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What is Oral Sex? I know, but I've heard so much stuff. Just clarify please. lol. Thanks! ;) Im a female and 16

Oral sex is when you go down on someone... which is basically sucking a guy's dick and vise versa..

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hey alicia. you are soo pretty omg.you dont know me i just found your site. i need advice. it is goin to sound reallly dumb but oh well. my friends always talk about how they have gottn drunk adn stuff and i dont know i f i want to drink or not. i need to know if you do because u seem like really cool and nice and if you think i should still hang out with them even thought they might preasure me. answer ASAP

Well don't do anything you don't want to. And i know i'm not Alicia but i'm telling you that all you have to do is tell them that you're not drinking, and if they still try to force you to, then you don't need them.If they can't respect your desision then there's no need to be around them.

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weLL im back again.
*im kinda tryin to move on from that one boi but not fully. i like this kid who i've only talked to online and who seems really cool. we're suppose to hang out sometime soon and just i guess get to know each other and whatever BUT theres another girl [as always with the guys i like] and its not like we're tiite but we talk a lot and stuff. idk if i should back off cause they were kinda talking first but i guess if they were REALLLY talking then they'd be going out right? what do i do

Well don't back down if they're not going out. But you shouldn't have to compete to be with this boy. Don't wait around for him to make a choice. Spend some time with him in person get to know him and see if he's really worth fighting for. And if ya'll do build into something or both start to have strong feelings for each other, then maybe you should ask him about her and what your status is, or her's. Just make sure he's worth the fight, but try not to compete with the girl, just be yourself. I hope everything works out for you!

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HELLO I WAS CLEANING MY 1 YEAR OLD SON'S EAR AND ACCIDENTLY STUCK IT TO DEEP AND SLIGHT BLEEDING OCCURED. WHAT CAN HAPPEN TO HIS EAR AS A RESULT OF WHAT I DID.

You could of hit his ear drum, you should look it up on the computer and get it checked out if it hurts him or more bleeding occurs..

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me and my friend have a friend *sally* and she has a boyfriend which teyve been dating fro 7 months. she hasnt told her paretns because shes scared. and he wants thme to know . his name is not spoken at hi hosue at all. and she even has a code name for him. but other than that he's been thinking of breaking up with her . shoud i tell her? she's been thinking of having sex with him

Yesss tell her... I can understand, it has to be frustrating for the guy, but you'll have to be more specific.. is it because of his race, or just because they don't like him? But she should tell her parent's too. And let them know that she's going to be with him for a while and that they've been together for 7 months and to give him a chance. But definatly tell her that he's thinking of breaking up with him over the whole situation, as a friend it's good to give her a warning, and tell her it's not because he's not happy with her, it's because he doesn't like being a secret with her parent's.

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I like this guy i'v liked for a long time but i just recentley found out my bestfriend likes him too and she too just found out that i like him she says there talking and that there so close to becomeing a couple me and him are friends and he told me that all he wants is a f*ckbuddy should i tell her that he's really not up for commetment or just let her figure it out by her self please help me.

(so confused)

TELL HER. It's your best friend, and if he says that all he wants is a f*ck buddy then definatly she should know befoe getting into something with him. You wouldn't want to get into that situation where someone just wanted to have sex with you and that be it, and your best friend knew and never told you. She'll be hurt, but believe me, you're a good friend and she'll be glad you said something. And she'll have you to be there for her! good luck babe!

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i have this friend who had a bf for almost a year but lets jus say,,, i dunno how it lasted that long.. anyway the broke up lyk 8 months ago and she jus is gettin outta the depressed phase and is thinking about going out with this other guy.. or should i sey boy because she is soo shallow and immiture.. anyway she flirts lyk crazy with him and he barley cares... theyve talked on the fone and stuff but he always has his other friends on the line and ignores her completely.. Ie tryed to give my advice to her and she ses that its not my business and that i shouldnt give my opinion.. she also said that he might change if they got inot a relationship..in my own opinion she is jus desperate to have a bf and i deciving herself into thinking she likes the first guy she sees... i really dont want to see her hurt again.. what can i do???
thnx

Well babe there's not much you can do. If the guy ignores her then you should show her that somehow. You've already talked to her and tried to get her to listen and she wouldn't. The only thing you can do now is tell her that you've gave her your opinon and for her not to be suprised that it won't get far. Just let her know that she can do better, be with someone who actually gives their time to her and that she could have such a more meaningful relationship... but i mean, the guy doesn't seem like he's going to ask her out really. It seems like he's just using her for when he's bored and has nothing to do. Does she realize that?

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Hi it is me amy again. i am really still sad. i really hope you guys will help me out. Well this is my problem. my best frienmd chose her Boy friend over me i am really getting sad. i wishi knew what to do. so if you can help me send me an email at amyBelle101@AOL. com or just answer it here. thanks a million. amy

Babe it's happend to me, i was heartbroken forever. But what happend was she began to lose more than just one person, and she then realized after losing her best friend that she was being stupid... and she aplogized, now i don't know if that will work out that way for you, but believe me, in time she'll realize what she's done and how she lost one of the most important people in her life. She'll come back to you, it just takes time, and it's going to be painful, but you still have frineds, and TALK to her if at all possible. A BEST friendship is definatly worth the fight, so don't give up and don't lose hope cause in the end it should work out.

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i met this guy but even though i chaned schools we use to hang out. and we ended up dating and we broke up since he didnt want a commitment. but from time to time we hook up even though we dont go out. I dont like him so should i still be hooking up with him?

Well I don't think there's really that much of a problem with it, but if you don't like him, just make sure you feel comfortable doing it. Don't do it just because he wants to, make sure you do too. Only you can deicde when it's time to stop. And make sure he knows that it's not going to lead to ya'll getting back together, he might get the wrong impression, also if he's doing this with other girls, then it's probably best not to mess with him. Don't waste your time on him when you can be with someone who you actually care about and want to be with.

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i want guyz to answer this quest. girlz, u can also answer it too! ther is this boy that i like, and he has a girl, but he also has or used 2 have a crush on this other girl. It looks like wants to approach me, but im always with my friends. I don't know if he likes me, but some1 told him i liked him. Im really shy, so how can i know if he likes me, and how can i make the first move? im flirty, so yes, i do have a column here. crazyflirty@yahoo.com

Well you like him yes, but don't forget that he's involved with another person. If you're shy and you want to talk to him, maybe start off easy like finding his screen name and talking to him on the internet, then gradually build up to the phone and in person. But I would have to say i think it would be best if you waited till he ended it with his other girlfriend, when cheating comes up, someone always gets hurt. :-/

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(its clichedlust) it says im an admin now...how amny of you became admins recentlyy?? WOW THIS IS SOOO COOL /sarcasm

HAHA I DID! :)

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Hey, i have a problem. I have this friend and she has a Boy Friend i really want to spend more time with her but she always is talking about him or with him. I HATE IT. i really hope you can help me with this problem, thanks.
Amy =(

It was the EXACT same with me and my best friend. I told her how i had felt, and it ruined our friendship. You definatly need to tell her. I kept how I felt about it from her for along time... and when I told her I was angry and bitter and I didn't say it nice at all, it was the end of our friendship. But you should talk to her as soon as possible, let her know that you're hurt cause you feel a guy is coming between you. She's not doing the right thing, but i think that everyone eventually get's caught up in a new flame once or twice. When you talk to her, she may not realize it then, but soon she'll figure out how much she misses you. I'm sure things will work out, just say it in a calm way and don't approach the subject with hard feelings. hope everything works out for you babe!

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16--f
i was dating a guy and flames for ex came back blah blah blah long story...and i told my friend Brandy, adn after i said somethign, she just changed the subject and didnt offer me any words of wisdom, adn everytime i mentioned it, she went crazy and changed the subject. it is kind of frustrating becuase i want t otalk to her out it but she doesnt want to hear it...i do happen to knwo that she really doesnt like my ex, she never approved of us to begin with...but, what can i do...??? to at least get her to be able to help me through my problems? is there anything i CAN do? HELP!!!

Well it will be hard to get her to talk about it when she's not a big fan of your ex. But you should be straight forward with her. And tell her that just becuase she doesn't like your ex doesn't mean she can't offer some words of wisdom, maybe ask her why she doesn't like your ex listen to what she has to say as well.

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i can't act normal around my boyfriend. i act like a bimbo and i show off. i tried to explain it to him but he doesn't really understand, my friends hate the way i act round him and so do i. i really like him, i don't wanna break up with him but i've tried to be myself but i can't. what do i do? :(

Well that probably means you just like him alot...Don't break up with him definatly. If you like him then this is just the beginning of a wonderful relationship where you feel all those butterflys and don't know how to act around him, it's completly normal for the first few months of being with him. You're going to get uncontrollable feeelings around him and act completly different. just talk with him one on one and become closer with him, so you'll feel more comfortable around him...

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I like a 6th grader and I'm pretty sure he knows but there is no way I can talk to him without barely being able to speak how do I deal?

Well as much as I go against this, maybe getting a friend to talk to him first would help... or even talking to him on the computer first would be good. You can get to know him on the computer and take it slow in person,.... tht would definatly help so you can be use to talking to him... and although it'll be hard when you're talking ot him in person, talking to him on the internet or the phone first would be best, so you can feel comfortable with him...

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I enjoy sex a lot but i'm rarely in the mood. My boyfriend says that i'm probably seeing someone else but im not.And i notice if im not really in the mood i get these cramps in my legs. My boyfriend tries his best to satisfy my sexual needs and he accuses me of thinking only of myself. What can i do? Is there some sort of cure 4 this? I am still attracted to him

It's definatly not him. Maybe you're thinking of different things... i mean, if you're not in the mood then it's his job to make you in the mood. You're probably in the mood, there's just something holding you back. When sex comes up with him, concetrate on only him, and what he's doing to you. If you don't feel in the "mood" then let him lead you into the mood... Try and not think about anything but him and what he's doing to you, it helps me alot cause i do the same thing you do.. maybe it's your nerves doing this...

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I like this guy and I really have no idea why.. We have never talked in person but I think he's cute and we've talked on the internet before. Do you think I should take a chance and go up to him and start talking or what ? Im confused...

I've done the same thing... talked to a hot guy on the computer and then go out with him... he's such a sweet guy but it didn't work out. DEFINATLY talk to him before your feelings get any stronger, take a chance to know him.

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alright well, lol. im 14 and a female. i feel kinda goofy doing this but whatever. i was going out with this boy for about 3 months and then broke up and have been for about 2 months. we've still been really really close though we talk all the time and hangout a lot and yeah, we've done stuff together since. he heard i had a boyfriend or was into some other guy, which isn't true. so now he has a gf i told him a couple days ago i still liked him and he should dump the girl hes with right now so i need to know if i should even bother waiting because he thinks it'd be messed up if he dumped her now just after a few weeks cause it would look like he was using her. i KNOW he still likes me thought, its like a feeling.

Well if he still likes you then you should stick with it. However don't wait on him too long. He should break it off with the other girl if he still has some feelings for you. I've been going through the exact same thing. It takes time but if ya'll BOTH still have feelings for each other, there is no need in ignoring them. He needs to realize that he wants to be with you and leading the girl on for longer would be wrong ifhe is planning on being with you. Tell him that you don't want to wait and that he's just leading her on, and breaking it off with her would be best. Basically, it's not in your hands now, it's in his. But it's your choice to wait or not. Give it a week or two and if nothing changes then it's probably best to move on.

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I'm a 17 Female

There's this guy who goes to my friends church. His name is Collin. Anyway, I've thought Collin was cute for a while and I noticed him looking at me a few times during church and stuff. Well I told my guy friend, Aaron (who's friends with him) about it. Well last Sunday night Aaron went up to Collin and asked him what he thought about me (I didn't know what he was doing at the time. All I saw was Aaron talking to him and Collin smiling a lot.) Well Aaron told me that Collin smiled and nodded and said "Nice" (like he thought I looked good or something). Aaron told me I'd have to start talking to him because he's shy or w/e. Well when I got home he was online and my friend Crystal (whom he barely knows by the way) IMed him.. and asked him what he thought about me, again. And he told HER that he wasn't my type or something like that.. Could someone tell me what he means by this? I mean.. I know he's saying he doesn't think He's my type but.. why did he act like he was interested when my friend Aaron asked him but completely turn the tables when Crystal asked him.. Could it be that he doesn't know Crystal and didn't really want to tell her, or what? If anyone could help me, I'd greatly appreciate it! :)

Well Aaron said that he was shy, so he was probably being shy. He might not feel comfortable telling everyone his feelings, especially people that he doesn't talk to. I think it would be best if maybe you were the one to talk to him, you can never know with friends telling you, you need to go get him yourself. Maybe then ya'll can get to know each other and see how things go from there. If he's shy i'm sure he'd much rather you talk to him first, so he doesn't feel so nervous. Hope it helped, good luck babe.

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i have been together with my boyfriend for over two years but lately when he sleeps over in week-ends his cell phone rings up late at night...very late at night and when i picked it up the person hangs up.he denied knowing who is the caller, But yesterday he confessed that he knew who was calling and admitted to have been flirting aroundwith his friend's girlfriend.He says that it is partly my fault since he started to flirt with this girl only at the begining of this year after i had a one night stand in December.What should i do?I need advice.I do not want to leave him.

This isn't a heathy relationship, two wrongs definatly don't make a right. And I think he could possibly just be using that as an excuse. Ya'll need to communicate about this, if you don't want to leave him then you need to do something quick to save this relationship or it will end in heartache. Yes, you having the one night stand was wrong, but him doing that is no better. He just wants you to feel the heartache he felt. In best adivce i would say it's best to move on. But if you feel too strong about him to do that, then maybe ya'll should get counseling, if you're old enough to do that. Talking over the situation will work out best, if it get's nowhere except more arguing, then counseling might be your best option.

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