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Ideas of reference, I believe I have..
I've been suffering this mental problem for i think 7 years already and I want to get rid of it now. It's been difficult for me and holding me back from being happy because I hate what my mind is thinking..
As what our college professor told us, ideas of reference is a problem that you think someone likes you just because he/she looks at you. I dont know what is my problem but I dont want to think that way anymore!! Especially when I dont like the guy Ive been thinking.. I am scared, worried and paranoid about it.. Its like my mind tells me I should be worried since I dont want them(the guys that I think). Its like in my mind, I am irritated already and want to get rid of all the men my mind victimize... Ofcourse, I am still in sane, knows that that would be a sin but why!! Its like a burden to myself.. I wanted to tell it to someone/close to me/relatives/ but they won't understand me... I dont know what to do.. :( Its making me crazy!!!
Also, I am afraid or scared of who I am going to be with in the future and scared that it will be full of pain and problem again just like my other past relationships...
I am a girl by the way.. PLEASE? What I am going to do? I wanted to seek a help from a professional but I dont have enough money for that and I am afraid it is going to be myself alone since for sure people around me wont understand what I am going through...
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Maybe give some free advice about: Mental health?
It's a bit difficult to give you advice.
Maybe you should ask another question about the problems you think you've had in past relationships?
Or you could tell us a bit about the thoughts you are having that are interfering with your day to day life?
Delusions of Reference are not, by themselves, a mental illness. Persistent delusions of reference are a symptom of some mental illnesses, but even they are different than simply having IDEAS of of reference. Having some ideas of reference are part of normal, healthy human cognitive function, even though they aren't entirely rational.
We all sometimes have thoughts like "I think that means he likes me." Or "I bet that look means she hates me." or "I heard them laughing, they must have been making fun of me." These thoughts are irrational - and usually wrong - but they aren't necessarily indicative of mental illness. A healthy mind can also leap to these kinds of ideas, even though the person knows they are just anxiety or fantasy.
If you know that these ideas you have aren't necessarily truth, then you aren't deluded. You might still be struggling with irrational thoughts, and have anxiety and stress because of these thoughts, but you aren't insane. Might need some help, but you are far from doomed.
So relax.
Maybe you are suffering from full-fledged delusions, but I'm not entirely sure based on what you've written here that it's all that out of the realm of the normal.
So try asking another question with a bit more details, or you could see if there is any free therapy available through your school. Many colleges have some mental health support for students.
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