|
why did he tell me he tryed to kill himself? what should i d
Hey everyone...one of my closest friends has been missing school lately and i asked him about it. He told me he was having panic attacks, etc. and he had to see a shrink. He also told me that his mom thinks he is going to kill himself because his brother caught him trying to do it, he said he went on a balcony at his house and was going to jump but his bro saw him and said whats going on. He told me the suicide thing happened a couple monts ago and I am just reallly worried. I am becoming depressed thinking about what would happen if he did kill himself. he is such a nice guy and is happy all the time- i just dont get it. Why do you think he told me he tryed to kill himself? What should I do? Im really upset-please any advice would help!
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Sexual Health and Reproduction category?
Maybe give some free advice about: General Sex Questions?
He most likely told you because he wants you especially to help him deal with this. He know he will probably do it again. And by telling you, he knows someone knows and will help him deal. The best thing to do is get him happy and make him realize the greatest moments that life can offer. The more he realizes that death isn't the best option, the more likely he wont go suicidal again.
Signs of being suicidal tend to be depressed, anti social, thoughts of suicide, selling of personal objects, etc. If you notice these signs, you need to approach him immediately. Don't think it will subside in time, because it won't. Even with a shrink, you need to get to him and get others to get to him as well. The more your in his life and the happier you make him become, the less suicidal he gets.
]
Lucky for you!!!! I am actually working on a teen suicide project right now! The best thing to do is to be there for him, he is looking for your help. Go out with him (not as a bf) maybe you could talk on the phone together more often than normaly.
Some suicide triggers are:
~Break up with bf or gf
~Arguing with parent
~Failing grade
~Losing a competition
~Getting blamed for something
Some signs of suicide (before)
~Changing appearance and personality
~Giving away prized possesions
~Withdrawing from others
~Engaging in daring or risk-taking behavior
~Making comments such as, "Youd be better off without me."
"Whats the point of living"
"Maybe I wount be around"
~Putting their life in order>paying library fines, cleaning their own room, being more helpful than normal
~Having an interest in death, such as reading and asking questions about the subject
~depression>hopelessness
How to Help
~ask questions:
"Are you still thinking about it? Do you have a plan?"
~Listen to them
~Try to get him to think of alternatives instead of suicide
Suicide hot line numbers you can call for immediate help or advice (it does not cost money to call them)
~Covenant House Nineline (24 hours) 1-800-999-9999
~National Boys Town Hotline<girls can call too> (24 Hours) 1-800-448-3000
~National Child Abuse Hotline (24 Hours)
1-800-4-A-CHILD (800-784-2433)
~National Suicide Hotline 1-800-SUICIDE
(800-784-2433)
you can go on the phone with your friend if you want (or if he wants) GoOd LuCk!!!
]
He wants you to do something. He's probably just as scared as you are. He wants you to perk him up. Be a friend and help him out. Let him hang out with you and give him something or tell him he's a great guy. Then, do something to take his mind off it. I felt like killing myself before, so I know what I'm talking about. I actually tried to hurt myself when I realized that I can't because of a dream I have. To be a Hollywood writer. Get him to follow his dream. Remind him there's a reason for living. If it doesn't scare him, try hugging. Yes, I said hugging. I did that to a guy before, only... I was feeling awkward, but usually a hug works. I like hugs so, if made me feel better. Haha. Hope I helped! :3
]
people that tell their close friends or family are trying to seek help without coming out and saying it, i suggest you tell an adult. at least because if he does acctually do it and no one is there to stop him ure going to feel horrible and like you could of did something but you didnt.
hope i helped. :]
]
More Questions: |