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im considered a loser for saying no.
Someone [my sorta kinda friend] asked me if I wanted to go smoke weed in the woods with him...I was with my other friend and she is a big flirt and is all like okay! [she didn't actually smoke anything, she was just playing around] but she walked off with him and I had said no. My kinda sorta friend was like, but you need a buddy to smoke with and I said, well I'm not that buddy. [I know the repructions of doing drugs and drinking and all that, so I declined on his offer knowing I could get hooked on it and throw my life away]
So then, my friend ditched me afterwards, not even telling me she had gone and didnt even say sorry the next day! She left me alone by myself, and i felt like a loser. How could my friend ditch me and say I'm uncool? Am I uncool because I don't want to do drugs? because I know I'm not uncool for doing that, so what's her problem? She always calls me emo and a downer, and I'm not even emo, I have friends that are "emo" but I'm not. what did I do to deserve this?? Any comments and answers would be greatly appreciated because I'm completley confused.
thanks in advance for whoever read that and took the time to answer my question.
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That's good that you said no to drugs in the first place. No, you aren't a loser. People don't realize how drugs can affect them, their friends, ect. You did everything right! Your friend just needs to realize why you've said no and go hang out with the boy. Hope I helped!
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Your friend fell for the false influence of drugs. Because your not going with the bandwagon shes on, your no longer cool to her. Its not something you deserved but a choice she made and your one of the few who have to suffer because of that decision. Your more than likely to see even less of her as time goes by, so unless you find a way to get to her and get her back to sobereity, shes most likely to disappear all together. But if you cant reach her, your going to have to let her go. Once shes on, she wont want off, and will resort to other things to get that affect back. So again, best thing to do is get her back to reality before you lose her completely...
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Take this as a valuable learning experience; your friend is not the friend you thought she was. Good friends don't ditch you for no reason to smoke pot and then not apologize about it at all.
I'm not saying she's a bad person, but she's certainly being a bad friend.
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your not the loser she is tell her that she is the loser and tell her what emo is because you do not sound emo tell her that all because a boy is "hot" dosnt meen that you can just go throw away your life for him its stupid and has she even meet him in her life before and saying hi dosnt count she must be a complete idiot you should tell the school princable that a boy took your friend to go smoke weed they are complete idiots and they are throwing there lives away and if anyone here tells you that you should of gone with those idiots and smoked soom weed dont listen to them ok good luck i hope i helped good luck
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Your not a loser that was a good decision you made not to do it. Just wait in a couple of years whats life gunna be like for your 2 friends. Your life is gunna be on track and theres is gunna be mest up. As for the emo and downer thing that just means you dont do what your peers tell you to do which is a good thing.
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Sorry to say that's not a friend. She should at least respect your wishes, even if it was something simply as in a movie choice. I'd say ditch the friend and move on. You are better not having that friend. Besides it's illegal. Let's say you are driving or you are a passenger in a car and you are pulled over by the police. Guess what? You have as just as much chance of going to jail and being charged with the amount of dope your friend has on them. I speak from experience when I say this. I never smoked dope and had a friend that did. We got pulled over and I was charged with what my friend had. I was 16 at the time, had to go to jail and was put on probation for a year, all for something I didn't do. I learned from it, so maybe you can learn from me.
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