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Should I break up with him
17/f and he's 18
We've dated 2 years but took a 2 month break a year ago.
Okay.
We decided to take another break on Sunday night, he said we had nothing in common and his parents and friends dont like me. But what hurt the most was when he said "I dont really see you in my future so i dont see the point in still dating" He said how people never marry their first love and if they do that they end up getting divorced because they have never been with other people.
I feel like he would have wanted to break up right then but I convinced him to just spend some time apart. So I thought about our relationship and realized if we got back together I would be the only one trying to change things and he wouldnt want to compromise on anything. I think I would be miserable in that relationship.
So today he texted me and said "I love you" and then a few minutes later said "Lets try to fix things thats if you still want to"
Honestly I'm not sure what to do. He is my first love and I want to be with him, but he said some pretty hurtful things and I'm not sure if HE is willing to make changes.
What should I do?
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well you guys will be guys. they never know what they really want they are sometimes like kids in a candy store. i think he loves you but he is afraid of what will happen if yall stay togather. he might think he will miss out on a lot of great girls. from what you told me i think he wants to be with you. give him a chance. if things dont change and he dose the same thing again just let him got becuase he might be just stringing you along becuase he dont know what he wants yet. i think a brek is good for you all though. it gives yall times to think and hang with other people. your first love is someone special but you know the person after them might be even better.
i hope i helped
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Guys get confused of what they are doing sometimes and we all say things that we though we meant but then want to take it back. I think he either is lonely or he really does want to try and fix things. You have to make sure he is willing to make changes. I think you should give him a second chance though. Talk to him because communication is what keeps a relationship balanced. And not everybody is perfect so don't expect a whole lot. I hope everything goes well for you!
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He is a guy, he wants to be with other women, but also wants to be with you. The problem with us guys, is we cant find a way to commit to one thing at a time. We try to get both at once and we figure out we cant so we go for the stupidest option.
He might have said some hurtful things, but you need to find out if he is really going to commit and stay on that commitment. Make him promise! Find ways to compromise when you two argue. If theres something one of you likes but the other dislikes, find a way to exchange suggestions, give the other your opinion.
If you havent heard it already, Communication is what keeps a relationship strong...
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I understand that yall been together for a long time, but some love dies hard. No matter what you do, you can't change the way he feels. Either he REALLY loves you or he's just lonely and wants someone. There's no telling what he really wants. You need to really talk to him. Make sure your clear on what he wants. It can't be a maybe for love. He could of said stuff out of anger or what he said was true and real. If you really love him and he loves you. You guys could try to fix things.. but that's only if BOTH of you are willing to fix things. Not just you. A relationship consist of two people. You can't have one trying to keep each other together. If he really wants to be with you. He'll find a way to be with you and TRY to fix things. You need trust and communication in order to have a decent relationship. Without that, you really don't have much to work with. It's like fighting fate and being with someone your not meant to be with. Well hope I helped and good luck! :]
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He realized that he made a mistake when he told you all that stuff i think his friends and family members just got to him. You should give him a second chance. Best of luck hope everything works out
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you should stay with him. maybe he was confused when he said that stuff. everyone deserves a second chance. i lost my first love, and im still crying over him. its been years. if you really love him, dont let him go.
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Well, maybe he is trying to change things because the text message he sent you does seem that way.
So, if it were me, I would talk to him about it, explain to him that those things hurt you and if he's willing to fix things then you are. See if he really feels the way he told you he did on Sunday, because if he does there is no point in staying with him.
Honestly, it would just be hurting you more because you would be falling more in love with him while he still feels that this relationship has no future. It would just be waisting both of your time.
Hope I Helped & Good Luck !
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