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Best friend wants to cheat with me over his girlfriend!
Hey I'm 21 n have been best friends with my guy bestie for 3 years. He's also dating my friend for the past 3 years.I fell in love with him a year back,told him cz I couldn't hide it from him, he understood n then we became closer a besties. It still hurts me to see his gf with him n I cry every night. He has told me that I'm pretty n cute n once I get thin he'll date me n told me to wait for him to get single.Since the past few months he has started lusting for me. He says I'm his closest female friend n he has even wanted me to be friends with benefit with him which I refused. He says that way I'll get a piece of him.. but that's not what I had imagined...I just wanted hi to love me n to date him n be with him. From the past few months he has started emotionally blackmailing me into sexting with him n exchanging private pics.Every time he wants to do it I'm reluctant but I go with the flow cz it's overwhelming for a plump girl like me that he finds me pretty n second if I refuse then he gets pissed...so to not piss him off I do what he says. But now since past few days all he talks about sex with me...if I try to have a normal convo with him he's all bored n doesn't reply properly...he's only interested when we talk about him wanting to do me...what do I do ?...I've started to feel cheap n like a piece of shit now...n he's trying to show that he loves his gf alot ...n talks to me only when he's in the mood...what do I do..I'm so depressed :'(
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He's not a friend.
He's blackmailing you into sending him sexual pictures of yourself.
He's trying to use you to betray his girlfriend.
Maybe he was your friend once, but he isn't anymore. Now he is an abuser and a bully.
Accept that he isn't your friend anymore, and stop talking to him.
It's sad to loose a friend, but sometimes it happens. Holding on to someone who abuses you isn't the way to get your friend back. Cut him loose. If you have the strength, let him know why: He's being cruel to you and taking advantage of your low confidence and care for him. The only way you can take care of yourself, is to remove him from your life.
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Please forgive me in advance because I'm going to tell you like it is. You need to stay away from this guy because he is USING YOU. He's using you because he knows that you'll do anything for him. He is no good for you. You can do a whole lot better.
I know you're thinking that because you're bigger than other girls that you'll be lucky to get love where you can find it but that is FALSE. You should NEVER have to settle for some low-life jerk who doesn't know how to treat a woman. You need to leave him alone and cut him out of your life. Get rid of his phone number, delete him on facebook, unfollow him on twitter or instagram. JUST LEAVE HIM BE. He has a girlfriend. HE'S TAKEN. When you try and hope for a relationship with a guy who is already taken, then you are basically settling for half a person because he's not fully yours as long as he has a girl on the side.
You are better than a guy like this and you don't need him. All he wants is SEX. If he can't respect you or your body or your boundaries, then he can't have you and he doesn't deserve you.
I'm sorry that you feel that this guy is the best that you can do because he is not.
Stay away from this guy because his intentions for you are far from good.
I hope this helps.
~Andrew~
P.S: Don't give up on love. There is a guy out there somewhere that will love you for who you are and will bring out the best in you. But this guy you like is trouble. Don't send him anymore pictures and don't sext him anymore. You save yourself for your soulmate.
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Well it's obvious he's using you and you know that too. You are crazy about this guy but you can't let your feelings get in the way of this. It is wrong of him to do this.
He's not your best friend anymore. Best friends don't do this. You even said all he talks about sex
It is extremely rude of him to tell you once you get thin that he'll date you. It makes him very shallow and he cares more about looks than the actual person.
Then him telling you to wait till he is single? That's so wrong, he's betraying his girlfriend and he's stringing you along.
Do not be friends with benefits with him, it's not what you want and he has a girlfriend. It will hurt you more. He knows you like him and he's just using that to get some action on the side.
You know he's being selfish. I mean even if one day you both started dating, do you think you could trust him? Do you think he won't go off on the side and start talking to another girl?
Don't sext him or send pictures to him anymore. Who cares if he gets mad? He's using you and he doesn't deserve your love.
He doesn't make you feel loved, he's making you feel cheap. He only talks to you when he's bored and just wants to talk about sex.
I do understand your situation though. I've been crazy about a guy who only wanted to mess around with me. You can't give in to this though, show him you're better than that and that you aren't going to just be dragged along.
You have to cut contact with him. Don't text him, go and move on. Show him that you are better and he's not worth your time anymore. Make it clear that he's boring you and just don't reply.
He's already cheating by exchanging pictures and talking dirty with you. It is wrong and you know you can't be apart of this.
Just stop talking to him and go find someone who actually does not care about weight and cares about you. You are pretty, all you have to do is try to move on. You will be much happier. I hope everything works out.
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