Hey everyone...one of my closest friends has been missing school lately and i asked him about it. He told me he was having panic attacks, etc. and he had to see a shrink. He also told me that his mom thinks he is going to kill himself because his brother caught him trying to do it, he said he went on a balcony at his house and was going to jump but his bro saw him and said whats going on. He told me the suicide thing happened a couple monts ago and I am just reallly worried. I am becoming depressed thinking about what would happen if he did kill himself. he is such a nice guy and is happy all the time- i just dont get it. Why do you think he told me he tryed to kill himself? What should I do? Im really upset-please any advice would help!
He most likely told you because he wants you especially to help him deal with this. He know he will probably do it again. And by telling you, he knows someone knows and will help him deal. The best thing to do is get him happy and make him realize the greatest moments that life can offer. The more he realizes that death isn't the best option, the more likely he wont go suicidal again.
Signs of being suicidal tend to be depressed, anti social, thoughts of suicide, selling of personal objects, etc. If you notice these signs, you need to approach him immediately. Don't think it will subside in time, because it won't. Even with a shrink, you need to get to him and get others to get to him as well. The more your in his life and the happier you make him become, the less suicidal he gets.
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my boyfriend has recently been avoiding me, he walks away when he sees me, and when i walk by him or he walks by me he never smiles anymore, it seems like hes almost glaring at me...what could this mean? is he nervous?does he hate me?
thanks:)
Many things could be the reason for this.
Rumors
Cheating
You did something he doesnt like
Jealousy
He might have done something and he thinks you know
He might have done something and he doesnt want you to know
etc
If you can, try to get him alone with you and get him to tell you whats wrong and why hes doing this. Alone because he could use other things as excuses to avoid getting into the matter. If he doesnt want to answer your question, dont just let him go like that, try an alternative form in order to get him to tell. Whether you have to burst into tears or slap him in the face to tell you is all on how he behaves and what your willing to do.
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I'm going out with this guy... Its been two days, and we haven't kissed outright... However, he likes to kiss my neck. He touches me in these little ways that turn me on, and I didn't even know I could feel like that. :) But still... is there anything weird about that?
Not at all, hes just probably trying to get you in the mood and make you want more, you know? He most likely feels that if he just goes and kisses you that it would give you the wrong message. So no worries.
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do you think it's possible to have a friend that is attractive and never ever have any romantic feelings for them?!..if so why or why not?!
Heck yea! I've actually had lots of those. Its all normal. Usually, a person would have feeling for someone either they cant have, or someone they know very well have have a lot in common. Not having feelings for someone whose attractive simply means your not compelled to be with that person in a serious relationship.
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i think i might be Schizophrenic. Sometimes when i see something like a kitten, i cant help but to think "kill it!" or stupid stuff. it goes a lot worser then that like, stuff i dont actually feel, but i cant help to think about it. then i try and get rid of the thought but i cant. eventually it will go but it keeps popping into my mind. like my mind keeps thinking it, but i dont want to. like really sick thoughts. also, since a a few years ago, i develop stupid habits like shaking my head, heavy breathes, twitching. if i dont do these things sometimes, its like the feeling you get when you hold your breath for about 5 seconds, you just have to breath, or in my case, twitch etc. Sometimes i can go without doing it, when i dont think about it, but when i do, i have to do it.
Also, sometimes i hear stuff, like high frequency beeps, while im in bed. i normally cant get to bed and lie there for an hour before i do, and during that time is when i hear it.
im just wonderin, is it Schizophrenia? or anything else?
It could be, but lets not pessimistic now. You could just be having dark thoughts just because. I mean, everyone gets these thoughts sometimes. Shaking your head can be involuntary denial, as in sub consciously, your mind is trying to deny something... The deep breathes could be a result from the thoughts, and when you notice them, you get nervous or your brain is using a lot of oxygen by developing those thoughts. So your deep breathes are to get back that oxygen. Twitching is muscle spasms from result of low oxygen. So again, the deep breathes are to try to get back the oxygen. And the beeps you hear at night are normal. Its just your ears are use to loud noise, but when you go to bed, you no longer hear those noises, so your ears are trying to adjust.
If those thoughts of your seriously bother you, and you cant find an alternative activity to put them off, I would suggest writing down these thoughts as they occur and show them to a doctor or school counselor. That is, unless your worried they'll send you to an insane facility. Then try to cope it by yourself. I dont suggest pain, but it might keep your head straight if the thoughts get too bad. And by pain, I mean pinch or bite of the tongue, nothing too serious, just enough to jump start your system. Try doing this especially if you get the sexual thoughts or exremely violent ones. Those are most likely to get to you and make you break out in violence and other unwanted events.
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And if it really bothers you(the MSN thing) then its best to tell you thats probably a sign he knows and he doesn't know what to do. Because logic won't give him a good enough answer. So just let it go and continue on okay? Good Luck b^_^
Hey there,
Thank you so much for the advice. What do you mean by 'he knows he doesn't know what to do?'
I'm still in a very cluttered stage, cant think well enough and it's affecting me a lot, as it's been 2 years, and I really wish we were together. I thought it was a crush in the beginning but it's way more deeper than that now, and it's really scaring me as all i can do when i've anytime at all to spare is think of him. Please help!
Okay, by saying he knows and doesnt know what to do, I mean he knows about your crush, but has no clue what to think of it. Kind of like your daydreaming and your teacher asks you a question and you didnt hear the question, so you dont know what to do. Or in other terms of understanding, a guy tells you hes had a crush on you forever and you dont really like this guy, so you dont know whether to turn him down or accept the news. So you would try to avoid him as much as possible...
But back to your dilemma, if you want him out of your mind for the moments you need him out of mind most, try having a habit of some sort that will keep you busy. Reading, doodling, listening to music, etc. But if you cant get him out of mind, try using him as motivation instead of worry. Not to imagine him as a tool or anything, but more like a set goal. And keep trying the advice I gave last time, so you two stay with each other. Its possible his wall of obliviousness will take a long time to penetrate, and soon time, you might just have to tell how you feel...
You have this pressure and stress building up inside, and your actual problem could be that you won't let it out. Write in a journal or record your thoughts by recording device so you can at least say something. Talk to a friend about it and have them listen as well as give their opinion(if you want them). The more you let out, the less this pressure for a relationship with him will affect you negatively. Just keep an open mind about things and stay as calm as possible as well as have patience, which I know is the hardest thing to come by...
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Alright, to indicate a small history. I have a good friend, you could almost say we used to be best friends. Recently I've been falling for him. We've hung out a few times and I could see some hints but I could just be fooling myself. We are going to prom together, as friends [he is in grade 10 and i am in 12]. I've decided that I am going to tell him, but I don't know when or how. My question to you is:
Do you think it would be corny to use Valentine's Day as an excuse to tell him I like him? If not..Any ideas?
First of all, I dont think it would be corny if you told him on Valentines Day. I actually think that would be the most common time to express your love for someone, you know? But if you dont think so, then dont do it. If you feel you could tell it in private, then go for it. If you cant, get him to be alone with you. Dont send any txt or email messages about it. Do it all in person. And if you want to know the best time, the time is ASAP! The sooner you spill the beans(not to make it sound like its a super embarrassing secret or anything...) the more likely you'll get the answer you want. The longer you wait, the more it will pain you and the more opportunities it gives other women. So get rid of all that doubt in your head and optimistic about it. As long as you think positive, nothing bad should happen!
So, Good luck with it! b^_^
((P.S. - If he does feel uncomfortable about you liking him or likes someone else or whatever, dont freak out, dont burst into tears, dont do anything close to it! Ask if you could at least stay friends. Because he could eventually change his mind))
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What would I be called if I believed in God (singular), but didn't recognize any sort of prophet or holy book?
Thanks.
I think its called an Orthodox Christian, or simply Agnostic(
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this boy i know really believes in God. It's a good thing that suppose to make him a better person. HOwever, I feel he has so much hate inside of him. He is anti-social; doesn't consider others' feeling when he talks or make comments about others; he told me to "go to hell" when all i did was rush him to work.
I don't think we are friends anymore (we don't talk or txt or anything now). But I want to help him. what should I do?
He most likely feels that God is betraying him and hes not getting what hes asking for from Him. When really, God is giving him every moment he can to give what he asks for, but he won't notice it. I dont like getting all Christian/Church like but you should pray for him if you believe it will help.
But back to realism now. If you really want to help him, go and be there for him. If you think something is wrong try to get him to tell you. But only ask once, if he doesnt want to tell, dont badger him. If he needs help, run to his side and help him. Ignore any rude comments he makes and just do it. Even if your not friends, show him that your still willing to be there for him. Hopefully, your kindness will sink in to not only him but to others and other people will help him as well. And he will slowly begin to lighten up as time goes by. But this is a commitment you'll have to take if you are willing...
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Lately people haven't been rating the answers you leave to their questions nor do they leave feedback if they even bother to rate it.
Is this just me or is this happening to all of you ?
Because I've answered about 20 questions and onnly got rated on about 5.
Thanks !
It happens to everyone. Most people are either too lazy to do it, or dont get on to see it or whatever. You really should care much for it. Really, its just a way to tell you to either continue to give the advice you give or to make adjustments to improve. Its not like theres a contest or anything, or that you win something for the highest or most ratings.
So give out your advice and dont expect feedback. The more likely you dont expect feedback, the bigger tendency youll get it and get a good rating. I personally just give out what I think and move on, if it helps, it helps. If it doesnt, then it doesnt.
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k, well. theres this guy. lets call him r, hes two years older than me, but i like him. and we're alot alike. and today we hung out, and we didnt flirt but we had a good time. and he knows that i like him, and he didnt make it akward around him whenw e were together. and he wouldnt tell me who he likes, he told me he liked flirting with girls instead of just staying put. but, ive never seen him flirt with anyone. so idk what he means. i'm just confused. idk what to do or what to even say, so.. HELP?!
If you dont notice anything, then you shouldn't worry. Flirting to you might be completely different from what he thinks is flirting. If your confused on how he flirts, try asking him. But if you or he is too embarrassed to say, then just let it go. One thing to remember is if you do find out how he flirts and see it, do not get jealous. Jealousy will just ruin everything.
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okay, i play volleyball and my knees dont hurt unless my leg twist. but, my knee caps are misaligned. and i need a brace i can wear under a knee pad. does anyone know of a site or store i can get one. or if they know of one that i can get that willhelp my knee while protecting it from sliding/punding and whatever else.
thanks.
Any general Walgreens or Wal-Mart should hold braces. Just ask an associate and they should show you. I know Ive seen them in Walgreens before so...
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Someone [my sorta kinda friend] asked me if I wanted to go smoke weed in the woods with him...I was with my other friend and she is a big flirt and is all like okay! [she didn't actually smoke anything, she was just playing around] but she walked off with him and I had said no. My kinda sorta friend was like, but you need a buddy to smoke with and I said, well I'm not that buddy. [I know the repructions of doing drugs and drinking and all that, so I declined on his offer knowing I could get hooked on it and throw my life away]
So then, my friend ditched me afterwards, not even telling me she had gone and didnt even say sorry the next day! She left me alone by myself, and i felt like a loser. How could my friend ditch me and say I'm uncool? Am I uncool because I don't want to do drugs? because I know I'm not uncool for doing that, so what's her problem? She always calls me emo and a downer, and I'm not even emo, I have friends that are "emo" but I'm not. what did I do to deserve this?? Any comments and answers would be greatly appreciated because I'm completley confused.
thanks in advance for whoever read that and took the time to answer my question.
Your friend fell for the false influence of drugs. Because your not going with the bandwagon shes on, your no longer cool to her. Its not something you deserved but a choice she made and your one of the few who have to suffer because of that decision. Your more than likely to see even less of her as time goes by, so unless you find a way to get to her and get her back to sobereity, shes most likely to disappear all together. But if you cant reach her, your going to have to let her go. Once shes on, she wont want off, and will resort to other things to get that affect back. So again, best thing to do is get her back to reality before you lose her completely...
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17/f.
I'm making a few songs of my own on my guitar.
I need help with some lyrics.
A few really good phases or verses etc would be great if someone could help me out.
Even just a couple of sentences would be terrific.
One song is about a girl who's best friend (male) moves away from her and they are going through a really hard time and he feels as though he is forgotten.
The second one is about a girl who really likes a boy, and she knows he likes her a bit too but she doesn't know how to tell him.
Any help would be just great.
As I said earlier, even just a couple of sentences to get me started, doesn't matter if its part of the verse, chorus or whatever.
Thanks so much to anyone who can help me out.
xx
For the first song, try to make it sound like Untitled by Simple Plan. Its slow and sad and would add feeling to any lyrics to the song you make. For ideas in lyrics, try listening to Already Over, prt 2 by Red, Birthday by Taproot, Broken by Seether, Push Me Away by Last Goodnight, or I need You by Relient K
The second one, make it sound all happy and glad like the boy is the one of everyones dreams and she would do anything to get him, but then get all awkward and then sad or embarrassed feel to the song. Realize that if you treat the way you play like they were real life situations, you give more feel to your songs. For lyrics ideas try listening to One Im Waiting For by Relient K, I Want to Hold Your Hand from Across the Universe, or Show Me a Sign by Breaking Point.
Sorry I couldnt be more help by giving like a poem or something, but it takes a long time to be inspired and you and I both dont have that kind of time...
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my best friend doesnt like who im friends with and everytiime i mention them, she goes nuts
but theyre my friends and i want to tell her about them and all the funny stuff that happens but she gets all jelous and whatnot
There are lots of reasons for this problem.
Theres a possibility that she wants your friends for herself.
She might just want to piss you off.
She might really be jealous at you for having those kind of friends and she wants them all to herself.
Theres more but its hard to think of other reasons.
Point is, if it bothers you, get her to answer why shes doing that. She probably wont answer it though. So you should tell her you know whats up and to just stop. If she denies it, go whatever and walk away.
And the reason she acts normal around your friends like that is to not give out that she hates them on the inside. Its a thing that, if you look hard enough, a lot of stuck up girls pull. I dont really know why, but its true, and Ive seen it done before.
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17/f and he's 18
We've dated 2 years but took a 2 month break a year ago.
Okay.
We decided to take another break on Sunday night, he said we had nothing in common and his parents and friends dont like me. But what hurt the most was when he said "I dont really see you in my future so i dont see the point in still dating" He said how people never marry their first love and if they do that they end up getting divorced because they have never been with other people.
I feel like he would have wanted to break up right then but I convinced him to just spend some time apart. So I thought about our relationship and realized if we got back together I would be the only one trying to change things and he wouldnt want to compromise on anything. I think I would be miserable in that relationship.
So today he texted me and said "I love you" and then a few minutes later said "Lets try to fix things thats if you still want to"
Honestly I'm not sure what to do. He is my first love and I want to be with him, but he said some pretty hurtful things and I'm not sure if HE is willing to make changes.
What should I do?
He is a guy, he wants to be with other women, but also wants to be with you. The problem with us guys, is we cant find a way to commit to one thing at a time. We try to get both at once and we figure out we cant so we go for the stupidest option.
He might have said some hurtful things, but you need to find out if he is really going to commit and stay on that commitment. Make him promise! Find ways to compromise when you two argue. If theres something one of you likes but the other dislikes, find a way to exchange suggestions, give the other your opinion.
If you havent heard it already, Communication is what keeps a relationship strong...
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im lookin for cute, simple, quirky quotes about dealing with life. things such as "just roll with the punches" or "when life gives you lemons, make lemonade", but ones that arent so common, and more original.
"Time is an Illusion. It speeds up when you have fun, and slows when your bored. But picks the right moments for things to happen"
I made that one a few years back and I think you might like it XD
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Okay so there's this guy and he's very shy. He's a nervous speaker, not just around girls but in general and I've had a crush on him for a while now.
Trouble is I'm shy too and I can't really find the courage to straight up tell him I like him. We're not friends but we've spoken before, we're in the same class, we're acquantainces basically.
He looks at me alot in class, especially when I'm not looking (we sit almost on the same row so it's easy to see him even when I'm not looking directly at him) but he used to look alot last year when he was into this other girl all year.
There's no chance he's going to talk to me cause there's a general class joke that we like each other and whenever we talk one of his friends always makes a joke and like I said he's very shy.
How the heck do I know if I've got the wrong end of the stick or not? Cause last year I thought he liked me and it turned out he was into someone else haha.
Best thing to make sure if he likes you or not, is get him to talk. Every now and again, ask him for help in class. Dont bombard him with questions just things you can try to get him to explain to you. This will slowly form a trust bond. Once the trust bond is set(you wont notice the bond taking affect, itll just happen) you should start to notice things like, he'll avoid eye contact or smile a lot. He'll tend to stare and listen to you more. Also he'll open up to you. These should be signs that he like you. If he pays attention else where most of the time, its most likely he like someone else. But that doesn't mean you should just stop doing what I said. Keep on going and stay friends.
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Can you get like physically sick from liking somone so much?
Actually yes there is a possibility that you can. Liking a person may get you overly nervous and cause stress and anxiety which in turn will cause you to feel tired. After a while, you might feel flu like symptoms. This is because your body is going on overload because of the stress, and your immune system is taking a tole from all the stress. Really, this is all psychological, but your body is affected physically.
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i have two questions. sorry.
questions #1
do guys think its attractive/sexy when girls queef?
question #2
my boyfriend's friends told me he can't cum. why is that? p.s. he is a really horny guy.
For 1, some guys thinks its hot, but I doubt there are a lot of queef fetish guys out there.
For 2, could be anything. Steroids, late puberty, he might have something wrong with his testes, drugs could be the problem, he could be lying, he could have some sort of sexual disorder, Who knows...
It really shouldn't be possible unless he sterilized himself some how some way...
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