 years and to top it off I am 16 years older than he. We love each other dearly and when he goes home (Morocco) he always brings me presents and he periodically sends me money for no reason. He's told his family that I am a member of the family and always will be. We have such a respect for each other. He is forever calling me on the phone and asking my advice on things, he respects my opinion and says I have a special insight. He now lives in Chicago and I live in Atlanta. Arabic people are so very giving and loving people which is something I wish Americans could understand. I tell you all of this because we can't be together in the romantic sense. The reason we broke up had nothing to do with our difference in age and everything to do with our cultural differences. We have a closeness we will never have with other people, but there are some major cultural differences. Something I have noticed about the fundamentalist Muslim culture (just like fundamentalist Christians) is that they are very decided on how things are supposed to be. Within this framework they put women in subservient role. My friend, for the most part is very Americanized, yet, his opinion on what a woman's place in society is decided and admittedly he is more open minded than most Muslims. The reason I tell you all of this is because I wish to show you that I may have some understanding of which you are going through. You say that you noticed some aspects of his personality that you don't appreciate. Well I'm here to tell you that if you make this marriage permanent you will find that it will be multiplied by 10,000. He wants to save you. He thinks that the minute you become permanently his wife he will be able to dominate you as is his custom and control your every move. In some Muslim homes the woman is never allowed to leave the home, has her own wing, and is basically there solely to serve her husband. I'm not saying that this man will be like that...but it sounds to me like he will be stifling. Eventually an arrangement like this will probably end up were you will hate and not love this man. My advice here is that if you can't get him to relax about who you are and how you wish to express yourself it will not be a healthy relationship. I do know that in Muslim countries you can get a divorce. You can cancel that binding piece of paper. A Muslim man in Muslim countries can just throw a woman out of the house or even murder her if she disgraces him. That is pretty scary to me. This man doesn't sound like he truly loves you. The reason I feel this way is that he wants to change who you are. That is not love.

I happen to be a combination of Christianity and Hindu. I study the teachings of a great master and his name is Paramahansa Yogananda. Your Hindu friend may even know of him since he has his own postage stamp in India. Anyway, to me he sounds like someone who will allow you to grow and be the individual that you feel most comfortable being. I'll bet that you don't even have to convert to his belief system. He will respect your choices here too. This man is more accepting of you and you connect intellectually where you don't with your husband. I don't see the dilemma, but then again, I'm here in America where choices are freely made. I'm not in a country where all around me people are succumbing to these theological practices so I know this has to be hard for you.

I hope I've given you some food for thought and I wish you the best of luck in your decisions ahead.



Namaste!



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14/f Sry it's so long. So there's this boy and he asked me out like 2 weeks ago I said yes. We've gone bowling a few times with friends and we hang out whenever we can. He comes to my play pratices and whatever he can whenever he can and vice versa. We put our arms around each other and cuddle and stuff but when ever any one asks either of us wheather it's offical or not we say no. The problem is my friends are giving me grief about this. They're like if your not offical then you shouldn't let him hold you and if your not offical and he decides to like some one else he could drop you and you'd get hurt and have no argument. The truth is idc about this and I know he won't just drop me. Does any body know how I can explain this to my friends nicely and does he have to like ask me to be his gf for it to be offical or does time make offical? I rate. Thanx

Go with your instincts on this. I think you are doing just fine. I'd remind your girlfriends that just because a guy makes her his steady doesn't mean he won't drop her like a hot potato or see other girls for that matter. There is no guarantee in life. Simply enjoy the moments you have with him. It may not work out for whatever reason, but then again it could end up everlasting. No one ever knows until your there. To me it sounds like a great start and you are developing a closeness that is beautiful to experience no matter how long it lasts. Good luck!



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Hey I need advice asap! 18 female. I am currently about 2-4 days late on my period. Also i usually start my period before my best friend and she is already started. So here is the deal. My boyfriend and i fooled around, with him inside me...but he didn't cum inside me and he was inside me for about 2 mins at themost. What are my chances of being pregnant . i am so worried and paranoid.
Please help

Your chances are very good that you could be pregnant. If you don't use some kind of birth control method you are taking a huge risk that this will happen. It could also be that you are really stressed out about something, which could also be disruptive with regards to your regularity. What I would suggest you do is to get one of those pregnancy tests and check to see if you are pregnant first. This way you can determine which it is. Also, the earlier you detect your pregnancy the better for you. You have more options when you catch it early. I am personally against abortion, but I feel that this is something that is a personal choice and should be left up to the individual and a choice you would have if you catch it early. If it turns out to be a stressful situation you seem to be experiencing and not pregnancy, then you can start to change things up in your life to reduce the cause of your stress. Another thing that could cause this is body fat. If you have less than 10% body fat and you work out real hard all the time this could stop your period as well. I know a girl who has two children who has never had her period because of this. I don't even begin to understand how that works. So, it boils down to getting yourself tested and then you will know where you stand. Good luck and I hope things turn out as you wish them to.



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I was wondering if anyone who is agnostic or unitarian had any really good sites about unitarianism because im trying to develop my spirituality and discover more about what I believe in(which I dont really know what that is yet) So yeah, it'd be great if there was like a really good website or something. I rate.
ace

I have a great site for you that lets you explore almost every religion. If a religion you are looking to explore is not on this web site all you have to do is ask questions about it and someone will respond. It is like Advicenators in that you can ask questions and people will answer them. The difference between Advicenators and this site is that is it also a great research site too. You get access to all of this for free. Good luck on your search and I hope you find what your looking for. I do have one suggestion, take a deep breath and close your eyes look inside. You may find that what you have been looking for has been with you all along.


http://www.comparative-religion.com/



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ok so i went to the doctors today and they had to take my blood to see if my hormone levels were like screwed up and like thyroid and all that was normal. WELL on saturday night I got high (marijuana lol) but see i ran a lot that night.. because the police was chasing us but whatever.. so yeah and i've been like drinking a lot of fluids but i can honestly say i'm not like guzzling gallons.. is it possible that my THC level could be normal or whatever.. please help i'm like stressin out

The half-life of THC concentration ranges between 0.8 to 9.8 days. There is too much human variation to even approximate how long THC will be detected in the urine of an individual. Infrequent users with a fast metabolism will have the shortest detection time. Frequent users with a slow metabolism will have long detection times. The only way to estimate a detection time is to consider the lower and upper bounds (3-30 days), and decide based on the factors I've mentioned. Other factors determining degree of intoxication include metabolism, tolerance, frequency of intake, fluid intake, amount of marijuana, potency of marijuana, and length of time you've been a user. If you use marijuana on rare occasions, your urine may be clean of metabolites in less than a week. There is a common and strange phenomenon that occurs with chronic users. You would expect a chronic user to have the longest detection time and the smallest chance of passing. This is not always the case. A chronic user with a high tolerance will eliminate drugs quicker than an occasional user. Chronic users have tested negative after a weeklong binge. Lipid tissue also makes a huge difference. Skinny users not only have a faster metabolism (usually), but also lack storage for THC metabolites. Fat will cause a lag in excretion pattern, and lead to a longer detection time. You should now be able to understand why an individual's detection time for THC is so unpredictable. Second hand marijuana smoke in a car can cause you to fail the next day" (Night Byrd). It is possible that second hand [marijuana] smoke will raise someone to the 50 ng/mL level; however, *extreme* exposure is required. For instance, a closed car full of pot smokers and a non-smoker may render the non-smoker positive for both urinalysis and the hair test, provided that they are sealed in the car for a while. The Army did a case study where volunteers were put in a room pumped full of smoke for an hour, five time daily. Subjects started testing positive after the second day. The non-smoker would have to take in virtually as much second hand smoke as a smoker. Non-smokers are safe in a ventilated area, as long as they don't get a hair test. According to Clinton, simply blowing crack smoke on ones hair may cause a positive hair test. Second hand pot smoke doesn't affect the hair test results as much as crack smoke does mainly because exhaled smoke contains no THC. The only pot smoke that contains THC is the smoke that hasn't entered the lungs. Increasing metabolism is probably the most effective way to decrease the time period that drugs can be detected in your system. Physical activity can increase your metabolic rate as much as two thousand percent! Nothing beats proper training taken to an extreme. A high calorie diet is the next best way to increase metabolism. Consuming mass quantities of high calorie food will increase metabolic rate by up to 10 percent. On the contrary, a malnutritious (light) diet could lower your metabolism by 10 percent. Speed (the drug) will also increase metabolism. Unfortunately, labs usually test for speed, and could get you into trouble. So exercise with intensity, and eat big.



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LULABELLE

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Hey, I have a weird question, kinda...Lol.
So I signed up for a couple of account things on this credit card, and I'm thinking about cancelling the credit card account.
If I cancel this card, will the memberships I have be cancelled as well?
They're supposed to bill that card for the memberships, but if I cancelled the card, they wouldn't be able to bill it, would they? Or would they just send bills to my address and I'd have to pay with another card?
Proper spelling and grammar is appreciated. Thanks!

You are asking the wrong forum. I understand your predicament. I've been there as well with regards to trying to contact a business during their business hours. It can be difficult. If you signed up on line then you can still access your account on line. What you can do is go to account information or whatever section (everyone labels it different) that has information about how the account works. You will have to read it. They usually cover all of their bases and let you know exactly what to expect if you do certain things. Also, usually companies have an on line customer service that you can direct questions to. You can ask them this question, though it does take some time for them to respond sometimes, but it is an option. Good luck with this. I know how frustrating it can be to try to get a hold of these online businesses. IT's not easy.


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LULABELLE

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Sorry if this was the wrong category to choose...

Recently my boyfriend's aunt died from cancer. They knew she was sick for a while but they thought she was doing pretty good until a couple days ago. He was very close to his aunt and he is devastated. Every night i talk on the phone to him and he is just so depressed and he misses her so much. I have never lost someone really except all my grandparents but i was too young to really understand. When he talks to me i have no idea what to say. I know i can't make him feel better and its still going to hurt but i have no idea what to say. any advice appreciated

I have been a bereavement councilor in the past. What I find that works best in these situations is simply be there to listen. Let him talk all he wants about how he feels and don't be in judgment about it. Hug him, hold him if you can see he needs it. Simply be loving and kind to him. If he gets snippet don't let it bother you. Let it roll off. This is part of grieving. You don't really have to say anything about his aunt; it's your being there for him that counts. You can keep reminding him how much you care about him and how special he is to you. This weekend see if you can't engage him in some activity like going to the movies or getting together with friends. Activity takes a grieving persons mind off of the death temporarily. I know this is a difficult time for you. Just be your loving and caring self and it will all work out. When they say, "it takes time" just realize it is true. I wish you the best of luck in this and my heartfelt sympathy for this difficult time. If I could wave that magic wand I would do just that.


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i keep having to peee

like all of a sudden really bad and then very little comes out, very often

and i havent drinkin that much today, just a small cup of cranberry juice, a bottle of water, and a can of minute maid lite...

does anyone know what this is?

thank you


Since someone else covered the urinary track infection I will comment on another common infection that can happen for women after they have sex. Women can develop an infection in their bladder because the opening of the urethra (the tube that leads to the bladder) is very close to the opening of the vagina and after sex some semen can enter the urethra, go into the bladder and cause an infection. This infection of the bladder is called cystitis. Symptoms can include feeling the need to pee all the time, after peeing feeling as if you need to go again straight away, experiencing pain or a stinging feeling while peeing, sometimes a dull ache in the lower back or even some blood being passed with the urine. The easiest way to prevent cystitis is to always pee after having sex. This flushes out any semen that may have gone into the bladder and prevents an infection from happening. Also it is important to drink plenty of water (your body weight in oz.) daily so that the bladder is always being flushed out and infections do not have an opportunity to develop. The important thing is to get some treatment, which will probably be a course of antibiotics. Infections that are untreated can move up to the kidneys and cause permanent damage, so, no matter which infection it is it is very important to see your doctor or go to your local clinic right away.


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LULABELLE

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my sister & I have been so excited to buy harry potter & the goblet of fire on dvd & we did today. my sister opened it and watched it, and then realized that it wasn't the version that came with special features! i want the version with special features, but i don't think we can return it to the store if it is already opened (the plastic is off). i'm not even sure if the specific store we bought it at (strawberries) sells the special feature one, so i'd have to buy it somewhere else. what should i do??? is there anyway they will take it back??

I don't think you should have any problem since you are asking to exchange it. Explain that you thought that all of the CDS had the special features and were unaware that there was one w/o them. I'd call first, but if the clerk you speak to says no I'd ask to speak to the Manager. They are usually pretty accommodating. Good luck!



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