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So, I'm 17 year old female and I lost my virginity about a week ago, to a friend that I've known for 2 years. Now, I find myself getting so angry at him so easily, over the silliest things. We have kind of been in an argument for the past 3 days, and I really do keep insuing it. Could this be a sub-concious kind of anger, like that I'm mentally angry at him for taking my virginity? Is that possible? I've already had my period so I know it's not those hormones. I'm just trying to figure out why Im so mad. (link)
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Ask yourself why you are mad at him there must be a reason, Do you feel that you might of reuined your friendship? Maybe you weren't ready and thought you were? Did he pressure you into it? If it was wanted by the both of you and you weren't pressured then I would try to talk to him about it. I disagree with Unique, I don't think people get "mad" at there partners for taking away there virginity unless it wasn't wanted and it was pressured into doing so. It could be that you are upset because it is gone? I'm just guessing, My first time felt weird I wasn't angry but I was a bit weireded out for awhile. Talk to him maybe he can help sort things out.
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hey my ex is trying to give me this crap about sex not being good for her when we had it and that she faked orgasms and stuff.. isnt there a way to tell like while fingering her when she would say she was cumming i could feel it contracting inside and the fact cum was coming out like isnt there physical things that happen that cant be faked? (link)
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If she is your exgirlfriend then more than likely she is lying to you about it because she knows it will bother you. However for the straight answer girls can get wet down there and not finish yes it is possible.
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Well they're not my neighbours, they're my neighbour's neighbour; the house beside our neighbour.
They are SO loud and I'm trying to sleep but I can hear yelling (and they're family is just a normal family and the oldest kids are in high school) and it's driving me nuts! it's summer and I love the earth so I'm using my window but it’s SO loud. And when I shut it I can still hear them, which doesn’t help because it's suffocating in my room if the window isn't open.
They have loud music BLARING, it's almost 12 right now and I should have been asleep a long time ago but I can’t sleep and frankly, I'm getting bags under my eyes. My sister and I just have the urge to scream "SHUT UP!" out the window and duck but we'd be sinking to their level and disrupting the rest of their neighbourhood.
I am seriously thinking of walking to their place in my pajamas right now and yelling at them. What do I do? Oh, and ear plugs DON'T work! Like I get it's summer, but you got to think of everyone else around you when you're living in a NIEGHBOURHOOD. (link)
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I would tell your parents you are fed up with the loud neighbors and tell them to go over there and warn them to keep there big mouths shut! Afterall, It is ILLEGAL to have music so damn loud the neighbor can hear it also..After 12am IT IS DISTURBING THE PEACE therefore file a complaint with the police and sure enough I think they will get the point and shut up! As you have every right to have peace and quiet in your own house. Call the cops
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hey im 18/f and on thursday i have my first pap smear and pelvic exam. Im kinda nervous because i've never had one done and i've heard that it hurts a little bit. I am sexually active and on birth control so they need to see if everything is good like a yearly check up. The only thing i've had done before was like an ultra sound of my ovaries they like stuck a probe up my vagina and looked at them. Somebody who has had these done please tell me how the experience was for you. Thanks a bunch!
-Ashley (link)
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The first time is the most uncomfortable and I won't lie it can hurt a little bit too. However, Keep in mind that it is a quick in and out sort of thing and they are doctors and it is nothing they have never seen before because afterall it is what they do. Also, If you are more comfortable you can ask for a female doctor as I personally feel more comfortable with a female. Try to relax you can also take a muscle relaxer and that should help you calm down a little bit. Frankly, It's really not that bad like I said a little bit uncomfortable but the awesome part is that it's only once a year and not every month (thank god) It's normal to be nervous I was the first time too, but just remember "A quick in and out of the doctors office" is all it is. ;)
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16/f
me and my boyfrend have been dating for a year but have been close since 8th grade. we are in 11th grade now. he has been depressed since 5th grade, he has been hearing voices since 8th grade and in 9th grade he stopped trusting everyone and didnt talk to anyone but me. which is weird because he is a very popular guy. captain of the football team, class clown, theatre, lax, and an all A student. in 10th grade things got weird when he started having anger problems and the worst mood swings. the bad part was that he didnt remember some of the things he did or said during these mood swings. it was like it wasnt him living the mood swings... it was someone else. or another part of him. its always been hard but lately we got in a long distance relationship when he moved. now we are 9 hours away from eachother by plane and our parents wont let us see eachother. a week ago, he had been telling me he couldnt handle anymore of this not seeing me and that he needed to be with me so bad. wel this week i told him i was coming to visit next week and he said im not so sure about that. i said why? he said because of my mental state. i know he had been alot downer than usual and had had a mental breakdown a few days before but i didnt think it would stop him from seeing me. i am understanding of his mood swings so i just said ok and left it at that. he said that the reason he didnt want me to come was because he had been having vivid dreams of killing me. the part that really freaked me out was when he said that after he killed me, he felt happy like a lifelong dream had been accomplished. i know that at times he despises me yet loves me at the same time. its hard to explain but this is why i think hes schitzophrenic. there are 2 parts of him. 1 part is the loving guy i know who would do anything for me and tells me he wants to be with me forever and thanks me for putting up with him and all his problems. the other part is the guy who has a deep hatred and jealousy of me. but even wen he is the 2nd part, he still calls to make sure im ok and still tells me he loves me. even though he hates me. he tells me all the time that i need to find a better guy because i am worth so much more than a guy with so many moodswings who acts like such an asshole. he doesnt understand that i love him more than anything and he is skeptical of what i want from him. i dont know how to get through to him that i love him more than anything and just want to be with him. he calls me a teenager and says i dont know what i want. even though he is younger than me.... haha he is very mature though. but anywho, i feel like im dating 2 different people. i hate the asshole side that wants me to die at times and is cynical and dark and doesnt trust me that i love him unconditionally. but i stick around because i love the sweet side of him whos my best friend and is there through anything no matter if hes in a mood swing or whatever. we both know that we love eachother more than anything and have a much deeper connection than 16 year olds are supposed to get. but i dont know if thats enough to help him and save our relationship. he needs help real bad and im really scared for him. he wants to be a marine because in society he cant deal with everyone. he refuses to see a psychiatrist or get medicated but i know thats the only thing that will help him. please help. he went from being the most popular guy in school to the most antisocial guy who just wants to write depressing songs and play piano all day. its really sad. im only 16 and this is so hard to handle. i love this boy so much and i cant imagine what hes going through. he wants to die so badly and i almost want him to die too so he can escape this world that hes not meant for. but id miss him too much so thats why im here. please help me save him (link)
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Sounds like the guy needs to see a doctor, However I wouldn't call him "schitzophrenic" unless the doctors told him that he was. I would try to talk to his parents tell them what has been happening and that you are concerned for him also the part about him having dreams of killing you...is kind of scary. The guy needs some sort of help.
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do friends suggest to each other that they should fall asleep on the phone together?
My guy friend and I were on the phone last night and he suggested that we fall asleep on the phone together. We are both single and same age.(18)..We been friends for about 16 months> (link)
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I've had that happen to me however if he isn't local and you don't have long distant I don't recommend it.
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Hey Tara. I'm a Varsity Basketball cheerleader and I wanted to give a gift to my squad with a short story thats inspirational or something like that. I have a small squad of 7 girls including me and a guy. Id like the gift to be home-made and I can buy all of the supplies, but I would like for the gift to relate to the story. If you have any story ideas and where to find them online or any ideas on how to make my gift better that would be great. Thanks so much!!
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Hm..
You could make a picture frame and put a picture of the team in it.
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Wasn't sure where to put this question at so please correct me if I'm wrong.
My boyfriend of 3 years and I moved out about a month and a half ago to a very nice apartment in his home town. The problem is we moved in with a room mate we found off of Craigslist and is a total stranger. We haven't had any problems with her until today.
She told my boyfriend that we weren't social enough and she missed her boyfriend who is at basic training for the army. She said we needed to move out as soon as possible.
My translation was: we don't drink and party enough for her so she's getting rid of us so her friend can move in.
Stupidly, we haven't had a chance to sign the lease so we can't do anything. We pay half and half on everything and that's the only way we were able to move out. The agreement was to live together until at least December, so I had a chance to find a job and concentrate on school.
Now we have no where to go that we can afford. I don't know what to do about our room mate, the situation, and moving out.
What would you do? What should I do? How can I find a job fast while still being able to go to school? Where can we find cheap apartments? We currently pay $360 and that's just our half. There's just no way we can make it.
It's really made me mad because we keep this place spotless and in good condition. Our room mate has disappeared for days on end, leaving dirty plates in the living room, cooked food still in the pan on the kitchen counters, etc. I've never felt welcomed by her. Now she's kicking us out even though we pay half of everything and we can't do anything about it.
Sorry about the long question.
Thanks. (link)
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If it isn't her apartment then she has no say on who goes and who doesn't. If you pay your half then that is all that should matter if it isn't her apartment then I would talk the roomate and tell her that you two aren't go anywhere and if she has a problem with that then tell her to pack HER stuff and move out. However, Yes I would look at ads in the paper or go back on craigslist and see if you can find a backup incase she does decide to go any furter problems talk to the landlord about it. It's not her say on who goes because you guys are responsible enough not to drink and party. Phrt please...Tell her to get the stick out of her butt.
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I know having a crush on a teacher is normal, but why would I get one almost a year after I had said teacher? She was a very nice, young and attractive teacher but I never had any crushing feelings when I actually had her. I hated the teacher I had for this subject (math) this year, does that have something to do with it? Is is it some psychological or hormonal thing?
I am not going to act on this crush don't worry, but its making me feel miserable all the time since I can't stop thinking about her and I keep thinking she doesn't like me and I'm horrified at the thought of her completely forgetting me or that I made a fool of myself in her class. (link)
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Honestly I have no idea why you like her, Why do people devolp crushes in general? I guess it's a natural thing. However, She can't like you back, You are her student and it would be highly innapropriate. Yes, she can like you as a person but she can't have a relationship with you as a boyfriend/girlfriend.
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Can i be pregnant if im a virgin and my boyfriend came near my vagina but not in it (link)
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No only if the penis enters the vagina
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My boyfriend and I are pretty low on money. We haven't done much this summer and I thought it might be nice to make a date weekend with him or something. The only problem is the money! I was hoping that somebody has some neat ideas for activities we could do together? You know, to like, bring us closer together and have fun. Thanks! (link)
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Picnic
Park
Walk on beach
Pool (Sometimes colleges have the pools opened to the community)
Play "pool" at a pool hall
Fishing
camping
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I am thinking about becoming vegetarian but I don't know much about fake-meat products. I'm sure there are more faux-meat other than tofu but it's the first that comes to my mind (and probably the first that is offered at restaurants). Does anybody know what tofu tastes like? How would you describe the taste and texture? Does anybody like tofu?
Thank you all for the info! (link)
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To me tofu is delicious, However the taste it all depends on what type of tofu you buy. Tofu is has a wet texture to it sort of taste like rice in a way but with a soft tasting. Tofu is actually soy milk it can be served hot or cold. When I eat tofu I usually eat it in a stir fry or sometimes I can make scrambled eggs with tofu it's all up to you on what you want to make and how you prepare it. If you eat Tofu plain than more than likely you will not like it, it taste better with soy sauce or any type of flavoring. Tofu alone doesn't have much of a taste to it.
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ok, so I applied for a few jobs and one replied back to me and so I had to talk to them in an interview today. They said by the end of the week I would have the job but I have to pay out of my own pocket for a background check, finger printing, and a full physical (including lab work, tuberculoses TB test, and xrays)--all of which total is estimated to about $400. Is this common for an employer to ask? Should I just tell them I can't afford to do that at all? Ideas? Thoughts?
The job pays $8.75 with no benefits. It sounds weird they want me to pay them so much for these checks right off the bat, but I've never really been employed at a different place than where I have been working for a few years...so what do I know, right? The job is an assistant preschool teacher.
Maybe I've misunderstood? :\ Anybody have experience with this? (link)
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Yep that sounds sketchy if you ask me, Most "actual" companies do require BCI check and Drug screen but whoa! 400?!..Well, For 8.75 an hour with no benefits...Hm.. Let me ask you a question.
1. Do YOU think it's worth spending the money?
Honestly, I've NEVER heard of all that costing so much money even with someone who doesn't have insurance!
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i'm a 15 year old girl and never in my life have i been so so sad. i went to camp for about 10 days and i met someone that i really really really like. i live in a place 10 hours a plane ride away from him, and because i'm young, i can't just decide when i go and visit him.
the next time i'll probably see him is in probably like half a year to a year and it hurts me so much to think about the fact that i like him - so much that i got over a guy ive liked for a year. and im so so scared that he'll get over me - and i'm pretty sure he will. and i don't even know if he really likes me.
and hes a musician and he said he would write a song for me - and i'm scared once that song comes (if it ever does), i'll fall for him all over again and its gonna hurt me so bad.
i've never been so sad and heartbroken and it kills me all the time. i really don't know what to do.
some people will probably say back off from him but i'm scared because i kinda wanna keep in contact with him so that we can still be friends - or even more. i know its extremely unrealistic to have a long distance relationship beacuse that would be very very hard. i really like him.
what should i do? (link)
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Hun, I'm not going to lie to you but you should probably try and move on. A 10 hour plane ride is a long way. As from where I live a 10 hour plane ride is almost across the country if not so than further out. I know you really like him, but you will get over this. This guy is a crush, he is not forever. The guy says he is a musician but the truth is he might already have a girlfriend and if he doesn't I'm sure he isn't going to dwell over a girl who lives so far away. From exsperience long distant relationships are VERY hard to maintain not only is it very hard to go and see the person but it cost a lot of money to travel and a long distant relationship is almost never truely faithful and in the long run most people end up going there seperate ways.
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My boyfriend and i have been dating 9 months, we dated for 4 months about 2 years ago and then got back together. We only have problems when my boyfriend has these little "freak outs" he keeps everything inside until he just randomly ut of know where freaks out and goes off the wall, its horrible he always directs it at me, he would NEVER hit me or anything like that but he has put holes in the wall and he calls me names and stuff his last one was over the weekend and they usually last about an hour and then he brakes down and starts crying and says how he loves me more than anything and i don't deserve this and i can tell he really is sorry. He had a horrible child hood and life, he's 19 and his whole life has been horrible he has drug addict parents how fight and hit him and.. i don't want to leave him, i just want to know what i can do when he has these freak outs? like what can i say? i don't want to just leave him i want to fix the problem i want him not to think im going to leave him, when he freaks out he always says that i dont love him, nobody does and its just an act, when in reality i love him more than anything and i dont know how to prove that to him since everyone in his life has abandoned him pretty much. What can i do?
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You need to sit down with your boyfriend and have a serious talk, Relationship is about communication. I can almost promise you that in the long run no relationship is going to work out if there is no communication. Tell him that you really care about him and that you are there to listen to him when he needs to talk. Sometimes all people need is a little reassuring. It sounds like the guy has a lot on his mind right now if you love him then let him know that and sit him down and let him spill it all out. When he is done talking, Then talk about what you could possibly do to fix the problem etc. also let him know that you love and care for him and that you are always there and give the guy a damn hug. ;)
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My boyfriend and I can't be together at the moment for many reasons. The situation won't change for sure until 2 years from now, when I'll be 18. We both love eachother though. I don't know what I should do until then. I don't want to date anyone because I still love him so much. And even if I didn't, it's much too complicated for me to date anyone right now. Should I try to get over him though? I don't want to, but is that healthy? Or should I just continue with my life with him in my heart? I don't know if this makes sense. I know I can't control what I feel, but I can TRY to get over him. I don't think I want to though. Thanks. (link)
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Honestly if you can't see him then what is the point in trying to hold onto him and hold yourself back from possibly meeting new people and devolping a healthier relationship? Honestly, It the reason is permanent and there is no way around it then I would move on. 2 years is a long time to wait for somebody and a lot can happen in those two years. Feelings can change, You could meet new people..etc. Yes, Right now you say you love him but hate to tell ya things always change even when you don't want them too as everything happens for a reason. I think it would be healthier for you to move on and be with someone you can see on a regular basis, As you are young and you should enjoy life and exsperience a relationship with more than just one individual. If you wait two years to see this guy what are you going to get out of the waiting part?...You only hold yourself back in the long run. Also, without seeing him you never know what is truely going to happen on his end as not all men are faithful. Right now you need to focus on you and what is best for you, As hard as the choice may be remember this is about you not him and you should know to always put yourself first. If you are not ready to date right now then take a break for awhile as nobody is forcing you to see someone.
-BahaiMa22
24/F
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i really like the mac book laptops because you can ichat and stuff and i think its really cool..but i also like the dell ones too (the colored ones) can you ichat on a dell? which one should i get? (link)
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Okay here it goes!
Mac computers are good for online games, However if it acts up or there is a problem with it more than likely you will have to ship it too the Apple store for repairs as they are almost impossible to fix yourself and a hassle.
Dells are good also, As if something goes wrong it is a hell lot easier to fix yourself than having to ship the damn thing out.
Macs have newer technology (like solid state hard drives) and more free software(Garageband) and has a newer OS and laptop. Macbook air. it is awesome! dell sucks. they have cheap, weak computers and the mac equal is really expensive. macs now have Intel processors and can run windows, so they are much better now.
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this is mostly for guys but girls can answer too if they've done it i guess...but what do girls taste like down there? say if you're clean and take care of yourself. and do guys not like it? do they just do it for the girl or do they actually like doing it? (link)
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Well I honestly can't tell ya for sure cause I am not into girls (as I am one) but I can tell ya from being one that we don't always smell like peaches and creame infact no girl smells perfect down there. However, I heard that if a female eats well it could help the odor a little bit so it is not as stinky. Put it this way, If you like the smell of a fish market then knock yourself out. lol...sorry but I had to ad that in there.
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About a week and half ago, my best friend came over. we were being really dumb and just making each other laugh and we went down to my pool that's green and disgusting (it was broken a few years ago and we never took the time or had the money to clean it out). so we took a plastic cup and we started "tadpole fishing" (there were millions of tadpoles swimming around in the water) Ok, YES I know this was very very dumb. I have no idea why we did it. And no, we didn't have any insect repellent on. So we started getting eaten alive by mosquitoes. So after awhile we ran back into my house and we took showers.
2 days after, I woke up and I got off my bed. I got so dizzy that I couldn't see anything for a minute. the rest of the day I had a migrane. It's been about a week now, and ever since that day I've had these symptoms:
-migraines all day and all night
-fatigue
-feeling weak
-on and off upset stomach
-slight fever. also the feeling of overheating. it feels like its 90+ degrees when it's actually 75 and below and no one else feels its so hot.
-some muscle pain, particularly in the back of the neck
I looked up EEE symptoms on google but I don't think that's what I have...I was thinking west nile fever? my symptoms match closer to that.
I told my mom I wasn't feeling well and that I suspected west nile and she said if I still didn't feel better tomorrow that we would go to the doctors.
Does anyone have any idea what I have? Thanks! (link)
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It could be a possibility, However make sure you are drinking plenty of water because those are also symptoms of dehydration.
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Hello.... My name is Sara. Im 22 F.....I guess my question story is this.... I was in a relationship with my ex for five years. We were highschool sweethearts...It had been a rocky road for us and we had our breaks and break ups...but we always got better and ended up with eachother in the end. I loved him in every way I could...with everything I had. A few years ago, while I was living in another city (only 2 hours away) for college, he confessed to me that he had sent graphic nude, and explicit images of himself to his then 13 year old step sister....and she had sent them back. He was 21.
I had never cried so hard in my life, and even though it was probably stupid of me, I loved him, and took him back. its been almost 3 years since then. And over this valentines day, he proposed. I said yes. Life was amazing ya know? well...3 months into the engagement, I came across some old emails between his step sister and him that just were "off"....and it lead me to question him. Well, as it turns out, while we were on a break, he had sent and recieved pictures from her again, used them as pornography, and talked to her about how badly he wanted to be physical with her. this was when she was 15...he was 22. He was trying to hide it from me and never planned on telling me what he had done with her agian. And 2 months before our wedding, i had found out.....
Funny thing is, I wanted to go to counciling. I wanted to hold off on the wedding and work on us. He showed nearly no remorse for what he did. Never really talked to me when I was crying, never really held me...not the way you should when you see the person you are saposed to love that hurt. and you are the one who hurt them....and he left.
Its been a couple months...I am seeing an AMAZING man, who treats me so well, and in all fairness to him does know EVERYTHING, and is helping me get through this. But I recently found out that my ex is now dating his step sister. living in the same house with her and their whole family...the family is ok with it....she is 16 he is 23....and it is disgusting. I cant just cut off all ties with him because he is in the same click of friends that I am...his best friends are my best friends....and I am having en extremely hard time coming to terms with this. He has cussed me out for telling him I think he is disgusting, and finally coming clean with our friends as to the REAL reason our marriage failed, as to what lies he was telling them, and has told me he hopes I die...he has called me an F'ing Bitch, a chicken shit and F'ing puss(because I would ignore his multiple calls)and the C word. I cant take this. and I dont know how to handel it. Do does anyone have advice?? ANyone know of any support groups for such a thing? Or even just someone to talk to, or has been through something similar. Im drowning in my own hate...and I am not this girl.....I am falling for the man I am with, but he deserves more than to put up with this bullshit. Im not selfish like that. any advice??? (link)
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Okay honestly not only does this guy have some serious issues, but his STEPSISTER? Also, It is illegal for anyone over the age of 18 to be having a sexual relationship with someone who is a minor or any relationship that is inappropriate for that matter. If I were you I would report it, It is illegal and for someone to even THINK of a family member in that way is just clearly wrong..and whether they are blood related or not it's called "incest". Girl, Do what is right and turn that damn idiot in.
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