Question:
Ok, so I'm 19/m lost mad weight and now I'm trying to look alittle better everything on me is skinny for the most part but my belly and I was woundering if there's anything I could do to lose the belly.... also I was woundering what work outs I could do at home (I don't got a gym membership can't really afford that or weights) like pecs, bicep, calf, forearm.. so just any little thing just to help me look better would be a big help. THANKS!

My Answer:
Believe it or not, home or gym doesn't matter. What decides your success is your determination and how long you will stick to the training.

This training is tough for the first two or three months, but from there on it gets easier and easier; then by fifth year, you'll be enjoying the joy of walking into a dark alley at night with absolute confident >=)


Let's begin, shall we?

--Wake up early in the morning ("early" means 4:00 AM to 5:00 AM, NOT 7:00 AM), go out to your yard, and do some stretching. Push your body a little because the point of this is train your body's flexibility. Do this for about 20 minutes.

--After that, jog for half an hour. Then after a month, steadily increase it until you can continuously jog for a whole hour without stopping. After 2 or 3 years, strive for 2 hours if you can. (Jog, not walk, just to make it clear.) The point of this is endurance, not enduring pain, but to extend the time it takes to get you to be tired. And this trains your heart, too, an important internal organ.

--After the jog, 100 sit-ups and 30 push-ups. After three months, steadily increase the rate to 150 sit-us and 50 push-ups. After that, strive for over 100 push-ups. (and this is RIGHT AFTER the jogging). This is arm-strength training.

--You'll be very tired after all that. So rest a bit, catch your breath, then take a bath. While taking the bath, drown yourself. In the first 6 months, see if you can hold your face under water for over 2 minutes. After 1 year, strive for 5 minutes. (Don't know if you can go longer than that though, because I have never been able to do that . . . yet.) Lung training.


--Go to work or school, hangout, whatever, just do your everyday stuffs.


--In the afternoon, put together a thick stack of paper (again, thick! Else, you'll hurt yourself a lot), tape the thick stack of paper onto a brick wall or a tree's truck, and punch it. Punch it as hard as you can until your knuckles hurt, bleed, or maybe until you just bored of it.

--Sprint 10 meters, not 100 meters, but 10! Run as fast as you can. It doesn't matter whether you can run long distance. The goal of this is to cover a short distance in the least amount of time possible. Speed training.

--As you have dinner, sit without a chair supporting your butts. You still sit as if there's an invisible chair there. Your feet, knee, and thigh area will be undergoing serious training if you do this everyday =D


--relax a little now, do whatever you want


--Just before you go to sleep, do some push-up. Your goal is 50 at first, then slowly strive for 100, and then until you are exhausted.

--After that, try to stand by your arms instead of legs. Get support from a wall if you have to. In the first 3 month, your goal is 10 minutes. Then steadily strive for longer time as you go. After 7 months, try to walk with your arms =)

--Time to sleep? Take a bath! As you take a bath, drown yourself again, just like what you did in the morning.


--Yoga if you want to, if you don't, who care! Yoga is mental training, you are aiming for physical training here so you can careless about it. >=)


--IT'S WEEKEND!!! =D What should you do? Well, do whatever you usually do, but no training in the weekend. Your body NEED TO REST! Instead, you should dance. This is agility training. Dancing help make you feel like your body is lighter, so that your movement will be a lot smoother and thus, your agility increased. Dancing is a training itself. If you don't like to dance, play some sports, such as tennis, badminton, soccer, or basketball.


--3 years later--

--Join a martial art school. You've trained your body so well over the last three years. Now, your goal here is not to study martial art, but to train your reflexes. Sparring without other practitioners help you train your reflexes in danger. Not to mention that here you will have all the equipments to further your training.


--2 more years passed-- (a total of 5 years)

--1 against 3 street fight? Marathon? Peace of cake >=) You may not come out first, but top places are yours. Of course, it depends on how intense you've train. After five years, even if a person has a gun, if he is within 20 feet from you, he's no threat.

--Of course, never stop training. As you get older, the amount of training will become less, but you'll have a healthy body. =D

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Question:
so i heard that i doctor can tell whether a girl is a virgin or not.
what is it that they look at that indicates whether or not they have had sex?

My Answer:
They cannot tell for sure, unless you have sex regularly, or the week right before you visit the doctor. However, they can tell whether your hymen still intact or not.


Here's the break down in different situation:

--If you have never had sex before and your hymen is still intact, then yes, they can tell that you have NEVER had sex before.

--If you have had sex a few time before, but are not having it now, then the answer is no, they can't tell. Reasons being that the hymen can easily be torn (e.g. horse-back riding, bike riding, a fall, tampon use, etc., some women doesn't even have a hymen since birth to begin with). Oh, and just for your information (F.Y.I), the hymen can be restore =)

--If you had sex last night, last week, or maybe even the last two weeks, then they may be able to detect sperm if they look at the "vaginal secretions."

--If you have sex regularly, then they can tell by looking at your vaginal walls.


That answered your second question, too, didn't it? The doctor look at your vaginal walls and your vaginal secretions to tell whether you have had sex or not. The hymen is not that good of an indication of whether a girl have had sex or not.

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Question:
Okay now I pretty much screwed up my G.P.A last year. So its a C average. My goal is to graduate with at least a 3.0. Is a 3.0 a good G.P.A??

My Answer:
Usually anything above 3.0 is considered good GPA, and anything from 3.7 to 4.0 is considered excellent.

But instead of 3.0, you might want strive for 3.8 and above. The higher your GPA is, the easier it is for you to get an academic scholarship, which will help you out a lot during your college years.

And if you don't have enough time to build up your GPA again, then try to score really high on the ACT and SAT tests. High scores on those tests open up new doors to full-right scholarships as well. And it's not that hard because most likely you can take your ACT tests during your summer vacation. Plenty of time to study! =)

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Question:
im in 9th grade, 14 years old, about 100 pounds, and 5'1", and i am COMPLETELY flat-chested. and when i say that, im not exaggerating. i don't just have really small boobs, there's nothing there at all. i have the chest of a seven year old. no one i know is like me, and i feel like im not normal. people say to be patient, but im so afraid ill never get them. is this possible?
p.s.: i've just started my period a little while ago, and all other signs of puberty are there.

My Answer:
So, well, to begin with, I am a 16-year-old male, finishing my 11th grade year. So please be aware that I don't know anything about women's "stuffs" and I also have no idea why breast size matters so much to women anyway, just like I don't understand why it takes almost half an hour for my friend to solve her so-called "shoes crisis" (happened several months ago, which made us almost late to the HOSA Officer State Conference >_ conclusion = your breast size is in proportion with the body, doesn't seem like there's anything wrong with it.

2. Guys don't really care about breasts that much, well, not unless he's planning to do some "adult stuffs" with her. We generally care about the face and weight (not . . . saying anything bad about chubby people there, I'm just stating a generalization).

3. Hey, c'mon, it's high school. And I believe that you can deal with peer pressure effectively. Just make sure that you do something because you wanted to, not because your peers wanted you to.

4. Genes affects your rate of maturity. Typically, Asian girls mature slower than American girls (and tend to be shorter, too).

5. Large breast means more tension in their upper extremities, which causes backaches in the long run. You are free from all the extra weight. You get to move around more freely.

6. Breast cancer is more common among larger breast women. Also, if you happen to have to go though a double mastectomy (surgical removal of both breasts, a common treatment for breast cancer), no one will know. (Well, except your husband since you two will be doing the you-know-what stuffs).

7. You are just 14. Give it some time. Have you ever watched the movie Sky High? Yep, exactly my point, maybe you're just late boomer =D


Hmm . . . feel kind of weird talking about breasts to a female. Usually this is guys' secret talk when there's no girl around, hahaha.

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Question:
can anyone tell me when you know when you're in love...like the feelings that you feel, as opposed to DEEP infatuation and lust?
im 16 years old and i really think that im in love but i also have strong feelings on that word, and i just want to know when id know that im truly in love.
what kind of feelings am i supposed to feel if i am?

My Answer:
Hmm . . . I'll be assuming that you are talking about romantic love =)

No one can because no one truly knows what love is. The definition of love is different for each person, and most likely mine will probably different from yours. You will have to find your own definition of love by yourself or with the help of a close, real-life friend (have to be a close friend).

My only advice for you is . . . that . . .
no matter what you do, do NOT let your first love be a FALLACY. Love is easily confused with infatuation and close friendship. Again, try not to let your first love be a fallacy.

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Question:
You all know that when you stay in water for a long time, your hands get all wrinkled.
I would like to know why this happens and if it could be a health risk ?

THANKS :]

My Answer:
The sebaceous glands in the outside layer of the skin, the epidermis (epi- means above, derm means skin, -is . . . uh, I forgot what it means), produces an oily substance called sebum.

After being soak in water for a certain amount of time, the oily matter, sebum , begins to come off, and your hands begin to absorb water.


Skin absorbs too much water ---> causes it to swells

But because the epidermis (outer skin) does not connected to your dermis underneath it in all places, the places where it doesn't connect expands.

And that's why your hand get all wrinkled.

And no, there's no health risk, at least not unless the water is poisonous or boiling. The water will evaporate eventually and new layer of sebum will be secrete by the sebaceous glands. Your skin will be back to normal in no time.

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Question:


"Otsego Amigo."
Someone said this to me and I don't know what it means... Could somebody please tell me.

I think its Spanish, jeez I don't know.

My Answer:
Yes, it's Spanish. The translation is:
"Otsego Friend"

"Otsego" is the name of a city in Minnesota.
"Amigo" is Spanish for "friend."

But it doesn't make any sense to me though O_O
Did that person just come to you and say that out of the blue or was there a conversation going on? Was it use in a sentence?

Edit: Actually, I just did a search and now I don't know what Otsego means anymore. Take a look, there're like . . . four cities with that same name: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Otsego

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Question:
Does anyone know where I can download a COMPLETELY FREE picture editor that can let you blur a specific part of yer picture?
Dont say PhotoFilter
Cause I've already used up my free trial period on that
Which sucks majorly):

HELPP PLEASE

My Answer:
Photoscape is a good basic photo editing tool that you can use. Great for basic uses.
http://www.photoscape.org/ps/main/index.php

Paint.NET is very simple to use and it does exactly you need and more. You can work with layers on this, too. Great for beginners.
http://www.getpaint.net/

GIMP is a advanced photo editor that can be compare to the expensive photoshop, but it may takes you a few months to actually learn how to use it effectively. Great for advanced users.
http://www.gimp.org/

All three of them are totally free.

As for your case, I would recommend you use Paint.NET.

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Question:
how do you go about getting tested for herpes? there's a Teen Focus in my town.. is that what that's for? how much does it cost [no health insurance] and how long will it take to get the results back? i dont wanna go to my family doctor though.

a week ago i kissed this guy ONE time that i later found out has stage 2 herpes, and my throat has been a little sore lately, so i'm freaking out.
however after that i kissed another guy who i'm talking to, for the past 5 or so days and he went to his friends mom who's a physician to get his mouth checked out and she said he's clean and told him that i should be too even though she didn't see me. i'm really scared though, should i be worried?

My Answer:
Wow, must have been a really, really hot kiss, huh? xD

Hehehe, just joking, anyhow, if you have gone to the doctor, there is nothing to worry about now. And some knowledge about herpes might help cease your uneasiness.

Some facts about herpes:
1. Herpes is more common than you think. Most people have herpes, either as genital herpes, or as cold sores.

2. There is NO cure for herpes. You can worry about it all you want, but there is neither a cure for herpes nor an absolute way to prevent it from spreading to you. What the medication that the physician provides you do is simply shorten or prevent the outbreaks.


Besides that, what kind of kiss did you have with him anyway? Because as far as I know, kissing around the mouth will NOT transmit herpes, well, at least not unless you guys like . . . do it with the tongue where all the saliva going around . . . if you know what I mean. Herpes is a localized infection, not a systemic infection.

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Question:
hi, well. my mom doesn't find webcamming so
safe bc i wanted to buy a webcam and use it
on oovoo. and shes just not listening to me,
in her words she thinks webcamming is " inviteing
people into your home " and she doesn't like it
yett i told her all my other friends have it.
she doesn't care and said so, use it when
you go over there house so i guess what
im trying to say is, is webbcamming
safe or not on oovoo? if so, what
are some way i can convience
my mom to get me one.

-torii x0o

My Answer:
If you are a girl, yes, using webcam would put you in some potential dangers, so I would NOT recommend you use a webcam if you are a girl, unless your knowledge about computer and networking is quite decent.

Here's why:
1. Each webcam has a web address. If someone somehow obtain it, he/she can access it. Of course, webcams come with password, but many users do not bothers to change the default password, making it easy to break through. (I was able to secretly access one of my acquaintance's webcam this way, but her cousin found out two or three days later though, and got me into big trouble with my parents =( . . . and that was only intended to be a joke.)

2. There are also Trojan horse programs that allow hackers to activate a webcam without the user's knowledge.

3. Once they have a webcam, 90% of the kids are not going to keep their promise of "only use it with people whom they know." Ever search around YouTube? Yeah, on YouTube, I've seen videos recorded by webcams showing girls around the age of fifteen dancing in thong underwear. Quite a sight, don't you think?


Knowing all that, if you think you can handle the potential problems, go for it. After all, webcam is a great way to communicate with your friends. You just have to be careful =)


What if you are a boy? Well, go for it, it's your choice. No pedophile or pervert is going to target a boy anyway. Besides, it's not like we cannot defend ourselves. Of course, if you have over five years of studying martial art, then all the better ^-^

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Question:
I am always feeling down and blue but I'm always hyper and naturally funny. I neve stop talking. But inside I hate myself and wish I was either dead or someone else.

I cut myself on average twice a month when things get ontop of me

I feel like I have no identity but whenever I ask for help the people around me are so wrapped up in themselves and say stuff like "that's a shame" and my sis just says "yeah well get over it"

I am so stressed and noone cares life is all crap and I might as well just sleep forever

P.S I'm not gonna kill myself so persuasion is not needed

Any advice ?

My Answer:
I have two answers for this--one is from my own experience, and the second one is honestly how I feel after I have read your question. (The second answer might offend you.)

I lead a very different life style from you, but I think I experiencing similar amount of stress, too.

Different because I use optimism to cover my worries, stress, and tiredness. I smile a lot and I keep my emotion at total control with a calm attitude. I hate to show others my weaknesses, and I certainly don't want anyone to know that I am under stress or too tired.

Similar amount of stress? Perhaps. Because I don't often express my true emotion, the tension and stress do build up overtime. But I found ways to deal with them so I am fine, and I think they may work for you, too.


Here're the ways:
1. Do not feel down. If you do not feel happy, then at the very least, get the negative thoughts out of your mind. Start by getting a good night of sleep and one hour of morning exercise (and by morning, I mean EARLY MORNING, like at 4 AM or 5 AM; for me, usually I begin at 4:30 AM).

2. Instead of cutting yourself, put together a thick stack of paper (again, a thick stack of paper) and tape it onto a brick wall or a tree. Punch it! Punch it until your knuckles hurts, bleed, or maybe until you simply feel bored of it.

3. Instead of asking people for help, write diary. Note: WRITE is different from TYPE. Keeping a diary gives you a chance to go over what had happened in the day so that you could reflect on your own action. Not only does it help relief your stress, it helps you realize how minor a problem is.

4. Instead of sleep forever, how about sit forever? Sit down, close your eyes, and stay still, absolutely still, for as long as you can. You won't last any longer than 3 minutes, don't worry =), unless you are really pushing yourself. (I never got any longer than around 20 minutes). This helps provide you a sudden burst of energy. And believe it or not, if you sit absolutely still, not moving a single muscle for around 10 minutes, when you start to walking again, you'll feel like you have too much excess energy and you will feel the urge to go hyper.


What's the whole point? Body training. These are the ways that I use to physically release my mental and emotion stress (and anger, too). Just like what you did, these ways exert your strength and hurt (maybe, depends on how clumsy you are) your body, too. But at the same time, it benefits you by making your body more sturdy and clearing your mind.



****Warning, the next answer, as cautioned at the beginning, might offend you****















Lack of self-confident seems to be the root of your depression. You feel like you have no identity because you have no talent--you do not excel in sport nor have excellent grades. You feel like you need attention, but having a difficult time to admit it, though you vaguely sense it. You are feeling sorry for your very own self.

Best solution is to talk with someone who will just simply talk to you about it instead of tell you what to do about it, someone that is NOT your relative or your friend, preferably a person who is above thirty years old and have an interest in philosophy.

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Question:
So i know the only safe sex is no sex. but me and my boyfriend have been dating and it's pretty serious. we both really want to do it, but i'm so paranoid about getting pregnant! even with a condom! any advice? I'm 15, i'm not ready to be a mom haha.

My Answer:
I know that you have been given this answer billions of times, and I know that you knew this already . . . I am sorry to have to repeat it to you but there is not any other way for me to say this:

-Do not have sex unless you are over 21 years old.

I will not go over the reason why as I believe you knew already, and because it is quite lengthy, but if you are interest, I will gladly elaborate on that. But nevertheless, since he loves you, he should know what is best for you two and refrain himself.


If you still insist on doing with him anyway, (oh, and tell your boyfriend that he's one lucky guy), then be aware that:

-sperms can come out anytime during sex. And even the pre-cum can get you pregnant.

-"sex" affects your mental and emotional state, too.

So if his penis get anywhere near your vagina, tell him to put on the condom, and it's good if you have birth-control pill, too.

But nevertheless, I recommend you to not let him take away your virginity so early. Keep in mind that there are things you cannot undo.

(And sorry if my language bothers you. Being in the medical field [or at least going into the medical field] I talk about these things without blushing =P)

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