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how do you know?
can anyone tell me when you know when you're in love...like the feelings that you feel, as opposed to DEEP infatuation and lust?
im 16 years old and i really think that im in love but i also have strong feelings on that word, and i just want to know when id know that im truly in love.
what kind of feelings am i supposed to feel if i am?
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Ok well in my opinion no one can ever tell you when your in love. Many people have tried to describe it but no one really knows how. You will know when you are in love and no one will be able to tell you whether you are or not. All i can say is all you want to do is be with that person and everytime you see them you get butterflies. Especially if you have been with each other for a long time and you still get butterflies that really means something. Lust is when you need someone or when you are sexually attached to someone. A lot of people get love and lust mixed up. If you think your in love then you probably are. But if your not you will sooner or later find out. Hope i helped =]
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I used to have to ask that. But then I realised... since I had to ask I knew I wasnt. It's true what they say. You will just know.Like a lot of people say, It is different for everyone. But as I said you will know... I found that out the hard way
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Hmm . . . I'll be assuming that you are talking about romantic love =)
No one can because no one truly knows what love is. The definition of love is different for each person, and most likely mine will probably different from yours. You will have to find your own definition of love by yourself or with the help of a close, real-life friend (have to be a close friend).
My only advice for you is . . . that . . .
no matter what you do, do NOT let your first love be a FALLACY. Love is easily confused with infatuation and close friendship. Again, try not to let your first love be a fallacy.
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we can't exactly tell you the feelings you're supposed to feel, because in my opinion,love is different for everyone. See, lust is just attraction-you like the physical things about them,but you don't really know who they are or love the little things about them. When your in love-you'll know you can trust the person, you can be goofy and yourself with them and also imagine growing old with them,sometimes. it could be love at first sight-like you've been missing something for awhile but when you're eyes meet you've suddenly found it. Or,it could grow from a friendship, where you trust and know eachother so well;and you can't imagine life with out them. Its really an intence emotion and only you can decide if you want to let your guard down and feel it or not. If you love someone,you care for them,think about them all the time,like the little things they do and accept they're flaws. Before loving someone, you have to be able to love yourself. I would wait on saying the 4 letter word if you haven't known them long or don't see sparks everytime they're around you(or have instant chemistry). You can be in like with them ( :D ), and over time grow to love them. Theres many kinds of love. Most people say, when you love someone, you know for sure. Try talking to them more and hanging out with them to see all sides of this person. If you feel out of control of your emotions then it'll be hard to tell what your feeling is real or not. But hay, why not give it a try once you're ready? You never know what could happen :D! good luck and hope i helped some,
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When love is real, you're acutely aware of the fact that you'd stay with this person through bad times as well as good times. You have no doubt that you'll be together for an infinite amount of time. When they're sick, you want to be right next to them, waiting on them hand and foot. When you're sick, they're the first person you want to call. You want to make them smile, whatever it takes. You're okay with looking like a moron in front of them because you know it won't change the way they feel about you, and you know nothing they do or say could change the way you feel about them. You want to be with them, regardless of their obnoxious habits and stupid jokes - you can overlook the bad things because the good things just outweigh them. There's nothing about them you'd change. You love that person for who they really are - ALL of who they are. They're your best friend.
It's not necessarily thinking of that person constantly, not eating, not sleeping, etc - that's infatuation. Lust is a physical desire. Lust is a part of real love, but it doesn't overwhelm the emotion.
I don't want to sound like an expert on the emotion - this is just what I feel, and I'm more than certain that love is the correct term for it. Love is the feeling that drives people to spend their lives together, get married, and have families. It's not a fleeting thing.
You can feel very strongly about someone, and if love is the word that comes to mind, then that's what you're feeling. If you're wrong, you're wrong. No one can tell you exactly how you're going to feel when you're in love. It's a pretty individualized thing.
If you have strong feelings, be happy. Enjoy them. =)
-Siren
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Look I dated a guy for a while I "thought" i was in love he cheated on me. I ended up leaving him. while i was this him i meet my bestfriends brother. first time i seen him i honestly felt like i had been just struck. weak knees. I love him and we ended up dating and hes going through some crap so were on a break. but i dont feel like i can lose him. i love him with all my heart. and will do anything for him.
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