Erinn_the_bamf's advice column

does anybody know any songs that have words and are popular but can relate to the holocaust? like they can talk about hate, racism, descrimination, or byest or all of them in one song?!!!??

Alive with the Glory of Love by Say Anything is about the Holocaust, though it is peppered with sexual innuendo.

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I saw this video that was CLAIMING it was Miley Cyrus getting high and smoking a bong on her 18th birthday party with her friends. Whoever it was, she was obviously stoned out of her mind. I know a lot of this celebrity media stuff is false though with Photoshop and look-a-like doubles. I use to watch Hannah Montana a lot when I was a little younger and I actually like Miley Cyrus as an actress and singer. I know it's none of my business, but I'm just curious if the video is for real or if it's been faked? Anybody know?

She smoked salvia, a legal hallucinogen in California. Nevertheless, I wouldn't be shocked if she smoked weed too.

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Is it ok for a guy to hit his girlfriend, even if she did something to piss him off really bad?

Never, and I second what Matt said. Domestic abuse is never acceptable from any person in a relationship. No matter how much he says he loves you, leave now. In the words of Oprah, if he hits you once, he will hit you again.

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My name is Jade and I've been wanting an interesting nickname. But I don't know much about interesting nicknames. Can someone please give me some good ideas on nicknames?

Jade Gingivitis

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okay so i have naturally curly hair and i think its beautiful its like taylor swifts hair just shorter and not blonde i want to hear mostly from guys what hair you guys like better and girls you too

i'm just curious to see who's the winner!

I have really curly hair. Most guys generally say my hair looks better straight, but I think overall it really differs from guy to guy. It would probably be cute if you did an even mix of both in your day to day life.

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do skirt boots and leeging go together?

Yes, so long as by "boots" you do not mean "Uggs." Never wear Uggs. Ever.

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I'm 19/f. I've always wanted to be an actress, and one of my friends got me in this indie film project this grad student is doing...as the lead role. I am so excited and I read the script and it's so beautiful of story...so sad, funny, and real all at the same time. But here's the thing-the script keeps on mentioning how the two main characters are like "Kurt and Courtney"...and I don't have a clue who this "Kurt and Courtney" are; I'd Wiki or Google them if I had last names but I don't want to look stupid by asking the guy who will be my director who they are and why it's a big deal. Do you know whom he might be referencing and what the story is of this "Kurt and Courtney" so I won't look like a clueless blonde sterotype when they talk about it?

Kurt Cobain and Courtney love. Kurt Cobain was the lead singer of the band Nirvana. He committed suicide. Courtney was his wife.

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apparently i got offensive answers to them so please delete all of my questions

In the left side of your screen, under the heading "Welcome, [your name]!" you will see the link "Your Questions." Click that and hit the check box in front of every question you wish to delete. Then hit delete marked questions.

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Im 16 and going into my junior year of high school. I haven't been going out with my gf very long, but I wanted to do something to show her she's special to me and I really care about her. I don't want to spend a lot and i don't wanna hav sex cause I want to wait until I'm married. All I want is for her to be happy.

Doing something like planning a picnic would be super cute! Put sandwiches in a basket along with snacks and set up a little blanket. Or stay at home and have a movie night. Make popcorn, eat candy, and cuddle while watching movies together.

Once you've been dating a while make a scrap book of pictures of you two together.

Basically, don't be a melodramatic bitch and make fun plans for her instead of expecting her to make them. That is all.

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what is cum used for

Baby-making.

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I'm a 15 year old guy and, as I write this question, I have a pacifier in my mouth.

I was wondering, what do you think of a teenager secretly sucking on a pacifier?

Do you think I am normal? What should I do?

Thanks

Strange, but hey, we all have our quirks. As long as it doesn't affect your everyday life, do whatever you like.

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ok so my bf and i r going out and i went to his house yesterday we started making out and one thing lead to another and he took off my shirt and bra.we continued making out but i eventually put my clothes back on after like 3 minutes. I'm only 14 and a female and i feel like I'm a slut because we've only been going out for 3 weeks. he said that he loved me and he always talks about the future in like years but i don't know what to think. am i slut?

You're a teenager, it's natural to want to experiment. Your mother would probably be alarmed to hear you did this, but it's not that big of a deal. As you long as you stay above the waist, things are cool.

Your boyfriend should calm down about years in the future. Chances are, you guys aren't going to stay together. Let's all be real here.

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i'm getting my license in a month. what are some things i should expect the person to ask me or have me do at the wheel?

Expect your driver to be a complete dick and try to confuse you.

In my state, the driver's test happens on a closed course. You drive down a curvy road. Then you parallel park. Then you K-turn. Then you back up straight.

You need to watch out for some things. Make sure you use a blink for all turns AND for parallel parking AND for k-turns. Exaggerate turning your head before proceeding after stop signs. Go slow. Tell your instructor to put on their seatbelt. Wear your seatbelt. Lock your car doors. Your instructor may tell you to do something stupid, like turn the wrong way on a lane marked one way. DO NOT FALL FOR THIS. Do not back over a cone while parallel parking. If you are doing this on an actual street, do not hit a car when parallel parking.

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my ex boyfriend only wants what he doesnt have (me) we have been off and on again and now are just mates. he admitted to likeing me yesterday but i think were better off as mates. does this work out sometimes?

It is possible to remain friends with an ex. However, you two definitely need some space first. He needs to move on before you can maintain a friendship. Seeing you all the time before moving on will only cause him to fall for you all over again. Allow two months or so for you to be apart before attempting friendship.

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what is the weather in tijuana mexico suppose to be for these dates june 29th- july 7th

Sunny with a chance of tequila shots. Temperature in the low 70s.

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two weeks ago i went to Hot Topic and took photo shoots. it was yesterday i had gotten a letter in the mail saying i was accepted to be a model at Hot Topic, bad part is i have to move to southern California to model at the head industry. my friends are happy for me, my bf too. but i wasnt. because if i left i wouldnt be able to spend time with them anymore. and were all really close. i knew them since i was little my boyfriends too. i mean im caught between doing something i really want and being with the people i really want. what do i do?..

You need to decide what's more important to you. No one on here can decide for you.

That being said, if it were me, I would take the modeling job. I am a career focused person. Your friends will understand.

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15/F

I am a girl and the whole school thinks I'm gay. I'm not a homosexual though at all. I like guys. I'm VERY attracted to guys. The problem is I like guys that are a lot older and it's embarrassing to tell anybody because they'd think I'm nasty. By a lot older I mean, well, A LOT.

So, I don't tell my friends when I have a crush on a boy and I don't find the same guys they find hot attractive. They haven't ever seen me with a boyfriend BUT they never saw me kissing on a girl or something that would make me a lesbian.

I do have short hair but it's in like a pixie style that I really love and I've had the haircut for a few YEARS now so it isn't like I chopped it all off overnight. I'm not butchy or anything and I love the color pink so I'm always dressed up and I usually wear bright colors. I think I'm decently pretty, I guess, and I'm definitely no tomboy.

So, why do they think I'm gay? Should I tell them I like REALLY old guys? Should I change my hairstyle or my clothes? I'm confused. I don't want them to think I'm gay any more. It makes me sad and like I don't fit in.

Haters gonna hate.

People are always going to talk. You really can't control them. Let them talk; at least that way you know you're relevant.

Don't change who you are because some people think you're gay. Keep your hair short, dress how you want, and keep any secrets to yourself that you want to keep. Chances are, even if you change yourself, people will still assume that you are gay. That's usually the way these types of things go. Just be yourself and hang out with the people who accept you. Simple as that.

As for why they think you are gay, I don't really know. People are under the assumption homosexuals have a certain swagger about them. Maybe they feel you capture this swagger.

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17/f
So, me and this guy have been talking for quite awhile now. We hang out and act just like couples do. The problem is, he never texts me. Sometimes we go all day without texting and it urks me so bad! I text him and he will write back maybe once or twice and thats it, unless he askes me to hang out.I just hate how he dosent text me that much. I know we don't have to talk 24/7 but i dont wanna go all day without talking to him. Ive mentioned it to him 3 times and all he says is "im sorry." I really really like him but i dont know what to do. :/ Help! Should i text him first, not text until he texts me or what?

Some people don't like to text. These people are the intelligent ones.

While my boyfriend and I text all the time, I really think it can cause more trouble in a relationship than it's worth. Over text message, the meaning of words gets misconstrued and can cause unnecessary arguments.

Furthermore, the issue of texting causes girls to play ridiculous games. If you text him first one day, you must wait form him to text you first next time. If he isn't texting you, you must wait three days to text him. Ridiculous crap like that. I have engaged in these texting games, and really, it's pointless.

So, the long and the short of it is, text him when you feel like talking to him, within reason. Don't send him multiple messages if he isn't responding and don't text him at random hours of the night. Otherwise, text him when you want to, but if he doesn't respond, don't worry about it. He probably just isn't interesting over text.

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ok, so im 14 and i really want a boyfriend but im not sure if im ready. i feel totally ready but then when i see guys in person and talk to them, i can't imagine kissing them because i feel nervous and sort of not ready. it's like an easier said than done thing, you know? so, am i ready or what's up with me?

Being nervous is completely natural. When talking to a guy thousands of questions are running through your mind: does he like me? does he think I'm cute? You're probably also concerned about rejection, which is normal. No one wants to hear that they aren't what another person is looking for.

Don't stress about it. When you find a guy you really like, you'll still be nervous, but the possibility of being him will make you face your fear.

Just a note- first kisses are ALWAYS awkward. The second one will be better :)

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Hii, I need advice about what problems there are in your guys' general day to day life. If you think something needs to be improved or have something that needs a solution please tell me!! I've been thinking really hard about this but need some fresh advice. If you could please tell me about ANY type of problem that needs a solution or product that needs to be improved please tell me! I'm working on a project but really need some help thinking of things.

The more problems the better!!!!! and i will rate! :]

I procrastinate mad hard.
There is too much traffic in my town so I am forced to walk to work instead of driving.
Nutigram bars are 85 cents in the school cafeteria and fattening snacks are 50 cents. This troubles me.
I am much more upbeat and happy than my boyfriend. Sometimes I can't understand him because of this.
All of my friends are afraid to talk to a particular friend about her drug problem so we act like it doesn't exist.
I want to go to Brown University but I'm not sure I can get in.
I'm going to have to take out so many student loans, I'll be paying them off until my 40s.
I didn't do as well as I normally did this semester in school. I'm worried about what kind of college I can get into because of this.
My parents can be overbearing.
I don't know if I really make enough money at my job to pay for my travels.
I can't find any good concerts to go to.
I've been on a hunt for good music.
I'm too lazy to get in shape again.

These are my troubles.

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