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I'm in a serious relationship with a girl and have been in a relationship with her for almost a year and a half. Everything is going great, and it's really looking like I could spend my life with this woman. We're both 18, and we spend most of our time together and we almost NEVER fight.
But a few days ago I found out something about myself... Ever since I was old enough to even think about this, I've known that I was heterosexual. But it turns out, I just never bothered to think otherwise. I didn't cheat on my girlfriend, but I saw something that turned me on. So it turns out I'm bisexual(my girlfriend is too), but I don't know how to tell her, especially since there had to be something to trigger my realization.
Does anyone have any advice on how I should tell her?
Thanks,
Anon (link)
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Dear Anon,
If you've been in a relationship with her for a year and half then you should comfortable about telling her. I think the thing that is holding you back is the fact that you might be scared. If she's bisexual I'm sure she would understand to. You should just tell her about it and then leave it at that. The whole point in relationships is to except each other no matter what. Your girlfriend loves you because you are you and by you telling her that you're bisexual is not going to change how she thinks or feels about you.
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My girlfriend bought me a watch for my birthday and told me it was really expensive. I am really into watches and I do like the watch itself.
However she eventually told me it was limited edition and it was worth £800. I've recently found out that the watch is actually only worth £250.
Should I be upset about this? I know its the thought that counts and I'm still chuffed about her buying me this watch but why has she lied to me? (link)
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I can see why you would be upset because what was her reason for lying to you? I think the reason she lied was to impress you and make you feel special. Maybe she wanted you to be happy so that's why she said that. I don't think talking about the pricing of gifts in a relationship is good because it ends up making competition and it will eventually turn into a fight. I would say let this one slide don't fight about it jsut let it go. The only thing that concerns me though is has she lied about anything else? Have you ever caught her in another white lie? If that's the case I would watch out for her. The main thing in a relationship is trust and if you don't have that, thats not a good sign. Good luck!
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I am 14(female). I have really close relationships with both my parents. Well my dad is up in Montana(long story, not b/c of devorice) and its just me and my mom. I lie to my mom a lot but then I feel terrible after, but I can't woman up and confess(if she doesn't find out).And also I yell at her and sometimes trie to push her away(not hard enough to hurt her but it makes her mad). So how can I stop these bad actions and habits? (link)
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You're a teenager you're going to have battles with your mom. You're going to test her and might even lie to her. I had trouble with my mom when I was a teenager, because I didn't feel like she understood I felt like she was always attacking me. I was wrong. I was being difficult and I wasn't making things easy for her. You NEED to respect your mother and tell her how much you care about her. My whole idea about my relationship with my mother changed when my best friend lost his mom to cancer. It made me realize how lucky I am to have my mother and that I need to treat her with respect. Do I mess up every once in a while? Of course. I'm not perfect but I do my best to show my mother I care about her and I respect her. She has been there for me through thick and thin and there is no one else on this earth who has done more for me than my mother. You need to respect her and start telling ehr the truth. I know right now its hard to not get mad but you have to understand she is the adult and you live under her roof so you need to go by her rules. Why not try to have a mom/daughter nigth a week? Where you watcha movie together or you have dinner together. Do something nice together or maybe get her a flower or something saying 'I'm sorry'. I'm sure you're a great kid, but you need to make sure you treat your mother nicely.
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I am 17/F
I am a senior in high school
I am 5'8
I weigh 110 lbs.
yes, I am underweight
so i am tall, and skinny
and i have small boobs. and i hate it.
i wish they were bigger. I've asked a simmilar question and was told to be happy with my body and blah blah blah not to worry what other people think, but this isnt about other people this is more for myself. i cant afford a boob job, nor would i probably ever do that, but im not sure. do you think maybe they're still growing? i only wear an A and when i push on them (usually anytime) its kind of sore. and sometimes feels like a little harder. not like squishy normal boobs that you can just grab. (the only way i can explain it) so what should i do? (link)
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I had the same problem in high school and I think I was about your age. I don't know if it was because I was a late bloomer or I gained weight but my boobs grew. Everyone is different so I don't know what's going to happen with you but it is possibly that they could grow. A lot of people told me I should be happy with myself when I wanted bigger boobs. I didn't believe them but now I look back and see I should've been happy with what I had. It's okay now but I guess its like that saying 'the grass is greener on the other side'.
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So my eyes are really weird. When im outside in the sun they're a pretty blue color but when im indoors they look like a greenish color. So i don't know what color my eyes are. But, i've wore grey eye shadow and people say it looks good, but im wondering other people's opinions on what would go good with weird eyes like mine :P
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I have blue eyes but they change color. My eyes are sometimes grey it's really weird. Go with a purple/pink color, it'll make your eyes pop! :)
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My bff is moving away how am i supposed to cope with her leaving me FOREVER?! We were bffs since 3rd grade or something. And now it's 6th grade and she is leaving the summer before 7th grade! PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!! I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO!! :( (link)
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I'm sorry to hear that, it can be really tough! I've had that happen many times I make friends and they move away. As much as you hate to she her go, you ahve to let her go. You can always stay in touch and send emails back and forth or maybe go visit once in awhile. I know it won't be the same but you'll figure out a way. It doesn't mean you two won't be friends anymore.
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17/f
It's not good that I have feelings for my 1st especially now that he has a girlfriend. What can I do to get over him? This needs to happen fast before I get my heart broken AGAIN. (link)
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I hate to break it to you but you're going to get your heart broken again and maybe it'll be by another guy. You can't help getting your heart broken. By dating someone you're taking a risk of getting your heart broken. It's a possibility, and never is ever for certain. Think about the qualities you don't like in him it helps me. For my ex I just thought about everything that I didn't feel was good. I knew I could also do better and I also listened to empowering music that made me feel like I could do better. I did so much better!! You'll get there it'll take you a bit but remember you'll look back and laugh and heck you might not even remember his name. Think about you and take care of you!
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Is the grass greener in the other side ?? It's hard to stay how many of you would leave someone you have been with for a 5 years for someone you have been with for 4-5 months and are madly in love with. The reason for the infadelity / affair is the way I was treated but if that person has changed should I
Still leave ? My boyfriend went from not caring and being like a roommate to being now madly in love with me - us it worth giving him another chance? Do I owe him another
Chance after 5 long years ?? (link)
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I think you need to be honest with yourself and with the person your with. Don't continue a relationship if you have stronger feelings for someone else. It wouldn't make any sense to continue this. Be true to yourself!
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So I'm approaching the big 28.... Everytime I hear of someone getting married or having a child it makes me so sad. I wsnt both and actually am engaged to be married in ten months. However I have been having an affair - should I just look past the affair and move on since I want these things so badly ??? Someone give me some advice ! (link)
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I think you know what you need to do...
You need to talk to your fiance about this and come clean about what you have been doing. Being engaged to someone is saying that you want to be with them and only them for the rest of your life. I'm not judging you, but you have to be realistic here you're going to get married and not even tell your fiance you've been cheating on him? You have to think about how much you love him and if you really want to be with him. I understand you want to be married and have kids but you can't hurry love and you also can't continue on with something when you know you've done something like that. Be honest with him and tell him. Then it's in his hands on whether he wants to forgive you or not.
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So in a couple of days it will be my 1 year with the love of my life. I know we are going out to the Olive Garden but i would like to do something else beside just go out to eat and im not sure what. So im looking for date ideas for after.
Thank you! (link)
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Congrats on your 1 year anniversary! :)
Dinner is a great idea, but what about going to a movie after? Or maybe going out somewhere for dessert? Another good idea, (depending on where you live) maybe you could go ice skating. Was there a place where you both first met? There are tons of things to do I'm sure you'll think of something! Congrats again and I hope you have a great time!
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First off call me ice. Anyway,how do you know if you're in love? Trust me there aren't that many cute guys in my class. I mean you have the regular jocks,nerds,crazies,populars, and just plain mean people ( when i say crazies i mean it- she chases guys all over the place! And plus,she stuffs her freaking mouth full of food and lets it drip on your hand! Ewwwww) but apart from that,not much. Oh yeah we are all in 6th grade. I just wanted to know how you know you're in love. Thank you so much!
From Ice (link)
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Dear Ice,
Love can be defined in so many ways and for many love hits them in a different way. I'm in love with my boyfriend, he's my best friend and loves me no matter what. He makes me happy and he makes me laugh. For once in my life, being with him I can still be myself. I'm not syaing we're perfect but we jsut have a connection and we have so much in common that its hard not to see him in my life. I guess being in love to mean it doing anything and everything for the person you love. I would take abullet for boyfriend or I would help my boyfriend with whatever he needed. I hate to see him hurt so I would do anything to make him smile. My heart beats for him, I still get butterflies when he's around, and I don't have eyes for anyone else but him. There is no age that defines love, love can hit you at anytime but it's work it's not easy. It's different for everyone that's in love.
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What do i say next after i tell her i love ,whether she says yes or a no (link)
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Tell her hwo she makes you feel. Tell her she makes you feel happy and that she makes you smile. Just be honest! :)
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Hi everyone, thanks fir checking in. Okay so I'm 15 and recently moved to an isolated farm in Eneabba there is only one highschool out here with a small amount of kids, I thought it would be great so I went there for about 4 months I absolutely hated it I came home everyday in tears cause it was so bad, I wasn't picked on. Only by one girl who thinks she owns the school but just the things that went on after that I got out of that school and did homeschool for a year, I absolutely hated that too there was no motivation no social side I was really upset about everything and how my fresh start has turned into a depressing year, anyway I have made no friends here and I hate living on a farm I'm use to my city with traffic lights and bitchmin roads and neighbors who would make so much noise on Saturday nights :/ I was thinking about running away but I wouldn't get far the closest bus stop is an hour away walking dinstance I even consider killing myself as I get so much shit at home for being in my room all day but I'm only in my room so i can talk to my old friends on Facebook anyway please help , thanks ?! Xx (link)
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What about joining a club or finding a hobbie?
It'll take your mind off of things and you will be able to concentrate of something else. It's much better than focusing on the negative things. Is there anything at school like an afterschool program or something you can join. It's not good to be on the computer all the time that would make anyone go crazy. Try something new! Good luck!
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I just wanna understand how women look at guys and what qualities they look for.
Physical qualities like how they look and how strong/attractive they are. How much does money matter? Do you like guys who are more aggressive or laid back? Do you want a man to be territorial and maybe even jealous over you? Protective?
Do you like guys who are more mature? How much does sex matter? What kind of style do you like in guys? All that kind of stuff.
Everyones different so I like to hear all different answers no matter what age. (link)
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Every girl is different for what they look for in a man!
Physical qualities like how they look and how strong/attractive they are?
Physical qualities are a bonus it's how the guy is as a person and how he treats people. I'm all about the personality the looks are just extra. I'm lucky I found a guy who has bother a great personality and good looks :)
How much does money matter?
Money isn't everything but I want a guy to be able to take care of himself. It's nice to get presents once in awhile but the important thing is, is that a man needs to take care of himself.
Do you like guys who are more aggressive or laid back?
I like the laid back kind of guys. My boyfriend is a VERY laid back kind of guy. I can talk to him about almost anything and he's very understanding. i feel like a guy who is aggressive would always be so quick to accuse me of something I'm doing wrong.
Do you want a man to be territorial and maybe even jealous over you? Protective?
I guess to a point, I mean I want a guy who trusts me to hang out with my friends whoa re guys. I don't want him to be upset if I'm talking to another guy. The guy should know that I'm with him and he should be comfortable. That's not to say that I don't want a guy who is protective when he needs to be. If something happens I want to know that, that guy will be there for me. My boyfriend is comfortable with me hanging out with other guys and he trusts me which is EXTREMELY important in a relationship :)
Do you like guys who are more mature?
I like a guy who can be serious when he needs to be serious. I like a guy who can have fun and have a great sense of humor too.
How much does sex matter?
Sex isn't everything, it's about how much you care about the person and how much they care about you.
What kind of style do you like in guys?
I'd rather have a guy be himself than try and be something that I want. I like punk guys. My boyfriend is nothing like a punk I would categorize him as a prep. I don't mind because that's who he is and I love him anyways. I love him because he doesn't change himself for anyone.
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Me – 20, rapidly approaching 21 in less than 3 months
Him - 22
I will be approaching my one year anniversary with my boyfriend in April, he is my longest relationship. I have always believed that he is the one, but currently there seems to be something lacking from our relationship. I think that this has to do with the fact that he hasn't been giving me a lot of attention lately, which has upset me.
We met online in November after being broken-hearted over my first love, but I had chosen another guy over him at first. That guy and I broke up after less than two months of dating, that night my boyfriend told me that he still liked me and we started talking a lot more in January. He would call me, we would text, we both enjoyed your talks together.
Back then I was hesitant in getting into another relationship, however I still had the desire to talk to him. We became phone sex buddies, because I wasn't interested in pursuing another relationship since I didn't feel ready for one, I realized that I needed to work on building my life quite a bit more.
Finally we met in March, it took awhile for us to meet for various reasons, one of them being that he lives out of state from me. After our first meeting, we decided to meet again, he also decided that he wanted to come down to celebrate my 20th birthday with me.
There was a bit of drama with my first love at first, who I started talking to again around the same time as my boyfriend. He had admitted to still being in love with me, that I was his first love and had wanted me. I decided to choose my boyfriend over my first love because even though I still had feelings for my first love, I liked my boyfriend a lot and I didn't want to hurt him again like I had in the past.
Fast forward to where we are now, we're in love and discussing a future together. However I feel like I'm not getting as much attention as he used to give me, hence what's lacking from our relationship, he no longer calls me every day. The last time that we hung out, we had sex a bunch of times, and watched Conan together. I was spending the night at his house, and at first he had wanted to fall asleep with me, but he had decided to play his new Star Wars MMO for a little bit first. He lost track of time, something that he shares in common with me, and ended up playing 3:00.
I do somewhat feel like his video games preside over me sometimes, I do not mind him playing his video games. I do mind after I hadn't seen him in over a month, because of the holidays, and he's playing World of Warcraft for hours which he had warned me about. He's in a guild that's very “strict” and he had told me that he may have to play, and he ended up having to play from 7:00 until 11:00. And when he would rather play a video game than fall asleep with me.
Since I feel so deprived of attention, I feel like my only option might be to start distancing myself from him and end up breaking up with him. I have always said that before you start distancing yourself from someone, you should break up with them. This isn't something that I want to do though, I really do love the relationship that we built together. After saying that and emailing him about how I felt, explaining how I want more attention and I assume that it's because I'm needy, I felt really bad afterwards.
I don't want to break up with him, and I don't want him to change anything about himself. I don't want to give him the ultimatum of it being either his video games or me, I just want more attention from my boyfriend.
Note - I wouldn't mind so much if we lived together and he played his video games rather than spent time with me, as long as we spent some time together. Sometimes I get in the mood where I really don't want to talk to anyone, and him playing his video games while I do something else really wouldn't be an issue. (link)
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I can definitely relate to you on this one!
My boyfriend is a total gamer, I mean he is the kind of gamer that will stay up and play games for hours and hours. He has got a lot better this past year though.
Maybe come up with a schedule, maybe have him come up with a couple of days whereits all about you and him. Maybe a date night once a week, but in return you have to let him have his game time. By trying to control his gaming hours and time you are making him feel like he has to give it up. By scheduling a time where he devotes some time to you would be nice. Talk to him about it and see what he thinks. Tell him your concerns about this relationship in terms of spending time together. And in the end if you're not happy you're not happy. And you ahev to be real to yourself and him and let him know that what you need out of a relationship is attention and that you aren't getting it from him. Good luck and I hope it works out for you!
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im an 18 year old female and have been with my boyfriend for 18 months, but recently we have been fighting a lot for silly reasons, and he told me today that he is constantly angry and frustrated with me and i feel the same way, i don't know why we feel this way is this normal, or the beginning of the end? (link)
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Relationships hit bumps and it's hard not everything is going to be smooth. Relationships have their challenges, its all about how you react and how you handle them. I have stupid fights with my boyfriend, I mean extremely stupid fights even about stupid things my boyfriend says. Then 5 mins later we apologize and everything is dandy. We have had our times where I have been fed up and I made a bad call and broke up with him. We have now realized that it's not going to help the relationship so it's better the figure out a solution and be better at communicating. I love my boyfriend is amazing and there isn't anything I wouldn't do for him. If we have a problem I want to talk it out and find a solution and that's what we do. We also give each other space from one another we don't talk everyday and we have our occasional date nights. I wouldn't worry too much, maybe just have a discussion with your boyfriend and see how he's feeling about this and see if you two can come up with a solution. Good luck!
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Why do they say "high school is the best 4 years of your life?" Why? Isn't that only in the movies, cause everyone in high school says its all homework and tests and extremely hard. Why is it the best?
Im 13/f and i go to high school this year but next school year (in 8th grade) (link)
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High School was the BEST 4 years of my life!
I had some great times in high school, I was a teenage and I learned a lot both educationally and about myself. High school is where you grow into an adult and it almsot shapes you before you get to college. When you're in high school, you want to leave but once you leave you want to go back. I remember when I was in high school I wanted to leave and now I want to go back so badly. I did some amazing things in high school like made friends, joined some choirs, went to prom, and graduated. Its the experiences you'll go through that make those 4 years amazing and special! Good luck and enjoy it! And whatever you do don't rush it, because 4 years goes by so quick!
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Yeah, yeah, yeah another relationship problem but please read on... I really need some advice. Recently I've gotten back with my first boyfriend from when I was fifteen, I am now twenty-one. When I was fifteen it just didn't work because we were young, and so and so wanted to date someone else, the typical fifteen year old reasons. He was however my first childhood sweetheart and we shared our first kiss, first date, and a great six months together. Then we went our separate ways and didn't talk for about six years. Recently, a friend of mine set me up with him, why I agreed to it I don't know.... I guess because you always think of what could have been. I had just got out of a three-and a half year relationship six months prior to then, and kept being pressured from my friends it was time to move on, so I decided to give my first childhood sweetheart a chance. Now it has been six months, and I see things going downhill like they were then. We fight it seems just about everyday. We both work hard, and are college students. We never get time to see each other. On top of that, he works over nights, while I work days. Although I try to be considerate of this because I've worked overnights, he is always tired and never tries to make time for me like he did the first few months we started dating again. He says, "it's catching up to him..." Although I know he just sleeping, I think he should make time for me. Even if it is just a couple hours every few days. We live in the same town, only about 10 miles from each other. He insists that I should drive to see him if I miss him so much, but I've done that the past 3 times and now I think it's his turn to see me.... Ugh, I'll stop now. I guess what I'm trying to say is, it's not what I thought it would be. I'm not sure how to go about solving this problem. I've talked it over with him numerous times and it doesn't seem to sink into his head. I've already thought about ending it, but just can't bring myself to it. What I'm asking is, should I try to talk to him some more and if so, how should I broach the subject? If I should end it, what are steps to take to actually go through with it? Any input on this subject matter would be greatly appreciated... Thanks. (link)
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Well it all depends on how much you really care about this guy!
Relationships are hardwork and I'm sure you already know that from your prior relationship. It takes time, patience, and understanding. Your schedules are tough at the moment but where there is a will there is a way. My boyfriend and I have had trouble in the past with our schedules, it's tough to see one another as often as we like. Our communication over the years has helped tremendously because we accept our schedules. We decided to have a date ngight at least once a week. That day we got out as planned and just hang out and talk and laugh and enjoy each others company. We have done some cool things such as dinner and a movie, ice skating, gondola ride, comedy shows, etc.
If you both put effort into one date night a week then you are bound to make the relationship less tense. You also need to understand that he needs to have his space as well. It's difficult to understand at first but you have to relaize he had a life before you came around and he still has to get things done. So give him some space as well as suggesting a date night in which you both can rekindle some romance.
If you really don't care for this guy, then I would move and go your seperate way because just being in a relationship is not going to make you happy. Think of the future, do you see him in it?
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I am a very emotional person, and moreso, I am a teenage girl. In my past relationships, I was left heartbroken and abandoned, cheated and lied to, promised so many things that were never fulfilled. I know this will be a long question, but hear me out.
My first boyfriend was fake. I was a freshman, and he was a sophomore. I met him at church one night and thought he was the most amazing person. However, I quickly learned he wasn't who I thought he was. He manipulated me, used me, and brought me to the point where I ran away from home for him. He pretended everything in our relationship, constantly on and off, always using me for his needs and not caring about mine. I finally broke it off for good with him.
My second boyfriend was my friend at first, and he was the same as my first. He was fake. Never kissed me, never touched me, and always talked shit about me. He faked the whole thing. It hurt, but I moved on quick.
My third boyfriend was my best friend at first. I liked him a lot because I could talk to him openly. We eventually went out for about three months, but he was very overbearing, obnoxious, and pressuring. He would always pressure me to show him my boobs. I was hurt and then thought he loved me and accepted me for me, but then he was a coward and broke up with me with a lie, saying his dad hated me. I've never even met his dad... But later found out he broke up with me because I was negative.
My current boyfriend is probably the best thing that has ever happened to me. We had a lot of hardships before we got together. I've known him since I was a freshman. Our friendship started on Facebook mostly. He would always cheer me up, and we started texting each other over the summer. I quickly fell for him, but I was so scared to tell him, so I was stupid and dated another guy. That relationship lasted three weeks, because I broke up with the other guy because I was in love with my current boyfriend. It was hard for him to forgive me afterwards, but we worked it out. He then decided to date a girl that lived by him while I was on vacation, and he called me, telling me, and I cried, telling him I was madly in love with him and I only want him and he can't date her. He earned my trust back, and we've been dating for about five months now. He is everything I have wanted in a guy. He is so patient with my insecurities, my negativity, and my sensitivity. He makes me laugh and makes me feel loved. He never yells and goes out of his way and spends every moment with me. He is so thoughtful, funny, and witty. I fell so hard for his charm and I continue to. I sometimes think I don't deserve him, but he treats me like gold. I can be my true self around him, not afraid of revealing my secrets or goals. He embraces the things I like, and he even got into a few bands I love, and he bought their merch t-shirts and such at the mall. It made me really happy. He never gives up on me when I get insecure. He sticks with me no matter what, and he never ever pressures me to do anything I don't want to. I just feel so comfortable and beautiful around him. I can't believe I found this amazing person who truly loves me for me.
I cried just a few moments ago, because I love this person so much and I'm so glad that I have him because I don't know what I'd do. I see him in my future and in my dreams and in everything I do. Is it normal to get very emotional and tear up when thinking of how lucky I am to be with him? (link)
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You're happy, it's normal!
Sometimes when you're happy you tear up and you get choked up. I feel the same way about my boyfriend I care about him a lot. I can remember the first time he said 'I love you', we were in his car and he was dropping me off. When he said it I was so shocked I couldn't believe he even said it. He started kissing me and I started crying. I was so happy. And it's not that you plan to cry it just happens. If you are overcome by emotion just let it go its best to just let it out rather than hide it.
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i have a boyfriend. my boyfriend is very strict on me with other guys. i flirted with another guy a lot on vacation. i sat on his lap and kinda held his hand.. pretty much was a huge tease. if my bf knew we could very easily be over. i know i shouldn't have flirted but its too late now. the problem is that another kid who goes to my bf's school was on the vacation and knows that i was flirting with that guy. my bf is gonna meet that kid from his school because he's trying to join his frat. should i contact the kid from my boyfriends school and ask him not to say anything? or should i leave it alone and hope he doesnt mention it. i know that if my bf does leave me i probably deserve it, but that would really not be preferable. what do ya think i should do? (link)
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I think you need to be honest and just tell him yourself. There's nothing worse then someone you care about that lies to you and doesn't even tell you what happened. I'm sure he would rather hear it from you then someone else. There was a similar incident that happened between my boyfriend and I. I came out and told him the truth. He told me he was glad that I told him and he didn't hear it from someone else. You don't know what the outcome might be, but its best to just tell him yourself. Good luck and I hope everything works out!
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