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Advice on what to tell my daughter, but do you know of any advice I can give to my wife who is in there? (link)
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I don't think there is much you can say to her. I guess the best advice is to hang in there and that you still love her just the same and this won't change anything. Just make sure she knows you haven't given up on her and that she will still be a part of parenting her daughter even when she is in prison.
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13, female. Ok, I don`t know if anyone would be able to help with this, but it`s worth a try. I don`t want sympathy, but my uncle died a few years ago. I loved him, as anyone would. He was a wonderful person, and I miss him, I`m just not sad about it. Or even that upset. Honestly, I don`t feel much emotion anymore. (link)
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Honestly, that is normal. I've had relatives die and I do miss them but I've never been too emotional over it. People grieve differently. Not everybody sobs their eyes out. You're just not an emotional person.
I mean maybe, there could be a reason deep down why you're not feeling too much emotion but maybe it's who you are.
If you really do find it a problem for your life then I'd go talk to a doctor or something and see what they think. But if it's not affecting your life, then I think it's fine.
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14/f My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 months. We'll call him Chris. Chris and i got together at my party through a game of 7 minutes in heaven. After that, we snuck off and made out in a dark corner where nobody could see us. I've wanted to kiss him again ever since, but every time that i see a possibility for him to kiss me, he doesnt. Its been three months and my best friend and her boyfriend kiss all the time. Telling him straight up is out of the question, so how can i tell him without telling him?
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If you want to kiss him, then you should.
I think that it's fine to not be making out all the time when you're 14. I don't see anything wrong with a kiss here or there but if you're always making out, like a lot of young couples are doing, it never ends well. I think you already know that though.
Just because your friend and her boyfriend kiss all the time doesn't mean you have to.
I do think it's better to just know a person in the beginning months of dating and start falling for them more before you get too intimate.
As long as he treats you right and acts like a good boyfriend, there shouldn't be too much to worry about. He might be nervous but give it some time and eventually the kissing will come naturally. Just enjoy the time you spend together right now. I mean it's only been 3 months so you have plenty more to come.
If you really want to kiss him, maybe hint at it. But if I was you, I'd just wait till he's ready to do it again.
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I am i 14 year old female and for the past few years my friends who i have known since i was 3 have been constantly been making fun of me and especially now that we are in high school its worse. They do it as a joke and it really hurts my feelings and i tell them most of the time that they're hurting my feelings and they say they'll try and stop but they never do. I can't deal with it anymore please help (link)
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Well they certainly don't act like they are your friends. They know it hurt your feelings. If they really cared, they would actually stop and not just say they will.
Just because you've grown up with them doesn't just make them your friends. Friends don't hurt each others feelings all the time.
I think it's time to branch out and find some new friends who are nicer. It's hard to lose friends but it's a part of life.
Good luck and I hope everything works out for you!
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Hi I'm a 13 year old girl and my crush is moving away! I live in America and i met this guy around last September/October time. We have grown to e close friends and I like him a lot, a few of my friends think he like me. Should I tell him I like him before he leaves to get closure? I am really confused and i really like him! Please help (link)
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Do whatever you feel is right. If you feel like you need to tell him, then go ahead. If you just want to know if he ever did feel the same way, then it's fine but once you find out, and he leaves, there isn't much you can do about it, remember that. You will have to move on once he's gone.
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I want him to stop we are the same age and live together and he likes to touch mme and i think he is trying to get me to feel him im curious please help me becuse i dont know if i should tell him to stop or just let him do it and then i do kinda wanna feel it but im afraid help (link)
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He doesn't control you. It is wrong of him to touch you like that. He's your cousin. Tell him to stop and if he keeps trying to then you have to go tell somebody.
You will feel that kind of stuff when you're older and with someone who loves you. You don't want to look back and see your first experience with your cousin.
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what i do to make my gf inlove with me? (link)
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You can't make somebody fall in love with you. All you can do is be yourself and maybe she will fall in love with you. It can take time but if you're good to her and you are a good guy, she will fall in love with you in time.
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I am from INDIA My friend had a sex with her bf 2 years before She had bleeded little tht time Now she is getting married Will she bleed again???Can she become virgin again? (link)
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She will not be a virgin again but no one can tell if someone is a virgin or not. It is possible for her to bleed again. It's normal. If she doesn't bleed, that doesn't mean she's not a virgin. If she does bleed, that doesn't mean she is a virgin.
So if her husband accused her of not being a virgin because she didn't bleed, it's not true.
Women have a hymen, it can be torn during sex and that can cause bleeding. But exercises can also tear a hymen, like riding a bike or a horse.
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Hey I'm 21 n have been best friends with my guy bestie for 3 years. He's also dating my friend for the past 3 years.I fell in love with him a year back,told him cz I couldn't hide it from him, he understood n then we became closer a besties. It still hurts me to see his gf with him n I cry every night. He has told me that I'm pretty n cute n once I get thin he'll date me n told me to wait for him to get single.Since the past few months he has started lusting for me. He says I'm his closest female friend n he has even wanted me to be friends with benefit with him which I refused. He says that way I'll get a piece of him.. but that's not what I had imagined...I just wanted hi to love me n to date him n be with him. From the past few months he has started emotionally blackmailing me into sexting with him n exchanging private pics.Every time he wants to do it I'm reluctant but I go with the flow cz it's overwhelming for a plump girl like me that he finds me pretty n second if I refuse then he gets pissed...so to not piss him off I do what he says. But now since past few days all he talks about sex with me...if I try to have a normal convo with him he's all bored n doesn't reply properly...he's only interested when we talk about him wanting to do me...what do I do ?...I've started to feel cheap n like a piece of shit now...n he's trying to show that he loves his gf alot ...n talks to me only when he's in the mood...what do I do..I'm so depressed :'( (link)
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Well it's obvious he's using you and you know that too. You are crazy about this guy but you can't let your feelings get in the way of this. It is wrong of him to do this.
He's not your best friend anymore. Best friends don't do this. You even said all he talks about sex
It is extremely rude of him to tell you once you get thin that he'll date you. It makes him very shallow and he cares more about looks than the actual person.
Then him telling you to wait till he is single? That's so wrong, he's betraying his girlfriend and he's stringing you along.
Do not be friends with benefits with him, it's not what you want and he has a girlfriend. It will hurt you more. He knows you like him and he's just using that to get some action on the side.
You know he's being selfish. I mean even if one day you both started dating, do you think you could trust him? Do you think he won't go off on the side and start talking to another girl?
Don't sext him or send pictures to him anymore. Who cares if he gets mad? He's using you and he doesn't deserve your love.
He doesn't make you feel loved, he's making you feel cheap. He only talks to you when he's bored and just wants to talk about sex.
I do understand your situation though. I've been crazy about a guy who only wanted to mess around with me. You can't give in to this though, show him you're better than that and that you aren't going to just be dragged along.
You have to cut contact with him. Don't text him, go and move on. Show him that you are better and he's not worth your time anymore. Make it clear that he's boring you and just don't reply.
He's already cheating by exchanging pictures and talking dirty with you. It is wrong and you know you can't be apart of this.
Just stop talking to him and go find someone who actually does not care about weight and cares about you. You are pretty, all you have to do is try to move on. You will be much happier. I hope everything works out.
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"If your daughter starts talking bad about her, just sit her down and talk to her."
what to say exactly? Sorry if I sound dense but this is my first time dealing with this situation
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Well you don't want your daughter to say anything negative about her mother. Just because mom is gone and she made a mistake doesn't mean that she deserves hate or disrespect. If she does say anything, say what you feel and what you mean. Tell her that she can't talk about her mother like that because she just messed up, it doesn't define her and she doesn't deserve that kind of disrespect as it also hurts you to hear her talk about her mom like that.
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did you visit when you were younger? Do you remember what the environment was like? (link)
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Yes I did visit and I do remember the environment. It was different but I kinda knew what to expect. I was 15 during that time. I did know that I didn't want to end up there though.
I also had to visit my brother in juvi and I had also made the decision that my life wasn't going to be that way. Visiting my mom just added to it.
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"Does your daughter not know her mother is in jail or something? I only ask because of the, "Also, if I take her to visit she might think "mom went to jail, she has no right to tell me what to do anymore".
Well, either way, if you take her to visit or not, she'll know her mom is in jail so she could use that whether she goes or not."
Oh yeah she knows. she seems kind of nonchalant about this, which I think is OK. Though one time she did say it was kind of cool that her mother was going to jail since now she will now be listening to orders from other people and being locked in. Which was kind of weird since she and her mother had a pretty good relationship with no animosity or anything. Maybe it was a just a joke or just cracking some humor at the situation?
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It could have been a joke or something. It is a little weird if they had a good relationship.
I remember when I was younger and my mom went to jail and I didn't take it like it was absolutely terrible. So maybe she understands and she knows it's not the end of the world.
I don't know why she would think it would be cool though. I would just ask her about it, like what she meant and why she thinks that.
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I'm a junior in high school and I like a sophomore. We've been friends for a while now. He's very shy and awkward. I recently told him I liked him and he said he liked his ex still. Things were fine between us, then I asked him to go to prom with me and he said yes. I asked him if he wanted to go just as friends. He talks to me a lot and tries to flirt with me. Do you think he really might like me? Or am I just stuck in the friend zone? (link)
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I don't think you're friend zoned. I think he might be into you at least a little bit because he did say yes to going to prom with you.
How long ago did you tell him you liked him? If it wasn't too long ago, just give it some time because he's still getting over his ex. If it was awhile, see how he acts with you and see if it looks like he's into you. Eventually, if he does like you, he will tell you or ask you out or something or you could start flirting with him a little and see how he reacts.
Good luck!
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I'm 16 and I want a job over the summer plz tell me everything u can on how I should go about doing? Who hires at sixteen? What's a good place for sixteen year olds to work? Who should I ask for an application when I go into different stores? (link)
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Most department stores and fast food restaurants hire people 16 years and older. What I've done when I go job searching, I'd go into every store like Target, Kohls, McDonalds, ect and ask if they are hiring. They will either say yes or no. If it's a yes they will either hand you an application or tell you to go online and fill one out.
I always like going into the store to ask because I like handing the application to the manager, it looks better for you.
If you do it online, see if you can print it out too. It's better to submit online and also hand one in.
As for who to ask, just ask someone who is working there and they will either direct you to the manager or just give you an application.
Once you submit or hand in your application, go in a couple weeks later and ask to talk to the manager. Just tell him/her that you submitted an application a couple weeks ago and you were wondering the status on it and then you could even give them your resume.
Make sure you have a resume even if you don't have any experience. You can add volunteer services you've done or clubs you've been in at school. Most teenagers looking for a job hardly have a resume so it looks better for you.
Good luck!
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My mom is finally letting me highlight my hair.I have black hair,with natural dark brown highlights.I can't have any bright colors yet.What would be a good color? (link)
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If you are having it professionally done, they normally have a book full of colors and they will probably suggest something that is close to your hair color but you'll be able to tell the difference.
My hair is very dark brown, almost black. When I got my hair highlighted, I think I had chestnut colored highlights. They do fade though, if you don't keep up with them it almost looked blond. Anyways, after that I got this really dark red color that I absolutely loved.
Just try getting a color that isn't too far off from your color to start off with. Then later start changing it up. You don't want to do anything too drastic, if you do it calm this time, your mom will let you do it again.
So I'd stick with browns first.
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"Although don't go into detail if you go and try to talk to her about it. She knows prison isn't a good place to be but I'm sure going there will show her that she doesn't want to end up there."
what kind of things should I say exactly?
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Well since she is 14, she understands that her mom has messed up and that's why she is in prison. Since she's a teenager, I'm sure she is aware of how bad it would be to end up in a place like that.
What I do think you should say is just explain that her mom messed up, that's why she is there and that she is not a bad person because of it. Everybody makes mistakes and you love her just the same. Then ask if she wanted to go with you to visit her mom.
Just make sure you don't talk bad about her mom at all, keep everything positive. Your daughter will she that you are trying even though this is hurting you a bit.
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say that taking my daughter to visit her mother in prison is a good thing because it will "show her where she doesn't want to end up" or "What happens when you break the law". Does that seem a good way of thinking? (link)
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Yeah, that is a good way of thinking. It will definitely show her that she won't be happy there and that if she does break the law, that's where she will end up. Although don't go into detail if you go and try to talk to her about it. She knows prison isn't a good place to be but I'm sure going there will show her that she doesn't want to end up there.
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"You know she won't keep quiet about this, especially since she is the victim. If she was coming on to you, that's when she won't go tell anybody."
if she keeps quiet about it it would be better for her since she wouldn't have to deal with publicity and the hassle of investigation. Also, the police probably won't devote that much time to some silly thing like this they bigger problems to deal with. No way would I spend years in prison if I get caught (considering I am taking every step possible to make sure there are no evidences or witnesses, it is unlikely), there are people who commit serious crimes who don't spend that much time
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She's your teacher, a role model for people. She's not dumb enough to keep that to herself. If she's married, she will definitely tell him too and they he will go talk to someone.
It wouldn't be better for her to keep that to herself, it would be wrong. It's her job not to let kids like you get away with illegal things like that.
The police will devote their time to this. Whenever there is a student teacher relationship going on, there is definitely police checking everything out. Don't think this is something so trivial. It's illegal.
You could end up in juvi, and yes, they can do what they feel is right because what you're doing is really disgusting and completely wrong.
I've seen people end up in prison over something very, very small.
You can take however many steps you can for no witnesses or evidence but you haven't been very good at keeping your mouth shut so I'm positive that you will be found guilty.
You need to grow up a little and get some help. Like serious help..
Tell me, why would you go through all this just to get one kiss out of a woman? I thought you cared about her? Why try to ruin her life?
Idk, all this is so stupid..you're how old? 16? Grow up kid.
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I have no idea what to do. So I guess I should start with the whole story. We weren't dating for a very long time just 3 months. We went on a double date to the movies and he put his arm around me and I thought it was perfect but then the next morning he texted me and said "I have to break up with because my parents are making me." I didn't think this was true but I just didn't want to believe the fact that he was lying to me. He also said it was because his grades really suck. Then when I went to school one of my best friends told me that it was a total lie and that he just wanted to date this other girl. I was so mad that I called him and I wanted to talk with him but he never answered and then I texted him and we both said some pretty bad things to each other. Then about 2-3 weeks later he texted me asking me if I liked anyone and I said no but it was a lie because I still like him. And he said that he likes a couple of other girls and that I was one of them. I think he will try to ask me out again, but I'm not sure what I should say. I need some advice on whether or not to say yes or no. I just want some more input on this other from my bestfriend. Thanks (link)
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Well if I was in your situation, I would say no. It's very immature of him to act like everything is fine and go on a date with you, then break up with you the next morning. It was immature of him to lie to you instead of being truthful, and it's immature of him to text you telling you he likes you along with a couple other girls.
It's ok to still have feelings for him, it's completely understandable but it's not a good reason to get back together after what has happened. It's not fair to you. He can't just jump to whoever he wants whenever he wants.
Try your best to move on and show him you're better than that. He'll regret letting you go and realize it was a huge mistake. It's better to move on and find a guy who can actually be there for you and not screw with your feelings.
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her mother is going to prison for one year for forgery related charges. I am wondering if I should take me 14 year old daughter to visit her but I am not sure if I want her to be in that kind of environment
it has nothing really to do with the mother. She made some stupid mistakes but it was out of character so I think she just got herself into a bad situation and make some poor decisions, She also never did anything bad at all before this. Also, her mother is showing regret and no defense at what she did and has admitted to being a bad influence to her daughter so that is why I am still willing to stick by her. And I am not defending her or saying she should not serve her punishment or anything either, it is really only the type of environment. I hear also it is a hassle to get in and you don't even get much time to speak. Also, if I take her to visit she might think "mom went to jail, she has no right to tell me what to do anymore" .Which would just be a stressful thing. I even heard her express a kind of joy at her mother being locked up and having to take orders from other people. While that is understandable since she did commit a crime, since her mother has shown remorse for what she did and clearly still cares for her daughter, I think eventually it needs to be put behind us. If I do decide to take her what should I say to her beforehand?
my wife is saying that if she wants to visit let her, but if she doesn't it is fine (link)
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Leave it up to your daughter. If you think she can handle it and she thinks she can handle it, then take her, if not, then don't take her.
All you have to say to her is that her mom made some mistakes but everything will be fine. She's 14, she understands what's going on.
If she doesn't feel ready to go then she can talk to her on the phone or write a letter.
Does your daughter not know her mother is in jail or something? I only ask because of the, "Also, if I take her to visit she might think "mom went to jail, she has no right to tell me what to do anymore".
Well, either way, if you take her to visit or not, she'll know her mom is in jail so she could use that whether she goes or not.
I say you should just leave it up to your daughter. Obviously, don't talk bad about her mother, just positively.
If your daughter starts talking bad about her, just sit her down and talk to her.
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